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Open Question: I really need your advice here...? and more... Open Question: I really need your advice here...?Im sorry this is so long! I didnt know what section to put this under! I moved over to Dublin 2 years ago to live with my boyfriend. At the time he had just started a really good job and he told me that things were really good over here. I ended up moving here and getting a pretty good paying job. Since then we moved into a gorgeous flat (granted we have had problems with the place but they are slowly getting sorted). Our years contract was up in October and we asked the landlord if we could hold off for a few months on signing another 1 year lease as my boyfriend was made redundant in September. Now our dilema is, we have been offered a van to take all of our stuff back to Wales (free of charge, would have cost us £800) and store it at my bf mums house. But I don't want to take all of my stuff back home and then stay in Dublin. We have to take the stuff back next Thursday if we do this! We have to stay in our flat until the end of December as our agreement of not signing a new contract was as long as we didn't move out in December or January. Now do we move back to Wales where we have family and friends around us but there are no jobs. We would end up living seperately with our parents until we both got jobs and found our own place, and seeing as there are no jobs there its worrying how long we might be out of work and how long it will take to get our own place or stay in Dublin where I am on a pretty well paid job and live in a lovely flat but my boyfriend is out of work and on the dole. The dole just covers his rent and I pay for bills so Im not saving like I wanted too and he is eating into his savings (granted not by much). My bf suggests that if we stay in Dublin we move to a cheaper flat but I don't want to move as I love my flat and it's a 10 min walk from work which is perfect for me, plus I don't want to be travelling in the dark on my own if we move away from town! So the options are: Stay in Dublin for another year with bf out of work on that chance he gets a job! Or Move back to wales where we know we will be skint but will have all of our family and friends around us! Open Question: can't live with or without my boyfriend.. please help?so here's the deal. my boyfriend and i have been together for about a year, and i really adore him. he's funny, gorgeous, smart, makes me really happy, and is truly amazing for the most part .the only problem is that he lies, A LOT, which causes a lot of fights. i've put up with so many things from him, its honestly ridiculous. he depended on me for so much, and i helped him, and he still treats me like crap and lies. when i call him on a lie, he NEVER admits it. i have to pry it out of him and make sure he knows that i KNOW he's lying before he'll confess. it's just so frustrating. he lies about little things, and also lies about things he knows i'll be mad about. he claims to lie because he DOESN'T want to fight, or DOESN'T want to hurt me. but i tell him it's still a lie, and that hurts more. i've talked to him so many times about his lying, and how much it hurts me, and nothing helps. he says he'll stop and he never does. i haven't spoken to him for a few days, after his last big lie. he keeps txt messaging and calling me asking for forgiveness. it's just that i've forgiven him so many times that it's almost sad. i feel like i have no self respect. by this time, i know talking isn't going to work. so what should i do? should i stay with him and be mostly happy yet hurt by his stupid lies? or should i let him go and let it burn? please help, this isn't as easy as it may sound :/ Open Question: My boyfriend wants me to hate my friend for hating his ex?so i didnt really kno my boyfriend's ex girlfriend and when we got together he lied about being with her and told me he had never had a girlfriend( since he was my first i guess he thought i wouldnt date him if he had) . when we got together i found out that he had gone out with her for a while and i didnt really care so i let it go. she pretended like she really liked me although i had never met her and obviously i had no problems with her. then all of a sudden she called my boyfriend and yelled at him about me and said that I had been saying stuff about her behind her back. he asked me and i said i have no idea. why would i say stuff about someone i dont kno?!! anyway suddenly all her friends were attacking me and saying things about me which made me feel like crap since i hadnt done anything. my bf supported me and in the end we found out it was a misunderstanding and my best friend had said something about her to someone and it went around and everyone thought it was me (confusing) anyway now my boyfriend hates my best friend! and expects me to hate her aswell( real immature) it really annoys me i mean who cares?!! just coz she said something bad about his ex doesnt mean i have to hate her? and so what i think his ex has done alot of harm to my reputation and feelings so she deserves it. why does he care???? Open Question: was he worth going out with..?i'm 14, and last saturday, i got dumped by my boyfriend, i'm wondering if i did something wrong or what i should do next, my friends all say its not my fault, but i know i'm part to blame. you see, it all started when my great aunt got diognosed with cancer, i was going out with this boyy, but when i told him about it on msn, all he had to say was "i have no sympathy for you" i decided to talk to this other boyy, who was online, my friend at the time. he was really nice to me and told me he was there for me and let me talk to him about it. after that, i got closer and closer to this boy and kept talking to him. i fell in love with him, i knew he had a gf already, but i dumped my bf, coz i didnt want to go out with him if i loved someone else coz thats just mean. me, and this boy, and all my other friends, we all went out to the cinema. and we ended up closer than we were before. the boy told me he liked me too but wasnt sure wat to do as he loved his gf too. me and the boy went to the cinema together, one saturday.. but he kissed me, i admit i let him. but i wasnt thinking at the time. and it made me feel really guilty afterwards. espeically as him and his gf had a argument and broke up. but at the time, i wasnt thinking about that, my great aunt had collapsed and was in hospital with "not long left" this boyy was still there for me, and seemed to make everything better. after a while, when my great aunt passed away. the boy and me started going out. i loved him so much and everything was perfect, when i was with him or speaking to him, i was fine, i forgot about everything because i was so happy. everyone, including my mates thought he was really nice, he got along with my mates and made everyone laugh. he was completley perfect, well.. i thought he was. until saturday. me, him, his mate, and my mates all went out to town, it was fine to start with, but then he started to act all grumpy and just sat down looking like he was thinking.. but wen i asked wat was wrong, he said nothing and that he was fine. when it was time for him to go, he hugged me really tight for a while, nearly not letting go. then kissed me twice and went off without looking back. i went round my mates, on msn and i asked him wat was wrong and he said that me and his mate were too close and that we should go out or something, then he said it would be better that we were friends. the thing is, all me and his mate were doing was joking around, and he hugged me before he went, but he does that with my mates so i dont see the problem. yesterday i found out he already has a new gf, and that gf is the "friend" hes been texting for ages and on saturday he went off with her a few times.. now i'm starting to wonder if he was cheating on me.. but i feel really bad, cause thats what happend with his ex.. maybe i shouldnt of gone out with him.. tell me the truth, is this all my fault and should i have really have gone out with someone that made me soo happy but ended like this??? erm lool i wasnt having sex with him.. haha, i didnt have sex with him.. to tht comment second from the bottom.. and okay, yes thanks for all of them. xx Open Question: My friend is being neglected and abused?She's 18, and her Mom treats her horribly. Her mom won't let her eat with the rest of her siblings, she makes her buy her own food, doesn't acknowledge her, and blames a lot of her problems and difficulties on her. Now get this, her mom's 40 and she's dating a 50 year old, and she's pregnant. They were dating for 5 months, he moved in after the first month and is currently 4 months pregnant. And the boyfriend abuses her. He JUST recently gave her a black eye and now she can't come to school and give her presentations. Her home life is ruining her school life, and is making it difficult for her to complete homework and assignments and she's always upset. Her parents are divorced (her dad is living in a one bedroom and is unemployed because he's on disability, and has to get his food from a food bank) and all the rest of her family live far away, leaving her with no options. I suggested calling Children services (she has 3 younger siblings and a step sibling on the way) since her mom is pretty much neglecting her, or at least the police since the boyfriend is abusing her but she doesn't want to (i can understand she's upset and doesn't want to cause more problems) What else can I do? What could I suggest to her to help her with this horrible situation? More Recent Articles
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