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Open Question: ...Is my dad an alcoholic? (Please, read the whole story)? and more... Open Question: ...Is my dad an alcoholic? (Please, read the whole story)?I'm learning about alcohol in my health class, and it really made me think about a lot of things. When I was little, I always heard my mom yell at my dad "...and this is why I hate you on Fridays!" When I got older, I figured out that Fridays are the days he goes to his favorite bar and drinks. Fridays are also the days I volunteer at an animal shelter until 6:00, which I've been doing for about a year now. My dad is the only person who can pick me up and that time, but he's usually really late. The bar is about 15-20 minutes away, but I remember once after calling him it took an hour before he arrived. My dad spends a hugeee majority of his time (and I mean it,) sitting in the garage watching the news on a small t.v. while doing work on his laptop....smoking and drinking at the same time. I always see him drinking out of his glass beer mug, it lives at his desk in our garage. I know he has more than a beer a day, maybe more than two. He is a very smart man, and he teaches me a lot of things...he is also pretty healthy, not overweight at all, and he has good judgment. It confuses me because I have seen him drunk before, and it kills me, absolutely kills me when I do. It's not the dad I know. He never remembers whatever he said the next day. He always messes around with my small dog to make him growl or bark, and just acts silly. But sometimes I know he's been drinking and he acts completely normal. When I get picked up on fridays, I know he has been drinking, and I heard you are technically supposed to wait an hour after you have a drink before you should drive. I'm scared that sometimes I might be getting into the car with a drunk driver, even though he doesn't act like it. Is it still possible for him to be drunk? Sometimes when he picks me up after he goes to the bar there is a big crate (or two,) of giant glass jugs of different types of Ram's beer he got from the bar... He keeps them in the garage. He keeps hand sanitizer in his truck and I used it one Friday and I swear to god, I swear I smelled alcohol from it. (The drinking kind) It was weird, but maybe that's just me being paranoid. I've seen him sometimes and wanted to convince myself he was drunk, or maybe sober, but sometimes I can't tell and I get a little afraid and I just want to know. Him and my mom are not close at all, they are like on separate sides of the planet. If I talk to my mom, she bitches and complains, but does not logical say how, that he is an alcoholic. I know he has not been to the doctor's in a really really long time, but if he has been drinking for so long, wouldn't I see the long term affects? He is very smart. He does well at his career (technical engineer for sound systems and things,) he is healthy, he doesn't get angry when he drinks, and he acts ok..most of the time..... I have never seen him cry before except for once. He said he was not happy. This made me believe that his drinking is what takes him away from his problems. It really, really scared me when he cried. I look up to my dad all the time, and it's just really weird/hard to believe that he could so much be someone else. The time when I got picked up an hour late, he told me sorry, and not to tell my mom. I said ok. She brought it up at the dinner table that night asking why I came home so late, and my dad just gave me this look.... I told her I had to stay because someone was doing an adoption. My dad joined in by saying he arrived perfectly on time. It was the first time I had ever seen him lie, and he lied to my mom right in front of me. I just didn't say anything. I just really don't know what to think anymore. Sometimes on Fridays he gets a little....sexual. Like he pinches my butt and I feel really awkward. This one time I got out of the shower on a Friday night and he said he'd give me $5 if I dropped my towel. I was so shocked. He laughed, like it was a joke, but I just went straight to my room and closed my door. Often times my mom is never home those nights. I told my boyfriend, and he always tells me to be "careful." But is he really drunk even when he doesn't seem like it? Should I get into the car with him? If I tell him I won't ride with him, he'll ask me why, I'll tell him and he'll get upset and worried and feel betrayed that I could think something like that about him. ..help? Sorry it was so long. Open Question: My friend got dumped, and she's blaming me!!?okay so my friend was going out with my boyfriends friend and hes a total ass. i tried telling her many manyyyy times that he was a jerk and that i didnt like him one bit and she kept saying i just didnt give him a chance. wellll now he dumped her for another girl and he had no problem telling her that her never even liked her to begin with!!! well anyway...shes blaming me for not making her see how much of an ass he is...even though i tried like a billion times...and all she does is compare her ex relationship to mine and mope around about losing him even though he always treated her badly and is obviously not worth her time! i dont wanna be mean or inconsiderate but shes so hung up on some stupid relationship that only lasted a month and a half...and now its hard to even be around her cuz all she does is complain about how her life sucks, even though her life is no where near bad. i want her to realize that theres more to life than some stupid asshole but ive tried everything =( help? Open Question: Can i keep my dog in my apartment?Recently i just got a puppy, but it is just a newborn and is growing teeth, and isn't that used to my apt. Therefore it sometimes barks when i go out, or when its hungry, etc. It also runs around alot, but that doesnt harm anyone, since it just got its vaccine it hasn't been able to go outside so it stays in almost all day. I have to say that the barking is not loud at all since shes a newborn