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Open Question: I just want to meet my bf's ex. Is that too much to ask? and more... Open Question: I just want to meet my bf's ex. Is that too much to ask?My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now and he broke up with his ex to date me. And here is my story...PLEASE PLEASE READ. I really do not know what to do. Ever since they have maintained a friendship, they talk on the phone, email, and see each other from time to time (only like 3 times tho). I was fine with this till one day after a month of my boyfriend and I dating I saw an e-mail he wrote her a week after they broke up. It said he had made a mistake and would never stop loving her. This e-mail was written two months previous to me reading it, and as I said, a month after we started dating. So orginally I didn't care if they were friends but after reading the email I told him I did not want him to see her...ever.... which was a mistake. Ultimatium only made him go behind my back. When I found out he was going behind my back to talk to her and call her, I freaked, broke up with him yet he begged for me back and I gave him a second chance. I did learn that I need to give him room, if they are gonna be friends so be it. So they called each other, met up for coffee, e-mailed...etc. The only problem is she hates me, wants nothing to do with me and refuses to be in same room as me. He just avoids it by hanging out with her without me. But I have HAD IT! I want to meet this girl and she what she is all about. Everyone I talked to who knew her when they dated say she was a huge bitch! So why are they friends!?! ugh... So yes here is my question. I told my boyfriend that the next time he sees her I want to meet her. I feel this isn't much to ask, but he feels it would only make things worse. First of all she does not want to meet me. Second he thinks I may take any laugh, look or facial expression between them to the extreme. What do you guys think? Open Question: why am I so emotionless?--should I be worried?I'm 17, 10/29/08 my best friend killed himself, and idk why but it didn't really affect me emotionally at all(I never talked to anyone about it). A couple weeks ago I moved from Michigan to Tennessee to get away from my mom and her dick boyfriend and I don't even miss any of my friends or family. when i was 13 my stepdad (my dad ditched out on me before i was born and i have no clue who he is(and that doesn't affect me emotionally either) and my stepdad got with my mom before i was 1 so he was always like my real dad) got addicted to meth and started getting really aggresive,he was constantly yelling at everyone and breaking evertying and he threatened to kill us several times, my mom finally ended up divourcing him and that didn't affect me either. Not even a year after that my mom ended up getting with some asshole who was constantly being a dick to me just for his entertainment. she then had a kid with him even tho we were already struggleing with money. and none of that affected me either . About 6 months ago I started thinking about killing myself, which really confuses me because compared to alot of people my life is good, and at first i didn't think anything of it but it was constantly getting worse, about 4 months ago I started cutting and once again I have no clue why, I just randomly get urges to do it and the more i ignore it the worse it gets and the the longer i wait the deeper i end up cutting, so I guess I do have emotions but... well I can't really feel them. and also I remember almost nothing that happened in my life past age 14 but from what I've been told all of my cousins and my sister and step brother were constantly making me miserable. When ever someone ask me to list good qualities about myself i freeze because I can't think of any. I have a lot of people that i chill with but I don't have any true friends, i've had 3 good friends in my life, 2 turned out to be backstabbing ***holes who were just using me and the other killed himself. I've had a few girlfriends but i didn't love any of them, I've actually never loved anyone, not even family, and that really disturbs me. I've had one person in my life that actually cared about me and tried to look out for me, my cousin, and he died of a heroin overdose exactly 3 years ago. He was addicted to heroin but he was still a good person and he looked out for me, he tried to make sure that I would never make the same mistakes as him, honestly that's the only thing stopping me from turning to drugs, i know my cousin would be crushed. last year i spent 2 months in juvie because my mom called the cops and said that i threatened to kill her even though i could never threaten to kill someone, and then told me that i got what i had coming because i did bad in school even tho i tried my hardest i just could never concentrate on anything longer then 2 minutes. I've been like that my whole life and when i was going to school it made my life hell because of all the trouble i'd get in at home for failing classes. there were a few years in my life where i was really bad with my mom, constantly flipping out and cussing her out, I finally got it under controll last year but she still constantly