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Open Question: I'm an idiot. I dumped my boyfriend. He hates me. I want him back. But I know I can't. Help!!!? and more... Open Question: I'm an idiot. I dumped my boyfriend. He hates me. I want him back. But I know I can't. Help!!!?Okay, so basically what happened was, a close mutual friend, let's call her Beth, she told me that he was going to break up with me, he was thinking of it anyway and that was because I never showed my love for him. She proceeded by saying that he never stopped smoking, which he promised me he'd do. See, the thing is, the smoking thing doesn't bother me, it's the fact that he lied to me, and he let me go on about how great he is for stopping. Then, I also found out all sorts of other things he told her about me, which was meant to be confidential, but she said, she wanted me to be prepared so it's not like out of the blue when he says it. It was really hard, though, learning why my boyfriend no longer likes me from my best friend. She said I never showed my love for him and he didn't think he was important to me, she said, what I had felt too, that everything in our relationship had become an obligation. And I thought about it all day at school. When I got home, I was certain that we either work through our problems or I dump him. I called him, and one thing led to another, and then I ended up calling him a liar, even though I wasn't sure if he lied about the thing I was accusing him of specifically, he ended up sounding really hurt, and hanging up on me. I ended up txting him its over. I know it's mean. That was followed by the third world war on msn where I was called a bitch among other things, even though I did him a favour, right? I mean, he wanted to dump me, he didn't have the guts to do it so I did it? After that great fight I ended up basically blocking him off my msn, deleting him off facebook, deleting his number and all his texts. I refused to deal and now, three days later, I want him back. Not a single tear did I shed for this person, but I want him back, even though I know it won't work out. What do I do? Well it's pretty hot here, I live in a tropical climate Open Question: Would you consider breaking up with an individual that cheats at games?I know this is silly, but it is bugging me. My boyfriend and I haven't been together long, but we are compatible on some many different levels. I like him and I am comfortable, BUT... he cheats on games and he is a poor sport about them. Its just turning me off as far as his personality is concerned. I am getting to the point that I don't want to play any games with him, but he likes to play. Example of what he does... dominoes... when he is loosing, he blames it on the application... there has to be a glitch, he had a tile to move but it wouldn't let him put it down and he had to pull from the boneyard instead. And I only won because of that single problem. Bejeweled Blitz... okay, this is on facebook for all our family and friends to see... so keep this in mind. We competitively score. I beat his score and dared him to beat me... with the full understanding that he probably could. I didn't bash him or anything, just dared him. The very next day his score is not only high, but impossibly high, and he basically said I needed to bow down and worship him. When I mean impossible... really impossible... smell a rat because he is a computer geek and knows how to change applications and software to do what he wants. When I ask him about it, he just smiles at me and told me that I will never catch him. Of course not.... if he is cheating! And this is published on our web pages for all family and friends to see. I've already gotten emails from friends asking me how he scored so high. Really want to tell him that I believe he cheated, but I don't want them to think ill of the guy I'm dating if that isn't true. Of course, he won't tell me or anyone else for that matter how he did it. It makes me wonder what type of character he has if he has this kinda of spirit with games. Open Question: Im not sure what my problem is but here's my story...?I'm 22 & I'm hateful, I'm so mean to my boyfriend. I get SO mad at people. Driving down the road, walking through a store, anything, anywhere can make me made. I cry a lot & my boyfriend & i don't get along. We've been together 3 years and we have a child. He tells me i need help & i have problems. Sometimes i get so mad i feel like i could just explode and start hitting people. Sometimes i throw things or break things when i get mad. Sometimes when i get mad i just scream as loud as i can. My feelings get hurt very easily & i don't forgive people who have done something to me in the past so i also feel like i carry a lot of unnecessary hatred. My grandma does everything in the world for me but she irritates me SO bad i yell at her or hang up on her if we're on the phone. I feel like im a terrible person & i have no motivation to do anything. Sometimes i just wish i could die but I have my son to think about. I don't want to take medicine & sitting here typing this now & thinking about it makes me cry. I hate myself & it hasn't always been this way. This is all i think about all day everyday. I think im crazy. Open Question: Should i do what my boyfriend did to me a couple nights ago?my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year and we have been really good up till now he has cheated on me and also he has a drinking problem that we are trying to hard to fix. he is in therapy with like AA meetings and stuff like that but i dont think he even wants to stop drinking! So one i was waiting for him at his house a couple nights ago and he never showed up so i got mad and left. so what i'm wondering is should i just ignore him for a while to make him want me even more and to show him what it's like for him to not be dating me? i don't know what to do because i don't feel like we are the same as we used to be and it's really bugging me i need help and opnions! fast because i'm going to go out tonight and i want to do what he did to be a couple nights ago were i was waiting for him and texting him and he never replied one time! because he said he didn't want to "deal" with me! even though when i'm with my friends he is always like were are you what are you doing who are you with? blah blah blah and even though i dont want to reply i do! so what should i do tonight guys?! HELP Open Question: What should I do in this type of situation?My boyfriend and I have lived together two