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Open Question: What would you do? =/ i cant lie anymore? and more... Open Question: What would you do? =/ i cant lie anymore?Hi, Im a 19 year old girl. my boyfriends 22 and ive been with him for a year and a half. ive known him a lot longer than that but now were really very close and our relationship is serious. i had a lot of problems at home and since i left high school ive not exactly cared about anything thatll happen to me. i gave up on education and trying in my last year of school. i went on to do other things, but nothing serious or with any thought. anyway, basically i was ready to become a complete uncaring mess before i got with my boyfriend. and hes like the most motivated guy iv ever met... he absorbs everything he can in life at i love that about him, and understandably he wants that for me. but in august my parents kicked my out, i havent had any sort of income in two years, my confidence is shatterd and ive got a few family issues to deal with... im living everywhere atm mostly my sisters and his house. i enrolled on a course with a path that i wanted to follow.. this year i really wanted to try n pull my life together... iv found myself a job, which means soon il be able to get my own place, i was doing well at college and i have those few close people left supporting me i found getting to college a bit hard to handle sicne im not in a stable place physically and i dont feel great mentally and missed time off.. long story short i really wanted to give me and my boyfriend a really good chance this year.. my tutor doesnt want me at college anymore and im absolutely begging her... once i open my mouth n tell people whats happened im going to loose everything... especially my boyfriend, and i dont think i can bare that.. i also feel like ive been unfairly took out of college and im still trying to get back in.. but im not holding hope. hes going to really hate me and i cant stand it myself. i really needed this =( how do i tell him? im terrified. i honestly need him i feel like just saying, i dont want to but we should break up, and explain how i cant f*ck him around, and if ive messed up ive messed up.. n it should teach me? but the other side of it is.. its not as if i don t not care anymore.. i really want to do this and get somewhere.. i feel horrible that i cant, but i want to find another way to be able to do it, even if i have to start again next year, but then thats not good enough =( why does everything bad happen all at once? i still havent started my job yet, but im waiting to see her this week. how do i tell him? =( Open Question: hi. i have a lot of problems. for this reason i made an alternate acount, and plan on spilling my issues here.?hmm where to start. well my parents were divorced a long time a go, boo hoo i know. my dad then married the wicked step mother, now theyr divorced, i never see him, maybe like once a month if he bothers to text me and see if i wanna hangout. he blames me for our relationship problem and complains that i never call. whatever. creepy old men want me. like theres a few of them. im prety sure im bi. and i cant tell anyone. today at hockey i realized im more of a whore than the biggest puckslut iv ever met. she was talking about how she lost her virginity when she was 15 or 16 as a junior. welp. beat her by what 2 years? i think my friends boyfriend raped me. i think. not sure. its watever im not tramatized, i dont care. and now this one guy who i like alot lot lot, well hes 21 and im 16. iv been seeing sorta him for a few months i think? and i havent even banged him yet... its annoying i like him a lot and im prety positive he feels the same but its hard because he works for us, and we have to hide it because it is not a socially acceptable relationship. im not willing to just let him go because it causes problems, i think hes really worth it, i know hes not using me, or he would have arranged a pants party by now. its just difficult i hate haveing all this on my chest and no one knows any of it. Open Question: i know i have a mental illness how can i stop all this thoughts? please help.?i hate it when i start to think nonsense. sometimes i will even think that when i wash my hands and i think of a person's face, i will think that i will be under their control. basically just whatever i do, and i rmbr that i must think of the people that i like, if i think of someone i dont want to think then my mind will say that will be under their control. when i wash my hands i force myself to think of my boyfriend's face. when i do this and that i must think of my boyfriends face, if i think of ppl that i dont want to think, then my mind will say that i'll be under their control or something. i know that its stupid and i know that its not gonna happen, but im scared what if it really happens? then i will do it again. sometimes i will, like example if iwash my hands and i think of the people i dont like, and my mind gives me those thoughts, i will keep washing till i think of the right person and i feel ok with it then i'll be ok. but if i dont wash and think of the person i wanna think again, then i am just too occupied like what if im really under their control or something, and i'll keep thinking about it, and i feel very depressed about it, i'll just keep crying crying, sometimes i just ignore and i dont care, but sometimes i just cant carry on life normally until i do it again. i dont want to do it again. do i have a psychological problem or something? im too scared to think. whenever i think of something, my mind will lead my elsewhere, and i will have to think back the same thing over again, properly, until im satisfied, or rather, my brain is satisfied, then i'll stop thinking, and continue doing what im doing. sometimes when i think of something, and i think of it wrongly, like im thinking of someone or thinking about a conversation i had with someone and suddenly, i happen to think wrongly, i'll