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Open Question: My parents are so overprotective? and more... Open Question: My parents are so overprotective?I'm 15, they treat me like a toddler who doesn't know ANYTHING. It's mostly my mum though. If I ask her to go out with my friends somewhere she always goes "You're always asking to go out, you don't know anything, you're so naive, your're going to get attacked or killed or raped" and she always dredges up some obscure rape or murder story with ALL the grisly details to recite to me. And then sometimes she doesn't even let me go. She was raised in a strict Muslim family in Algeria and that's why she has different values and shizz, but it's so frustrating! She doesn't realise that teenagers want to go out. She always tells me all of my other friends are working hard for an A* or helping their parents - THEY'RE NOT. Most of my other friends are rich and spoilt with cleaners and spend their time with boys and alcohol. I'm a pretty good teenager as far as things go. How can I get them to stop being like this? I've tried sitting down and talking with them infinite times, it just ends up as a 45 minute shouting match between me and my mum no matter how calmly I start the conversation. I also have another problem of the fact that I have a boyfriend that I have to keep secret, because if they ever find out I'm dead. It's not fair because my brother is only a year older than me, and they think he's an angel child. He's not. He smokes weed and he drinks and they let him go to these weird heavy metal concerts. I'm sick of this. What can I do? Open Question: Need advice in my current relationship. I love him and I honestly believe he loves me, need some help...?I know you ask. Where is the "problem" the issue with me is this, my boyfriend is a wonderful man. He is also the soon to be daddy of our unborn child ( a baby boy ). He wanted this baby more than I. I decided to give him a baby. I am too excited. Anyway. I have done a lot for this man as lately he has done a lot for me. I met him three years ago, but have only been together a full year. I left my husband for him. I moved to another state, also I left my two other boys back in the state their daddy lives as to not uproot them. So I have to fly/drive back to see them, hoping to resolve a current issue with that to get them out here for visitations ( 800 miles away ). anyway...that's another issue; however I'm wondering how to "fix" the one I have. I left my husband for emotional abuse I dealt with when he started as a prison guard, he changed. I told my current boyfriend of this behavior and how it would be nice to have someone treat me right, that granted he took care of the bills and what he could emotionally I was lacking something ( love making, sex, kisses, hugs, etc ). Love and devotion basically. I know to some people they see paying the bills as devotion. I want affection, and some attention. I know our lives get busy but to keep love alive you must do things together, dinner dates. ETC. So I told my current about this and he agreed I should be pampered, that he claimed he would massage me, treat me right, make love to me, etc, etc. It all sounded GREAT! and I believed it. All the trips made out to see him and the trip he had made to my home state made me believe he would be this same way if I moved to him. The conversations we would have were AMAZING! we were keeping our love alive 800 miles apart via. webcam, texts, e-mails, etc. Naught7 pics, vids. Now that I'm here things have changed. He doesn't seem to want to give me that attention I crave as much. I am however a bit more EMOTIONAL b/c I am six months pregnant with his child. Although he doesn't seem to understand this, or has issues being sensitive to the fact at times. He is a small time film-maker and he does have a busy schedule, but I've told him of his frequent amounts spent on the internet, although I think he has chilled out a bit more. But seems after he gets home from work he worries first about the computer or something else. All I want is a kiss, a hug, a hey hunny how are you. I am NOT a nag, I let him do as he pleases. I feel in love with this man when he had NOTHING, no job, no place to live, etc. NOTHING basically. I just loved him. I moved 800 miles away and from everything I was familiar with, for HIM, for US!. Now I wonder if I had made a mistake, that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Although I love him I find myself often confused, I tell him how I feel but now I feel he doesn't listen to me. He takes it all to heart. He even told me today that he is doing so much for me that he's basically "exhausting" himself, that's so hurtful. I'd do anything for him. I feel he pushes me aside. I told him I appreciate all the gifts, etc. But the support isn't always there. Ex: I was working many hours and him as well and sundays, mondays are my days off. I realize he likes football sundays, so I let him take my car on sundays and drive to his buddies home to watch. I asked for "TIME" together when he got home, seems we barely make love anymore and it's not as good as it was. For me it feels HE wants it over and over quick, yes he can get me off and it feels good but the romantic chemistry feels like it's going away. I left an eight year relationship for him, even though that one was slowly falling apart towards the end it took awhile for it to do that, fall apart. My x did make me happy. Did a decent job of telling me he loved me, he always forgot about me on birthdays, anniversary, xmas but...lol typically he was good. My current is good at gift giving but lacks emotional support at times ( which he's admitted to not being great at ). He also came from a shitty relationship. She wasn't as touchy/lovey dovey as I. But my example continues that he came home after spending his football sunday and it's 8pm. He didn't say HI hunny, he didn't kiss me NOTHING! he