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Open Question: Is it possible to take a relationship too slowly? and more... Open Question: Is it possible to take a relationship too slowly?Hello there! My boyfriend and I have been "going out" for about one and a half months. He is my first boyfriend (we are both 15 years old and sophomores in high school.) The problem is that we haven't held hands yet. My friend told me that he would like to hold hands, but is too shy to do so. So... should I make the first move? And how do you hold hands anyways- should I ask him or just grab his hand? No sexual comments, please. I firmly believe that God designed sex for marriage and marriage only. I just want to know how to hold hands. Thank you for your time! Open Question: Lost event tickets....help and advice please...!?So I bought my boyfriend tickets for an event at the Brighton Dome via the Theatres website online booking form late on 24th November. The online booking was processed without any problems and I recieved a conformation e-mail stating that the tickets would be sent out the me the next morning and would take about 3 days to arrive. 10 days later and I hadn't received anything. I telephoned them and explained the situation. They checked on their computer and said "oh yeh, I see, we did not have your full address. We have your road name and postcode but no house number." Surely if this is the case they should not have sent the tickets out to me in the first place!? I was advised that upon being unable to deliver them, Royal Mail would return them to the Brighton Dome where they would ammed the address and forward them to me. However it is now 17 days later. Having telephoned the Royal Mail, they said that a return to sender turnaround should have happened by now and they believe the tickets have been lost in the post, nevertheless they put out a search in their Undelivered Letters Centre, however this process can take up to six weeks (and Xmas is in 2!) and it is not a guarentee that anything will come to light. I contacted the Brighton Dome and relayed the information to them and asked whether they would be able to send me replacement tickets. I know for standing tickets this not an option but my tickets were seated. However I was told that reprints are against the company policy (which I hasten to add is not available to read online...) and that I would still be able to get into the event as long as I brought along the debit card I booked the tickets with. However this is not going to be possible. Firstly because these tickets were a present and now I have nothing to give my boyfriend at Christmas and also the tickets were for him and a friend, not for me so I will not be there on the evening of the event and my boyfriend will not be allowed to take along my card in my place. I told them that if they were worried about tickets getting lost again if they sent reprints, that I would be able to collect the reprints from the box office at the weekend and take along not only my debit card but the conformation e-mail I recieved first time round that contains reference and booking numbers. Surely the Brighton Dome is liable as they wrongly sent out my tickets without a full postal address. Just wondering where I stand and what else I could do...? Thanks xxx Open Question: Boyfriend problems please HELP?I want to break up with my boyfriend but stay as friends. Is that possible? I really like being his friend but that's it. How can I tell him that without hurting his feelings? Open Question: Friend that sends me presents?I am a girl, and my friend is a guy. We met because we both work in the grounds of the same workplace (but not for the same company), and he and I chatted about allsorts in the mornings as I cleaned the public toilets. If it were not for him helping me, I'd still be scared silly of the "Ghosts" in the building were I work (It's a Castle!). We bonded over music, and so he made me some mix CD's. Now he's discovered you can buy books for 1p on Amazon, so he's had one or two books posted to me as well, and a steeleye span CD! Do far so nice. I'm engaged, and so's my other (female) colleage who met him and became friends the same way. I laughed when she told me her fiance (let's call him Andy) had a problem with the random (second hand) CD's he sent HER. Our friend (let's call him Rick), had told me he does this for friends, and he doesn't fancy my colleage at all. He's just friends with her. I have even spotted one of his Mix CD's on another female friend's coffee table. If he was trying to woo us all, he wouldn't say "Oh, I sent so and so a copy of that CD you reccomended" ....he would be more exclusive! I never thought MY fiance would have a problem with it as well! At first he thought it was nice, but now he says Rick is a "threat" and he must be because Andy had problems as well. I thought I had a different sort of guy, the sort who DIDN'T get jealous! The thing is,nether My fiance nor Andy actually know Rick at all. They've just met him once each. My fiance says he trusts me totally. I know he does. But, it's the classic old chestnut, He doesn't trust Rick! I told him I trust Rick too. If Rick fancies me (or my colleage), he wouldn't do anything about it and he's entitled to a crush on me if he keeps it secret! He never made a move on my colleage. Rick is a really sweet and sensitive guy. Maybe he doesn't quite get the "rules" of what is boyfriend territory, present wise, but who made the "Rules" anyway? He's also far too heartbroken from his breakup (He's 10 years older than me, and it was a serious long term thing) to be hitting on me! If my fiance thinks it's HIS duty to buy me presents (His words, not mine), then perhaps he should actually.. well, buy me stuff? So far I'm the one who buys little presents all the time. I don't give to get..