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Open Question: Is my boyfriend/fiance still in love w/ his ex? and more... Open Question: Is my boyfriend/fiance still in love w/ his ex?We have been together for almost 3 years. We have a baby together. In the beginning of our relationship, he told me that his past girlfriends have been very possessive and jealous. He made it clear that if I was going to try to be controlling things would not work. He made it clear that he would be friends w/ one of his exs, in particular, and that she would "always be a part of his life".Since I am not a controlling person, we seemed to work well together, and I respected his relationship w/ her. She is married and has a baby of her own. They, (she and her husband) moved very close to our home. We share the same social circles. I have made sure to tell my boyfriend that I do not have a problem w/ them talking, but just to let me know when they do so that it doesn't feel as if he is trying to hide things. He has failed to talk w/me about their interactions throughout our relationship. At some points, he has said that she is "just a bi*#h" and that she is very vain, selfish, and not a nice person.Now, he is starting to admit that they are "emailing and talking now and again", and he is really pushing me to be friends w/ her. What gets me is that he seemed not to like her for so long, and now he thinks we should be pals. He told me it "means so much" to him that I am tolerant of their relationship. Recently, he asked me to marry him. When he was telling me about how she got in touch w/ him to congratulate him, he told her how crazy it was that they should living such parallel lives and that "even best friends couldn't have planned a more similar path to the ones that they are on together". Is that weird? She apparently told him she thought I was a "great girl", and, from his account, he said that it really is great that I let him continue to have a relationship. Shouldn't he be telling her that I am a great girl? Or that he knows I am great? Or that he is lucky? I feel like I have tried to be respectful of his relationship w/her, but now that we are "engaged", I am a little panicked as to what all this may mean on some level. Is she the girl he couldn't have and I am just who he is settling for? This is the rest of my life. I take marriage seriously. I don't want to be someones plan B. Any red flags or am I just being paranoid because I fear commitment and have trust issues? Any input would really help! Thanks. Open Question: Love is causes pain! please read and give advices!?So im asking myself..am i still in love with him? I have this friend, we are working in the same company. We are always together, we eat and hung out together. He even pay me a visit at my place on our rest days. AGAIN, WE ARE JUST FRIENDS. Well, people thought that we a girl/boyfriend already because we are so sweet together! He always make me feel that I am special. My problem is, he has a boyfriend. I mean HE is a HE and He has a BOYFRIEND whom HE love very much! and he even introduced me to HIS BOYFRIEND and told that I am HIS MISTRESS. He said that while laughing. I am falling in love with him and I know its not right! I told him that I like him already and he told me that he also like me but he doesnt want to hurt me because the fact is, he is already committed to someone. Same sex! (ouch) I stayed away from him but it ddnt work. I still approach him and our normal sweetness came back until now! Im confused! I dont know what to do! huhu help me guys... I need good advices! pls pls pls Open Question: my mom hates my relationship with my girlfriend. please help me?my girlfriend and i have been going out for almost a year now. my mom liked her at first but as the months went on, as she found out more and more about her past and the things shes done, she started resenting her more. my girlfriend has had problems with suicide, depression, and anxiety. so yesterday (12-15-09), i spent the day with her. i came home for dinner around 6, then about 3 hours later she called me saying she needed me cause she was feeling depressed. so i went upstairs to get ready to walk out the door to see her, she tells me i cant go. now im 18 going on 19 years old. so i just walk out cause i dont know what my girlfriend is going to do. and my mom flips out on me cause she thinks i cater to her every move which is untrue. its just that she needed me in her time of feeling down. and i know she would do the same for me. and my mom has this control issue over me but thats a whole different story. my mom is very unsympathetic about her problems. and all i wanted to do was go over there and comfort her and she flips out on me for going over there. im sorry that all your boyfriends and husbands didnt have mental issues but i cant help who i fall in love with. please help me yahoo answers. thanks alot. i forgot to mention that she's been going to counseling since she was 8 years old. she doesnt exactly have the best home life. her mom and her dad have hardly ever been there for her and she has no family left it seems like.and to everyone who's reading this question and going to post a stupid answer get the f*ck out cause i dont wanna read it. Open Question: What are your opinions on a 17 year old dating a guy ten years