puppy, and she does not bark at night at all. She only barks when i leave or shes unhappy with something (hungry, loss her toy, etc.). I have tested the barking level, when i leave my home, i can only hear some faint sounds of barking like whines. It never lasts long though (my boyfriend says she barks for maybe 5, 10 minutes at most). I can't really hear it from the outside so i am assuming that it isnt disturbing anyone. The problem i have is that my landlord might not let me keep the puppy. He hasn't said anything yet, but i am afriad he will not let me keep the puppy. I re-read the lease and it doesn't say anything about a no-pet rule. I rent in apartment and he owns the whole building. In this situation, does he have the right to not allow my puppy? I just really want to know before anything happens so i can have a backup plan ready, like ask my sister to keep my puppy if anything does happen. I'm starting to become attatched to it so i am really worried about my landlord not allowing my puppy. i'm sorry if this is a little long but i just wanted to make sure i got all the details in so there won't be any confusions or misconceptions. Open Question: Rape and what to do..?i can't really bring this into one question, so i guess i'll start off with why i'm asking. i'm 20 years old right now, and was raped when i was 16. I dont remember the act or who it was because i was almost always on some kind of drug. i have had a long history of addiction to substances and dealing with depression/eating disorders/anxiety nearly my whole life. the first tie i was raped is not the last time i've been violated..it has happened multiple times with a couple different people and i blame myself for bringing it upon me. drugs, parties, and strangers who don't care who you are and who loves you seem to go hand in hand. i've just come out to my boyfriend of a year that i was raped. he was the first person i told. i then told my parents, and later on my therapist. i've been going to therapy for about 6 months now, but we haven't quite gotten to the topic of my past. i'm starting to believe that what has happened to me is causing my relationship with my boyfriend to weaken. i have cheated on him once in a meaningless one night stand at the beginning of our relationship and never told him. this, plus the abuse i have encountered throughout my growing up has been eating me up inside piece by piece. I do strongly believe that the man i'm with is the one i am meant to be with...I love him with all my heart has to give. but when people love eachother they don't cheat..and therefore i know something is seriously wrong. I am falling apart..I need a wake up call, and some advice on where to go. I want to be able to overcome these haunting memories and learn not to let the past define who i am. If someone says, "tell me about yourself" or asks me "who do you think you are as a person?" I am ashamed to say "I don't really know, I feel pretty broken." I don't really know what yahoo answers is going to do for me, and i'm not expecting an answer that will cure me. What I'm asking is do people who are victims of rape deal with problems like these? and where can i go to talk to people who can relate to me? where would i even start to rehabiliate my mind? Open Question: Where can I buy a starter straight razor kit?Hello! So for the past few weeks my boyfriend has been mentioning how much he would love to try a straight razor. I figured that since Christmas is coming up, I'd surprise him with a starter kit! I've been reading the site a little and have gathered which brands are trustworthy and which are not and that I shouldn't spend a ton of money on a fancy blade or stromp but rather, spend the money on really nice cream. Does anyone have suggestions on where to buy? Are there manufacturer websites or should I look for a barber/beauty supply store? I live in Atlanta, but have no problem buying online. The only issue with buying online is that I'm on a Christmas deadline. Thank you very much for any and all advice! Open Question: what to do about my ex and now boyfriend?I have this issue.. i have these two great guys, one is my ex boyfriend of 7 months and the other is my boyfriend now of 1 month.. the problem is that my ex boyfriend wants to be with me again, and its just confusing me so much because i don't want to keep hurting people.. i am what you might consider a cold hearted person and i just dont want to be that way anymore.. but now i just seem to want to make everyone happy.. so knowing that i am hurting my ex hurts me.. and the reason we broke up was just trust issues.. i waited about 2 or 3 months before i met my boyfriend now and just decided to try with him.. i wasnt ready for a relationship but i tried.. and i just cant choose between the two! i dont want to hurt either one.. and my ex is like the guy i can picture myself with, just the trust issues that come up.. and my boyfriend i dont know if i take him as serious as i should.. so idk i need help! and i have tried for so long to try to choose one but i cant choose knowing that i hurt the other. im sorry its so confusing! but i would really like some advice. Open Question: Why are some guys so strange?I was talking to 2 guys I used to have crushes on. I was quite convinced that they were either gay or bi because they would like let their feet rest on mine and stand really close, and flirt. But it never went anywhere after that. One of them like started ignoring me for some reason but we're cool now. I think he had a secret boyfriend or something because they were inseparable and then all of the sudden they stopped hanging out as much. Kind of like me and my ex boyfriend. I'm not out yet btw. Anyway. One of the guys seems to be curious about whether or not someone in our class is gay. He's asked probably more than three times. And he never says anything like derogatory to the guy he thinks is gay. But he has no problem saying stuff to me that implies he thinks I'm gay. I'm not the most masculine guy but I'm no flamer either. He'll