throws it in my face and acts like I'm a horrible person even though i hated myself after every fight i got in with her. I've had a couple therapist, and I've been in an anxiety counselling group and idk why but i could never tell them about wanting to kill myself and cutting, i really couldn't tell them any of my problems, I always feel like an ***hole when i complain about my life because there are sooo many people out there that have it so much worse then me. Sorry for all of the typing i know that no one wants to real all of that, i just got in sordove a trance when i started typing and couldn't stop, half of those were suppressed memories i didn't remember until i started typing, that's why all of the events i put are in a completely random order Open Question: Advice on what to do about my boyfriend and our relationship?Okay, this might be a little long, but bear with me; you need to hear the whole story to be able to understand my situation and be able to offer advice that is even remotely helpful. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years now. We both lost our virginity to each other, and are very serious about our relationship. Many a time has he tried to convince me that we should get married now, but I'm 19 and he's 24, and I don't wanna be the whore who gets married right out of high school. People judge you harshly for things like that, and even though I know that I shouldn't care what other people think, I personally also believe we should wait longer before we get married, if we do, even though there's no doubt in my mind that he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. We already want kids together (he mentioned it before I did, so he's not just agreeing with me about everything), and I want to grow old with this boy. He can be kind of girly because he is so compassionate and loving, which is a total plus because it's like we're on the same level with each other. I trust him with my whole heart, even with my history of relationships where I have been cheated on frequently. He respects women greatly (his dad left when he was 6 so his mother raised him herself along with his sister) and he is a genuinely kind, loving man. Oh, and he is hilarious! He has a great sense of humor (what attracted me to him in the first place) and he can always keep me smiling even make me laugh when I am in the worst of moods. The relationship seems perfect, but there is one problem. He is the most unmotivated person I know. He dropped out of high school his junior year because he was going through an intense depression. He also has a couple phobias, one being water, the other being his phobia of new people and working around them. He can be very antisocial. VERY antisocial, as in, at my graduation party he played volleyball with my little brothers and sisters and sat on my porch while everyone sat at the tables in our yard and ate and talked. He has trouble meeting new people and making friends I guess. Anyway, his mother has convinced him that he has something wrong with him. He is on depression medicine and recently got accepted to receive money for "disability" because his mom claims he is like 10 years old mentally. Granted he can be immature at times, but he's only 24, I can be very immature too, especially with my sense of humor, he doesn't act like he's ten, for god sakes. I wouldn't date someone who acted like he was ten. Anyway she has brainwashed him into thinking that he is mentally stunted and that it's okay to just stay home and collect disability all his life and not to get up off of his arse and get a job or finish his education. He sits at home all day, living with his mother who recently retired at 65, who is also on depression meds, and I have tried to push him to take the GED classes the school a couple blocks from his house offers and for a while it worked he was going every tuesday and thursday but then one night we were at the movies and of his lungs collapsed and he had to go to the hospital and get a tube in it (it was terrifying, I was there and I thought he was dying) and for a couple months he couldn't go because it was winter and the cold air would hurt his lungs. After that he forgot and didn't go. Numerous times after that I have asked him if he was going to finish his GED and he just seems so unmotivated. It's like he doesn't care at all about it anymore, and I asked him once, "What are you even going to do with your life?" and he didn't have an answer. I don't know how to properly motivate him to get a job, get out of his house, and stop listening to his mother. I myself am not a completely motivated person but at least more than him! I want to go to college to be a veterinarian or an artist...and it scares me because while I know that if I become a vet it will give our future children a good life (we were both raised poor) which is important to me, I will not be able to be a housewife and spend time with my kids and raise them and that makes my heart ache. I feel like even then he will just sit at home and if I quit my job even long enough to raise my children we will be poor because he won't be able to get a good job. Please, PLEASE, help me, give me some advice, anything really. I am out of ideas of how to make