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Open Question: should i be worried about this? and more... Open Question: should i be worried about this?ok my boyfriend off three years signed up on myspace just a couple a days and found a bunch of friends from california where he used to live 4 years ago and he found his ex and added her as a friend and she replied today asking how he is and whats he doing with his life which is fine but she wants his number and the only reason why i have a problem with this is that he likes to talk to his ex girlfriend like he doesnt even have a girlfriend which almost broke us once.... i told him not to give her his number but he doesnt know what the problem is and he just said he wants to say hi... but its really bugging me why he wants to talk to her she was a girlfriend of three years a high school thing until he moved and they were talking about getting married before when they were together... should i be worried about this or am i over reacting. Open Question: Is this normal? HELP!?I'm 20 years old and a full-time college student. Is it normal for me to hang out with my boyfriend (we've been dating for over a year) more than my family? I understand that even in high school, teenagers begin to branch off and mold their own lives outside of the family. My parents can't seem to understand this, so is there something I'm not seeing or understanding? Is it normal for me to want to pay for my cell phone plan? I mentioned to them that I wanted to pay for my own cell phone plan/bill and that if I got a job on campus, I could get a discount. Well, they got extremely angry, calling me crazy for wanting to throw away my education (which "they work hard to pay for"). I only wanted to after they looked at the bill (which shows every number I call or receive) to see if they could call me after I didn't pick up for the phone even though I told them I was studying. Also, I had to lie to them before and tell them that my boyfriend and I broke up because they didn't want me to have a boyfriend and they constantly worried that I would have sex and get pregnant therefore, ruining my college career and my life forever. My mom would make comments if I hung out with him too much like "you two are getting too close," "i don't want you kissing in or in front of my house." She's even called him to tell him that he's not welcome to the house anymore. Anyway, they noticed on the phone bill that I talked to him "too much." Next semester, I will be moving back into a dorm. I'm an upperclassman and most upperclassman stay in off campus apartments. Plus, it's $200 cheaper, I'll get my own room with my own bathroom and campus is just a bus ride away. They don't want me to take the bus (I'm a commuter right now and have been parking in a lot to take the bus for a semester now), they don't want to pay monthly payments and would rather pay for tuition+room and board altogether because it'll be financially convenient rather than financially affordable! Well, I told them that they can pay the full rent for an entire year at once, but they refuse. Again, they think I'm absolutely crazy for wanting to live off campus. Is this normal? I feel like they have me on a leash. I care about my parents and when they worry, it's an absolute stress on me. I know they love me, but it's to the point where it's completely overbearing. And I know it's hard for them to let go of their child who is growing up (esp since I'm the oldest), but they won't admit it! After the last fight we had, they think I have psychological problems because all I want to do is grow up, gain some of my own responsibilities and do what I want to do. My mom has told me that with my personality, I will make my life harder and has asked my sister if she thinks I need help! I've been a good child and will always be. I'm not a crazy, slutty, binge-drinking every weekend type of college girl. I'm smart about the decisions I make and want to make some mistakes on my own and learn from them! My parents want my life to be an easy, non-bumpy road, but I understand life isn't like that! I know 20 yrs old isn't "old," and that I'm still young, but they make me feel like I can't do anything on my own as if I'm still in high school! Please Help! Open Question: Relationship problem...?Ok, my boyfriend took me into a forest for a "romantic" walk. We started kissing and he pushed me against a tree and held my hands, this felt good, until he lifted up my legs and taking off my knickers... I was scared and said I wasn't ready, but he kept going and undid his pants... I then told him again I wasn't ready, he then said "ok" and did up his pants but didn't give me back my knickers... I asked him if I could have them back but he just kissed me, we started walking again and we got back to his house, no one was home so we went up to his room, I still didn't have my knickers, we were watching television when he laid on me and removed my skirt and my top, so I was lay there in my bra. I told him to stop. But he didn't. I grabbed my top, skirt and knickers and ran into his bathroom and locked the door, I got dressed and walked out again, he