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Open Question: How to get my boyfriend to stop talking about marriage? and more... Open Question: How to get my boyfriend to stop talking about marriage?So I'm with my boyfriend for 3 months... we get along great. Fantastically, actually, and I am very happy. The problem is that I am only 17 and he is obsessed with the idea of marrying me. He is 23, but it is not as creepy as it sounds. I have had to do a lot of growing up the past few years because I dropped out of high school for personal problems, and we met through friends. Anyway, he is very afraid that I am going to leave him (since I am so young and haven't even started my life) so I think he wants a ring on my finger to keep me. I don't have any plans on leaving him... it would be very nice if things did work out, but realistically, I can't tell the future. He constantly asks if I am going to marry him... how can I get this to stop without hurting his feelings? In my dreams I would love for it to happen someday, maybe when I'm out of college. But he is so sensitive. :( advice? Open Question: Am I in charge of paying for the Bridesmaids dress?My boyfriend asked me to married him over the weekend:) of course i said yes! Now were are planing the wedding! Now the only problem is we can't ford the dresses for my 6 bridesmaids:( So I asked them can they pay for it one of them said that they can but the rest yell at me saying that they bride posed to pay for them! But i can't ford them so what should i do!!!! Thanks thats what i thought:) I have never heard it eaither were the bride had pay for the Maids dress. I am in the Us. Even if we cut down to 3 brides maids we will still not be able to ford it:( Even it was just oen person:( The only reason why we are having a wedding is because its pay for all ready we just have to pay for the food dress and flowers:) Open Question: My feelings are so hurt, I feel so bad about myself, How do I move on?I was involved with this guy for a few months, and I'm stressed out I can hardly sleep.I just found out that this guy I was involved with, flew out out of town to see another woman or visit her shall I say, i text messaged him from a different number and we were texting back and forth, and stuff, and hes asking me what am I doing for the day, and eveything, he thinks that I am somebody from a bar he met, but I just think its weird that he would fly out to see someone , he told me about this girl, that she was his close friend, and that she would always call him about her boyfriend problems, so he flew to the east coast to visit yet he was on the phone with me, plus on top of that he treats me bad, he doesnt want to take me out, does not want to talk or have a nice conversation, he basically told me sex is all I will get and all I deserve, and he also told me that if he was nice and stuff to me I would not respect him and he wanted me to come over a few hours, but I never can stay all night, and he was making breakfast and I told him "Oh I'm hungry, I'm on my way" and hes like "Well there maybe none left by the time you get here" but yet on the flip side he prank calls my phone and job phone as well..and I just notice that these are the type of guys I always tend to get involved with, guys who do not want a relationship with me, or date me, or take me out,...I always get used and hurt for some reason.. I feel like I'm not good enough, or unattractive, what gives??I thought I had all this figured out,..I was celibate for four years, and I broke my celibacy for someone who could care less about me. and its been over five years since I ve had a REAL fulfilling relationship.I feel so so bad now..and the thing is that I still have feelings for this guy..what do I do?? Open Question: Married bi-guy question ?OK, so to ask this I'm going to have to give ya'll a bit of our history, so this might be a bit long. But I would really value some opinions and I am not comfortable discussing this with my friends. I am a woman in a stable 10-year relationship with a man. Our love is as strong as ever and we see ech other being together for a long time. I have always known that he had sex (no penetration) with a man before we were together. They weren't a couple, because they both considered themselves straight (horny) unattached guys. But it was a steady on-off thing for several years; when they were both single, they did sexual stuff regularly. I have had suspicions (which were later confirmed) on who this mystery man is. One of my friends (girl) started going out with his ex-flat-mate. He is a very funny, relaxed, flirty-touchy people person. She is very straight-laced, had a strict upbringing plus she is a devout Catholic. They were married two years ago. A while before that, she learned he'd had sex with a man when he was younger and she almost left him. She eventually accepted him back saying he must have grown out of it !? Last week, my boyfriend had a serious talk with me after having something bug him for a few days. He confirmed that his friend had been his partner (Yes ! I knew it !!!) But what troubled him is that after joking about it for a few months, he seriously told my boyfriend that he would like them to get together ''like old times''. It seems he is unhappy in his marriage, his