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Open Question: I caught my friend stealing from her parents, but she does have a reason to help out her boyfriend.? and more... Open Question: I caught my friend stealing from her parents, but she does have a reason to help out her boyfriend.?Me and a friend were hanging out then she invited me over to her home (we were alone parents out, which is often) and she told me to wait downstairs. She sounded a little sneaky so I decided to follow her. I thought she had some surprise for me or something so I snuck up behind her and took out a mirror at the top of the stairs and watched where she went. She went to her parents room instead and took some money out of some desk drawers. I was shocked and ran back downstairs. Anyway it was a couple of minutes before she came back down and proceeded to show me quite a few photos of her and her new boyfriend and she said he was coming over soon and wanted me to meet him too. Well we did and the first thing I noticed was her handing him money. She said she met him two months ago and started dating. However a week ago he had been fired for drinking on the job and screwing up big. So his parents just kicked him out of the house. His wallet and clothes are still in the house and they won't let him in so he's penniless and needs to borrow her clothes (oh, she's kind of tomboyish and has quite some clothes that do suit him and he's not a big guy about the same size actually so no problem there). He's actually living at her house, in her room but also hiding it from her parents as well. She says she's using her own savings to pay for his needs temporary until they resolve the problem with his parents but they won't let up. However, since I saw she take money from her parents that's for sure where she gets the money from. And she lies about it. Well I immediately told her, don't give him your money, we're friends, my money will work too and it's a hardship we share together. They said it was fine. So, it works for now. And I told them they should go talk to his parents again and discuss about the unfairness of them simply kicking him out and if they aren't letting up I'll go with them next time and have a talk. However I don't know how to bring up the stealing problem and how to resolve that? I don't want to hurt anyone but it's wrong. And I'm pretty sure the boyfriend doesn't know where the money is actually coming from. I do hope the kicking out of the house problem is resolved soon, though any tips are welcome. Thanks a lot. Open Question: CAN THIS RELATIONSHIP BE SAVED?I am in couseling for my issues I HAVE insecurties and behavior problems and I DIDNT wanna continue tormenting my boyfriend so I MOVED out ,well everytime I GO to his house I JUST walk in and give him crap and ride his butt till he is almosting wanting me to leave,I trully do love this man But I might have too much of a wedge between us with my behavior to save it,Should I just stop going to see him till I am able to control my feelings and emotions and not go off on him all the time.please help.I dont wanna lose him he is a good guy and he is only trying to stop the insanity that happens everytime I GO there,he wont speak to me if we are both on the computer and I am sure its because he just wants peace.but doesnt he care about me? Open Question: What should I give as a gift? Suggestions welcome! =)?My boyfriend and I got together on November 16th and as you can calculate, by December 25th (gift giving time!) we will have been together almost 1 month and 1/2. He is 20 and I will be 20 December 28th. To ease a bit of the awkwardness (because we are already close but probably will not be super close [our last relationships had been for almost a year, if not more than, by the time Christmas had rolled around] so we both don't know what to expect or how to handle the gift giving if any at all). Here's a problem: I LOVE giving gifts while my boyfriend is not fond of gift giving (just because he gets upset when people do not respond the way he expects them to or when people do not seem to enjoy the gift it hurts him, or something like that). So to solve this we actually agreed to give/get gifts for "us" as a couple to do things together (my idea) to make our relationship grow and spend more time with each other (like: movie tickets for us, dinner, museum, theme park, etc). I think this is a good idea because we don't have to try and read each other so well so soon and there is less pressure to "succeed" in buying the appropriate gift for him (or in his case, "her") and having it be "a waste of money" and/or a disappointment for both the giver and the receiver. Here are my questions (if you can give your advice on any it would be greatly appreciated): -Should we give gifts this soon in a relationship -If we do buy gifts, how much should we spend -Do you like the idea of buying gifts for "us" rather than each other? -What gift suggestions do you think should I give to "us" (either of the ones previously mentioned above or new ideas?) Thanks so much for your help! Even if