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Open Question: Intimacy Issues; What can I do and why am I like this? and more... Open Question: Intimacy Issues; What can I do and why am I like this?I have done my research on this topic but yet I just don't feel as if anything I am hearing is explaining things for me.when I have been looking up articles on intimacy issues, I don't relate with a lot of what I'm reading. I'm starting to wonder WHAT is wrong with me. But to start off i HATE SEX. just doesn't feel good & don't enjoy it.I've tried everything trust me..I just broke up with me ex of 3 yrs due to these problems but we had tried everything. And he wasn't the first person I had sex with..I've had a few other experiences. I don't like to cuddle with people I'm dating. I don't like to be hugged by certain people..actually causes me to feel like I'm cringing on the inside. I don't like to have any kind of emotional talks with certain people and this goes for anything intimate or emotional down to saying I love you to my mom. Im 21 years old and this has been going on for a while now.. since I can remember. Now the difference for me is I don't mind being touched by some people. It's only the people that I am REALLY close with that bothers me. My parents..boyfriends..etc. I grew up in a pretty functional household..my mom was always REALLY affectionate and loving. I was never neglected...actually pretty spoiled. Everything I'm reading on intimacy issues is saying that these people usually come from broken homes..and don't like to be touched by anyone. I don't mind having sexual encounters with people Im not close with although it still doesn't feel good. I actually seek attention and physical contact when first meeting people. Although i do tend to seek out people who are total emotional wrecks and never someone who is worthy. I don't think I have ever loved anyone, didn't even care when I broke it off with my boyfriend just missed the companionship. I did have some sort of a molestation incident when I was younger from age 3-5. And have been through a lot of traumatic events through my life because I always was seeking out negativity subconsciously. But this doesn't explain the physical pain i feel when my mom hugs me. Or the fact that I'd rather have my father ignore me than tell me he loves me. What can I do? and is it intimacy issues at all? Im so confused I get so caught up in my own head. Does anyone relate? Open Question: do you think this is wrong ? and i should leave?okay so im 19 and my boyfriend is in a band and tours a lot , i mean he is only home for a couple of weeks ,and then gone for like 3 months at a time , i live with him and hes band mate ( who is my best friend too ) im best friends with all the guys in the band . i use to live in sydney but when they toured here we fell in love and i moved to america , merryland and moved in with them , the problem is i dnt really have any friends here , only the band , i have friends in NYC and i was offered a great job there in designing fashion and stuff like that , ive wanted to do that my whole life and i designed merch of my bf bands and there friends who are bands too and they all say they love it and would love to have me design merch and come on tour with all of them which would be heaps fun but the problem is i wanna do so much more then merch , i wanna make nice fashion cloths for heaps of designer brands and i have that chance to do that in NYC but that means leaving my boyfriends and friends behind , i mean i only get to see him about 20 weeks in the year all together and when there all gone i have no one and i mean NO ONE , im so bored and i dnt have a job here becuase he pays for everything cuz hes rich ( but thats not the point ) i really love him and hate when it goes but i love when i get to see him , hes like every thing to me and we have been dating for 3 years and we are engaged ( kinda , he asked me to marry him but i siad i thought we where too young even though i want to , i just dnt wanna be married this young maybee in a year , so i still wear the ring as like a promise ring to get married , corney i no lol ) anyway , we like love each other so much and we like never fight and we are just so great together , but as i siad hes not there much , i dnt have a job and i have no one , sould i go to new york and have the job i dreamed of so much and would love so much and have some friends up there or be with the one i love and go on tour and just designe merch , i mean i still get to design just not wht i wanted to , i really just dno wht to do and i cant keep putting it off , if i leave i gotta do it soon cuz the job starts soon and because there coming back home for 3 days in two weeks and i cnt leave if he is there cuz i no i wouldnt leave , i just dont know what to do . Open Question: i like this girl? please help me. very important?am a guy in 10th grade and i like a girl who is in 10th grade. the problem is she goes to a different high-school than me, i started to like her since 8th grade and i still do. we never talked in middle school and we weren't friends because i was really shy, and she had a boyfriend buy not anymore. she was popular but she was really nice and smart. and sometimes she talked with me for some reason. like in gym class (i had her in 3 of my classes) she asked me to be her partner for one round while we were playing a game, don't say she liked me because i know she didn't, sometimes i think she did it because she felt bad for me but i will never find out because i never talked to her. am always depressed and i think about her all the times and i love her. i just wish i could see her one more time alone, and could tell her my feelings for her. i try to listen to music but when i listen to some music i feel sad. am really bad with girls and i think i will never make a move. i could contact her if i wanted to, but am scared to talk with her on phone. but if i could see her i would talk to her and tell her if she was alone, she might think am weird, because i kinda stalked her online but i didn't mean it, but she didn't know it was me but if i tell her i like her she will know that person was me. Open Question: Afraid of having female friends because of my bf's sex drive?Hello All... So i've been having some problems making some new friends