wife is super-jealous and controlling, also he isn't ''getting any''. My boyfriend turned him down. When I asked him if he missed the sex, he said ''I wouldn't ever do something like that to you''. (Which is neither yes or no) Finally, after skittering around lots, he admitted that he did, sometimes. Don't get me wrong, we have great, satisfying sex. He just said it was different somehow. (Uh yeah, I'm not a dude..) So, here are my two questions. First off, I've been wondering about giving him the OK to have sex with this guy. Not any other man, and certainly not a woman. But I know both of them, I know their relationship. I also don't want this to grow on him until he eventually craves some other guy or lies to me and has affairs. I'd much rather he had man-on-man once in a while, with my consent than for him to go behind my back or let it fester. I am not really worried about their relationship suddenly making them gay and losing my boyfriend. I trust him, and our love and I figure if they wanted to be a couple, they had ample oppurtunity back when they were living together and having sex ! So, what do you think of that idea ? Would I cause problems or prevent some further down the line ? (My husband didn't ask for this, it's only me. But I know him well enough to tell that he really does want it, even if his love for me holds him back. And I want him to be happy.) Am I too permissive or maybe just weird to think of offering this? My second question is what to do about our friends, particularly the girl who is a good friend. (Not extra-close, but we've known each other a long time) If my boyfriend was unfaithful, I sure would want someone to tell me ! But if I do, it will CERTAINLY break their marriage, especially if it's with a man (ultimate sin alert !!!) And if I do decide that I want my boyfriend to be happy and fulfilled, even if that means occasional gay sex, well then I am facilitating her husband cheating... So, I'm pretty confused right now. What would you suggest ? We are engaged, hence the boyfriend/husband slip... I have rarely seen a troll who wrote such long and not-provoking questions LOL Open Question: I get treated so bad by guys whats wrong with me??I dont understand?I was involved with this guy for a few months, and I'm stressed out I can hardly sleep.I just found out that this guy I was involved with, flew out out of town to see another woman or visit her shall I say, i text messaged him from a different number and we were texting back and forth, and stuff, and hes asking me what am I doing for the day, and eveything, he thinks that I am somebody from a bar he met, but I just think its weird that he would fly out to see someone , he told me about this girl, that she was his close friend, and that she would always call him about her boyfriend problems, so he flew to the east coast to visit yet he was on the phone with me, plus on top of that he treats me bad, he doesnt want to take me out, does not want to talk or have a nice conversation, he basically told me sex is all I will get and all I deserve, and he also told me that if he was nice and stuff to me I would not respect him and he wanted me to come over a few hours, but I never can stay all night, and he was making breakfast and I told him "Oh I'm hungry, I'm on my way" and hes like "Well there maybe none left by the time you get here" but yet on the flip side he prank calls my phone and job phone as well..and I just notice that these are the type of guys I always tend to get involved with, guys who do not want a relationship with me, or date me, or take me out,...I always get used and hurt for some reason.. I feel like I'm not good enough, or unattractive, what gives??I thought I had all this figured out,..I was celibate for four years, and I broke my celibacy for someone who could care less about me. and its been over five years since I ve had a REAL fulfilling relationship.I feel so so bad now..and the thing is that I still have feelings for this guy..what do I do?? Open Question: Can someone help me, boy problem!!?long story short i was suppose to go out with this guy went away for seven weeks came home with a boy friend broke his heart he got a girlfriend we both broke up with our boyfriends or girlfriend in his case and i want himn back but i dont know how i can win his trust back... in need help and he always like flirst wih me when im by him alone just not with his stupid friends...help please! Open Question: How to solve this failing love?I've been with my boyfriend for little over 3 years. For the 2 years everything seemed perfect. He was an amazing person, always thought about me, buys me a rose and/or a card if i was sick or just to tell me that he loves me, and etc. He was my best friend and could always count on him. I'm a romantic person so everytime I got a little bit on money, I would spend it on him. But for the past year everything has changed. He never seems to think about me and puts everything else before me. He'll break plans with me. I had to have surgery (wasn't a serious surgery but I'm absolutely terrify of surgery) and he promise me he'll be there for me no matter what. We ended up in a fight the day before because he broke plans with me. He never showed up for my surgery or when I was home after being