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Open Question: Need advice for single mom with 16 y/o son who is disrespectful & has bad behavior problems? and more... Open Question: Need advice for single mom with 16 y/o son who is disrespectful & has bad behavior problems?I'm the aunt of a 16 year old boy who is having some issues. Anger being one of them. His mom (my sister) is a single mom and unfortunately, there are NO men in her life that she can call on for help – no boyfriend/husband, our dad is deceased, her ex is not in the picture (in & out of jail/drug problems), all the boy's male influences from his paternal side are deceased as well. The boy was suspended from school today (and the bus for the remainder of the school year) because he was spraying some sort of spray bottle on the bus. After repeatedly being asked to stop by the driver and a few fellow riders, one kid decided to "make" him stop by starting a fight with him. Police were called, he was written a citation for disorderly conduct and harassment due to the spraying. He was disrespectful towards the policemen involved and had a contemptuous attitude about the whole affair. The boy is also very disrespectful to my sister, and disregards the discipline she hands down. He's physically larger than her and on occasion they have gotten into physical altercations when she'd tried to reprimand him. My sister is currently a full-time student with a more than part-time job, who is also a caregiver for our 75 y/o mother. All this, and she has to deal with her teen boy's loveliness. She tries her best, but obviously is unable to be there full time to monitor his activities, and whether or not he's not cheating on his punishment. (by sitting on his butt and doing nothing she's required him to do) I'm hoping somebody out there can give her/us some good advice on discipline and creative ways to discipline/punish him. She's already taken away the game system, the cell phone, etc. But what else can she do? He doesn't drive. They live 20 miles from the nearest town. My thoughts are these: (and please add or comment on these ideas – I'm just trying to help her out!) • Make him write in very neat printing 5000 times: "I will not be disrespectful to authority figures." • Since they live on 5 acres of overgrown land – Make him clean up the property for at least two hours a day. • Limit/omit the junk food he likes These ideas are coming from me: a single gal with no kids. We need advice from other single moms/dads who've experienced behavior like this, and successfully dealt with it. Her biggest obstacle is that he doesn't listen to her when she disciplines him. What she's saying is good, but he won't listen. And without there being a "man of the house" he has no respect for her. We're trying to overcome that. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!! Thank you. Merry Christmas to you all! Open Question: Girl problem. Am I a fool?I know this girl for more than 5 years. I've always liked her, but she moved away 2 years after knowing each other. We have each others' e-mail addresses and to this day we still talk to each other, but I am always the one to initiate our conversations. But after that, things can go two directions; we can talk for hours, or a few minutes. Now the confusing part about our conversations is that at times, she says things that sound an AWFUL lot like hints of affection toward me. We say sweet things to each other from time to time as well (in fact, she's usually the first to say such things), and have a hard time bidding each other good night every time we talk through the night. Her saying 'good night' to me makes me feel happy, no lie. But then for 5 years I am always the one initiating the conversation; she NEVER initiated -- I am serious. I have seen her for the first time in a long time recently, and she looked really happy to see me, and we even shared a hug and had a nice chat. But even after that, she doesn't initiate the conversation. In the past, she told me she has a boyfriend now, and wondered how I was doing with my love life. I said I would wait 'til I feel ready to have one. I don't know if they're still seeing each other though. I don't even know if she's free or not. I might have to ask her directly, though I'm fearing the consequences. To keep my sanity, I might have to do just that though. Naturally, I'm feel ****ing conflicted and confused over this whole situation. Just friends? Feigning friendship? Shy? Likes being pursued? After that story I just gave you, what do you people of Yahoo! Answers think I should do? Why do you think she does this? If you can somehow picture youself in her position, what would you think of me? I'm almost on the break-even point with these feelings of mine. Soon I would have to choose to either forget her, or pursue her... To Cloud: Yeah, I'm always affectionate toward her. I always listen to what she has to say, whether its her proud achievements or touchy ramblings... Ahh.. makes me weary when I think about how confusing this is for me. and when I say listen, I mean help her as well as fooling around with her. Open Question: self consciousness issues??well my boyfriend