think about it again, and i must make sure that the people that i am thinking of are the right person. if i think wrongly i'll just restart again. if i don't think it right, i feel that i cant do things, i feel that i cant continue thinking other things and i will feel troubled if i dont think it well. sometimes i just do things normally without any difficulty, but sometimes my mind will suddenly say all the things that i dont want it to happen or fear that i'll happen, and when my mind does that, i'll say that i have to do this this this then it wont happen. and i actually did it. and i know i dont have to do it but when i dont, my mind just cant stop thinking about it. what is wrong with me? im i mentally ill? Open Question: Yeah so I might be getting my ass kicked tomorrow...?So there is this girl at my school that I like, but she has a boyfriend. We started talking and I discovered that she also has a slight crush on me. We flirt A LOT and she is okay with it. We sit next to each other in 2 of my classes. I felt bad for flirting with her because of her boyfriend but she liked to flirt so I continued. She took my phone one day as a joke and I kept asking her to give it back. She responded with "No matter what you do, no matter how inappropriate it is, I will not give you your phone back." so I reached for her chest and squeezed. She laughed and gave my phone back. Then the next day she took it again and I joked, "I will do something inappropriate again." and she giggled and I did the same thing I did last time to get it back, she again laughed and gave it back. Then today it happened again, and I said "Okay, this time I am gonna do something REALLY inappropriate!" She laughed and I grabbed both of her breasts... She once again laughed, but this time didn't give it back. I once again told her "If you don't give it back I will do something EXTREMELY inappropriate!" She laughed and I said "Okay then" and started feeling her down below. She laughed once again and gave me my phone back. I just checked facebook and received a message from her boyfriend stating, "Don't you EVER touch her like that again or there will be problems! And you do not want to mess with me!" I have no idea how he found out. I knew I should of stopped flirting with her. A simple apology is not going to help. There is no excuse for what I have done, and there is no way of fixing it. I pretty much deserve getting my ass kicked, IF I do. What should I do? The only reason I did those things was because, she hates her boyfriend and she was planning on breaking up with him. And yeah I believe I am just going to have to accept whats coming.. Open Question: mother in law going through a divorce how do i help?my future mother in law is going through a divorce. trust me i understand how hard it is, i helped my mom. however, this stituation is different. she has never had a job that lasted longer than maybe a year and she is now unemployed trying to get her own place. her and my boyfriend ask me for my advice and i give it to them. tonight my bf was talking about it to me again, and i told him that he needs to get his mom up and tell her to get a job. That was one of the main problems in the marriage and well its time for her to change. he got mad at me and said that he has but she doesnt listen and i told him that i knw times are tough for her so maybe he needs to try harder kinda like tough love. go in their pick her out nice clothes and get her moving. well all in all he got mad at me and said i was being disrespectful...? its tough love and i knw she might not like it but she has to do this. shecannot live off unemployment forever and i dont even think my bf should make excuses for her that she doesnt feel like it right now. it will take her mind off things and get her moving forward. im sry this is so long but please help me with any advice..Please i dont want this to ruin my relationship to. Open Question: I need advice about my family Christmas plans.?I need advice about my family Christmas plans. For informational purposes I'm an adult with my own family. Anyway, my family has always had a big Christmas with everyone together. However this year is the first Christmas since my parents divorced. My mother left my father (for no obvious reasons other than she wanted a change) and now she is wanting to have separate holidays with the family and her new boyfriend (which I have no problem with) but she wants to do it without my father. She thinks we should have two separate holiday get-togethers. I don't think this is right, my parents and the new boyfriend all seem to get along just fine so I see no reason we shouldn't continue our family traditions the way they were. What do you think, Am I right or wrong? Open Question: What to get for a country boy boyfriend?Well, I've been dating this boy for a little over a month, and Christmas is coming up! The problem: I don't know what to get him. I'm the WORST gift-giver in the world. So I just don't know what to do! He's a total country boy. He likes trucks, football, country music, blah blah blah. I just moved here to Small Town Texas from the big city in California, so I don't know a thing about all this. Any suggestions? Open Question: Should I Or Should I Not?I have this boyfriend & he wants me 2 have a 3sum with him & another girl. I don't have a problem with it but I think he might fall in love with her.. What do you guys think I should do?? Open Question: help on boyfriend drama... 