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Open Question: Serious problem. Mom won't let me be with my boyfriend...? and more... Open Question: Serious problem. Mom won't let me be with my boyfriend...?I'm 15, he is 17, apparently he is too "old" but..I care about him too much to give him up now. What can I do? Best answer will get all stars Thanks, Kassie <3 Open Question: Mother-in-Law's controlling ways worse now that we have a child!! She's driving me crazy!! Any advice?My mother-in-law has always pursed her lips at me or made snide under-handed comments about how a wife should be, which is ironic, considering she's divorced and has made quite the mess of most of her romantic relationships in life. She has, since we were married 8 years ago, always tried to "educate" me on how to do things "properly." I would just smile and nod and be irritated, but I could live with it; after all, we live 4 1/2 hours away. Thank God! Now that we have our daughter, her first grandchild, she has stepped it up and she's driving me crazy in the worst way. Her personality to begin with is "look at me"/center-of-attention-at-all-times to begin with. She's always telling us how some 25-year-old hit on her and how she gets so many offers for dates. She's engaged to a lovely man who she promised to marry 4 years ago, after his son graduated from high school. Her fiance's son graduated this past year and she told him, since he doesn't have much work coming into his business, and she wouldn't be able to retire (she's 48), she won't marry him until she can. In the meantime, she's e-mailing other men and talking to them on the phone. Who does that? Ok, so back to the issue...She spares no time in reliving her days as a parent and how she did things, and telling me how she thinks my DD should be raised. I am constantly badgered with questions like, "When are you going to wean? Haven't you nursed her long enough?," (My daughter is 12 months), and, "I never let my boys sleep in bed with me," and "you really should have her on 2% milk," even though my daughter is on the slight side and needs a little extra fat AND our pediatrician has recommended whole milk for her for that reason. This is all irritating, of course, because both her boys (my husband included) are quite spoiled and have problems not getting their own way (surprise) but the real kicker is her controlling the holidays and all family events this year. She wasn't there to see my daughter when she was born because of a medical condition...understandable. But she refused to come for her 1st birthday party, which hurt my husband's feelings. She was too busy with work and going to festivals with her boyfriend that week. So when we didn't move the party (and dining table) into the living room so she could interact with the party via webcam, she threw the world's biggest tantrum, trying to punish my husband by not talking to him, and acting like a spoiled child. We've always known this about my M-I-L...it's kind of a family joke ("oh, that's just her"...is the phrase). So, to make peace we went up for an unplanned visit for Thanksgiving. She was mad that I didn't want my dogs in the house because they are outdoor dogs and my daughter is scared of them. She let her 75lb. dog charge my daughter and bowl her over and when I pushed the dog away and expressed my frustration to the dog, got very testy with me and defended the dog ("He's just a baby!"...He's 8 years old). She would not put up any baby gates, even though the stairs to her basement had no door and the entrance was in her living room where she insisted my DD also play, because it would "smudge the walls." I had to watch her like a hawk all 4 days. Her advice was also a constant flow...not needed, or appreciated. Now for Christmas, her other son and D-I-L (who of course can do no wrong) chose to come after Christmas from out of town on the day we are leaving. I am working the following day at 6am and his mother wants us to stay the whole day to spend time with her son with whom my husband is estranged, and who has treated our family with distain and rudeness for as long as I can remember. I wanted to travel Saturday night, because it's easier with a baby to travel at night when she can sleep and so that I could have enough time for some rest and prepare for work AND my husband needed to get home for an unexpected work project. Also that Sunday will be a huge travel day and we always have construction quite a bit of the way there and back. Traveling with my one-year-old in the day has proven to be VERY difficult. My M-I-L doesn't care about any of these reasons we've given her. My mother-in-law threw the biggest hissy fit. She was SO mad. She brought it up again and again how unfair to her other son it is. How selfish I was being. She wouldn't listen to my DH that he also needed to leave for work and it just wasn't me. She guilted him until he felt bad...so now he says he feels guilty about not honoring his mother and her wishes and I am being selfish for not wanting to stay to please her. I feel like this is going to be an awful Christmas. How do I not resent her and feel bitterness towards her during the holidays when she insists on always getting her way. Oh and last complaint, I promise: She told me she would wrap my gifts to my daughter herself since she can do it so well. When I said, "I'd like to wrap them for her, but thank you," she huffed, pur Open Question: Shall we try and work this out, or shall we end this relationship?Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 and a half years. Before that we were together for a month. And before that, a month. I see our first relationship as a silly childhood one, the second as a teenage one. and this one as an adult one. The other week, he and I had a chat, we both spoke about how distant we have feeling towards each other. And we don't know what started it, as if we did, we would know what to do about it. But we don't know what to do. We only go out to each others family outings (cousins/mum/dads birthdays etc). And occasionally in the summer I went out when he invited me to go for a meal with him and his family. But apart from that, we only go out cinema/meal, on our anniversaries really, and obviously we do our own parties for our birthdays. We are both 20, live with our families and I thought we could work through this, by going out more except that is the problem, there is nowhere we agree to go out. Then we thought time apart may be good, by not meeting or talking to each other, but then we are also thinking if just ending this. What would be best to do? Open Question: Boyfriend plays world of warcraft, wont help with newborn?My boyfriend and I welcomed our daughter 2 weeks ago. For about 2 years, he has had a problem with world of warcraft, playing up to 12 hrs a day. Before this, he was a doting boyfriend, very wonderful to spend time with and very social. Now, he hates going out with friends, has no social life, will sit on the game for 12 hrs sometimes, doesn't eat right, etc. I tried telling him that WOW is taking over his life, he tried telling me that he spends tonnes of time with us and I just dont realize it, nor do I realize how fast time passes as "feeding her takes an hour which he spends with us" and apparently so do nappy changes. Our newborn was crying last night so out of frustration, I brought her downstairs to care for her so he could sleep. He came down an hour later and left my house because 'he wasnt getting sleep' and 'he was mad at me for being downstairs' but it is where her swing is and she would sleep in her swing. I tried calling him but he turned his phone off after pressing ignore a few times. He is being such a jerk... I need to give him an ultimatum but he wont even answer his phone. I am so upset. At first he was an awesome dad, even taking over at night so I could sleep. Now he is a class act fool. My parents are helping me because it is my first and I am so distraught over his lack of support. Please no answers like "omg you made a baby with him" what is done is done. Any advice? Open Question: What to do about Step daughter sleeping in floor of bedroom with mom and moms new boyfriend?My husbands daughter is 6 yrs old. Her mother also has another child, a boy, who is 4 yrs old. All three of them have moved in with the mothers new boyfriend. The problem is there is only one bedroom in the apartment where they are staying, so all three of them sleep in the same bedroom. My husbands daughter and her little brother were sleeping on the floor in the bedroom until she finally told us about it, and he confronted her about it. So she went out and bought her a twin blow up matress and put it on the floor and she sleeps there, and her brother sleeps in a car bed beside her. This just does not seem healthy at all to me, and I am wondering if we should do anything about it? My step daughter is getting to the age now that she is very curious, and on top of that she wakes up at all hours of the night, it worries me that she will wake up in the middle of them well..... you know. Also she has told us that there are roaches in the apartment. She also cries when we take her home not wanting to go.... I am wondering what we should do about this???? Yes I feel that we can provide a better enviornment. We own a 3 bedroom house, and she is our only child. And it is not that they cant afford a bigger place, they both work and have enough money to try all those different diets like Nutrisystem, and that cost almost 400 dollars a month. Open Question: Travel Insurance Claim help?Hi there I had to cancel my 2 week holiday on the 13th Nov because I hurt my back. I was cleaning, and bent and kinda hurt it and then I slept at my boyfriend's who has 2 mattresses on his bed and ended up in agony. It was helped by seeing the DR and getting antiimflammatories and painkillers but she agreed i was too bad to travel. I had travel insurance and made a claim and they have written back that they have a problem with the following and need more informationl; 1. I slipped a disc in my back in Oct 2008, and saw a specialist. My last check up was in jan 09. my Dr has confirmed it is nothing to do with the slipped disc and not caused by it. It was a strain... and I went to rome with my boyfriend this week so that kinda proves it wasnt disc related bcoz it got better so quick. I need to give them more details and proove its not related. 2. I bought the travel insurance on the 2nd of November (we cancelled on the 12th) To be honest, I didn't realise that it had to be booked in advance and was quite strapped for cash so we didn't book it til my bf got paid. I hurt my back on the 9th November. Do you think these factors could be a problem? We paid £2000 :( More Recent Articles
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