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Open Question: Do you think what my school counselor did was right? and more... Open Question: Do you think what my school counselor did was right?I was in 9th grade and me and my boyfriend had broken up temporarily. We have a long distance relationship so it kept getting harder and harder on us but luckily were still together after 3 years. But that year when we broke up I was very depressed, so I went to go talk to my counselor because I just wanted someone to talk to. So I would tell her my problems and how I felt. She told me she wasn't going to tell ANYONE, not even my mom (I especially did not want her to tell my mom because she would yell at me or make fun of me for being sad about a guy). But then 2 years later my sophomore year I went to another school and me and my mom got into a fight and she told me how ridiculous you must have looked in that counselors office crying about a guy "ohh he left me im so sad". I was shocked that she knew this! Thats when I realized my counselor had called her up and told her EVERYTHING I was telling her in PRIVATE! Aren't they supposed to keep this secret or can they tell your parents? Ever since that day I have HATED counselors! I never go to them again for ANY help at all. I keep my business to myself and I believe that is how its supposed to be now. So was what she did right or wrong? Open Question: Does this qualify as being 'easy'?Okay, so I'm a sophomore in high school, and my group of friends is seven people. Two of the guys have just started dating two of the girls (I'll call them Sarah and Nicole)- these two girls are two of my best friends. Another one of my good friends (I'll call her Emily) is just dating a guy from another school. The other two members of our little group have been very busy as of late, since they're members of the school play, which opens Friday. This effectively leaves me alienated- two couples, one pining best friend, and two busy thespians. So lately I've been hanging out a lot lately with a very sweet junior guy who's been my friend for a while; he also happens to be the guy I like. He is a nice escape from the lovey couples, stressed and never-present thespians, and pining Emily, and he and his friends are fun to hang out with. This also helps me get away from Nicole, who tends to unload her relationship stress by talking it out on her friends as if we're supposed to solve her problems for her. That's really hard for me; firstly, I'm kind of jealous about how happy she is with her boyfriend. Secondly, she's totally taking the whole relationship for granted. So it's really hard for me to listen to her talk and talk about how annoying it is when her boyfriend messes with her hair, when I really want to shake her and tell her to be grateful that she has a boyfriend. Sometimes, I just need a break, and I have someone else to hang out with. Well, today after school I was hanging out with aforementioned junior, when Emily and Nicole approached me and dragged me off. They started talking about why did I suddenly not want to hang out with them. They refused to listen to my explanation, then said that I was making myself look easy by hanging around the junior.* Me: O_o lolwut? Tl;dr: If my friends are making me feel left out, am I being easy if I just hang out with guys? Or are they being possessive? *Seriously, this isn't kindergarten. Guys and girls can have platonic relationships, especially tomboys like myself. I'm not even flipping flirting with him. Open Question: Ladies, do you shake hands or hug your bf/husband's father?When you see the father of your husband/boyfriend, do you shake his hand (more "proper" greeting), or do you give him a hug (more "friendly" greeting)? I've been dating my guy (we're both 19) for nearly 3 years, and his father always gives me a handshake (then always mentions that "a proper woman should give a firm handshake" (even though I do)). And he insists I call him "sir," or when he's feeling friendly "Mr. Johnson." Not that I have a problem with either. Just seems when Ive seen friends greet the father of their boyfriend/husband, it's been more friendly ( a hug, a pat on the back, a high five), and they called them by their first name. What do you do? Open Question: The day of ultra-suck?So, my school lets some people go to the downtown orchestra for free (real good seats too, in the front rows. yes, expensive), and I was able to get two for me and two for my mom. I've got the extra ticket so that I can ask someone to go with me, but the problem is at school, today alone, I've asked 17 girls and every last one was either interested in going or uninterested, and HAVE A BOYFRIEND. I know there's probably 100s more girls at the school but getting rejected by default 17 times is pretty disheartening (although not bad, because I wasn't rejected more than once out of dislike of me). What should I do? Open Question: I need some advice: boyfriend trouble?I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 23. I've liked this guy for years, sense I was like 14 and we've only been dating for the last 15 months and we're really in love. I was pregnant in the spring but lost it at 9 weeks, we haven't tried again for obvious reasons but I also think he has fertility problems. But he's 23 years old and works 6 hours a week and I'm working on getting a 2nd job to get 40 in today's economy. I really stress myself out. He doesn't