you are not quite sure about your present idea it greatly helps me consider other options. Open Question: Why are black women at the bottom of the list when it comes to dating?Even other black guys don't want to date a black girl because of stupid stereotypes. My best friends who is asian never has a problem finding a boyfriend and he is usually black. She'll ask them if they like dating black girls, and they always say no. She'll ask why, and they'll say its because were to loud, ghetto, mean, and we always bring alot of drama. Im nothing like that at all but guys will never no because they don't ever give me a chance. I've never had a boyfriend, and any guy ive liked is usually only interested in girls of other races, or just want to be friends. Outside of that a couple of time there were white guys that wanted to date me, and I'd like them at first, but then I'd find out that they only like me because im black, and they like the stereo type which again im nothing like, so it never works out. It just get so frustrating. Anyone else with this issue? If anyone thinks im joking go on google and type in why are black women, and see what's there. Its just that im honestly nothing like these stereo types my friends make fun of me for not "acting black" and tell me to take lessons... which is sad because I don't believe in acting black i am who am. I love the color of my skin, but I hate that it keeps guys from wanting to get to know me ya know? does that make sense?? Open Question: what should i do about my boyfriend?towards the end of summer my boyfriend and i started having problems, nothing major i just wasnt treating him the best and then in october at the end, he said we needed to go on a break to figure out whether or not i really wanted to be with him..which i do, and then after a month we talked about it and he said he needs time away still cause hes a senior and he hasnt figured out college stuff and i understand that, but now its december and i just miss him so much :/ we barely talk and i havent seen him since october. i also think another reason is his friends, cause i know some of them are going off to the navy in the beginning of summer so im assuming he wants to spend his last year with them, but i dont see why he cant also just be with me. he told me he doesnt want to be broken up and that we wont be apart forever and how he still loves me he just needs time, but idk what to do. dont tell me to leave him because thats already what all my friend say, i love him too much though, we've been dating for 9 months..i cant just let go. but i've been so unhappy, i feel like im losing everyone close to me because im always in a unhappy mood. im hoping that on christmas i can talk to him and convince him to get back toge4ther with me, but what do i say? Open Question: why do people pick at their acne?what i've read is that it's sometimes a compulsive disorder that can be a result of anxiety, depression, etc. my boyfriend has acne, and by looking at it i can tell he picks it (there are scabs and sometimes theyre bleeding) but i never reeally see him doing it in front of me. but doesn't picking at your acne HURT? i know him and he isn't the type to have any anxiety or emotional problems to cause a compulsive picking at his acne. WHY do people pick at their acne, especially if it hurts? and why could it be that he doesn't do it in front of me? Open Question: i think i have anxiety problems?i'm 14. i've always been really uptight and nervous about everything, and since my mom passed away in may of this year i've gone downhill. i flip about everything and i find reasons to fight with my boyfriend out of nothing. i cry a lot over absolutely nothing, even if its not my "time of the month", and it gets even worse then. should i take anxiety pills? if so what name or brand? i've talked to my dad about it and he says if i really want them i can get them. also, i refuse to go to a counselor or anything. my brother went a few years back for anger problems and nothing has changed Open Question: What to expect when I go into a mental hospital?I'm checking myself in tomorrow. It's my first time. I'm going through a bunch of stuff, and I'm extremely mentally unstable. I've spent my day having anxiety and panic attacks, I'm depressed, and I've thought of different ways to end my life. I'm not going to follow through with it. I have a few mental disorders already, and I should be on meds but I'm not.. So, I was just wondering, how long will I be in there? I know it's not really that easy to say, but what can I expect? My ex boyfriend is in there, we just broke up 2 days ago..and the problems we have are what's causing us to check into this place. I know if they know this, we'll be completely separated, but will we even see each other anyway, if they don't know? How much interaction do you think we will get? What should I bring? I live in Pennsylvania, and Philhaven is where I'm going, if anyone knows of it. I know we should be separated at first. He also wants me to check in so I can get help, we can see each other, and try to work