make comments like some of my friends are queer and today he said I was. I'm like wtf? You were flirting and stuff with me a few weeks ago but now you want to bust my chops? I think he was joking but it still bugs me because both of the guys I used to like said that to me like they've never flirted with me or anything. And I'm not the type to flirt with a guy unless they start flirting with me. So basically my question is why do you think they don't mind saying rude things like that to me but not other guys that may not be straight? Open Question: do you like my story? please read?this story tells of a teenage girl (mia) who has gone through too much too fast. it starts in her adolescent years where she was an outcast in school. she would skip lunch everyday and sit at the outside benches by herself for fear of having no one to eat with. she's antisocial and only considers one other her friend yet they hold a competitive relationship. in the summer before high school, she begins to eat normally but notices weight gain. this marks the start of her troubles with eating disorders, sliding from bulimia to binge eating and back. she keeps this a secret, the first of many. she also deals with image problems and low self esteem but in her transition to high school, her facial features have matured womanly and model-like. in all, she turns into an attractive female at age 14. mia catches her young math teacher amazed by her but she ignores him. although gaining a few more friends, she remains in her mute stage, now spending her lunch time in the school library. she puts her focus in her classes and becomes a 4.0 student. she continues this into her sophomore year, being the high achieving student she is, the weight-obsessed freak she is, and the beauty (in the eyes of everyone else) she is. she becomes suicidal when pressed by the pressures of the above. she suddenly finds herself doing worse in her classes, struggling with weight gain and loss, and deeply ugly. she has episodes of mental breakdowns. then she manages to find some positivity by the end of the school year. she ends it with a 4.2 GPA and eases off about her looks. the summer before junior year, she begins talking to older men online out of boredom. she realizes she has never been in a relationship before so she attempts to see how she affects men. the precocious 16 year old charms men in their 20s in chats and later on, her webcam. this begins her numerous cybering sessions, many of them lasting into the early am. the men loved her and she the loved the attention. she was a genius in that her parents never detected any foul play from her. the summer ended on a sweet note for her. her junior year of high school was tough and she knew it. she does well in her classes, including 4 APs, but as time went on, her work ethic falters. her low self esteem came back as well when she begins binge eating at buffets. she finds herself loving food but hates gaining weight so she binges and starves and binges and starves. she keeps her thin body frame but struggles mentally. in a chatroom, 16 year old mia meets 24 year old john. not only were they involved online but this time, mia has find herself a boyfriend. living 30 minutes away, he oftentimes picks her up and the two engage in sex. her parents were clueless that their daughter was sneaking out at 2am and not really studying at the library on sundays. mia and john lost touch after 3 months. she then meets 28 year old ryan. sex ensues. all the while she still chats with other older men online. mia sees how her life has changed. she no longer walks to the local dollar tree to buy school supplies but finds herself there picking up multiple pregnancy tests instead. she no longer sees worth in life, between fcking aimlessly with older men, jogging on the treadmill with her 85-pound body and lying to her parents. Open Question: My boyfriend or x-boyfriend?I have the most amazing boyfriend in the world, hes sweet to me, he would so anything for me, he loves me with all of his heart and hes a gentlemen. I have been with him for about a year and a half and everyone one has their problems. We have been through a lot together. We have been fighting a lot lately over stupid stuff and im sick of it. Well about 3 weeks about my x boyfriend came back into my life, i never realized how much i care about him until i saw him again. He was a piece of shit to me when we were together, me and him also went through a hell of a lot. When i saw him the other day he was different, gentle, kind..not himself. He seems like he grew up a lot. All i do is think about him and i have realized that i never stopped loving him. I don't know how i feel but i know how i should feel. A guy who loves me with everything and would never hurt me or a guy who was a piece of crap but who seems to change who i think im still in love with? Open Question: How to get a girl to go out with you in a small school?alright, im 13(8th grade) and i feel im behind in the dating world(compared to my male classmated at least). it seems to me that almost none of the girls in my class have ever ha da boyfriend or really gone out on a date at all. there are some really beautiful girls in my class, but it's kind of akward to ask them out because i know them really well(my entire class has been together since 5th grade). not only is this a problem, but alot of my friends would make fun of me for actually thinking the girls in my class are cute(they just want to be all cool and seem to good for anyone). I feel there's alot of tension and pressur to break the dating barrier. should i go for it, and how should I? Open Question: dilemma? ladies help me with my relation ship issue?how do you normally deal with being torn between two guys? see, my boyfriend, who im currently taking a break from right now, is graduating in june and going to the marines.. im still a sophomore. not even sixteen yet. we tend to have some problems, and the other guy is in my grade and we like eachother, but idk who to choose. Open Question: is she