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Open Question: What am I doing wrong? (See if you can find the problem)? and more... Open Question: What am I doing wrong? (See if you can find the problem)?I am a twenty year old guy who is in college studying accounting and planning to go to law school. I am well dressed, well spoken, and well read. I am actively involved in many community outreach programs that positively benefit the community around. I sound like the perfect boyfriend, right? Apparently, I made a miscalculation. Girls avoid me like the plague. I never see any signs of any girls liking me, am I oblivious? I don't have very many friends that are girls, or friends period (the ones I have are by my side always) and most of my family thinks I am gay (I AM NOT). I am very specific in what I want I know but is it that much to ask for a decent girl? SO what can I do to try to attract a decent self respecting girl who is down to earth and not self-centered. I feel no matter what I do socially, I never can seem to make a connection and fit in for once. Should I just resign myself to lonely life. Open Question: I don't think my parents like my boyfriend?I met someone at my friend's memorial service 3 months ago (odd I know) and I started dating him and now I feel that I'm in love with him. The main problem is that I don't think my parents like him. After I got one from one of our earlier dates where I had told my parents that I was on a blind date my mom asked me about the guy. I told her what he does for a living and other things and she virtually just gave me the advice to dump him. When I went on another date with him, when I got back my mom gave me this lecture on why it's probably a good idea to dump him. My dad did so the next day. The guy is for now a substitute teacher, he should be a music teacher but the economy has prevented him from getting that job even though he is constantly applying. After that whenever I wanted to go out or hang out with him I made an excuse that I was going to a friends house or that I was going to work. I know it's odd that I'm in my 20s and that I still live with my parents but in this current economy I can't afford to move out and my parents have this habit of tracking my every single move. They have said that as long as I live under their roof they will be keeping track of me. Culture clash. I'll admit he isn't the smartest, greatest looking, or wealthest guy that I envisioned being with but he respects me and lets me be me. Although it's only been 3 months I already feel weird hiding this relationship from my parents. I've already met his parents. I know that this is my life, that it's me who will be spending time with him not my parents but I don't want to end up being shunned by my family because I'm in love with a guy they don't approve of. How do I tell my parents that I have a boyfriend and how do I get my parents to accept him? He feels bad and just as weird that my parents don't know. Last week I was sick and in a lot of pain and he wanted to come over and comfort me and I really wanted him too except my dad was home. No I don't have a relative who will suggest this guy. I'm in no rush to marry him right now but I just don't like hiding a relationship. Open Question: I want to move and travel and explore, but my boyfriend wants to stay near his family his whole life...?I've dated my boyfriend for four years now. We have discussed marriage (in a hypothetical, relaxed way) and have decided that we both were against getting married or engaged while still in college. However I wouldn't be surprised if this time next year, after we have both graduated, we were engaged. We very happy together and we've always been great at compromising to get through problems. However I grew up in a dysfunctional family in the south, and he grew up very very close to his family (he spent most afternoons at his grandparents' or cousins' houses) in New England. We both now go to school in Boston, and we graduate in June. I've always wanted to travel as much as possible and would love to live for a few years in California or Arizona or British Columbia... I honestly feel like I've wanted this for so long that I might not be able to be happy if I just stayed in one place my whole life. To add to that, I really don't like New England, and I have zero interest in living here after I graduate. My boyfriend on the other hand loves snow and hates heat, can't imagine living more than an hour from his family, has no interest in going farther south than nyc. He doesn't seem like he's going to change his mind, and I don't know if I want him to. He really loves his family, and they are so important to him that I'm not sure how happy he'd be if he had to live very far away and only see them during the holidays. To me, seeing your family more than twice a year isn't a big deal, but obviously to him it's huge. Plus I want to move all over, and he loves New England. I'm not sure what to do. I've talked to him, but I don't think it's going anywhere. What should I do when I graduate and he refuses to leave? He's perfect, and we're perfect together, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But how much should I give up to be with him... How should I decide? Open Question: Help on issue with Ex-BF.?Recently, I've been talking to my Ex-BF again. He talked to me when he had problems and I listened to him and tried to give him advice and make him feel better, to be quite honest it was getting annoying after awhile because that's all we talked about, But I suppose it was alright for awhile until now. Hes been acting like a complete douche bag to be quite honest, even going as far as making jokes on a chat program to other people about "why we broke up" and "I have a new boyfriend now are you jealous" I knew he was joking but it was a douche bag thing to do. Then hes been saying that -I- was the one acting like the Asshole and complained to me about how I was immature and a general annoyance, I was close to snapping and telling him off but I tried to be nice -again-. What do you think I should do? Open Question: How do I deal with my boyfriend's cat that I really don't like?I really have never liked cats. We will be moving in together soon and the cat has been allowed to. Do whatever it wants. It's on the bed all the time, it hangs out on the kitchen counters and table even after it goes outside and roams freely doing god knows what. It leaves hair all over the place which ends up on my clothes the litter box smells horrible even right after it's been changed. We're expecting a baby soon and I think the cat is germy and badly behaved and I don't want to live with it. The problem is I don't want to look like a total bitch because his fourteen yr old daughter seems to like the cat a lot. Plus moving and the new baby are all big changes not to mention her dad being in a serious relationship is also a big change Open Question: Sharing a bed problems?Okay so sometimes I stay the night at my boyfriend's place, and I feel bad cause I move a lot in my sleep and I wake him up sometimes. He also snores a little bit, enough to wake me up but not enough to really bother me. How do other people deal with sharing a bed with someone? Is it just something you get used to after a while? I know this isn't really about marriage/divorce, but I figure people who are married would know all about sharing beds. Open Question: What are symptoms I can be Pregnant? I am on the pill as well.?I have been on the pill for 5 years now. I take it everyday....but the last month i have been on and off strong medications for other problems i have been having. Me and my boyfriend don't use condoms, and we made the mistake of not pulling out (sorry if Im getting graphic). My mother got pregnant for me on the pill, so sometimes I worry. I was told when your on the pill it can effect pregnancy tests, and can also effect you so you still keep getting your period, and sometimes will never know. I have been experiencing some symptoms, but sometimes they turn out to be nothing. I have itchy nipples, really gassy (again sorry for being graphic, but normally Im always gassy. Only this time my stomach holds everything in until it hurts), I got cold sweats the other day and got shaky for about a half hour. I am not hungry at all, and I had to pee like every 5 minutes for a couple of days straight (not anymore though). I know some symptoms could be anything. But what are the chances and symptoms with being on the pill? To add to everyones comments so far...My mom also still got her period, and had no symptoms, just hit the floor one day. When she woke up, my dad took her to hospital and found out. Iv been on the pill for 5 yrs, I have heard that sometimes your body will be so regular with a rutine, it wont even know. Open Question: Why is my mum so mean to me?ive grown up with verbal and pyhsical abuse from my dad which i spent 6 years begging my mum o get rid of him, she finally did, but not for me, just coz he called her a sl*t. anyways after he got kicked out he were pretty happy, except for me since i had problems coping becuase i didnt have a father, but i never showed ay of them to my mum, anyway. lmy mum got a new boyfriend, which i never imagined she would, and he does everything for her, he treats her like a queen, so she should be pretty happy, she does out 3 times a week, parties, hangs out with her friends, so its not like her life is bad, and now lately for no reason she has been screaming at me, she calls me a bitch, a stupid freak. and she makes comments on my body, we will be having a good conversation then she will add something out of the blue like: your so fat, or, you have pimples all over you body, and if a guy is looking at me, she would say, imagine if he saw u naked,he would be running for the door. WTF is her porblem. she is taking over my dads position. i cant handle it anymore, i thought once my dad was gone, i wouldnt have to handle abuse and now, here we go again. Im very depressed and suicidel. someone please help me understand why she is like this so i can fix this. im a good kid, im in top classes, good stright B student. im not a bad kid or anything. im 14 and she is 54. plz help Open Question: What do you do in this messy situation?So, where shall