released from the hospital. He told me that I didn't deserve him there. Months later, I lost our child after only 2 weeks and he wasn't there for me. He told me that he was with his friends. I love him more than anything and he says he loves me too. I know all our past fights have been my fault because he has changed so much that he has turned into a guy who I could never date. I feel as if I'm trying to turn him back into the guy who I fell in love with. He used to be my best friend but now he laughs or gets mad when I tell him how I feel. He's so disrespectful to me about my feelings now. If he does something to hurt my feelings I simply tell him and he gets really defensive. We are complete opposites too. He's the type who is never wrong and has a problem admitting when he was wrong. I'm on the other hand nothing like that. I'm not always right and I have no problem saying I'm sorry. He says I always tell him what he does that make/ made my feelings hurt and he says that in a negative way and calls me stupid. I dont mean to sound nagging when I do it if I do but I tell him when he hurts my feelings so that he know and that maybe he wont do it again. That never seems to work. He used to NEVER be like this. I dont understand why. He is so spoiled because of me. I spoiled him because he lost his parents after his first bday and had to raise himself so he had nothing. He's not so ungrateful towards everything that I do. I tried the whole stop spoiling thing but it doesnt make him anymore grateful about anything.I just want to get that flame back that we once had. He always tells me hes going to work on things but never does. Since he's not willing to work on our broken relationship how should I try to do it? I'm not willing to give up 3 years because I have tried and could never stand to be without him. Open Question: Is it normal for me to feel this kind of attraction?I recently reconnected with someone from school through facebook. We never talked much until recently but ended up having nearly everything in common. We like the same music, the same books, the same movies, have the same views about society, and both like to throw cheesy classic romance movie comments at each other. She's also really beautiful. Think of her as having that classic hollywood glamour look. A guy like me could really fall hard for someone like her if he wasn't the careful type. :D In short, she's exciting me, but that's not the entirety of the story. She has an unstable history with her father because he's incredibly abusive. She has also had an abusive boyfriend for the past five years. It's made her really unstable emotionally and she's gotten to the point where she tried to commit suicide. She hasn't told anyone about this but me because our rapport is so strong. I don't know why our rapport was so strong, but it was. Despite her instability, my impulse is to help her. Her vulnerability has made her more human to me and her needing me has made me feel like I am even more attracted to her. Every time she calls me with a problem about her dad or her crazy ex boyfriend, I just want to hold onto her and tell her everything is going to be all right. I'm taking her out to dinner when I finally get to see her again. Is it weird or wrong to want to be around her more when she has these problems? Thanks for the info everyone. I just can't seem to shake this need to help! Open Question: Boyfriend is a virgin, I'm not?Well yeah. We're are both 15 and I'm pretty much his first girlfriend. Its been about 3 months and yeah I know its not that long but I was thinking about getting intimate or something. I don't mean like 'all the way' but I hope you get what I mean. He's a virgin but I'm not. He knows but has no problem with it. Well I want to make a move but he's kind of shy and I don't want him to feel like I'm rushing but he sometimes tries to put sex in our conversations when he gets the chance. I'm not sure if he wants to yet but I don't know. I need help. xD Open Question: depressed please help ? 15..16 in july?does anyone have an aim that i could IM you on. or the mail from yahoo that i could email you. here's my problem my boyfriend of four years recently just wants to sleep all the time and only wakes up to say he's going to take another nap and sleeps the rest of the day I hardly talk to him anymore. Today he asked me if i wanted to see him i'm like yes i do can i ? he said yes and i was like okay. so then we was on the phone a few min later he started ignoring me so i got mad then he just told me forget it i'm going back to bed. so that made me more mad and he said that your not going to see me if you keep running your mouth, which i wasn't. Anyhow i got mad about that and he just told me that he would break up with me if i said one more thing. and i'm mad because i haven't seen him in two weeks he wants to ask for me to see him then go back to bed and threaten me about breaking up with me. So i just hung up ever since then he's been ignoring me won't answer calls or reply to text. I'm fed up. I love him but I just don't know what to do. I may be young but I do know what love is and I do know i love him. Can someone help me with what to do or please. I'm still crying More Recent Articles
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