slapped me, and then began to beat me up. I haven't told my parents, I told them that the reason my face looks so bad is because I fell down the stairs at school. Should I dump him? And tell my parents? Open Question: the guy i like is ignoring me , plz help?okay so im in a huge mess, i really liked this guy but the problem is he's a huge player, but he would always ask me out and i would say no , because i knew it wasn't true, so finally one day he asked if he can be my boyfriend, i decided to say yes just to see what would happen.So when i see him at school hes being rude and insults me in front of his friends, i ask if i can talk to him and he says he's too busy playing basketball, so that same day i decide to break up with him because i don't find him being nice at all and i explain to him why, he says its okay with him but now he's ignoring me and its been 2 days he wont reply my texts and i find him staring at me sometimes but turns around after like nothing happened, i say hi to him its like im invsable. i don't know what to do, he's driving me crazy i want him to stop ignoring me and return to the nice funny person he used to be. i feel terrible, and to top it all off my best friend and him occasionaly flirt and i keep talkiiing to her about it, but she always says its his fault he always comes to her and that shes totall inoccent when everybody knows its just as much her fault. plz help :) thannks Open Question: Is his sex drive normal?Alright, I have decided to try to get an outside opinion on my problem I am having in my otherwise 'perfect' relationship. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. We are both in our early twenties, healthy, and happy. We have lived together for the past 3 years and besides our sex life everything is great. We have typical fights here and there but nothing major ... when we first started dating and for the first couple years we had sex very regularily ... even a lot. I was usually the one having to bat him off or complain I was too sleepy etc. Now things have changed ... I would not say that I want sex a lot, but much more than he does. If I did not approach him for sex we could easily go months now. I cannot remember the last time he inciated it... and I am routinely turned down with him stating that it is either too late and he has to get up or he is tired and "I promise we will do it tomorrow" ... When we do have sex it is good ... he is very attentive and into it ... but it is getting him to do it. Otherwise we are very cuddly and always kissing and play fighting etc ... just no sex. We are both attractive people...I know he is attracted too me...he tells me multiple times and day. He is crazy about me ... but just has little interest in sex. I love him more than the world and I guess I either figure this out or live with it ... I would hate to live with it like this. I have tried spicing things up ... we went to the sex store together ... He is not cheating...would never dream of it. We spend almost all our time together. He gets hard and stays hard ...etc What could be the reason?? Open Question: why cant I leave my boyfriend?Ive been with my boyfriend for several years...long time actually .. 7...I know that he is wrong in most occasions..he says its all me. I know that he is immature. My main problem right now is that i do not like him associating with 20 yr old women. Hes a socailble 31 yr old and talks to everyone..but now he has been invited to a potluck dinner by a 22 yr old aqqauntance that he has. There are going to be 20 yr olds there and hes just going to meet more 20 yr olds, also there is going to be drinking too. Im 25 and I dont even associate myself with them. He doesnt want me to go to this thing even though we were both invited because he says" you dont like them why would you go" I think apart of me wants to go because there has to be some reason why he wants to go so badly..seriously. We always argue over stupid things...Its usually because he lies to me and says he care about boobs and ass on the TV but when something comes on why does he look!! I wouldnt care if he didnt lie to me about it. I know men look at shit. The biggest problem I have though is that I dont think 31 yr old men should be going out to little events where there are going 20 yr olds hanging out. We are going to get counselling actually because now he saying that the reason of this fight is all because of me and has nothing to do with him. And what started the argument was the fact that he said he doesnt want me going to this even because I dont like these poeple. Shouldnt he still want me to go otherwise??? mind you! it is a sunday dinner thing..lost of ppl are not gonna want to get hammered. Well I just dont thinks its right for him at his age feeling the need to socialize with younger women. And yah maybe I am a bit afraid that he will try and hook up with one of them becasue I was 19 when he went with me and he was 25. I dont hang around with ppl that are 15 because they have a different mentality and age experience than I do. It doesnt feel right. Why wouldnt I have to worry about him hooking up with some younger broad Jon?? If you open