a real friend? help?Ok, so I have a problem with my very close friend. My friend has been acting very different lately. She always has a group of guys with her and likes to "flirt". She leaves me and my other friends just to be with her guys. 6 guys asked her out. She planned to go out with 3 guys, and she had 2 real boyfriends including her current one. This all happened this year. It's only the beginning of the year... So we just had a field trip to a Special Olympics place to help set up. The whole time she talked with her group of guys and me, my other 2 best friends felt left out. At the end of the field trip, she came over to us because her current boyfriend (but not at that time) was at the bathroom. Lets call him Jason. She told us all about her slew of guys and how awesome they were and how much fun she had. She kept averting her eyes, and acted all bored with us. Then she complained that WE were leaving HER out, and that she knew we were talking about her. And she complained about how they always followed her, but she never tried to do anything about it, she just kept hanging out with her slew of guys. And she tried to hold Jason's hand on the bus. Now that she has boyfriends, she treats us like her second choice. She would always hang out with her slew of guys and whenever she's with us, she acts all bored and everything. My friends and I always try to confront her but we don't have enough time alone with her. When we do, though, and we tell her how we feel and everything, all she says is "I know, I'm a horrible person, I want to change but I can't, we all know I'm not capable" and she does nothing about it. It's like she only cares about her own happiness and not about our group. It is our last year together in the same school and I want to make it a good one, but so far it's kind of ruined. We can't not be friends with her because she is an important part of our group. We have known her for ages and it would just make it worse to not be her friend. So what I'm asking is what should we do… confronting doesn't help and neither does ignoring. We need help. the confronting didnt help, but if you write what i could say that would help also the guys are rejects so my friends and i dont really LIKE them theyre just friends. also were in eighth grade so some of us arent allowed to date yet. Open Question: What to you people have to say about me?This isn't really a question it's kind of a complaint but whatever i don't care. It seems like people from different places, especially people who are older than me have no problem with me, but then when i tell them how old i really am they freak out and say I'm way to young to care about certain things like this.. I'm only 12 and i wear make-up, i worry about how i look, i have had a few boyfriends, and I do act a little older than my age. But it seems like when i post these things on here or someplace i get called a slut, just because i've had a few boyfriends, and that isn't true. The slut at my school has already lost her virginity and wears a ton of make-up, shows cleavage, and drinks and stuff like that. and we're both 12. I just wish people would look at someone else my age before calling me a slut cuz where i live everyone just about wears make-up and has had plenty of boyfriends. I'm actually considered a nerd. I get called ugly almost everyday, and people find me weird cuz i dye my hair pink and blue and colors like that. People say I'm way to skinny which I am. I'm only like and A cup and my legs aren't fat enough to fit into skinny jeans. It's really annoying. But what i really wish is that people wouldn't judge me on my age so much. Open Question: christmas present for my boyfriend?My bf and I have been going out for about 8 months. We've known each other for about 7-8 years before that. We're both 17. I'm trying to come up with something to give him for Christmas, and I've been researching stuff like crazy but I want some other input. We have a very friend-based relationship, but we are crazy in love. My family and his family are really close, and I don't want to give him something that might be a problem (i.e. personalized boxers). We like simple stuff, for example, he gave me a box of hot chocolate mix and candy canes last Christmas because he knows I love that. It was the best gift I got that year, just for the thought. I'd like to do something like that. Any ideas are appreciated, but the less expensive and more meaningful they are the better. Thank you! Open Question: Why won't my friend accept the fact that I'm a vegetarian?It's new, I'm about 2 months into it, but he keeps telling me it won't last, in fact he bet my friend that it would last 6 months at most - my other friend bet I would stick to it. I don't understand why he won't respect it, he keeps shoving meat in my face as a "joke" and encourages me to try a piece of bacon or something. I do have supportive people, like my family, other friends and my boyfriend, I just don't understand this guys problem - it's not fair, it's not like I'm asking him to be a vegetarian, I barely talk about it - in fact he's the one who brings it up. I would just like to understand why some people are so opposed to the idea of not eating meat, it's hard to deal with. He's a good guy aside from this flaw. Open Question: MY BOYFRIEND IS GONE ! :(?its been a month and things arent getting any easier. i am 13 years old and so was he- he got killed in a car crash. we loved each other so so much. i know you people dont believe in love this young, but it was no matter what you say! he helped me with so much! he helped me face my mental health problems i had been suffering from and is the only reason i made it here today. now i dont even want to do anything. i cant sleep, eat and i feel like i am going crazy. i dont even want to be alive anymore. why would God take him from me? he is the only one who truly understands everything about me. i just need your help please somebody help me!!! More Recent Articles
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