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Open Question: how to express myself emotionally/deal with anger? and more... Open Question: how to express myself emotionally/deal with anger?I'm female teenager with rampaging hormones that can make me go from hyperactive to suicidal three times before breakfast. my main problem is that when i bottle my emotions, the main one that shines through is anger. There are many times when i just feel the need to have a shouting session with someone just to get rid of the emotions. For example, earlier today i nearly broke my knuckles punching a wall because i was pissed off and it was like the red haze had descended. i really need an outlet for my emotions but i don't know how. I can't afford to go to a gym/martial arts to beat the stuffing out of a mannakin but i need to learn some control. I'm a fairly active person and I am good with my fists already which scares me because although it comes in handy fighting with my brother/cousins/uncle, i don't want to accidently hurt one of my friends if i lash out in anger. what can i do? also another emotion i feel at the minute is loneliness. one of my bestfriends has found herself a pretty serious boyfriend but we never get to see her anymore. this just adds to the random bouts of lonliness and guilt that i often feel. Right now, i just wanna cry, and i don't even know why, other than i feel all alone. Any help is much appreciated. Thank you Open Question: Is my boyfriend of 3yrs. cheating?i have been with this amazing guy 4 about 3yrs. now. when we first started dating everything was great! we didnt fight, question eachother, nothing....recently (in the last year and a half ) he has started acting funny. he has been lieing to me about everything imaginable-even the stupidest stuff. we have had problems recently because of a girl who he said was "just a friend". now he says he hardley ever talks to her. he half the time dont tell me where he is going or what he is doing and when i catch him starting to lie about something its my fault. and the other day i saw in his email that he joined an free online dating service?!?!?! i love him to death and would do anything for him but he seems to take me for granted sometimes. we have talked about getting married and maybe someday having kids and getting a house but now he hardley ever says he loves me!.....what do i do? Open Question: I dumped him, Was i wrong?I broke up with my boyfriend of a little over a year, because through out that year we have been having the same problem. I would tell him something and he would ignore me, or say he heard me but really didnt. Yesterday, I told him to call me before he went to the bank today and that it was really important. He waited until after he went to the bank to call me. Im really tired of what i say going in one ear and out the other. So i broke up with him, this is the third time we have had this convo about him doing the opposite of what I said. Was I too harsh? Open Question: Literally flat-chested... and I'm almost 16? :S?Hi. I know there's loads of questions like this, about teenage girls saying they're "flat chested" when they're just not quite as busty as they'd like to be... thing is, I'm almost 16 and I've never started developing a chest. I have absolutely no breast tissue whatsover... when I say I'm flat I mean 180 degrees = flat. I haven't started my period yet, and I'm generally quite thin. I eat the right amount though, and as far as I know I'm fairly healthy. My Mum's side of the family have never been very well endowed in the chest department, but my Mum was wearing a bra by the time she was 14 which is more than I can say. I survived the whole of Year 9 by shoving socks down a bra. It was horrid, and sounds pretty pathetic, I know. Now though, I've invested in those gel pads which are working a treat to be honest. But I have really low self-esteem when it comes to my body image... I dread to think what my friends would say if they found out that I look like an 8 year old boy underneath my top - and I can sense their curiosity about why I always wear a vest top when I'm getting changed for PE. I don't know anyone else who is LITERALLY flat chested. Sure, I know people with small boobs, but I would kill a BIT of boob-ness, no matter what size. I try not to get depressed about it but I can't help wondering what it's going to be like when I get a boyfriend, and how I'll always feel really self-conscious. I really really really want an operation. It's not so I can be blown up like a balloon, or so boys would look at me, or anything really vain like that. It's just so I can wear proper tops, proper swim-suits... and bras that aren't full of jelly! Does anyone know if I'd qualify for an op on the NHS when I'm 18, if I'm still completely un-developed? I heard that they did. If not, I'll probably get one done private anyway because I just can't stand being like this forever. Or is there any chance that I will have boobs naturally at some point, however small? Is there anyone else that's going through the same problem? Thank you for reading my rant :) Open Question: Itching all over is it stress bumps or what please help someone????Lately Ive been really stressed. I have a 3week old baby. Besides that me and my mom have been arguing terribly becuz of my boyfriend/ child's father. She doesn't want me to let him see her or be with him at all. We plan on moving out in January but right now we dont have the money. So My mom has been doing everything in her power to make sure that my life is hard from not being able to drive my car (in my name) until she says (20th) to just aanythingI do is a problem. All of this has been taking a big toll on my body. Tension headaches everyday, fevers and lately i have been itching all over my body like crazy (arms, legs, face etc,). Its like little bumps appear when I scratch. I thought it was hives because i have been stressing but I went to buy some benadryl and took but it still wont work. The problem is if it is stress I cant get out of it until I move. Could someone please tell me why I am itching sooo bad like what it may be and what to do?????? €Help Open Question: What should i do i have a problem?i want to go to my second dance because my boyfriend who i met last dance is going to be there. and my friend my bowling friend who i rarely see is having a bday