yourself to these kinds of things what do you think will happen. The opportunity is there Open Question: International calling? Can someone help?Alright, my boyfriend lives in the UK and I live in the USA. And we have a huge problem- the phone bill. I've looked EVERYWHERE. I've searched the internet thousands of times it seems, I've called countless phone companies and have gotten nowhere. My problem is, is that my boyfriend has a cell phone and I use my home phone. When I call him it is $0.45 a minute! It use to be $0.30 but they decided that they were just going to up it and not tell us. :).. Anyways, all the plans I've found are homephone- to homephone. Which would be WONDERFUL if he had one. The problem is, he doesn't and he can't get one. Making it impossible for us to talk on the phone. I understand that most responses will be "then talk on the interenet", or "break up".. But we already talk on the interenet and no were not breaking up. My phone bill was 700$ last month. Considering I only called him once every other day. It's really hard to only talk every other day when your madly in love with someone and can't see them. I want to talk as much as possible. And I'm trying so hard to find a way to do that. Does anyone know of any kind of plans that makes it cheaper? At all, under 40 or 30 cents a minute? Thanks if you can help.. Open Question: How to deal with my boyfriend, with anger issues?My boyfriend and I live together and whenever he gets mad, not always just at me, he becomes angry to the point of slamming doors, punching things (holes in walls), and screaming, even in public! This did not start at any particular time, in fact, before we even got together I was aware of his anger problems but, I used to help with them! Now I cant do anything and when I try to talk about it (later, after the matter), of course, he never will. I try to bite my tongue but its extremely difficult at times. I honestly do not know what to do, or how to help him and, obviously, I dont want this to ruin our relationship! Although I understand the root of his anger, I dont understand how to help him... Open Question: why am I so emotionless?-- Should I be worried?My whole life I've never been able to speak up for myself, I always suffer in silence and I put everyone else before me,. I'm 17, 10/29/08 my best friend killed himself, and idk why but it didn't really affect me emotionally at all(I never talked to anyone about it). A couple weeks ago I moved from Michigan to Tennessee to get away from my mom and her dick boyfriend and I don't even miss any of my friends or family. when i was 13 my stepdad (my dad ditched out on me before i was born and i have no clue who he is(and that doesn't affect me emotionally either) and my stepdad got with my mom before i was 1 so he was always like my real dad) got addicted to meth and started getting really aggresive,he was constantly yelling at everyone and breaking evertying and he threatened to kill us several times, my mom finally ended up divourcing him and that didn't affect me either. Not even a year after that my mom ended up getting with some asshole who was constantly being a dick to me just for his entertainment. she then had a kid with him even tho we were already struggleing with money. and none of that affected me either . About 6 months ago I started thinking about killing myself, which really confuses me because compared to alot of people my life is good, and at first i didn't think anything of it but it was constantly getting worse, about 4 months ago I started cutting and once again I have no clue why, I just randomly get urges to do it and the more i ignore it the worse it gets and the the longer i wait the deeper i end up cutting, so I guess I do have emotions but... well I can't really feel them. and also I remember almost nothing that happened in my life past age 14 but from what I've been told all of my cousins and my sister and step brother were constantly making me miserable. When ever someone ask me to list good qualities about myself i freeze because I can't think of any. I have a lot of people that i chill with but I don't have any true friends, i've had 3 good friends in my life, 2 turned out to be backstabbing ***holes who were just using me and the other killed himself. I've had a few girlfriends but i didn't love any of them, I've actually never loved anyone, not even family, and that really disturbs me. I've had one person in my life that actually cared about me and tried to look out for me, my cousin, and he died of a heroin overdose exactly 3 years ago. He was addicted to heroin but he was still a good person and he looked out for me, he tried to make sure that I would never make the same mistakes as him, honestly that's the only thing stopping me from turning to drugs, i know my cousin would be crushed. last year i spent 2 months in juvie because my mom called the cops and said that i threatened to kill her even though i could never threaten to kill someone, and then told me that i got what i had coming because i did bad in school even tho i tried my hardest i just could never concentrate on anything longer then 2 minutes. I've