and i live far apart and like i have a huge problem with self consciousness and he wants me to send a pic of me to him and i feel like i look ugly cuz of my problem. hes trying to prove to me that im not ugly by sending a picture of himself cuz hes not as self conscious as i am. how can i just do it? just more people in this category Open Question: What to do when boyfriend has very large penis?Ok so I have had a few previous partners before my current boyfriend. We just began having sex for the first time a few of days ago and it has been quite uncomfortable. He is wide (which is part of the problem), but then he is also quite long. It is painful when he goes too far and finding a rhythm is difficult. My past partners have been more average and there were never any difficulties with them. We tried using lubricant but that didn't really help a whole lot and I don't think he knows what to do about the pain either. If you could hold the sarcastic responses, that would be very much appreciated. I know I'm not the only one in the world with this problem so some genuine advice would be nice. Thank you Open Question: am i a bad person ? does he like me ? did i mess it all up ? do i leave ? but all the history we have ?okay , im 21 and im best friends with like 4 guys who are in a band , i live with too of them who have there own house , they go on tour a lot and im left by myself a lot , anyway , one of them jack he has been my best best best friend forever and we the guys who to say he liked me , he would allways get a little jelous when i went on dates and he stoped talking to me for 3 months when i had a boyfriend , so i asked him stright up wht hes deal was , then he kissed me and told me he loved me , i had a boyfriend at the time who i loved so i told jack that it was too late , i siad we can still be best friends , so we started hanging out again and we where all good but about 3 weeks later my boyfriend cheated on me ( which jack had siad from the start but i never listened ) anyways we broke up and i started acting in a bad way , i was leaving the house for days without coming back or telling them where i went , i started getting drunk every day and started doing all sorts of bad stuff with guys i diidnt even no , anyways i got in some trouble and they guys had to safe me , they told me if i diidnt get strighted out that they would kick me out , so i got strightened out and things where normal again , after a while i got a new boyfriend and again jack kissed me and told me he loved me , its like he only wanted me when i had a boyfriend never when i diidnt , he diidnt talk to me for a week after that , i asked the guys wht his problem was and they siad that he only siad he loved me whn i had a boyfriend cuz he was scared tht if i diidnt have a boyfriend i would still say no and then that ment i diidnt like him , but if i had a bf and i siad no that there was a reason ( is that a guy thing ?? ) anyways , i broke up with my bf for jack and we started going out and everything was perfect , such like a movie , we dated for 6 months in this time they went on tour for a while but not long only a week here or there , one day i woke up and i got a text saying , i think we sould brake up , i dnt love you anymore , as i lived with jack and his band mate , it wasnt like i could just not see him anymore , he was allways there , i diidnt talk to him for 2 weeks after that and him and the guys where acting really werid around me and stuff , i had a really close guy who i stayed with a couple of nights just cuz i was over the weridness at the house , i diidnt understand why the guys where actiing werid around me too , not just jack , i found out that a guy i use to date told jack to brake up with me or he would send nude photos of me to everyone , when i went home i find jack and told him i no why he broke up with me , i told him i diidnt care about the photos only him , so we got back together , fast forward to 18 months later , every thing as great again but then his band got bigger and he went on tours for about 2 months at a time and i was left by myself , one day i got a phone call saying i had a job offer in new york for a fashion company and it was like my dream job i had been working for my whole life , we live about 7 hours away from new york by plane , so sould i stay with him or leave to go on my dream job , i dno why i siad all the history but thought it would help . things where finally great ? how can i leave ? sould i leave ? or stay Open Question: i'm 15, my boyfriend is 14, is this okay?so i'm 15 1/2, and my boyfriend won't turn 15 for another month. noo sex or anything like that, but is there any problem with this? like dating, or personal or moral problems? we are also in the same grade. just wondering, thanks! Open Question: i need a honest,serious answer.?I am 13 & my boyfriend is 15. We have been together for 3months & some weeks now. I'm telling you,he's is PERFECT<3 & he has been for 3months. I know his deepest secrets, his life, his feelings, his actions, his family, and his taste. I know he must honestly like me ALOT, adults judge teenagers for saying there "in love" but please dont say your