(honest!) but it has made me think! I don't think it's his duty to buy me things. I don't even think it's his "Duty" to be there for me when I'm sad. He should only do that if he feels he loves me....and he does. What's a wedding vow worth if it's more of a "contract" than an expression of what you already feel you want to do anyway!? Any thoughts? Should I ask Rick to ease off the Amazoning because it's upsetting my bloke? Should I hint that perhaps my bloke should take notice and actually perform his alleged "duty" of smothering me with gifts? Am I missing something here? Fiance seems hurt. Sorry this is long. I never phrase things well in few words! Badgerxxx PS. I have friends who are MUCH closer than Rick, most of them are male. I know for a hard fact that my fiance has no problem with them, and is actually very pleased I have the friends. We share some of them ad friends, and not others. ONE is even an ex boyfriend of mine, who I not only don't fancy, but I actually find a turn-off! I find Rick a turn-off also. (Fiance has been told this!) Open Question: My sister wants to adopt, but she is very violent and unstable?My sister has a heart of gold, but its covered with bobby-traps. She is 25, nearly 26 years old with a job at a local deli. She makes an okay living at her job. There have been a lot of adoption ads on TV lately and my sister is now considering adopting when she moved out of our parents home in April. I am severely concerned for this possible child because of how violent my sister is. Last new years eve she got mad at me for not telling her we were low on rice and she tried to choke me over it. She use to babysit her friends two kids, at the time 6 & 8. The little 6 year old girl would always ask 5000 questions about everything. Yes it was extremely annoying but the girl wanted to learn. One day, after my sister told her to sit down and be quiet a few times, my sister got angry and smacked the little girl in the face. She hit the girl so hard that her mouth was bleeding, not bad enough for a hospital visit but bad enough for cotton balls. The next day the girl began asking questions again and my sister yelled "shut up" the little girl took a step back and said "please dont hurt me." Which broke my heart. In addition to this my sister has emotional problems with her boyfriend and herself. They fight a lot, though not physically (yet). I am worried that my sister may actually adopt a child, and I fear for that child's safety. In the state of Pennsylvania would the adoption agency interview family members prior to letting someone adopt? And if they do, would it be wrong of me to tell them shannen is (what I believe to be) an unfit mother? If it comes to this, what would you do? Open Question: My clinically depressed boyfriend broke up with me. Heartbroken and need advice, please?When we met in spring he fell hopelessly in love with me. He was passionate and absolutely crazy about me. He told me how he was depressed until he met me and felt better. It was bad timing for me though because I was dating another guy at the time but I still fell for him, even though I know it was wrong, because the other guy I was dating had already booked a plane flight for me to go and spend the summer with him which I eventually did because I didn't want to let him down... I did it like a duty. He begged me not to go and see the bf I had at the time. I was stubborn and didn't listen out of a sense of fake responsibility.. I felt like I had no control. So, he became distant, stand-offish, emotionally withdrawn and minimally affectionate towards me. After I left he started seeing a therapist and revealed to me that he was diagnosed with clinical depression. When I finally came back from the trip a month later I dumped the other guy and told him I was finally single, but then I discovered I was pregnant. I told him about it. He was there for me all the time except he still did not show me affection and he seemed depressed. It seemed his was no longer passionate about me.. I had to terminate my pregnancy, eventually, due to medical reasons. About 2 months later, after I had recovered, he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend. He said he didnt not want me to think he was non-commital and he wanted to try and just experiment to see if we could work. At first, everything was okay and he seemed content with me.. but when I asked him if he still loved me like he did before and asked him why he had became stand-offish again last week, he told me he did not know how he felt, that he did not want a relationship anymore. I said I