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Open Question: i am 19, 20 next month is this a bad age to be pregnant? anyones thoughts plz? and more... Open Question: i am 19, 20 next month is this a bad age to be pregnant? anyones thoughts plz?just wondering a lot of people i went to school with had children very young from like 14.that is way too young! i dont want anyone to look at me and think look at that young lass! pregnant! ive been to college for two years and got ncfe in cabin crew, ncfe in ground crew,a btec national certificate in travel and tourism. im not able to follow the carea i went to college for has i have not got a driving licence from a past car acciendent that has left me panicy in cars, im hoping to do them now. i am currently a support worker, working with autistic children with chanllenging behaviours and learning difficulties. i have a NVQ level 3 in working with children and adults. i have all my relevant qualifications from school so i do not have a carea problem. i want to go on to uni for nursing/midwifrey with the nvq i have. ive wanted a baby for a long time now and at first my boyfriend wasn't bothered, but he is now. hes 24 weve been togther over 3 yrs. he has a good carea too, hes a scoffolder and hes been in the army for 3 yrs and has his class 1 and 2 driving licence. we would be happy with a baby round our home, i just dont want family and friends and others to judge me. :( Open Question: Should I try giving him an ultimatum or just break up with him?I've been in a relationship for a year and a half. I'm in love... but sometimes, I just don't think love is enough. He has talked a lot about getting married lately and I look at him and think "he's okay for a boyfriend, but definitely not good enough for a husband". I know that sounds mean, but it's through his choices (nothing inherent about him) that he becomes not good enough. Then I wonder to myself, if I don't think this guy is good enough to marry, but I love him, should I just leave now? It will only get harder to break up with him. PROS I love him I have a medical condition that makes me sick more often than most people, and he deals with that very well (sometimes it interferes with our plans) I'm completely comfortable around him I completely trust him not to cheat on me We live together, and he is very good at holding up his end of the chores etc. Easy to live with most of the time Went back to college and is graduating in April with a culinary degree, so he is trying to do something with his life and it is something he is passionate about. CONS Smokes cigarettes. He initially quit and then lied to me about it and started smoking again. Has two DUIs, one of which was from smoking pot and driving and he just got it in June. Wont have a license for another year because of his 2nd DUI, so I have to drive him around a lot and sometimes he just takes the car anyway which scares me. Has lied to me about smoking pot and claimed he was going to quit many times. I don't have anything against smoking pot but with all the trouble it has got him in legally I just don't think it is okay anymore. Earlier he has also lied to me about using heroin. Most of his friends aren't going anywhere in their lives (early to mid twenties, still living at home, some work some don't (nothing above $9 an hour if they do work), spend most of their disposable income on drugs or alcohol, can't hold up faithful relationships, and none go to college). This creates an environment where it is hard for him to be responsible and to stop abusing drugs. He has a short fuse and tends to get very upset about things like traffic or homework, sometimes to the point where it scares me or I just want to leave. He has become really insecure lately and continuously remarks that he thinks I am cheating on him, will cheat on him, or want to cheat on him. (I've never cheated and have no intention to). Aside from his short fuse, most of his problems are drug and alcohol related. Even a bit of his anger can be attributed to that. Now that I'm getting really fed up with it, I think that is what is making him insecure and making him think that I am going to cheat on him. He senses that I sometimes don't think the relationship is worth it and he will cuddle me and hold me and beg me to stay with him and tell me that nobody will ever love me like he will, yet he makes no attempt to change the behaviors that make me want to leave. I don't think I'm being unreasonable. He wants to marry me and have kids with me, and I love him, and it would break my heart to leave him. But I don't want to be the woman who someday has to explain to her 2 year old kid that daddy is in jail and won't be returning for some time. I don't want to have to be financially in a jam because of the various fines and court expenses he has with the law (He's had one possession charge and one DUI while we were together, and a few thousand in legal fees). I don't want to have to drive him around everywhere for the rest of my life because he is too irresponsible to have a license. So what would you do? Do you think it is worth it to give him an ultimatum? Or should I just leave? I'm really torn up... My pros are 6, Cons are 8, but are not necessarily weighted the same. Open Question: having problems in the bedroom?ok so stupid stupid question but hey its worth asking so ive been having alot of problems in the bedroom no matter how comfortable i am with my boyfriend or how many diferent things we try i just cant seem to feel that feeling i should be it is a huge huge