things out. Will the hospital work with me and let me see him? Open Question: Rude A** Boyfriend??? Or am I over-reacting?Ok so my boyfriend has always said "Come over anytime, you don't even need to call." I showed up there tonight with my over-night stuff because it isn't uncommon for me to spend the night there, even on a school night. I'm in University and had forgotten my backpack there earlier today so I figured since he's about 20 minutes from my place, I'd grab my over-night stuff and spend the night so I don't have to drive all the way back to my house. Waste of gas. When I got there, he looked surprised that I was there (I had been trying to call him for an hour and a half to 2 hours and no answer, plus I msg'd him saying since he wasn't answering I was giving him a heads up that I was on my way over because of my backpack and I was spending the night). ANyway, I get there and say I left my backpack there so he grabs it and gives it to me (he was playing halo when I got there). My cousin also lives there with him, so unless my cousin is a total dick too (which he isn't in any way, shape, or form), I would know if he was cheating. But that's not what this is about, I don't think he's cheating. Getting back to the story: I talked to my cousin for a couple seconds, literally, and sat down on the chair by the door and started unzipping my jacket. I mention that I brought my stuff to spend the night if that's ok and he sort of laughed under his breath in a way and then gave me a side-look like...are you serious? Or..even a look that seemed like "I can't believe you can just expect to spend the night." And so I said "Or not. If that's a problem. My place is probably closer to the train anyway (City transit)." Which it isn't because both the stops i drive to from my place and his place are relatively the same distance from where I spend the night. So I said bye to my cousin and opened the door, my boyfriend said see ya later and i said bye under my breath and f****** left. I sent him a text saying i think that's the rudest reaction anyone's ever given me..(I'm not a conceited person in any-way..i just think that for someone to straight up make you feel very unwelcome is very rude. especially from your boyfriend/girlfriend..like wtf??) Anyway. then I called him and he answered and I repeated the text msg and he said he was sorry he was just really really stoned (which I dont care about..and said that) but then he replied that he cares cuz he acts retarded when he's stoned..to which i said "DUH." But the kicker is he actually said "Before you got here, I was actually wondering when our next fight would be." WOW. ouch. And just for a little background info: we got into a fight about 3 weeks ago because he called me desperate to hang out with him alone when I picked him up and took him to my aunts house because she was gone for 3 weeks and I was watching her house and her kitten. And we got into a huge fight that night. I posted that before on here. Anyway, IS THIS TOTALLY RUDE??? Or am I just totally over-reacting??? Open Question: how to deal with bf/gf problems?My best friend is dating a guy I liked for a long time, she obviously doesn't like him that much and she would like to break up with him for another guy but she doesn't know how because he is really nice and hasn't made any mistakes. Meanwhile, her boyfriend really likes her and has no idea of the upcoming break-up. He's even going to get her a really special gift for christmas. Also, the other guy that my friend likes doesn't seem to be interested in her, and her boyfriend has never liked me. I know that my friend's boyfriend is going to be hurt and I feel so sorry for him. I can't tell him of the break up and I can't get my friend to change her mind. It's all so confusing and I have no idea what to do. Please help.... Open Question: can anyone help me out with a girl?I love this girl, she loves me too, I have known her for 2 years now but she has a boyfriend. Me and her are both stuck, she says she loves me more than him, but she doesn't know what to do, he has met her parents, him and her parents know each other very well, she couldn't break up with him for nothing tho, her parents would probably get mad and she doesn't want to hurt his feelings... =( i know this problem might sound stupid but i dont know what to do, i love her so much and i just dont know what to do =( Open Question: Am i doing something wrong for getting time away from boyfriend?So i am going through a tough time right now and my boyfriend is kinda supportive. Since i was really down i decided to write him an email of how i really feel.I shouldn't of wrote it because i probably scared him, with all my emotions and stuff.There are days when i feel he is lying to me and i though we decided to be honest.for example, he said he won't gamble yet he did it anyway. There are days where he just calls to vent and never asks about my day I just feel i need some time away from him to figure my problems out. Is that ok? More Recent Articles
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