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Open Question: What can I do to fix the problems I've been having with my boyfriend for 3 years? and more... Open Question: What can I do to fix the problems I've been having with my boyfriend for 3 years?I really love my boyfriend. We've been together for 3 years and have discussed marriage, children, finances everything. We even talked about being engaged in a year's time. The problem is, things aren't the way they used to be. In the last 6 months time, I've been feeling completely alone. I feel like I put 110% into our relationship and get nothing back anymore. He used to be so sweet and caring, take me out, offer some plans, bring me flowers out of the blue, but now I ask him to do one simple thing (make a reservation) and he freaks out like I asked him to jump off a bridge. He has been going out to the bar with his friends alot (I encourage him to have guy time) but he's started to use drinking with his friends as an excuse to not have to talk out our problems, and his friends aren't in relationship which I don't think helps at all. I have come out and told him point blank that if he's wanting to be single, or see other people than he should at least have the decency to tell it to my face. So he said he needed some "space" because he's "confused" and needs time to figure out what he wants. (He would never cheat or see other people while we are still together, his family is fairly relgious and at least he has his values straight) I told him that after the several months that he's been acting so cold, there was no chance he should expect me to stick around until he's over being "confused" whatever that means. I gave him an ulitmatum, you're either going to get over this jerk phase and be with me now, or we're done because I'm not sitting around for you to make up your mind, and you'll never see me again. He broke down and said how sorry he was and doesn;t know why he did it,that he loves me so much and would cut ties with those particular friends, and I finally thought we were back to the way things were. That lasted for a few weeks, and now we're back to how I felt before. I feel lonely even though I'm with him, I wonder why he doesn't care to show me he loves me, he knows it hurts me, but then he doesn't even try. We've pretty much stopped having sex, because I don;t want since I'm so unhappy with him. I know I don;t help things, we stay up until 4 in the morning sometimes fighting, (mostly me) just trying to elicit a response from him. I know he loves me, otherwise he would have walked away a long time ago, I just don;t know how much more I can handle. I want to be happy, and not constantly asking for him to do the slightest thing to show he cares and get no response. What needs to happen for us to just move on and work on our relationship again? Open Question: My Boyfriend and I Broke Up For a Month????back Together?We were having problems and decided to end it. he met a new girl and he tol her He Couldn't Stand Me!!!! We have gotten back together and he dumped her. She told us we were made for each other and she keeps sending menagry texts saying he hate being with me. i believe he told her this but why would he discuss our relationship with her. We are back togehter and I'm just wondering WHY If he can't stand me. he wants to stay together but if he really doesn't like me which is what he told her why is he here ??? He acts sweet when he's with me.I do curse him out here and there when he deserve it!!!! Open Question: I had a dream my boyfriend killed himself. Woke up thinking it happened?I had a dream last night that my boyfriend killed himself by overdosing on sleeping tablets (I think) this girl who me and my boyfriend were friends with in real life ( who we no longer are with since 8 months ago caused problems for us , so we dont talk to her now) In the dream she rang me up and said he killed himself because he was having a breakdown and it was something to do with money and a ring or something weird. I cant remember much of it. But when I woke up I thought it actually happened. Me and my boyfriend are very close and we are living with each other atm at my home. what can this dream mean? Open Question: Boyfriend too tired to give me affection?Some days I am miserable and I just want some good affection. I aksed my boyfriend while he was staying with me to hold me, touch me, but usually he was too tired or did it unwillingly. He knows that I was down these times and all that I wanted was affection from him. Recently I learned that he watches porn, so it tells me he avoids me, and goes to look elsewhere for romance. I don't even know if this is worth trying for any more. Now I just want to say screw it, you've played with my heart enough and you should have been better to me. But I know what it is to lose i have lost so many people in my life, and just because I'm having a rough patch doesn't mean let him fly away? No sex though, no affection, I can't deal with it, because I feel that I'm very generous, and I am attractive, I just feel like he sees me as something that I am not? Could he have emotional problems??? Heeeeelp? Open Question: I found out my boyfriend is talking to his ex in an intimate way... what do I do?Well, I don't know how far it's gone. We've been dating two and a half years... and lately his communication and romantic gestures have been much slower and far between. This guy is all about being cutesy with his girl... so it kind of made me suspicious and sad when he started calling less and said "I love you" less and all. I've been chalking it up to his recent move to a new country (keeping us long-distance) and his intense grad-school program. Both of those things are severe changes to anyone's lifestyle and can keep you busier than ever. (I know he's been doing a lot of class-related orientation and field-trip type stuff). That said, I've always been a bit wary of his ex girlfriend. They broke up right before we dated... but she's always seemed to weasel her way into his life. She used to email him asking advice about job applications in his field... and basically trying to be as close to him as possible considering they're not romantically involved. He's always been cordial to her and fairly upfront with me about it... and because their parents are good friends, even helpful to her when required. He visited me this weekend and tried his hardest to keep his phone away from him (or off) while I was in the same room as him. I did the worst thing possible as a gf, and checked it while he was in the shower. In his texts was a message from his ex-gf in a different language (they're native german speakers).... the same ex-gf who he had told me he hadn't spoken to in over a year. I was obviously shaken by him hiding this from him and confronted him about it when he got out of the shower (admitting that I shouldn't have gone through his texts, but what I found was equally as bad). I told him I didn't care if they talked... as long as he was honest with me about it - hiding anything only makes it seem like you're doing something wrong! He told me that she had asked him for help about grad school applications and he didn't want to cause a fight with us and so he didn't tell me about it. He told me the text read "Can you help me?" I forgot about it and we had a great Thanksgiving weekend together. After he left to go back across the country... I couldn't shake the feeling that something wasn't quite right about the situation. So I went on a translation site and looked up the text that his ex had sent him. It read "Have you arrived safely?" -- I confirmed this with yahoo and another native speaker. This implies that they're chatting in more than a need-to basis. And really, I don't think an ex gf should be texting him about his arriving safely unless she knew his flight plans and they cared about each other enough to do so. I certainly don't text anyone about their flights unless it's a family member or someone coming to see me. This is freaking me out. Honestly, I can't help but think that they've become intimate again and he's hiding it from me. It makes me even more worried because he goes back to his hometown in Germany in a week (where she lives).... and has been wary about meeting my parents and stalling on buying his next flight to see me (saying that he has to wait for his spring school schedule). Also: A few weeks ago, he told me about how he went out with one of his friends who is also an international student. His friend had asked him for advice about his women problem. Apparently said friend had been in a relationship for two years... and fell in love with a different girl at home (specifically "a girl he wanted to marry and have children with")... and was holding onto his girlfriend in case this new girl rejected him. I'm starting to get paranoid and think that this was a story that HE told his friend... not the other way around. What do I do? More Recent Articles
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