| |
Open Question: I NEED SOME HELP PLEASE? and more... Open Question: I NEED SOME HELP PLEASE?PLEASE HELP? I want to know what the chance of this relationship becoming physically abusive is? I also want to know if he is possessive, jealous, and controlling? I have been going out with this guy for 6 months, but have known him for a couple of years. We live together. He is a great guy in a lot of ways. He is mexican cholo and I am american with 2 kids from a previous marriage. He loves my kids as if they were his own. And we are planning on getting married. Ok here are the things: He gets mad when I use my hair-straightening iron. He says he trusts me. He gets mad if I don't answer the phone. He said that he's called me 3 times in the past and I didn't answer and it better not happen ever again. He was very mad. Gave me the silent treatment. Then I had to apologize and tell him that it will never happen again. I only have a home phone with answering machine and caller id. I asked him why does he get mad when I don't answer the phone. Like, what is going through his head and he said is that he constantly is thinking where am I. Because I need to call him and get his permission to go anywhere. He assumes that I am not at home if I don't answer the phone. Even when I call him straight back he won't answer his phone cuz he's already mad. He says he trusts me but I don't know. I don't work. He works and has a cell phone. I love him so much that I would never cheat on him. I won't even look at another guy and he knows that. I have to take the phone everywhere with me in the house. He said that because we have tv and internet I need to stay home and not be driving around from place to place. But if I have to go to the store or something. I have to call him and get his permission if I can go. He will ask me where do I need to go, what do I need to buy, How long I will be gone, and why. If he doesn't answer the phone I don't get mad. I have to go to his work and ask him if I can go. When I return I have to call him and tell him that I am at home. If I don't he gets mad. Also, I am not allowed to go out and hang out with my girl-friends. One of them can come over to my house. But only sometimes and when he's at work. Which I understand when he's at work cuz I love to spend time with him when he's not. He tells me that I don't think very good that he needs to think for both of us. He keeps track of all the money cuz he says that I am not good at that. Which I have to agree I am not very good with money cuz I never had control of it in my previous marriage so I don't know how to manage it. I have to tell him what I need to buy and I have to bring him reciepts. He says that I just need to do whatever he says and everything will be ok. He's told me that he was in a previous relationship and was physically and verbally abusive to the woman. But he tells me that he would never hit me or yell at me because I am different. He also says that it's better if I have respect in the home. I cook and clean and do anything he tells me. But he says it in a way that I should be scared of him. Also he said that it would be a problem, that he would get mad if I didn't feel like having sex with him. Like for example, if I wasn't in the mood or something like that. He also said that he wants to buy a videocamera supposedly to record the snow. But I don't know about that. Another thing is, my friend is getting married. She is having a dance after the wedding. My boyfriend can't go cuz he has to work, but he said that I can go. Can't dance with any guys of course, but I don't want to anyways cuz I love him and respect our relationship. Do you think it's a good idea if I go? Do you think he's planning something? Do you think he will have someone there watching me for him? I asked him and he said no, that he trusts me and he can tell if I lie to him through my voice and my looks. I haven't and would never lie to him! But I want someone else's honest opinion, please? Sorry it's kind of long. But thanks for taking the time to read it and answer! Open Question: Did I do the right thing by giving him another chance?My boyfriend and I have been on and off for 7 years now, within that time we've dated other people. So as of August this year we got back together, before that he dated this girl for about 3 months but than had left her to come back to me. When I asked him if they still talk he had said no, problem is I just recently found out they were still talking over the phone up until beginning of Oct, he claims it was mostly her calling and that there was nothing going on, He knew i had a problem with him talking to her because Ive read some text messages from her saying she misses him and wants him back, so when i confronted him I also told him to tell her to leave him alone he denied that he made calls to her and he said that she hasn't called him for awhile so there was no point of calling her and telling her. Later I asked him if he will block her number, finally after sometime he agreed to block her number, and promised not to talk to her again, but should I believe him? I just don't want to be hurt again, I really do love him though. Does he deserve another chance? Open Question: What would you do if you were me?i have a secret that song by guns n roses my michelle was writn aboutme i am the girl that axl was talking about and nobody nows but me and axl and some other woman says she is michelle but it is really me also i slept with benicio del toro when he was filming a movie in my town but i dont want my boyfriend to know becuz he is boring and not rich but i love him and he would be sad if he knew i did benecio all he knows is that i hung out with benicio and his hair stylist (a lesbian) when i met them downtown i love my boyfriend but he is quiet and shy and has to deal with all of these other men who seem to love me no matter what i do i dont brag and i run away from confruntation so he doesnt know all of the stuff also i sent pictures of my boobs to a pretty yung guy who really loved me but he was to stupid for me to bother and he decided to be a budist munk but lately i cant stop thinking about axl not because i loved him because i didnt i really loved a guy named patrick who i met thru axl but we are star crossed lovers now patrick is apowerful man and i know i could make up with himbut it took so long to get over him and i dont want to tell him that i am being bothered all of my old boyfriends love me except my first husband who tried to beat on me i just dont know what to do i want to get over my shiness and let the world know who i am what would you do? oh and all of my boyfriends and husbands say i am weird but they also say i am low maintenence they always seem to luv me no matter what even if they say i am kind of like a man becuz i am low maintenence and can always deal with my problems without demanding they fix my life thats why axl loves me or maybe he doesnt now but he did in the 80s he knew i was hurt and did bad things but he knew i was special and he said he would always love me like all of my boyfriends i picked a man avater becuz i feel i fight like a man and men always love me Open Question: Is it normal for him to care about looks THIS much? Does he sound shallow?My boyfriend is absolutely gorgeous. Problem is, he knows it. Whenever we take pictures together, he'll go on about how sexy he looks in a certain photo and say stuff like, "you didn't tell me you were dating such a stud muffin." I constantly see him looking at himself in the mirror, as if he's checking himself out. I make fun of him for it, too. When he worked as a waiter a while back, female customers would always ask him to take a picture with them and tell him he's so cute. When he worked in retail, the tourists would always ask him to try on clothes just so they could see him shirtless. I think perhaps all that female attention went to his head? He's a nice guy, but sometimes when he talks about how gorgeous he thinks he is im like, okay, okay, I get it. You're hot. Next subject, please. He doesn't put me down or anything. In fact, he always tells me how cute/pretty/gorgeous he thinks I am. And says things like, "We are one hot couple" or "We would make one sexy baby" and "My ex girlfriends don't hold a candle to you." Does it sound like he puts too much of an emphasis on looks? I get hit on a lot too, but I dont' bring it up as much as he does and I definitely don't go around talking about how hot I think I am. I just don't make as much of a big deal on looks. I'm more of an inner-beauty type of person. It just get a little annoying hearing about how attractive he or other people think he is. He also makes comments like, "I could never date a fat girl, please don't get fat." or "That girl was so ugly it bothered me to even be in the same room." Makes me wonder if he'd stop being so loving toward me if he didn't find me attractive. I love him and think it's great he has confidence, but do you think its a bit much? More Recent Articles
|
Click here to safely unsubscribe now from "Yahoo! Answers: Search for " or change your subscription or subscribe
| Your requested content delivery powered by FeedBlitz, LLC, 9 Thoreau Way, Sudbury, MA 01776, USA. +1.978.776.9498 |
0 comments:
Post a Comment