years. We both love each other very much!. We are so good together; we just make perfect sense. The only problem is that he is away to College and I am in College too. We both work full-time jobs and we are both going for our Bachelor's mine is in Counseling and his is in Business. Since he is going for his Master's he had to leave to go to a school a few hours away and I stayed here because of my job and my schooling. We both want to be with each other long-term, but we both want to finish our education first. But my big problem is that I cannot keep thinking our future together, all I want to do is just be with him; me and him working through our problems together, sharing our lives together just like we used to before he had to move out. i miss us and I miss sharing our lives together, I miss him.do you think that i should give in to what I feel and just move in with him or should I sacrifice and wait for our future together until we are both through with school? We both agree that our education is very important but we also want to get married and have kids together Open Question: what's wrong with me?I'm 17, 10/29/08 my best friend killed himself, and idk why but it didn't really affect me emotionally at all(I never talked to anyone about it). A couple weeks ago I moved from Michigan to Tennessee to get away from my mom and her dick boyfriend and I don't even miss any of my friends or family. when i was 13 my stepdad (my dad ditched out on me before i was born and i have no clue who he is(and that doesn't affect me emotionally either) and my stepdad got with my mom before i was 1 so he was always like my real dad) got addicted to meth and started getting really aggresive,he was constantly yelling at everyone and breaking evertying and he threatened to kill us several times, my mom finally ended up divourcing him and that didn't affect me either. Not even a year after that my mom ended up getting with some asshole who was constantly being a dick to me just for his entertainment. she then had a kid with him even tho we were already struggleing with money. and none of that affected me either . About 6 months ago I started thinking about killing myself, which really confuses me because compared to alot of people my life is good, and at first i didn't think anything of it but it was constantly getting worse, about 4 months ago I started cutting and once again I have no clue why, I just randomly get urges to do it and the more i ignore it the worse it gets and the the longer i wait the deeper i end up cutting, so I guess I do have emotions but... well I can't really feel them. and also I remember almost nothing that happened in my life past age 14 but from what I've been told all of my cousins and my sister and step brother were constantly making me miserable. When ever someone ask me to list good qualities about myself i freeze because I can't think of any. I have a lot of people that i chill with but I don't have any true friends, i've had 3 good friends in my life, 2 turned out to be backstabbing ***holes who were just using me and the other killed himself. I've had a few girlfriends but i didn't love any of them, I've actually never loved anyone, not even family, and that really disturbs me. last year i spend 2 months in juvie because my mom called the cops and said that i threatened to kill her even though i could never threaten to kill someone, and then told me that i got what i had coming because i did bad in school even tho i tried my hardest i just could never concentrate on anything longer then 2 minutes. I've been like that my whole life and when i was going to school it made my life hell because of all the trouble i'd get in at home for failing classes. there were a few years in my life where i was really bad with my mom, constantly flipping out and cussing her out, I finally got it under controll last year but she still constantly throws it in my face and acts like I'm a horrible person even though i hated myself after every fight i got in with her. I've had a couple therapist, and I've been in an anxiety counselling group and idk why but i could never tell them about wanting to kill myself and cutting, i really couldn't tell them any of my problems, I always feel like an ***hole when i complain about my life because there are sooo many people out there that have it so much worse then me. Sorry for all of the typing i know that no one wants to real all of that, i just got in sordove a trance when i started typing and couldn't stop, half of those were suppressed memories i didn't remember until i started typing, that's why all of the events i put are in a completely random order. Open Question: We broke up. Is this wrong? Should I own up?Firstly me and my boyfriend have had a rocky 2 and a half years together. Over the last year it has been on and off due to my boyfriend being emotionally abusive and betraying my trust. The thing is deep down I love him and I know he loves me so we would always get back together. The last time we broke up it was me that broke it off as he went too far. He would always be the one to break it off and he would usually come back telling me he would be different, fell for it every time. This time when we broke up i felt like i would never want to go back with him, i even started counselling and was feeling really positive. I started talking to this guy who had been a friend, really nice to me and great fun. We ended up sleeping together two weeks after hanging out. It felt ok to do this as I thought my ex was out of the picture. However he started calling me again and crying saying that he misses being with me..thats when i realised that despite everything i still love him and think i always will. I stopped seeing the new guy and have now got back with the ex. He asked me if i had been with anyone else and i just couldnt tell the truth. I'm afraid that my mistake will give him the invitation to go off with somebody. He just wont understand my reasons for doing this. I would never cheat on anyone and when single i have never slept around. We were split up for a month and a half. I feel guilty. I feel scared that he will find out. Me and this other guy are still friends as i talked to him about the abusive relationship and he was understanding. I know my boyfriend has problems and i want to help him as i believe and recognise that he can be really lovely, i just feel bad keeping something like this from him. What should I do? Thank you More Recent Articles
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