want to seem to do anything even though he tells me he loves me all the time. He's trying to join the army but doesn't seem to be trying hard enough. All my life i've had to work really hard to get what I want and up until his mom died a couple of years ago he's had everything basically handed to him. And I admit i'm guilty of basically "babying him". How do I go about any of this? I live with my grandparents and he lives with his sister because neither of us have any money but to me he doesn't seem to want to help to get us out of here. I feel like I've said everything I could to him to motivate him. I think a lot of it is depression, sense his mom died, and then it got worse when we lost our baby in the spring. He doesn't have health coverage to get tested or get medication. Any advice? Open Question: I need some advice..?My sister has a boyfriend. She has been with him for a pretty long time. She really does love him, just doesnt feel in love with him anymore. She's scared to leave him because she has been with him so long and it is all she is used to. But she met someone else. He makes her feel the way she used to feel with her current boyfriend. At first she just thought he was good looking and just was flirty but now she is starting to get really strong feelings for him. And she tells me he is all she can think about anymore. The only problem is, she doesnt know if he has the same feelings for her. When she hits on him, he calls her a dork and a weirdo. But she always makes him laugh, and flirts with her sometimes. She doesn't know what to do. Should she talk to him? Or is it to early for her to tell him the way she feels? Should she leave her current boyfriend? Or should she wait till she talks to him? I really need help. I dont really know what to say to her. Open Question: would females have a problem if thier boyfriend asked you to spank them?Would you let your boyfriend lay on your lap and you spank them with your bare hand like theyve been naughty... This has been a dream of mine Open Question: Am I doing the right thing leaving him?Hi. First off thanks for taking the time to read my question, I am leaving my boyfriend of 3 years that I live with, we have no kids together, although I have a strong bond with his son and his neice and nephews. I am ill at the moment, and he is making it pretty obvious that I am just a burden, we no longer cuddle up to one another, or kiss or make love. i try all these things but get pushed to the side, it has been a good 3 months for either of these. i don't smile anymore, I have nothing to be happy for or to look forward to. he plays on his ps3 all day when he isn't a work, so doesn't talk to me, and with me being ill I am in my bed 24/7 I feel so alone and so misunderstood. I do love my boyfriend, but if he is better off without me then so be it. He doesn't go out anymore, not that we went out a great deal when i wasn't ill. I am waiting until monday when he is back at work, and getting my dad to come fetch me and I will hopefully be staying at his house till i get my self sorted. I just don't know if I am doing the right thing by leaving while he is at work, but I am purposely avoiding the stress from it all. we're not arguing like we normally do when we have problems, we just aren't barely talking. He is more like a friend than a boyfriend. There isn't anyone else in my life So I am not leaving him to be with someone else. I have a thyroid problem and it has brought on anxiety, depression and agoraphobia, the reasons why I am ill and cannot go out. I am 19 (20 in feb) and he is 25. Thanks in advance Open Question: I Have A Best Friend Problem...?Okay so I have been best friends with my best friend for about 3/3.5 half years. Since the first day of Freshman year. We used to have so much fun and just be crazy and tell each other everything. But like since the beginning of the school year, things changed. She's been like really clingy lately and she copies me a lot. Also when we hang out outside of school, she never really talks to me. I usually have to do all the talking and start the conversation or she's like really quiet, it's weird. She also recently got a boyfriend. Now, I am 100% supportive of any of my friend's relationships because if they're happy, I want to be happy for them(: But I'm reallly struggling to be supportive here. First off, she's almost 18. Her boyfriend turned 15 not long ago. They only knew each other a week before he asked her out. Not to mention, he has a reputation for being a player. He's always touching other girls and is all over them and my best friend doesn't know this. My other friends and I have seen him in action so we know. But it's only been 3 weeks since they've known each other and they claim they're in love even though the only time they see each other is during one class period. She tells me they never hang out outside of school. But she's not acting like herself. She's acting like a poser and she copies me then she says I'm the one copying her. It's getting on my nerves. She's also telling people I'm mean and b!tchy. She thinks it's cool to have that attitude so she tells people I'm like that. I'm not a b!tch. I can be sarcastic/witty and I like to joke around but that's it. Now she made her boyfriend afraid of me and one of my other friends as well. It's really frustrating me. Also we both used to be really immature. Like we never wanted to grow up and we wanted to stay kids