older than her?I met a 27 yo guy last weekend at a party and I just got this weird feeling as though I was instantly attracted to him. We hit it off. He was so much fun to be around. He was a bit flirty but he wasn't touchy feely which is good. We were alone outside and we were talking and we ended up kissing. I felt fireworks. I said to him that if i'm just a bit of fun, then I would put things to an end there and then. He said that he is attracted to me and he said that he wasn't planning on hooking up with any girls that night. He also said he's only ever had 2 one night stands ever. Also, I was sitting on him and we were cuddling because it was freezing that night. He had his hands up my top at the back but even though he had a chance to touch my butt or boobs, he didn't. So that must go to show that he respects me yeah? He has a job, a car, his own place. So I think that's good that he can take care of himself. The age difference does bother me a bit but it doesn't turn me off of the idea of dating him. I would only date him if I felt as though the feelings for each other were serious, strong and if I could see a future with him. If it's just a crush or lust, i'm not going there. The thing that scares me is that i'm so young, I don't have the life experience that he has. I really want to travel but I think he wants to do that too because we were talking about places we'd like to visit. I don't fall for guys easily. I've only had one serious boyfriend and he broke my heart after 13 months. He was one year older and he wasn't mature when it came to sorting out problems with the relationship and other things. I am so sick of the immaturity of the guys aged 17 to 25. Open Question: What can i tell my female friend?shes havin problems with her boyfriend and always looks to me for advise. whats something good i can tell her that might make her feel better. i have feelings for her to and want to let her know Open Question: Too broke to send the gift...what do I do?My boyfriend and I have to be apart for Christmas, and for a few months after that. I bought him a gift and I'd really like to send it to him, especially since, him being him, he'll send me something. But the problem is, after buying all the other gifts and things for the rest of my family and friends, I'm left completely broke. I literally don't have the money for the international shipping. I feel horrible and I don't really know what to do. The only other thing I have been able to think of doing is getting him a card, writing him a letter to go in it, and sticking some little thing in it that means something to us. He is, well...easily able to afford things. So I just feel pretty lousy not sending an actual gift, and I'm worried he'll think I don't care about him now that he's away. What do I do here? Open Question: why do i think about the bad things in my relationship?i've been with my boyfriend for a little more than a year, and i love him with all my heart and soul. we have so much fun when we're together, but when we're not together i always think about the bad things he's done and not the good things. it can be as small as us not hanging out when he says we will or as big as thinking back on all the horrible, and i mean HORRIBLE fights we've had. he's always been honest about everything he's done but i feel like sometimes that's not enough. but then we have a GREAT time when we hang out and i forget about all the bad! whats my problem?! please help me out. Open Question: Should we Break Up or Try Again? (Long)?My boyfriend and I have been together for 4+ years now.... He is my best friend and we know everything about each other and have been through a lot together. Two years ago I lost my mother in a horrible way and I blame myself sort of.... He tells me all the time it is not my fault. Around the same time we found out we were pregnant and got really excited and then I had a miscarriage again blame myself (I know I really couldn't have prevented it but how can 12 year old girls conceive but not me)? I have been very depressed for the last year and he has been telling me to get help or even talk to someone on the matters but I don't really want to. I love him but I'm always sad/angry/confused so I decided I just needed a break from everything. I went behind his back and found a new place to live (for myself) and found a new vehicle for me and withdrew all the money in our bank account all behind his back.... I was sort of planning on just showing up with moving boxes and his 1/2 of our money (yes joint bank account) and moving out but I couldn't get the car for a few more days and he found out my plans. So I woke up a few days ago (4) and told him everything all my planning and sneaking behind his back. He is hurt and angry and confused (didn't think we had any problems or that they weren't that bad). The last few days we have talked a lot and everything feels how it felt in the beginning of our relationship and he doesn't want me to leave and even I don't want to leave now but I fear that in a few months or even weeks I'll get the desire for a fresh start and it will be that much harder to leave because I won't have all the planning I've had so far. Help Please! Should we try again or should I try a fresh start? More Recent Articles
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