effort for me to climax and when i do its usualy out of pure luck could i have a problem at all? is there anything i could do to help? and dont say foreplay or new positions we have tried it or counseling becuase i realy dont think i need counseling it seems to be the usual problem is it feels great at first and then after about 10 minuites the feeling fades and i just cant seem to get it back :/ oh and im 18 so sureley i should be raging with hormonal things and all that stuff Open Question: Try to figure this one out.?Another question, about the same guy. We'll just call him Zach. So after this certain thing happened, we stopped talking basically. And he acted like he hated me. Talked **** about me, didn't talk to me, etc. Well, there's this neighborhood in my town and it's where all the kids live, right? That's where he lives. And my best friend started dating this kid that lives in that neighborhood and he hangs out with Zach. We'll call her boyfriend, Jordan. Jordan and Zach recently started hanging out because they share a drug addiction. But that's not the problem here. And when that happened, Zach started im'ing me randomly, and texting me, or calling me. Like, Jordan called me when they were together and Zach said that he wanted to hang out and everything. So me and my best friend went to a friend's house in that neighborhood, and only Jordan was supposed to be there so they could hang out. But Zach ended up being there too. He kept trying to stick his hand down my pants and unbutton it and everything. But I kept saying no. And according to him, I embarrassed him, or teased him, or whatever. And later that night, he called me with Jordan and he said that he's sorry and he wants head, to ****, and to be friends. Then maybe more. And OF COURSE, I'm not going to give him head or **** him. How stupid would I be? I told him I didn't believe him, and he said "Well, **** it then." And hung up. I didn't talk to him on that Saturday. But then yesterday, Sunday, he im's me and says call Jordan because my friend had dumped him because she didn't like him like that. And he was pissed and started going off on me. So did Zach after that. Then Zach decides to tell me that he does care about me and he's sorry. So did Jordan. I believed Jordan because Jordan was like my best guy friend and I could go to him for everything. Zach was all like "Don't you miss how happy we were?" And everything. It kinda pulled at my heartstrings. I ended up believing him while we were texting and he said "W.e i was jk bye." And I asked him why he would do that to me. Then he's too big of a pussy to reply. Then I talked to Jordan on the phone and he said that he still cares about me, he doesn't know how to show it, and he's not the type of person to change. I'm just wondering why he always comes back. And why he can't just leave me alone. If he really cared, he wouldn't want to break my heart every time he talked to me. I just don't understand. Open Question: HELP LOVE PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!?so here is a guy nick i love him for 4years , he was my classmate, so all this time i feel that he liked me to, but he had girlfriends lots of them and all the time he was so kind and nice to me that i think, i know and i feel that he likes me 5moths ago we were to close with eachoter, then when i thought that in one or two days we could be together happy, he stopped writing to me, calling to me, i was SO mad that i didn't even call him or write him now i know that he has girlfriend who was his ex girlfriend, she loves him but from my bff who is his friend to told me that he doesn't loves her, and soon she thinks that they ll brake up also i have boyfriend because that i wonted to forget nick... and i don't know what to do :( please help me let me fight for the one i love or forget him for hurting my feelings so many times..? Open Question: Is it cheating to use other people's papers as research for my own?I'm in a bit of a time crunch, so I used other papers as research for mine. I used the papers exactly like I'd use an article. I cite direct quotes, and all the general ideas I used I put in my own words and cited as well. I didn't see a problem with it, but my boyfriend seems to think I should have a moral qualm. I didn't before, but him saying that makes me think maybe I should. Help! Open Question: Do most men love to look at and ''get into'' disgusting, i mean really degrading porn?I am not talking about curious looking as even women like to curiously look at porno if it is presented before them. Is there a difference between men who just look curiously out of sheer human nature and the men and or women who are into hard core buying up every dirty mag they can find and spending hours looking and using it as their sexual ''partner''? I like erotic art and reading. But disgusting abuse of women and girls makes me feel abused as a woman myself and i feel sick just seeing men use their bodies as just tools too which degrades them also. My ex boyfriend wasn't ''hot'' for me. When we had sex he was good but he didn't seem overly lustful for me as i was for him. I couldnt keep my hands off him. He professed love, devotion and he was very attentive otherwise. He said he wasn't very ''sexual'' yet i found a pile of dirty..i mean very dirty mags that a ''friend'' of his gave him. There were very young girls parading around in them which hurt my heart as he has a teenage daughter. He even said his sister did this and it was appalling to the family. Which is a good reason not to degrade