basically ignored me, I couldn't figure it out. The laptop of his was right by me and he still didn't kiss me. He opened up his laptop and that's it. He had time to get on his facebook but claims he was only dealing with school, I said BS you had time to get on facebook but not kiss me or say crap to me. He didn't understand why I was so upset. I explained I wanted him to simply acknowledge me. Gifts are great but knowing I'm loved is most important. I've had moments of thinking of leaving b/c of me feeling unloved from time to time or that I "get in his way" although he's never stated, but he always speaks of things he wants to do. He rarely remembers my schedule at work, although always the same. He forgets to t Open Question: why am i so emotionless?I'm 17, 10/29/08 my best friend killed himself, and idk why but it didn't really affect me emotionally at all(I never talked to anyone about it). A couple weeks ago I moved from Michigan to Tennessee to get away from my mom and her dick boyfriend and I don't even miss any of my friends or family. when i was 13 my stepdad (my dad ditched out on me before i was born and i have no clue who he is(and that doesn't affect me emotionally either) and my stepdad got with my mom before i was 1 so he was always like my real dad) got addicted to meth and started getting really aggresive,he was constantly yelling at everyone and breaking evertying and he threatened to kill us several times, my mom finally ended up divourcing him and that didn't affect me either. Not even a year after that my mom ended up getting with some asshole who was constantly being a dick to me just for his entertainment. she then had a kid with him even tho we were already struggleing with money. and none of that affected me either . About 6 months ago I started thinking about killing myself, which really confuses me because compared to alot of people my life is good, and at first i didn't think anything of it but it was constantly getting worse, about 4 months ago I started cutting and once again I have no clue why, I just randomly get urges to do it and the more i ignore it the worse it gets and the the longer i wait the deeper i end up cutting, so I guess I do have emotions but... well I can't really feel them. and also I remember almost nothing that happened in my life past age 14 but from what I've been told all of my cousins and my sister and step brother were constantly making me miserable. When ever someone ask me to list good qualities about myself i freeze because I can't think of any. I have a lot of people that i chill with but I don't have any true friends, i've had 3 good friends in my life, 2 turned out to be backstabbing ***holes who were just using me and the other killed himself. I've had a few girlfriends but i didn't love any of them, I've actually never loved anyone, not even family, and that really disturbs me. last year i spend 2 months in juvie because my mom called the cops and said that i threatened to kill her even though i could never threaten to kill someone, and then told me that i got what i had coming because i did bad in school even tho i tried my hardest i just could never concentrate on anything longer then 2 minutes. I've been like that my whole life and when i was going to school it made my life hell because of all the trouble i'd get in at home for failing classes. there were a few years in my life where i was really bad with my mom, constantly flipping out and cussing her out, I finally got it under controll last year but she still constantly throws it in my face and acts like I'm a horrible person even though i hated myself after every fight i got in with her. I've had a couple therapist, and I've been in an anxiety counselling group and idk why but i could never tell them about wanting to kill myself and cutting, i really couldn't tell them any of my problems, I always feel like an ***hole when i complain about my life because there are sooo many people out there that have it so much worse then me. Sorry for all of the typing i know that no one wants to real all of that, i just got in sordove a trance when i started typing and couldn't stop, half of those were suppressed memories i didn't remember until i started typing, that's why all of the events i put are in a completely random order. Open Question: Women help I need your advice !!?About ten months ago I started working with this women and we connected immediately,she had a boyfriend but she was always letting me know her relationship issues and we started to share our common bond and as time progressed we kept getting closer. Than the sexual innuendos started she would come in to work and make suggestive comments and so would I and a lot of tension started to build, she would do provocative things like drop her blouse or lift her dress and show me her treats and when I would make a move she would just let me know she could not yet because of her boyfriend. So this went on for a few months and I totally respected her wishes always stopping and never forcing myself on her and was never inappropriate in any way. Well five months into this it happened we went to my house she jumped in my pool had a few drinks next thing you know the magic happens, and it has happened a few more times since same story always by her terms when she wanted too and I always respected that. I have showered her with love and kindness since I have know her,she has even told me I am too good to her and she doesnt deserve it. The problem is it is always her way never mine and if I even want sex even though I do what she wants when she wants I never get what I want. Should I keep her or let her go and yes I totally love her with a passion ? Open Question: Girls, have you ever dealt with female haters before?I have dealt quite a share of them, actually. They hate me simply because I'm a girl just like them, which makes no sense. :/ My recent one was this girl who is obsessed