forever. But I matured a lot over the past 6 months or so. I have plans for my future and she's always telling me it's not gonna happen, but yet she goes home and watches shows made for 8 year olds. Sometimes I feel more like a second mother to her than a friend and whenever we do things, I feel like I have to babysit her rather than hang out with her. I want to fix this because we had a great friendship. But lately, I've been feeling awkward around her and she knows it too. Gah I don't know what to do ): Sorry it's so long :\ Open Question: Should I or I shouldnt?So here my problem. I am temporarily not living with my fiance because we are trying to get on our feet and get our own place to live. He got laid off a few months ago so that kinda slowed us down and left us with the only option at the time to move in with his mother. The whole time I lived there was a nightmare for me. She complained about everything that my fiance(her son) did and she also said some disturbing things to me. For instance, she would call us lazy because we didn't wash the dirty dishes that she and her daughter(my fiances little sister) created. She said that my fiance(her son) was trifling because he didn't put his shower towels where she wanted them when he was done showering in the bathroom. She always looking for my fiance to play easter bunny, santa clause, birthday boy with his little sister (and every other time they need money for something) which is really frustrating because we are trying to get a place of our own and save for a decent wedding.And whats crazy is that his little sister has a mother and a father who both get some sort of income. More than what my fiance is getting I know for sure.Lucky we don't have any kids yet. And while I was living there she she has mentioned this to me on three different occasions:"I don't now what y'all are going to do, but at the 1st of the month y'all are gonna have to leave. I want my place to myself." And the only reason she wanted the place to herself is because she wanted her boyfriend to come back and live with her. And she was the one who insisted that we come live with her to help her out with the bills. Now that she was getting back with her boyfriend she wanted us out. Well now Im back in Nevada living with my sisters because she couldn't wait till January for us to leave. Well now the table has turned. The guy she thought was going to move in with her is no longer in a relationship with her. So now that she sees me and my fiance getting an apartment she wants to get a two bedroom so she can stay with us. But she didn't want us there in her apartment in the first place. So Im asking, should I just suck it up and say ok or should I just go with how I really feel and say no way? I mean she also has bad habits that Im not too comfortable with. She smokes cigarettes and weed and drinks on a daily basis, she likes to open every window up in the house so everybody outside can see whats going on inside(and she close to being fully blind!) She has a loud voice which is annoying to me and I don't like the people that she hangs around because their all weird and have the same habits as her. Im suppose to be going to school online and I don't want this to be my environment for school. So should I or I shouldn't? Please give some advice if you can. Thank you for listening. Open Question: How can I reclaim my social status?After I broke up with my boyfriend of two years, i lost a ton of friends. One of the friends I dont want to loose is my 6th grade bestfriend who started dating my boyfriend's bestfriend after our first anniversery. She still has all my old friends and I feel uncomfortable around her because they proboly talk abouut how much they hate me and stuff like that... at school im not the same and people just dont seem to gravitate toward me like they did. Its like my whole social status became dependant on my boyfriend, and when he left i was down to zero. I never had a problem like this before. Ive always been socially okay. I'm confused and I juts want my friend back and my social status back. How can i get my life back? Open Question: I really need advice, My ex boyfriend is freaking me out?My ex is always posting AOL Away Messages about me online. Me and him broke up because I thought he had angry problems ever since the break up about two months ago hes been posting stuff about me. Like i met this new boy and put him in my pro and then my ex wrote "stop changing your profile no one cares" Well I heard he met a new girl but she only talked to" him for 2 weeks than left him they werent really together. The thing is, Is that I went on AIM today and put up an away message and he said "I post countless away messages, and no one gives a ****. oh wait, thats you" Me and his last girl was on we both posted aways. Then she signed off aol and 5 mins later he put up his away as "Loser" He doesnt have many friends and i know it was about one of us. Who do you think he was saying that more towards me or her? Open Question: what are songs about backstabbing friends?im looking for a song about a real...witch (to be nice), any ideas? its NOT about taking someones boyfriend or a love life problem so im trying to find songs NOT about that! i really like emo, punk, or rock music so if it's any of that even better! i DO NOT like rap so pleaseee not that... anyway please help? thanks! More Recent Articles
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