been like that my whole life and when i was going to school it made my life hell because of all the trouble i'd get in at home for failing classes. there were a few years in my life where i was really bad with my mom, constantly flipping out and cussing her out, I finally got it under controll last year but she still constantly throws it in my face and acts like I'm a horrible person even though i hated myself after every fight i got in with her. I've had a couple therapist, and I've been in an anxiety counselling group and idk why but i could never tell them about wanting to kill myself and cutting, i really couldn't tell them any of my problems, I always feel like an ***hole when i complain about my life because there are sooo many people out there that have it so much worse then me. Sorry for all of the typing i know that no one wants to real all of that, i just got in sordove a trance when i started typing and couldn't stop, half of those were suppressed memories i didn't remember until i started typing, that's why all of the events i put are in a completely random order Open Question: What to do to get through a bump in our relationship?My boyfriend and I were previously best friends for 9 years, then 2 years ago started dating. We both had been married and divorced, and now neither of us is quite ready to get married, however, we both want to be married to each other and often talk about it. But, lately we have both had major stresses in our lives and it seems our relationship has hit a rocky spot. We both agree that we are willing to do anything possible to get through this, but we aren't sure where to start. The problem is that for the past few weeks our relationship has ultimately been about 80% about sex. We have had few chances to see each other and it seems that's the only thing we get accomplished when we do. Day to day it just seems that things are great one day on the phone and the next we are both sort of dragging. We both want to get back to where we were a few weeks ago, where we were extremely close and very very very much in love as always. But the lack of face to face time we've had is really taking it's toll on us as a couple. Does anyone have some suggestions to get things back to where we want it to be again? BTW, it does seem that until after the holidays we still wont get too much time to devote to each other, between now and then probably only a max of 5 times (a few hours each visit) we'll get to spend time together without being together with our families. Open Question: Why Can't I Fall in Love?I recently ended a 5 1/2 year relationship that was both emotionally and physically abusive and I'm having problems with opening my heart up to my current boyfriend. I still feel heartbroken from all the things I've gone through and when I want to love, I get so afraid to fall in love. I do feel love, I'm just really confused and I need some advise. Has anyone gone through an abusive relationship and had a hard time falling in love? Will I get better from this feeling of fear and emptiness? Open Question: Paranoid or Pregnant?About 2 weeks ago i had (protected) sex with my boyfriend. We checked the condom afterward, and it didn't look broken, plus he pulled out right before he came. Problem is, lately i've been feeling a little nauseous, and not hungry at all. Usually, if I eat something, I'll be hungry one or two hours later. But now I'll eat and be full for hours and hours with a small (but not too bad) stomach ache. Another thing, the other day I was masturbating and started bleeding. Im supposed to get my period in a couple of days and figured it was the start of my period, but about twelve hours later i stopped bleeding. I've heard of implantation bleeding before, but not sure exactly what that is and how long it lasts. So can someone tell me if I might be pregnant or Im just being paranoid? If it helps, im not on birth control, i get my periods about every 32 days, and these are the only symptoms i have. Open Question: Should i sleep with my virgin boyfriend 21?my boyfrind of 21 is a virgin i'm 22 and i've done it all..i haven't sleep with multipal men just my last boyfriend of five years...well ne ways my new boyfriend is ready i think to take it to the next level. but i don't want to cuz i think ...well i know...since it will be his first time it's going to suck. me and my last bf lost ours together and the first couple of time where not all that...but i guess i can teach him but still.....So the other night we where gwtting really in to everything and i stopped it...i didn't want to go through with it...lol kinda never think i will plus he's way smaller then my last boyfriend...Am i wrong for this ,,,should i just go for it.....lately he doesn't call me. this week he called me twice idk what his problem is...he says it's not his fault....and i don't want to be not understanding to his situation but on the other hand i don't wan to sleep with him and then feel so disconnect to him...when we are together it's ok but idk what to do with this situation what do you think?????????????/ More Recent Articles |
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