with losing weight, dying her hair platinum blonde, uses a crap load of bronzer and eye makeup, and tanning herself to the point of burning herself. She is 19 (I'm 18) and she recently got pregnant by her boyfriend. She has no college education what so ever, and has had a wild sexual past before while I only have like 2 partners in my life. I'm naturally thin, olive/tanned skin, and don't need much makeup since I know I'm beautiful. :) What the heck is her problem? dark chocolate - the girl isn't my friend. I have tried to be nice to her before but she kept on being mean to me. Open Question: Could I be pregnant and what should I do?Ok so let's start off with the basics: I'm 21 and have been with my boyfriend (23) for over a year. Sex has always been a part of our relationship, but a healthy part. I love him and he loves me (blah blah blah...) I was on the pill when we met and thus we always had otherwise unprotected sex. My health insurance ran out and I am no longer on the pill (as of October). We started using condoms, but not always. Which we both knew was a risk. We are also both ok if I am pregnant. We're not going to purposely try to get pregnant but if it happens then we're both totally ok with it. My problem is: ever since I have been off the pill I haven't gotten my period. I spotted for like a few days the first month I was off and then nothing since. I took a few at home pregnancy tests and they all came out negative. My health insurance that I just got doesn't kick in until March. I was kind of sick for a few weeks (just the normal sore throat, stuffy nose deal) and I went to a clinic where I was told there was nothing treatably wrong with me like the flu or strep. And, when my sister thought she was pregnant a while back she took a few pregnancy tests which all came out negative, only to find out shortly there after that she was in fact 4 months pregnant. So basically, I'm just lost. I don't know what to do. I don't have the money to go to the doctors because they are so expensive without insurance but if I am pregnant I will feel awful not going to the doctors until March. And I know this probably isn't a huge deal but I have drank a few times recently, not more than a drink or two at a time. Any advice? I was in school and had health insurance through my school, but now I'm working fulltime and there was a lapse with the paperwork in the human resources department. So thanks for your concern, but I'm not broke. I just don't have insurance yet. And just to clarify I'm not like binge drinking or anything. I've had maybe 12 drinks since I turned 21. And I haven't drank in over a month. I was just throwing that out there that I had when I may have been pregnant. Thanks for all your responses (even the kind of preachy ones). I know it seems juvenile to think I can raise a baby when I say I can't go to a doctors. But, the truth is I can go to the doctors and I may (I mean yeah it is expensive and all but its worth it if I cam pregnant). Its just that I feel selfish using money I was going to give to my father so he can catch up on his rent (I don't live with him) and then I may not be pregnant at all. This is so hard to explain everything that's going on in my life over Yahoo Answers and I thank you all for your advice. I just wish someone who knew every single thing that was going on in my life could give me some advice. Open Question: My bestfriend have feelings for me but she is getting merried to someone else, what should i do?okey. lil about my self. I am just a normal guy who is been leaving in US since I was 13 with out parents and with my uncle's family. All my life i was just too busy either paying my own bills while going to school. In my jr year of collage, I met this girl. I didnt wanted to be a good friend with her because she was in relationship. However, she was soo persistance that i ended up being her bestfriend ( i guess I needed somone, i was feeling lonely also). She was in relation ship since she was freshman with this guy. and I met her in June 2008. after that, we took all our classes togather. Her boyfriend was a consultant, so he used to come back to town and live with her from thursday night till monday morning. I used to not bother her or contacted her (give her space). I was soo into my own lil world that i never discover anything. however, she used to force me to do stuff. And I enjoyed alot. I felt that wow there is somone who cares about me. Mean while she bacame closer and closer to me. She also became possasive of me as a friend. Peole in school used to tell us we make awesome couple and this and that. However she and I knew that she was in relationship. In December 2008, she went and got engaged. mean while she was in home land, I did miss her alot. but then i got used to it. SHe came back and took all classes again. and i kept pushing her aways cuz i was getting attached to her. but then as graduation was coming closer (march) she started freaking out that I will replace her once she graduate in May cuz i was graduation in August. I told her I wont do that. She also became all depressed and stuff. Then I met another girl, girl who had all the characteristics I was looking for (no drinking, No party, No clubing) and she was really nice. So i told my bestfriend that I like that her. My bestfriend started freaking out, and getting in depression and she started saying she made a mistake. She should have dated more guyz (her fiance was the first date). She started saying she is soo loney, she wants to kill her self...and what not..but then i told the girl i like that we cant just leave my bestfriend out like this and she need a company before she make a stupid move (like break up with her fiance - he is nice guy except he didnt pay much attention to her for past 1 years) tho he used to buy her all kinds of things, and also take her out to vacations. She also became part of us (me, my bestfriend, and girl i like) as