him understand that this is important it's our lives and our future children's lives we are talking about. Thank you for listening and have a merry christmas! ^__^ Open Question: School "friend" problems?Well my so called "friend" is mean. I am probably her best friend (which she wont admit) because all her other friends lie to her all the time. Anyways, I have never had a boyfriend. So, she decides to make me look desperate by asking out everyone for me. Yesterday it was just about 10 football players. Some said i was cute, some said no period. But she is determined to find me a boyfriend, and I really don't want one, partly because she is just embarassing me. Today she was going to ask everyone at lunch (she isn't shy at all) so I went home early because I can't handle it. I am totally shy, and that would just make me seem easy, and desperate. I told her to mind her own business, and stop trying to control me. But she said that didn't change her mind :/ But she only wants me to have a BF cus she does. I don't see the point in one, I am only in eighth grade, and he will break up with me in a week or so. But she won't stop.. what do i do? I know it doesn't seem like a big deal, but it is when your as shy as me... and i don't wanna go out with just anyone, i want my first boy friend to be special... oh yeah and we are out for 2 weeks for christmas so i don't have to deal with her for two weeks. (: Open Question: ok im really confused about one of my friends and my boyfriend there is a problem so help?ok so i have a friend and clearly a boyfriend as im sure you all know by now but him and i are really confused my friend is a really good person but recently got out of a relationship with her quote on quote love of her life! but our problem is im a pretty jelous gf trying to stop but i kinda cant help it when he is the first one i have loved but my friend seams to be crying to my boyfriend alot about her problems why cant she come to me and what makes my boyfriend such a INTREST!? does she like him cause she called him a few nights ago to talk to him about it and she never calls him i dunno whats going on! can someone please help me or can you give me advice on what we can do about her cause i still want to stay friends with her and im not leaving him...! * but i really dont wanna talk to her about it because i do not wanna cause anymore conflict or problems for a stupid reason if she is just looking for a shoulder to lean on Open Question: Maybe prego... idk what to do?have been with my boyfriend for 3 and half years. I love him alot but things have not been good for a while. In october we broke up for 3 weeks and I went to a halloween party got trashed and had a "good time" with a guy i have known since kinder but we were never anything it was a totally random thing. I never told my boyfriend because I was embarresed and felt sluty. And i didnt want to hurt him. Now were back together and everything is going good.. but there is one problem im really LATE so idk what to do now because i dont know who the dad would be if i am prego. Im totally against abortion but if this baby is not my boyfriends then there is no way i can keep it. If it is my boyfriends then i would keep it. and there is no way to know so im in a bit of a delema and really upset with myself.. Should i tell my boyfriend about what really happened halloween night and what should i do overall with my situation? Oh and everytime i have had sex i have used protection so idk why im sooo late.. Yes i used protection on the drunk night....ugh i hate this Open Question: Why do girls hit on my boyfriend right in front of me?So I just started dating this guy and he is damn fine. The problem is though that he is almost too hot because whenever I'm out with him girls seem to hit on him left and right! It drives me fucking insane and I try to keep my cool but its very hard. Who the hell do these slutty bitches think they are and why do they think its okay to do this when I make it very obvious that he is taken by me?? Open Question: Please, help me name my book!!?I'm writing a book and have no idea what to title it. The book is about this girl named Taylor who has two little sisters and one younger brother. She has a boyfriend named Ryan and her best friends name's and Addison, Kaylee, and Casey. The setting of the book is Nemetz, California. Made up town. The town she lives in is very rich and she lives in a Huge house and has butlers and stuff. She is very popular and is very smart. In the book, she helps her friends have the perfect life, like she does, by helping addison with getting a boyfriend, Kaylee get better grades, and by helping Casey through her parents Divorce. My problem is what should I name this book. I have tried to brain storm and have given up Please help!!! Open Question: I like this girl and I want to ask her out. I try but she kind of avoids the subject.?In my class there's this girl who I obviously like as said above. I figured out about a month ago that she likes me too. So now her friends now know about this and want me to ask her out. (Asking out in my school means just Boyfriend and Girlfriend.) I still talk to her and she already knows that I like her and that I know that she likes me. The