I start? Well it all started when my boyfriend gave me a iphone as a gift, though it needed to be unlocked in order for me to use it but my boyfriend never got to it. Eventually I took the phone myself and went around a few places but they all charged over 100 dollars to unlock it so I waited until I could find a cheaper place. Me and my boyfriend ended up breaking up for a while so an old friend of mine, John began to talk to me on the web and asked me to hang out with him some day, so I called him on a saturday and told him about my cellphone issue and fortunately he knew how to unlock cellphones and since he knew me he was going to do it for free on that following day. So it was about time to meet him and I gave him my cellphone for him to do his job and hung out there for a bit but when I left I forget it at his cousin's house so he said he would get it for me by next weekend because me and him were really busy that week. Throughout the week he kept constantly calling me and harassing me in a way and he eventually began liking me and kept asking me on dates but I would always politely decline. It was eventually saturday again and that was the day me and john had planned to meet each other that night so he would return my cellphone back but he wouldn't answer his cellphone throughout the day and I had other things planned that night and there wasn't no sign of him until last minute but unfortunately I wasn't able to make it, so I told him to move it to sunday. The next day I called him and he told me he gave my cellphone to his friend to use while he was out of the city because the night before he went to a party and didn't want rto risk losing it, though I was very angry for him not asking for my permission. By Monday I got back with my boyfriend and had told him what had happened so he got really upset and since John is in his College class he wanted to do something about this problem which did not sound too good. I ended calling back John and we ended up having a huge fight and ended our friendship he then gave me the number of the guy that had my iphone so i I would stop calling him. I knew this had to with him being jealous that I got back with my boyfriend and eventually I called the guy that had my iphone but the phone was always off so I had to call John back but he would not answer his phone so I gave it one more shot and a girl picked saying that John was in the bathroom and that her boyfriend was the one John gave my iphone to which ended up being passed down to her and she supposedly "lost" the phone and she was really sorry, she ended up giving me her phone number and said she would call me when she had the money for the phone and she would meet me up during the week. Personally I think that was all bullshit and I think this guy John is using this story because since we're not friends anymore he doesn't care wether I get the phone or not and he's using this girl to meet me up to probably get me hurt or somewhere around those boundaries. My boyfriend now is really furious and he's determined to beat him up 2 days from now but I don't want it to escalate that far, I know where John lives, works, and goes to school so maybe I can hunt him down myself since he won't talk to me himself. In conclusion I have no clue what to do now and i'm a very bad situation, what would do in this if you were in my shoes? Open Question: Effectiveness of emergency contraception? I'm terrified I might be pregnant!?Hi everyone, I had intercourse with my boyfriend and we noticed that the condom broke, and so I used my previously prescribed birth control pills as emergency contraception (lutera). I had previously used the birth control for only a few days about a month and a half ago but I discontinued it as the hormones were making me break out--I've had serious problems with acne in the past and I didn't want to live through the skin nightmare again. So I took a dose of 5 pills within the 24 hours. Before my second dose of 5 pills, my boyfriend and I were intimate again, and lo and behold the condom broken AGAIN!!! I took the second dose of pills 12 hours after the first dose but I am SO SCARED that I might be pregnant. I have noticed that my breasts have been very tender lately and I have read that this is an early sign of pregnancy, yet also a side effect of the birth control (the tenderness is waning, however). I might have been ovulating around the time of the entire fiasco, but I am not 100% sure, as my cycle does not fall within the normal 28 day cycle--it is actually much longer (around 35 days). Would the emergency contraception still be effective in that time period I described, in spite of the whole condom mishap?? It has been approximately 8 days now since the incident. Serious answers only, please! I am frantic. Thanks so much for your help. Lutera is CERTIFIED, as many other birth control pills are, as a substitute for birth control, as it contains LEVORGENESTREL, the active progestin in PLAN B. Please only respond if you know what you're talking about. substitute for plan b/emergency contraception* More Recent Articles |
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