yourself with this stuff when you actually see what all this does to a family and the people involved. When my daughter came to visit i spent most the time with her as she came far and i hadn't seen her for a long time. I missed him so much as we are (i thought), friends and we have fun together etc, and told him that, but when she (my daughter) left he told me i was just using him as a toy! I got really upset with that. Just because i dont keep him in my pocket or vise versa. . So why did he prefer them(pictures) to me? I am a lively sexy, attractive passionate woman who wanted him and satisfied him but he would put off seeing me and and when i found these mags i ended it because if he found this crap more stimulating than flesh and blood then i need to find me a real man. He felt ashamed and told me that his friend gave them to him. He had told me he had binned them. He hadn't. I told him if someone puts shit in your hand do you eat it? Now remember, i am not a prude because i look at ''stuff'' too out to curiousity but i don't buy it, or use it as i have, or had, a live man to satisfy me and to think of and love. What is this about? What is the real physcology of this kind of behavior? I think this speaks of a deep problem. What are your thoughts, men and women. thanks. So it is better to play with yourself and look at perfect models than be with a willng, passionate, and attractive woman who is there for you? Well. If that is what most men want i guess i can see why women become lesbians. Not that i will but i can understand where they get their frustration from. I notice Newcastle Gal that you mention your ....EX....boyfriend was hardcore porno lover. Hmmm. I think too much porno and hardcore porno make men too de sensitized to real sex with a real woman and makes it less than what it could be. What happened to flesh on flesh and love and romance? Men love to look...i am here to be looked at. So? what is the problem? Should he get himself a harem like the Arabians? Is porno an artificial harem? Well. Then i will start looking at hard core naked men and talk lustfully and stare at other guys and let us see how the men would react. I feel like that but i have manners and intellect and an imagination. I as a woman feel the same as men. i like pictures too but i don't get addicted as i have a real man to fulfill my desires. Maybe i am missing something by not being promiscuis with my eyes, thoughts and body....with other men. Boys will be boys..right...lets see how men like it if their womenfolk act like them. We women do feel the same way as the men...maybe i will put photos up of hunks and have a supply of ''perfect'' guys by my bed. Open Question: Is it true that most men love to look and use disgusting porno?I am not talking about curious looking as even women like to curiously look at porno if it is presented before them. Is there a difference between men who just look curiously out of sheer human nature and the men and or women who are into hard core buying up every dirty mag they can find and spending hours looking and using it as their sexual ''partner''? I like erotic art and reading. But disgusting abuse of women and girls makes me feel abused as a woman myself and i feel sick just seeing men use their bodies as just tools too which degrades them also. My ex boyfriend wasn't ''hot'' for me. When we had sex he was good but he didn't seem overly lustful for me as i was for him. I couldnt keep my hands off him. He professed love, devotion and he was very attentive otherwise. He said he wasn't very ''sexual'' yet i found a pile of dirty..i mean very dirty mags that a ''friend'' of his gave him. There were very young girls parading around in them which hurt my heart as he has a teenage daughter. He even said his sister did this and it was appalling to the family. Which is a good reason not to degrade yourself with this stuff when you actually see what all this does to a family and the people involved. When my daughter came to visit i spent most the time with her as she came far and i hadn't seen her for a long time. I missed him so much as we are (i thought), friends and we have fun together etc, and told him that, but when she (my daughter) left he told me i was just using him as a toy! I got really upset with that. Just because i dont keep him in my pocket or vise versa. . So why did he prefer them(pictures) to me? I am a lively sexy, attractive passionate woman who wanted him and satisfied him but he would put off seeing me and and when i found these mags i ended it because if he found this crap more stimulating than flesh and blood then i need to find me a real man. He felt ashamed and told me that his friend gave them to him. He had told me he had binned them. He hadn't. I told him if someone puts shit in your hand do you eat it? Now remember, i am not a prude because i look at ''stuff'' too out to curiousity but i don't buy it, or use it as i have, or had, a live man to satisfy me and to think of and love. What is this about? What is the real physcology of this kind of behavior? I think this speaks of a deep problem. What are your thoughts, men and women. thanks. What i am worried about is that he is more into porn than having sex with me! Isn't there something wrong with that? If you think there isn't than there is no hope. I have cried as he would rather read than have sex yet he hides porno and would rather get excited over pictures than a live woman who is quiet willing and available???? More Recent Articles
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