down in kansas city. I moved here 6 months ago with my boyfriend. We are having some rough times... but we are doing fine at the moment. Anyways... he cheated on me back in february of this year and i've had a hard time forgiving him, but i love him so much and wanted to give him another chance. He has been known to flirt with girls online and have caught him sending messages and what not. He says its just innocent fun and doesn't mean anything, which is a little hard for me to accept cuz i feel like if you love someone why do u have to flirt with others? But because of this i have turned into a total bitch ( i feel like it anyway) I try to meet new ppl (women in particular) and all i think is well she's really good looking and what if my bf and her get together or something. I know stupid... but it's really affecting me. The only friends I have are guys, which my bf doesn't really like.. so i don't know.. guess i'm just asking for some advice, if anyone else has had to deal with this. any insight/advice would be a great help!! Thanks! Open Question: what should i do about cancer?what should i do?my sister already had cancer and had half of her leg cut off but she is awesomely alive. but my problem is that my moms boyfriend (i consider him my dad) has cancer in his colon. i am devastated!!! what should i do? Open Question: boy problems (duh) help please!!!? guys answer to pls, need your opinion on a part of this?so since the begining of the year (school year) i liked this guy. he funny sweet and smart, and totally my tyype. in the begining of the school year he didnt have a girlfriend and when my friends told him i liked him, he didnt like me back but that was only a month since we've met and we barely talked to eachother. but now we know eachother a lot more. today he asked me my age and whens my birthday (does it mean something?). he's very playful so he likes to tickle me a lot in fourth period and touch my hair and stuff (he's not a freak). but the only thing is he has a girlfriend now and theyve been together for a lil more than a month. since last week he never sat next to her in lunch, i dont know whats going on. and today for some reason i felt very close to him than i ever was. he's been sick since the begining of the week and toda i was asking him if he felt better and everything. and he answered me without thinking it was wierd because i told my friend to tell him i dont like him anymore but i do and its pretty obvious that i still do because everytime he talks to me i blush A LOT. (my friends tell me afterwards) and he's not staying away from me, (would u boys stay away from someone who u know likes you but you dont like them?) we still talk and stuff. i told him i have a boyfriend (not really)so i dont know if dats y he doesnt mind stayin with me. so what do you think is going on with him? Open Question: I would like to know what my rights are . . . it's long?I work retail at a store in a mall and a gay rights activist who stands outside the store has been harassing me. ( I have no problem with gay people, I have even donaited to her cause) She started off by comming into the store and insulting the me aswell as the other employees. The next day she did the very same thing, so my boss called mall security to get her remmoved from the front of our store. As a result she to told my boss she was going to kill her. My boss got her fired from her company but another company hired her and she was put back infront of our store. Here is where she gets really crazy. I left one day on my break while she was talking to someone, while i was walking back to the store I noticed she was fallowing me. She started saying things like "you better watch your back" and "I'm going to get you". At this point I told my boss who called the company she works for but they said they didnt believe us and she remained there. Today I went to the mall just shopping and she spotted me and proceeded fallowed me along with my boyfriend and cousin. When I sat down at a table she approached me and threatened to kill me. In addition, she said she was going to go into my work tomorow and physically assult me, so we both get fired. I don't know what to do about her. Do I have any kind of legal grounds and if she does hit me what will happen? I have contacted security on each occasion. Learn to read. Open Question: why won't my boyfriend divorce his wife?my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 3 months. We love eachother very much, and I know for a fact he is the one. We are even thinking of buying a house. The problem is, he is still married, and his wife lives in another country. He says he hasnt done it because he doesnt even know where to start. Which sounds like a load of crap to me because it is easy to find things out. Just sitting on your butt, will get you nowhere. I know he doesnt still love his wife or anything like that, it just hurts that he's too lazy to do anything about it. He is with me now, and yet he is still married to another woman. I want to marry him so bad, but at this point it just seems like i can only dream about one day being his wife. Divorce is a long process, and well, he doesnt even have the motivation to THINK about starting the process. everytime I ask him about it, he just says "I will", then i say, "i cant keep nagging you about it" then he says, "but you should, just keep reminding me everyday" but i dont WANT to do that. I want him to do it because HE wants to, not because im pushing him to. I want him to think "wow i love her so much, and i want to ask her to marry me so I am going to get on top of this divorce thing". I am thinking of saving up for a ring for him. If he does do the divorce, should I ask him to marry me if he won't? I am so confused. =( TO CLEAR THINGS UP: HE IS NOT CHEATING ON HIS WIFE. THEY ARE SEPARATED, AND SHE MOVED BACK TO HER HOME COUNTY. I AM BY NO MEANS HIS MISTRESS! AND THEY WERE NOT TOGETHER WHEN WE STARTED DATING. Open Question: I'm depressed, with other problems, and I can't take it... should I move?I currently live in a small city, the population is around 26 000 people. I haven't been doing so good though, depression, cutting, eating disorders, and I was failing all my classes at one point. I always fight with my family, my friends aren't my friends anymore because of the depression, the only