problem I'm facing is When I should ask her out and How. I've already made 1 attempt, but since she's smart ( :D) she caught on and just walked away with her friends. I'm friends with her and her friends, so they kind of support me in trying to ask her out. I just need to know Where, When, and How I should ask her out. We have 2 classes together, but the schedule changes everyday since we follow a bloc schedule. :P I just need major help... thanks in advance... I also forgot to say that i text her friends and that they say that They try to ask her about it and that she doesn't really answer whatever questions she asks about it. So idk what to really think. Her friend says that she knows that she absoluteley likes me, but idk. I've known her for 4 years, and my Mom is a teacher and found out that she like me since she had her. She figured this out from HER Mom!!! I also forgot to say the we don't have a recess and that we only have a study hall for 2-3 times a week. But i'm not in her study hall, so it wont b much use during SH. Our lockers are right across from each other but her friends are usually talking to her, so if I ask her then, she might get pressured which is exactly the opposite of what i want!!! i want to have the true answer, not one that comes from pressure or stress. Open Question: What is the cost for being hospitalized for depression?Hi, I am currently suffering with unstable depression and have recently changed medications from Zoloft to Celexa a week ago. I cannot see my current doctor until January. My therapist, boyfriend, and best friend all think it would be wise for me to be hospitalized as I have recently been having episodes of wanting to hurt myself. The only problem is that I do not have health insurance. I am a California resident and a full-time college student. Should I just try to hold on until I see my physician? What can I do? Open Question: MY BOYFRIEND KEEPS ON GETTING FIRED FROM HIS JOBS.?FOR ALMOST 3 YEARS THAT MY BOYFRIEND AND I HAVE BEEN LIVING ON THE STREETS AND BEEN LIVNG IN OUR VANS. THE PROBLEM IS THAT MY BOYFRIND KEEPS ON GETTING FIRED FROM HIS JOBS THAT HE HAS NO MONEY THAT HE CANT PAY FOR HIS CAR PAYMENT AND EVERYTHING ELSE. I KEEP ON FINICIALY SURPORTING HIM FROM MY SOCIAL SECURITY CHECKS EVERY MONTH. RIGHT NOW THAT EVERYTHING IS FALLING APART. MY BOYFRIEND CAME TO THE POINT THAT HE DONT CARE ABOUT NOTHING ANYMORE AND HE'A MISRABLE BECAUSE HE HAS NO MONEY, NO NOTHING. I CANT TAKE THIS ANYMORE. MY BOYFRIEND KEEPS ON SCREWING UP BY GETTING FIRED THAT HE SHOULD BE MAD AT HIS SELF. NOT ME. WHAT SHOULD I DO? Open Question: Wanted: Boyfriend... I WISH IT WAS THIS EASY :|?-->Im 15, nearly 16, -->had 2 boyfriends, bf A lasted 1 night, bf B lasted 4 days... and we never met up even tho i know him from school! --> About 4/5 guys at school like me, for defo and 1/2 others would probly say yes if i asked them... one problem... I DONT LIKE ANY OF THEM!! In that way :( Sooooo my question is what do i do? I really want a bf, as ive never had a proper bf before and as i live in flipping Tim-buc-too theres no guys around me :( People tell me that im really pretty and they nearly always say they are surprised that i dont have a bf... BUT I DONT!! Thats the problem.. what do i do in this situation? Edit: All the guys i do actually like in that way have a gf or fancy my best friend :'( Its always me that they dont flippin like :( Open Question: why am I so emotionless?I'm 17, 10/29/08 my best friend killed himself, and idk why but it didn't really affect me emotionally at all(I never talked to anyone about it). A couple weeks ago I moved from Michigan to Tennessee to get away from my mom and her dick boyfriend and I don't even miss any of my friends or family. when i was 13 my stepdad (my dad ditched out on me before i was born and i have no clue who he is(and that doesn't affect me emotionally either) and my stepdad got with my mom before i was 1 so he was always like my real dad) got addicted to meth and started getting really aggresive,he was constantly yelling at everyone and breaking evertying and he threatened to kill us several times, my mom finally ended up divourcing him and that didn't affect me either. Not even a year after that my mom ended up getting with some asshole who was constantly being a dick to me just for his entertainment. she then had a kid with him even tho we were already struggleing with money. and none of that affected me either . About 6 months ago I started thinking about killing myself, which really confuses me because compared to alot of people my life is good, and at first i didn't think anything of it but it was constantly getting worse, about 4 months ago I started cutting and once again I have no clue why, I just randomly get urges to do it and the more i ignore it the worse it gets and the the longer i wait the deeper i end up cutting, so I guess I do have emotions but... well I can't really feel them. and also I remember almost nothing that happened in my life past age 14 but from what I've been told all of my cousins and my sister and step brother were constantly making me miserable. When ever someone ask me to list good qualities about myself i freeze because I can't think of any. I have a lot of