to young, your not in love. Well, there's the problem....... I think he loves me, im his first love too.. & for awhile now, i have been making him think i love him too. well tonight, i told him that i want to love him, i want to be with him, and i want nothing to change...but i dont know if i "love" you. There's so much more to this story, but i hope someone has an answer for me... Does it take time to fall in love? Even though i don't love him now, do you think i ever will? there not much i wouldnt do for this boy,he has the biggest heart, and he's my bestfriend also. even if we wernt "together." i need him in my life. so PLEASE take my questions serious and help me out??? ): Open Question: What can I do when I have a boyfriend who's ex drives me insane?So I've been dating this guy for a year and a couple of months already. We've been doing so good lately. But before I get into details about us I wanna tell you about us BEFORE we met. When I first met him was during homecoming month.. At first I didn't know that he was a father. His baby mama was in my class and I did not know about her. So she starts throwing a bitch fit about it. At first i didn't have a problem with him having a baby.. So its the week of homecoming, and its October 4, 2008. He calls me and tells me to come over his house. He has this paper and he tells me the baby isn't his.. His mother took a DNA test when the baby mama came over and took it... He went to her house and he tells her and shows her the paper and she see's that it's not his baby. she tells him that he bought the DNA test at a Wal-Mart mart which you can't! So there's so much drama at school and people are telling him that he's a bad father and this and that. She's telling everyone that he is the father of her child. But there's a twist to the story... A couple of months ago, before she was pregnant she sneak out of her house and went to a party with one of her friends.. she said she asked for water and didn't realize what was in it so she drank it. Which was Vodka. I don't understand how you cant taste the difference. She got wasted and had sex with another guy. She changed her stories up so many times that my boyfriend knew she was lying. One day after school he went to her house and locked himself in her bathroom and read all her notes. One of them said she isn't sure if the baby was going to be his because of what happened that one night. All her friends at school would talk about us and try to break us up.. At one point she got into my head.. She told me that she knew in her heart it was his and the test was all fake. I cried my eyes out for days I couldn't handle this. I'm only 16 years old. She would bring her baby to school and rub it in his face in some way I couldn't even handle. This year she sort of calmed down.. the baby is about a year old and now we can see if it looks like my boyfriend or the other guy that I know she had sex with. And, It looks like the other guys baby. His own sister said that the baby looks like him. Lately, I've been freaking about it. I think Im going psycho.. I go on her myspace every single day look at her pictures. I had an event at school yesterday and she bought her baby with her.. and let me tell you I went home and cried my eye balls out. I know it's not my boyfriends baby but the fact that it could of been his drives me crazy. He tells me to forget about her and just try ignoring her but I didn't know what I can do to stop paying any attention to her. What can I do? Open Question: boyfriend and brother got in a fight im stuck inbetween help!!?Okay so my boyfriend and me and my brother and a bunch of other friends were at the gym my bf and my bro have been wanting to fight for a long time but ive talked them out of it cause i really dont want that to happen. Anyway at the gym my boyfriend gets ticked off cause of something my brother said and my brother provoked him and threw stuff at him.. And he got angry walked up to my brother and asked him what his problem was and my brother said lets fight right now. And i knew they were gonna fight right then when i saw him walking so i yelled my boyfriends name (jordan) and he didnt turn around so i walked up to them to break it up before something bad happens long story short they both got in trouble by some teachers got written up and suspended for a day. Aftrer they fought i got very pissed off walked out and left fast. Went to a park and just talked to my friends. Then i got a text from my boyfriend saying do you want to break up cause i understand that if you. I tell him no and he says ok i ask him do you and he says no then we stopped talking and im ignoring my brother right now cause i dont want to listen to what he has to say. What should i do about this and dont say to break up with my boyfriend cause i wont and im not taking sides please help Ok i do know blood is thicker than water me and my brother made up and so did me and my boyfriend but the problem is getting them along with each other another thing is that they did tell me why there fighting its over a reason that i guess i will never understand More Recent Articles |
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