a group in school. People used to say "you guyz (me and my bestfriend) that lucky that u guyz have this friendship in same school, and classes". My bestfriend started to feel all sad. she even used to be jeleouse of the girl i was trying to be with. However, after that they both became good friends. Then in may sumester she graduated and me and the girl i like took a class togather. however, my bestfriend kept coming to school cuz she was bord at home. Then i started loosing feelings for the girl i like. I started comparing with my bestfriend. I knew i was having feelings for her but i kept it quite. And i tryed to help my bestfriend go get back with her life. but then one day she told me that she has feelings for me and I said the same but we knew the obstacles and she is commited. Once I was really going thru my family problem and she gave me her shoulder, and then one night (no sex) but lots of kissing happen, next day we both regretted it. First of all I hated my self for doing that, and she was also regretting it cuz she cheated. However, she told me that "she never felt like this before, and I made her feel like a woman". After that day we have not touched each other. However, feeling was there. I was trying to show that I am out of it. She told me she needs to work it out with her relationship. She even told her fiancé that she is falling out of love with him need to spend more time w her. Plus, then her family/ and his family wants them to get merried now in june. She said her fiancé is changing himself and trying to make it better and trying to shift his office to town instead of traveling. I got upset and said all kinds of things that I just became a subject of your relationship issue lesion. But then I appolagized. She kept getting involved in my family, and she perfectly blended in. However, I told her recently that I cant carry on this bestfriend ship cuz I m not improving in my feelings I am keep think about you all the time. She said please don't messup the friendship we have and stuff. I also told her it was easy for her to get out of this feelings but this was my first time love. I do not need to see you or talk to you. And I only have 5 months to get out of this till ur wedding or else I will literally gona hurt my self. She said why cant you just see that I am someone elses and I m under commitments, and I told her yes I know. And I m not asking u to break up or anything but I need this. She was begging not to but I had no choice. I feel so upset and I do really care about h continue... I feel so upset and I do really care about her. (reason I don't want her to break up with her fiancé is that we are diff culture, and her family will disown her and so will her friends). I told her its better for both of us. She keep saying I cant do anything, I messed up with my relationship and friendship. Please don't do this to me she said. But I explain her and she did understand. However, I don't want to push her thur her marriage. I was wondering If she will get those feelings back with her fiancé? More detail… this is weird but back in 2004 my bestfriend was dating her bestfriend. At this time we didn't even know each other or seeen. One day back in 2004 my bestfriend asked me to come out with them (her girlfriend and her bestfriend (the girl who is my bestfriend now and have feelings)). But I didn't go so we didn't even know each other. Than in 2004 and 2005 she worked at the same mall I worked at and she even came to out store to buy stuff but we never ran into She also told me when I told her that we wont be friend for lil bit right now. She was upset. She also told me, that she will get feelings back for her guy, and after dark night there is always a morning. But she said yes, her relationship went up and down and stuff, but thats all relationship. She told me she doesnt have feeling for me anymore, and ahve feeling for her fiance, but I think she was saying that so that i could stil be her friend. I dont know whats the truth. Open Question: boyfriend!!!!!!!!help please!!!!!!!?i've got a boyfriend...he's 19 and i'm17.i really like him and he always tells my beautiful things and he loves my but the problem is that i'm worry he will get bored by me! cos we stay in the park when we go out cos our city isn't big but than he always told me the crazy things he did with his friends....and i'm not very like them...i'm more "serious"!!! so i don't know if he will probably leave me for that reason...but until now he says he had never got bored with me... what do u think 'bout it? plz answer!!!!!!!! thank u!!! Open Question: My boyfriend is cheating on me! Please help!!!!?Well we've been together for a month now and I know almost everything about him,about his past. He has been dating a lot of girls and even tho he is not that hot, girls go crazy about him because he knows how to make a girl fall in love with him. We first talked as friends and we were talking about our problems, our life, personality nd everything so he says that I know him better than anyone else. Well before we started our relationship he was dating a girl and he broke up with her. he says that he doesn''t love her. We started like this: I started to tease him with words and after some 10min I found myself in a serious conversation and him telling me that he would leave everything only if I say YES. Then I figured out that I just couldn't say NO because I loved him also. I thought that he has changed but last night his ex called him and he aswered her, and started to talk to her so I figured out that he was datig her again. He says that he loves me, swears that he loves me and he has shown to me that he loves me, but from last night I don't know what to beleive anymore. I love him more than my life... I don't wanna leave him, but I don't trust him anymore. It hurts so badly. Please I need some advices. More Recent Articles
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