thing I really look forward to now, is seeing my boyfriend (but that's a forbidden relationship... which makes it hard) and I'm going crazy living here! I'm turning 17 this year, and I still have another year and a half left of school before I graduate and can get out of here. A possibility now, is that I move and live with relatives in Toronto or near it. There, I can start over, go to high school, get a job, and not have to deal with my family or other things here... Is this a good idea? Open Question: I don't know how to slow down with my boyfriend.?My boyfriend and I have been best friends for four years. We know eachother better than we know ourselves, and we've been dating for almost four months, and I know I'm with a good guy. We're both sophomores in high school right now, and I'm waiting till I'm out of high school to have sex. I'm still a virgin and I plan on keeping it that way for a while, whereas my boyfriend was with someone before me and they were very sexually active, and I know pretty much all about it because, like I said, we're best friends :3 I've been in a relationship with one other guy before, but my current boyfriend is the first guy I've been with that I trust completely and I've done everything with (he was my first kiss, and then..everything else that follows after kissing..) We were taking things slowly at the beginning of our relationship, but things have gotten pretty crazy and we're already at third base (I've gone down on him, he hasn't done it on me yet because I don't know if I'm ready for him to do that yet or not..)! I don't regret doing anything with him, but I feel like after barely four months of dating and then us having to wait another two-three years to have sex is kind of pushing it, because where do you go when you get tired of third base? I don't want to end up having sex in high school because I want to avoid drama and rumors and stuff and my boyfriend agrees with me. But the problem is we both like making eachother feel good and giving eachother pleasure and I don't find giving a b***job or h***job a chore, and I actually like doing it, so when I do it, I do it not only because he wants me to, but because I truly want to do it, too. And since we're both teenagers, we have all those raging hormones and we get turned on by eachother so easily and stuff and it makes you act on desire and impulse. Like, I'll be at his house and we'll be watching a movie and kissing on his couch, and he'll get a ***** and then it gets really hard to not ask him to take me right on his couch. Then I'll come home from hanging out with him and I'll be happy about what we did, I don't ever feel regret or guilt but I'm just relieved that I DIDN'T ask him to take me on his couch. And we've talked about going slower, but it always fails in the long run. I'm kind of unsure of what to do. I want to go slower, but I'm pretty sure we won't be able to keep to going slower. And I'm very determined to sticking to my decision to have sex after high school. But I don't know how to talk to him about going slower, because I like where we're at now. But like, I wish it was easier to listen to what my heart says instead of listening to the horny little devil on my shoulder when I'm with my boyfriend. And I feel like a skank putting this on Yahoo! Answers, but I really want some advice or anything to help me in this situation. P.S. My boyfriend respects me and I respect him, he knows I have morals, and he wouldn't rush me with anything. He always asks me if I'm ready to move forward because he's done things that I haven't done and we wants to make sure I'm ready, and we have a healthy relationship that's based purely off of trust and communication among those other important components, so my boyfriend isn't one of those a**hole guys that's only after sex :P Open Question: Do you think Im pretty?This is just a stupid question I wanted to ask...Because all my friends have boyfriends and I haven't had one in about 1 year!?!? So look at my profile pic and give me your opinion. Im asking this because I usually get asked out a lot but I haven't for a while..I think it's because Im not very attractive anymore...This is a question for females to answer only... because they understand more ( girl problems )!! LOLZ!! Open Question: help? suggestions? thaaaanks :)?soi went to a really small private school grades 1-8. now im going to the HUGE publlic highschool. people from my old school went here too, including my best friend,but i still feel kinda out of place.ive made tons of friends and everything, but everyone already has their "groups" from middle school. so i hand out with them in school and in my classes but out of school and stuffff im still mostly with my friends from the previous school. another problem about thisss is boyfriends. i really like this guy, but if i startedd dating him i wouldnt know his friends they wouldn't know me and i feel like it would just be really akward. please help mee! thankss everyone<3 Open Question: Which Car Starter would you rather have?For Christmas I'm buying my boyfriend a car starter. I purchased one already and was happy about it, until the fliers came out today and I discovered one that might be a little better. They're both the same price (one was on sale last week for 100 and the other starts tomorrow for 100) so either way I'm happy with that. I suck with car stuff, so I won't even bother putting details of them in, I'll just post some links :) He is really into cars and his dad is a mechanic so I don't think they'll have any installation problems :) Also, he already has a car alarm, but he's been having problems with it, so I'm sure if I got the one with the alarm there wouldn't be a problem, but at the same time it doesn't need an alarm. Thanks for your help! #1 http://www.canadiantire.ca/AST/browse/4/Auto/AutoAccessories/RemoteCarStarters/PRDOVR~0340744P/ProStart%2B4-Button%2BRemote%2BStarter%2Bwith%2BKeyless%2BEntry%2Band%2BAlarm.jsp #2 http://www.canadiantire.ca/AST/browse/4/Auto/AutoAccessories/RemoteCarStarters/PRDOVR~0340745P/LCD%2BRemote%2BStarter%2Band%2BKeyless%2BEntry%2BRemote.jsp Heres more information :) #1 http://www.autostart.ca/prostart/prod-en_CT-5000.php #2 http://www.autostart.ca/prostart/prod-en_CT-3400TW.php More Recent Articles |
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