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Open Question: Relationship issue(Its a lot so if you have time and real and good advise please read)? and more... Open Question: Relationship issue(Its a lot so if you have time and real and good advise please read)?Me and this girl were dating off and on since 2008 January. She's older than me by 6 years (shes 29 and I'm 23) and has been through some bad things in her life relationship wise. This was the first woman I've fallen in love with my whole life I found that I loved being around her, I love everything about her even the bad things I thought I'd never tolerate in a woman. I think that shes afraid of love but, I'm wildly in love with her. Just her voice makes my heart pound, when I stare into her eyes it seems like I'm stareing into something so beautiful I have to look away or I might faint fall. I'll do anything to see her with a smile on her face. Well, the reason we broke up a few times was because I just never thought that she took me seriously. She has a problem with showing affection. At this time she semed to compare me to her old boyfriends who had done her wrong in the past and that bothered me a lot. At the same time she would do so manythings for me that no other woman ever did. She was nice and caring and thoughtful. She was a proven great mother to her son. Just all around what I looked for in a woman. It hurt me bad when the first time I told her I loved her she didn't even say anything back. So, I refrained from telling her this again for a long time. Well, that was the first time we broke up shorly after that (we split for a few months) because I felt like I was wasting my time. I had sex with a few different women thinking that this was going to help me get over her It didn't work at all. THis made me want her more because none of these women compared to her in the slightest. She started to see another man that didn't work out at all for her but she didnt have sex with him. I felt gulty so I never brought this to her attention. So I could stop feeling the way I felt, I went and got her back. Without her in my life I was just really unhappy. I felt like I found the one I wanted and needed in my life and she was gone. It felt like my soul burned for this woman. When I had goten her back, we decided to just be friends for a while and keep seeing each other. I thought this was okay because at that time I jsut wanted to be around her again. Well the just be friends thing didn't last because we started catching feeling for each other all over again. Well to make a long story short we stopped talking again for some more months because of a really bad arguement we had. She said soe things that hurt me really bad and so I did the same. This time I tried to cut her off completely, I erased her number, her myspace, her facebook, I got rid of her pics on my phone I tried everything to not think about her. this went on for some more months. I tried to see another woman again but this just made me wish I had her. I found out I didnt care about the sex It was her personality her smile, just to hold her thats what I wanted. Well, I found myself doing things I had never done in my life. I was looking up her pics online just to see her face again. I called her number but she wouldn't pick up. (She only did twice out of 4 months.) Trying everything to get back in contact with her I finally did. I found out a few months ago she started seeing another man again but this time she had sex with him. She asked me if I had been with anyone and I lied and said no. I don't know why I lied . Maybe because I didn't want her to hurt like I was when she told me she was with someone else. Well he dogged her out and used her. Since we began talking again with no sex involved, we've gotten closer than ever before. Talking about things we've never spoke about good or bad. Now I've found myself back where I started. I'm deeply in love with her again. But I'm afraid to tell her how I feel I don't wanna mess up what we have right now. I want to be a part of her future and I want her to be a part of mine. I dont want to see her hurt ever again. I know in my heart I want her to me my wife one day and mother to my child. What should I do?! Open Question: How can I tell my friend they complain too much about nothing and I don't want to hear it in a nice way?Here's the deal. My best friend since childhood is really getting to me. I love him but he's constant whining and complaining about how terrible his life is and how unfairly he gets treated is driving me insane. I don't see what he's problem is. He has everything. When he was 18 his parents bought him a house and two cars. They pay his bills and give him an allowance to live on. He's never had to work a day in his life. He's been going to school year round since 2004 and he still doesn't even have an AA degree yet because he fails most of his classes due to not showing up because he is either suffering form some imaginary ailment (headache, stomach pain, anything!) or he just plain didn't want to go. He spends all his money on re decorating his house and buying clothes and furniture and providing alcohol for his boyfriend and throwing parties for every little event. I love the guy, but I can't take the whining anymore. Between the two of us I got more to complain about. I lost my job a few months ago and shortly after my husband was also laid off form his job due to cut backs. We live in a bad part of town and barely make enough to pay for groceries. On top of all that I am expecting a baby in March. I don't have wealthy parents to bail me out and my husband has no family so we have to make ends meet on out own witch is hard in this economy when your young. I already have enough to stress about without having to listen to his troubles, if you can even call them troubles. Every day he posts online about how sad he is or how so and so hurt his feelings. At least every other week he will call me at 3 A.M. crying about how his boyfriend and him argued and how he doesn't appreciate him and how his mom won't give him money to buy a new couch because the one he has doesn't match his new carpet. It's kind of hard to feel bad for him when I know that this week my phone is getting shut off because I'm late on the payment. Even though he is a spoiled brat he's still my friend and has been since we were kids. I want to be there for him but I don't know if I can stand to hear another sob story. What is also a nerving is that every time I mention anything about the crap I'm going through he acts like he knows where I'm coming from and it makes me want to haul off and punch him in the face. I know I shouldn't blame him for the way he is, it wasn't his fault he was spoiled, but I want to be honest with him at the same time. I'm so scared to say anything though because he is so fragile. He gets his feelings hurt very easily. I want to be honest with him about how I feel but I don't want to put a strain in our friendship. How should I go about this? Or should I just keep my mouth shut and grin and bear it? Help! Open Question: I always fall for boys but as soon as they like me back i suddenly get all worried and go off them?I have a problem when it comes down to relationships. I've been experiencing this problem ever since i had a chance with my first relationship a year back. I grow to like the boy alot, too much actually, often getting really down over the fact i can't see him, or if hes with another girl or even if i find out he doesnt like me back, and when he does text me, or ring him or i see him, i get so happy and butterflies in my stomach, i guess you could say i was a typical 15 going on 16 year old girl. The problem is though, as soon as things start getting somewhere, for example, he tells me he likes me back, i stay at his either overnight or go to his for abit during, i get all weird and paniky, and i just think to myself, nooo, this isnt right, i dont like him anymore now he likes me back, and suddenly go off him within a second, even though i liked him so much before. Its like, when i cant have him i get so down about it, but when i do and i realise somethings happening, ever single time withought fail i feel like this, like im being pressured or things are moving too fast or just generally i dont think hes right anymore, to be honest i dont know what it is but usually it takes me ages to get over someone, but when they like me back i get over him within a second. i also feel really bad about this for the boys sake. i try not to let it happen and its ruined my last 5 or 6 chances with a relationship, meaning ive never had a boyfriend. also i feel like im leading him on and then suddenly turning away, i really wish i didnt feel like this and i could just have normal relationships, please help! More Recent Articles |
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