people that i chill with but I don't have any true friends, i've had 3 good friends in my life, 2 turned out to be backstabbing ***holes who were just using me and the other killed himself. I've had a few girlfriends but i didn't love any of them, I've actually never loved anyone, not even family, and that really disturbs me. I've had one person in my life that actually cared about me and tried to look out for me, my cousin, and he died of a heroin overdose exactly 3 years ago. He was addicted to heroin but he was still a good person and he looked out for me, he tried to make sure that I would never make the same mistakes as him, honestly that's the only thing stopping me from turning to drugs, i know my cousin would be crushed. last year i spent 2 months in juvie because my mom called the cops and said that i threatened to kill her even though i could never threaten to kill someone, and then told me that i got what i had coming because i did bad in school even tho i tried my hardest i just could never concentrate on anything longer then 2 minutes. I've been like that my whole life and when i was going to school it made my life hell because of all the trouble i'd get in at home for failing classes. there were a few years in my life where i was really bad with my mom, constantly flipping out and cussing her out, I finally got it under controll last year but she still constantly throws it in my face and acts like I'm a horrible person even though i hated myself after every fight i got in with her. I've had a couple therapist, and I've been in an anxiety counselling group and idk why but i could never tell them about wanting to kill myself and cutting, i really couldn't tell them any of my problems, I always feel like an ***hole when i complain about my life because there are sooo many people out there that have it so much worse then me. Sorry for all of the typing i know that no one wants to real all of that, i just got in sordove a trance when i started typing and couldn't stop, half of those were suppressed memories i didn't remember until i started typing, that's why all of the events i put are in a completely random order Open Question: my pitbull gives some people hives, but they are not allergic to dogs!?my boyfriend is not allergic to dogs he has been around them his whole life and has one of his own, but when ever my dog touches him he gets itchy and little hive like things all over. i thought it was because he has shorter more course hair, but he has been around other pits without any problems, and my other friend who has been around my dog alot all the sudden is getting the same itchy hives, but he isnt allergic to dogs either and has no problem with my other dog. i tried changing his shampoos but nothing works. i havent had any problems with him at all i just want to know if anyone else knows what might be goin on and anyways to maybe help. my dog only runs around outside on the grass, we dont have any poison ivy or anything like that by my house, and my other dogs get into everything that he could get into and they arent causing any problems. and its just those 2 people being effected by it, everyone else is fine Open Question: my pitbull gives some people hives, but they arent allergic to dogs!?my boyfriend is not allergic to dogs he has been around them his whole life and has one of his own, but when ever my dog touches him he gets itchy and little hive like things all over. i thought it was because he has shorter more course hair, but he has been around other pits without any problems, and my other friend who has been around my dog alot all the sudden is getting the same itchy hives, but he isnt allergic to dogs either and has no problem with my other dog. i tried changing his shampoos but nothing works. i havent had any problems with him at all i just want to know if anyone else knows what might be goin on and anyways to maybe help. they arent bumps from being scratched they almost look like misquito bites and get bigger the more they are scratched. nobody else has been effected by it other than those two, and my dogs skin and coat look amazing, so there isnt anything i can see. we just have normal grass, that he goes in and our other dogs go to the same place but we havent had any problems with the other dog making people itch Open Question: Should I say something to my boyfriend?Not really a "problem", just wanting a bit of feedback. Basically, my boyfriend had to go help his brother with something at about 4ish, said he wouldn't be long, we've been texting since then and I've just asked him where he is and he said he's gone out with his mates. I'm not annoyed that he's gone out per se, but I am a bit annoyed that he A) said he wouldn't be long, and B) didn't even tell me he was going to see his mates before he went. We didn't have solid plans to do anything tonight, so it's like, let it go or say something? Not sure if I'm just being silly or not x He was at my house when he had to go see his brother, by the way. The "won't be long" implied he was coming back and he didn't, which is probably why I feel a bit put out, especially because he didn't even tell me before he went out. More Recent Articles
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