felt unloved. And he said he missed us being friends because he felt like we got along better outside of a relationship status. This confused me because he was the one who initated it two months ago. And back when he asked me if I wanted to be his gf, he said this: "I am not interested in the same things your other boyfriends were. I have no problem being in this situation though. As long as you don't expect me to be something I'm not. I only say that because my mind is filled with a million thoughts at this point in time.. very few, if any of them, are very romantic. I do not know what I want. But that is not in regards to you. It is highly unlikely that our relationship will end due to an interest in someone else from my side, it is almost improbable. So accept that I am not breaking up with you. I'm just saying our relationship may be... a bit on the back burner for now until I've figured some things out." I don't know what I'm supposed to think anymore. He said he loved me at least in some regard. Before his depression hit him he was crazy in love with me. Did he stop because I hurt him by going and seeing that other guy and ending up pregnant? Can anyone give some constructive advice please? Is this all due to his depression or not? He was begging me not to lose contact with him yesterday. He said that our connection, friendship, bond, whatever you name it, was important to him and he wanted us to just get along like we used to, that he just wants to talk to me. Sorry for the uber long text.... I'm just so heartbroken right now. I love him so deeply. But for some odd reason he doesn't think I do. He says that I am only in love with the idea of "being in love with him"... =( I have also noticed he has a very low self-esteem. Although he said he has improved incredibly. But I believe he is still recovering, he is on medication. Open Question: How to stop an ex-boyfriend from harassing me thru the phone?We dated for a few months and things were great; we had a minor mis-communication (I thought it was minor, but can't believe he's still contacting me after all this time). He got super upset, and basically told me to kiss off. Problem is, he keeps calling and texting, talking about how I'm wrong and he's right. I am not answering his phone calls, but texted him and told him to leave me alone and he responded "It's over when I say it's over. I will call you when I want to!". He has not threatened me ( I would know what to do then), but the phone calls and messages are really just ANNOYING! I've had my number for 7 years and would hate to change it. He claims that he doesn't want me back because I'm such a horrible person, but he won't stop calling. I tried to apologize and explain myself, but he only sees what he THINKS I did to hurt him, so I don't know how to get him to get over it. Will he eventually go away? BTW, he is a 40 year old man! He should be able to get over it!! Open Question: Should i tell my parents im getting married before i get my bachelors?I will have been with my boyfriend 5 years in may he is going in to the army soon. I always knew he would and I am ready for that life style. The reason for that is because for a year and a half of our relationship we lived in different states because his family, but for the other 3 years we lived with my parents then he lived with me in my apt. We are going to get married in Jan. in a court house right before he goes to basic. I know im getting married and I love him, but my family is very against it! They really want me to finish college first and I have 2 years left. Which was always my plan too but i don't see the point in waiting I hate the place I am living and I want to be with the love of my life. I see as being with him as much as i can because I know that the military life my take him away from me for long periods of time, but when he is home i can actually be with him. I see no reason to wait and i am not going to. I am going to finish school were every we get stationed. Now here is what I need help on, I am not sure if i should tell my family that I am going to get married matter of fact I am thinking about not telling anyone till he gets back from basic. Its just going to cause problems that I don't want to deal with while my soon to be husband is in basic. Its hard because my family is very good to me and I love them more than anything, but i know they will never see my point of view. I wish they understood this is whats going to make me happy. Thank you for your opinions. Oh if anyone knows anything about a good online program for future teachers that already have their associates degree that would be helpful too. THANKS!! Open Question: My boyfriends friends keep prank calling me?Me and my boyfriend have been dating for five months, we are both 15 and our relationship is quite serious. We both go to different schools. Anyway, I keep getting stupid texts and stupid phone calls from one of his friends being totally immature and boyish. My boyfriends often around when they have done this, I do have a sense of humour but what they are doing is becoming rather annoying. How can I solve this childish problem? More Recent Articles
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