8(?ok i love this guy a lot he was my best friend and still is we have been together for 8 months and have known each other for over a year. well we started fighting about anything and now big problems start, sadly the ex of all ex's is back in my life but all we are doing is talking pretty much fixing stuff since we ended ugly and we wanted to be friends like before well before i me and my boyfriend got together he knew all about my ex cause he was my best friend i told him everything, now my ex hit me up i was scared to tell him yea i know big mistake, and we kinda fixed that but he know longer wants me talking to him but both me and my ex talk to him saying there was nothing between me and him. fine it was hard but i just let him go we were bummed about that but o well life goes on and then the next day we fight about porn. now i had been angry with him before bcuz he was using porn and he had stopped but we were on here on yahoo answers and he answers a question about porn the link will be on the bottom so u can know the question but we were talking about the answers and be bought up a comment to one of the answers saying yea guys watch porn bcuz they cant just watch the same girl all the time well hello he hit a button so he just flat out told me he cant just see one girl fine but he gets mad at me when i play xbox and i used to play uno (which he doesnt let me play anymore) bcuz lil stupid boys like to get on cam and show there junk. yea i would just block the kids and go on with my game not caring yet he is mad cuz i saw another guys stuff so i commented saying o so you can watch another girl and get off on her and yet i cant play a game. so he stormed off and now we just fighting a lot. was i wrong really was it my fault, should i stay with him or what im in point of idk wht to do please help me http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhVxQhx3vbxtAOPkmF5X4ijty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091213214853AAGzPFB&show=7#profile-info-VslrkpOvaa oh yea and he blames everything on me and i mean everything kinda makes me feel like sh** and im at the point of crying everyday bcuz of all this drama Open Question: so i have this um problem about....kissing....ha...?hi, so um yeah..... so i have a boyfriend....he's nice, funny, and blah. we were talking and french kissing came up and he said he was going to french kiss me tomorrow -.- the problem? (that he knows, btw) this morning, i literally BROKE MY TOOTH! like in half! and you can see it, too, it's one of the front ones! i didn't even want to go to school let alone KISS him. (with tongue!) what do i do ack i am going to the dentist... WEDNESDAY!!! Open Question: Is It OK to feel awkward when you first go out with somebody? PLEASE HELP?so im on the verge of gettin a boyfriend and he really likes me. the problem is that i dont know if i like him. if i dnt say yes 2 him i feel like im gonna regret it. and i feel like its gonna be awkward when we go out. tell me some of your stories and give me advice. is it awkward when going out with somebody for the first time? Open Question: Does she have any feelings left for me?Right, its been a couple of months now since me and my ex split. We were each others first loves, crazy about each other at one time or another, but we just had our tiffs like most couples. We were together for about 7 months, and seeing each other for 3-4months before that. About 6 weeks or so ago... we split, on her behalf. It was a very sudden breakup, she told me within the space of 3days that she wanted to go on a break and then low and behold, breakup with me because she apparently had "didn't think she loved me anymore." Which i still am not entirely sure about. About 10days after that she met and guy and has been in a relationship since. Now, I know shes happy and ive no problem with that. I really do want whats best for her. But i have to admit, i love her. I always will love her and shes never a thought away. Couple of weeks back, we had a massive argument, I basically told her how i felt like id been treated like crap after trying to act cool about how badly id been treated in this situation. I know i upset her in this conversation because she really wasn't expecting what i said, and i will admit i was rude and it was a very angry outburst. Although I do regret the language used, my points were valid. My ex admits herself, i was an excellent boyfriend, i treated her right, but she just apparently didn't love me. I found out she had cheated on me with someone whilst out, when we were on a break and she is known to be a total flirt with guys. The thing is, shes so angry at me, ive apologized for my outburst even though really i wasn't in the wrong, from what people have said, then totally understand why i said it and really she would've taken it on the chin! I've told her that i don't want to argue with her anymore, im past being angry and im not going to put anymore fuel to her flame. Its just strange because when we talk, there is such a sense of anger yet love-like aggression when we talk. She sees me out, either when im with male or female friends and shoots me daggers, I remain calm and just give her a polite nod. I've always had a sense that at some point, i don't know when, that we will talk again, and things will be fine and something might ignite from that. The guy shes with is very naive, never had a girlfriend before and is a typical pretty boy intelligent Cambridge student doing Law. Myself on the other hand, am although in some respects a "pretty boy" have more edge and swagger and am an Architecture student at a good Arch. school. She's into Drama and is aspiring to be a Drama teacher. I know there is a fine line between love and hate. And she tells me she hates me? Is this because of the love, the passion that's involved and the flurry of raw emotions? Im a good guy, shes fundamentally a good person too. We just make mistakes with each other. Is this lost forever or is there still hope? Im moving on, dating women spending time with friends, working, having fun. She knows this. Im not sitting around and moping and hoping that one day she'll come back because its not fair on me. But i still hold out hope. I forgive her, because i love her. Will she ever be able to do the same? Do you really ever get over your first love? I guess what im asking is, does she still love me? And in time is there a maybe? More Recent Articles |
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