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Open Question: please help me i'm so confused, am i right to be confused about us or should i take it day by day? men aswell? and more... Open Question: please help me i'm so confused, am i right to be confused about us or should i take it day by day? men aswell?hey i love my boyfriend, more then anything, we are both 18, thats the problem, "love" i love him, and of course i want him to say it when he is ready, we have been out for 6/7 months now and 2 weeks ago he told me he was very close to loving me, but he's not ready, i said we might aswel finish it then and he said maria please dont do this you mean everything to me, trying to grab my hand etc then he started crying, i said "are there times when u have felt like you love me" and he repliyed "now.ive never cryed infront of or over anyone before" so we made up, he stopped crying and our bond got stronger because i knew even though he didn't love me yet, he obviously could, and is very close because he said things such as "i'm not ready, its everyone not just you, but i am close to loving you i promise" and he said i would never ever finish you but we made up are you telling me after all that crying and begging he doesn't love me? then for the past few days i have been very down, about neer getting to see him, i have been unsure about our relationship but wasn't going to act on it because i love him but last night i thought, do you no what i might be fighting a lost cause here, what if he never loves me? what is the point us carrying on if he is never going to feel the same why i do? it's been 6 months he should no how he feels by now, if he doesn't love me by now will he ever? he told me this morning after asking whats wrong and phoning me thinking it was him, he then told me i can' say something i don't feel, and i can't see into the future, he also said i'm forcing it on him to say it, he is right or am i? should i just take it day by day, what does it sound like? what would you do, guys what does he mean? sorry i'm very confused and don't know if i over reacted because i told him i'm unsure about us this morning thanks so much! Open Question: Why are my nipples showing through my shirt all of a sudden?I've never had this problem before but I woke up yesterday morning and they were showing through my tank top but I figured it was just because I was cold and the tank top was thin but I got up this morning and I have a bra, tank top and a T shirt on and they're still showing through. My boyfriend said he thought that my boobs got bigger but he wasn't sure. Why is this happening? This isn't a pregnancy symptom is it? Open Question: My boyfriend is a registered sex offender and he is moving in with me. I need advice.?My boyfriend is a registered sex offender. We have known each other for 16 years and been together in a relationship for 1 year, long distance. When he was in his early 20's he paid to subscribe to a website which was advertised through an unsolicited email. He joined for one month and looked at images of what appeared to be young women in there late teens / early 20's. He part downloaded a video and realised that the person on it was clearly underage, unsubscribed from the website and that was the last he heard of it. Two years later he was arrested as the website had been closed down and all people who had paid to subscribe were arrested. He was initially informed that he would probably have only a caution due to the circumstances. Images from the website were in the Computer Cache (all thumbnails from every page he viewed, around 1000 images). They weren't "Saved" to a folder, only in the Cache. The unsolicited email couldn't be found as the case was investigated 3 years later. He doesn't find young people sexually attractive, has never attempted to meet with a child etc... and finds the whole concept repulsive. The case was referred to the Crown Court and as images were on his computer and he paid to use the site and the initially unsolicited email couldn't be found, he had to plead guilty and was issued with a two year suspended sentence and 7 years on the sex offenders register. He is now one year into the two year suspended sentence and is planning to move in with me the other side of the country in a matter of weeks. The problem is that cases like this aren't black and white. There are clearly varying degrees and although he pleaded guilty to the charge of the having the images on his computer, he didn't deliberately seek out indecent images. We have discussed this in immense detail and I believe what he is telling me. What he has told me is also supported by documents from the Police, Crown Court and his Solicitor. The police came to see me the other day in lieu of him moving down to find out how we knew each other, why he was moving here etc... We want a fresh start, an end to our long distance relationship. The problem is that I am a freelance musician and music teacher. I teach at my home address in a set aside teaching room, one on one with students (who are all ages, including under the age of 18). Parents sometimes sit in lessons, but mostly they are dropped off and collected by parents after 30 minutes or 1 hour. I was advised by the Police that if I continued to teach children under the age of 18 in my house, they would have to inform parents about my boyfriend being a registered sex offender. I'm not sure what to do as should this happen, I would lose my good reputation as a well known music teacher in my local community, which is a small community. And this would undoubtedly cause discrimination towards us as a couple. I don't think parents would need to be informed if I visited them at their homes but I can't afford to visit parents at their houses as the time and long distances involved make it impossible. To hire a venue to teach in would also be complicated financially and take more than 50% of my income. The police also said he wouldn't be able to come to gigs with me as their might be children present (I perform at weddings and he is my sound engineer). This seems odd as when I'm performing at a private venue, there is no opportunity to liaise with anyone at all, and he wouldn't have any desire to but I do understand that precautions need to be made. He hasn't actually been banned from working near or with children and his probation officer where he currently lives is aware that he does gigs himself (he is a musician too) and children are present. He doesn't have any other restrictions. He has however been advised to not work with children in the incident that someone who knows that he was charged might falsely accuse him of something. He clearly made a mistake and regrets it immensely. The parole officers see his case as being a bit of a waste of time, in that he isn't a pedophile and was simply in idiot in subscribing to this site initially. But, the minute people here the term "sex offender", a barrier is crossed and it's hard to explain any situation properly. I do know that the aim of probation is to let my boyfriend lead as normal and uninterrupted a life as possible but it seems that my life and routine will be vastly affected in him living with me. I talked to a friend about this and she advised that I not work with children at all as I might be seen as guilty by association if parents were informed. I was also advised that even if I'm not working with children in my home, I shouldn't work with them either. She suggested I end the relationship because it was a lot to take on for me. I know I should probably gain some legal advice and find out what my rights are as his partner. I also know that I wouldn't b I also know I wouldn't be happy without him. We have a long history and I love him very much. Open Question: I SEE NOBODY BUT HIM...NO ONE IS GOOD ENOUGH DRIVIN MYSELF CRAZY...HOW DO I MAKE MYSELF FALL LOVE...HELP?I was in a string of bad relationships...the latest broke my jaw and gave me stitches I met my best friend...He treated me better than ANYONE who ever claimed to be my boyfriend and in love with me. We stayed friends though because he didn't want to be with me. The problem is that when I meet guys, I compare them to him. If they cant treat me better, or at least equal, to the way my best friend can, I dont want any parts of them...I feel like I settle and sell myself short if I'm not happy with the way i'm being treated. I settled last time and HE tried to kill me...I'm not stuck up, i'm just not going through things like that again EDIT: for a while i THOUGHT i was in love with my best friend...I found out it was just GREAT APPRECIATION. There is a difference and I recognize it P.S. I dont want to be with my friend...i want to be with someone similar to him. I know that everyone is different...I can deal with different, but I dont want LESS. More Recent Articles |
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