party at logans but i barely no her friends who will be there. idk wat i should do i really want to go to the dance tho. Open Question: Boyfriend leaving me to go on a gap year :( anyone been in this situation?Heres the problem, my boyfriend of a year and a half who i'm really in love with is going on a gap year to thailand for a year :( he's going at the start of january and I don't know what I'll do without him :( I can't go because of college and cost and everything. Has this happened to anyone? Do u think it would be a good idea to go out and visit him or would I just be upsetting myself? Open Question: Is it wrong that I don't want a boyfriend?All of my friends have boyfriends, except for me. I always feel awkward because I don't have one and it makes me feel a bit out of the group, and they are always kissing so it makes things even more awkward, sometimes they are all kissing and I'm just standing there and they always come to me for help with there relationsihp and Im the only one who has no one. And I don't want a boyfriend, because I d onot see the point, I'm only 15, I don't think I need one, and I don't want the stress of one, but then I see how happy they are with each other and I want that so I don't know if I am wrong. Another problem with me is that I seem to be "too childish" as people say. I am very sprightly, and I love people. But I tend to also be very seruious about certain subject matters and morbid and dark..... so I am at complete opposite sides of the spectrum at once. And some friends say that no guy is going to ever like me if I am like tha,t and I am not willing to change myself for a guy. So is it wrong that I am picky with the types of guys that I like? Is it hypsocritical that I want a boyfriend and don't all at once? Open Question: Would you be happy if you found out that your girlfriend/wife had never been with anyone before you?And she's 22 years old and very pretty. Hasn't done anything past making out. I've know her for years before we got together and she really is a virgin but has had plenty of offers. She just didn't want a boyfriend before, she said. She wants to wait until she is pretty sure she is with the right guy. Will this be a problem that she hasn't had any relationships before or dated? What do you think? Would you be worried that since she hasn't done much with other guys, that she's a prude? Open Question: Help?! is he upset? or idk.....GUYS!?Well, heres the convo. Dylan is my boyfriend. & we were playing truth or dare. By the way, i'm 15 & he's 16 Dylan: What size are your boobs? Me:34B Dylan: Really....? I thought you were 34C Me: Nope, Sorry babe Then he didnt reply for 30 minutes.. so then this... Me: That isnt a problem.. is it? [[20 minutes later]]Dylan: no. Me: Kayy. What are you thinking about? [[15 minutes later]] Dylan: Christmas and you Me: what about christmas && me? Then no reply. what should i do?! Its been 3 hours since i last heard from him. & Normally if he's busy, He'll send a quick text & say "busy, sorry. i love u" This was over TEXT, not in person! Open Question: Why doessss my boyfriend get so madd soo fasttttt ?My boyfriend of 1 year and a couple of months is really mean to me, he's very mean to me he constantly gets mad for small things like today he forgot to call me and I asked him "why didn't you call me, every morning you wake me up and today you didn't, please next time remember to call me". Than he blew up in my face and said"Wtf now your pissing me off you f****** make me mad" And than i got a little louder but I didn't curse like he did i said " listen i wasn't yelling at you if i wanted to yell i can but im not fighting with you so stop yelling please" and he said " oh your ******* dirty piece of s*** f**** you bye" and than he hung up but this isn't even the first time he's fought with me like this for 6 months he's called me every horriable hurtful name in the book, i cry everyday he's even made alot of scenes in my house that my family don't like him they tell me that im crazy i can get anyone i want and that im settling for less and even his sister once told me "my brothers stupid, he gets mad at you for no reason i always yell at him for that " and the other sister too yells at him for getting so angrey. Just recently we were at my friends house that i havent seen for a long time and she only remembers him faintly and he mad himself seem like a nice guy and than I was writing something for my friend on her myspace to HER ex boyfriend because he was saying something to her and she didn't know what to say and i came in and thought he would have understood and he said under his breath "f*** you, you piece of s****" and when i asked him why did you get so mad he said "because you f****** talk to guys" even though i showed him her ex bf which he knows who he is and im writing under her name as her so the ex doesnt know its me he still got mad. So my friend wont hold back from anyone she got loud with him and said whats your problem shes doing me a favor cause i needed help on what to say and he said " she's still talking to a guys idc if its your ex" and he was talking all his crap to her about everything and she said let her say something and i started to speak and than he spoke over me and i said let me speak please and he told me infront of my firned "stfu before i throw you out on your a**" and my friend goes "this is my house the one who will be thrown out on there a** is you" and he shut up and we talked and he was fine but every time i mention that im gunna buy him something or we have sex he's really nice it seems and i lost it to him...he's not even making an effort to get a good job or go back to school just something. Sometimes he even jokes with me bad that i cry he told me once "if you were in a line with all the girls in the world i wouldn't pick you" than he told me he was joking. This is when we first started going out he asked if my friend was a virgin and this was before we did anything and i said yes cause she was in flordia and he said "oh tell her to come down here and he winked and was smiling" and he said he was joking and i was crying so much and than just the other day he looked at an actress on tv and said when i have sex with you i think about her i was hurt im broken hearted i never felt so put down and when were around other girls that arent my friend and are his friends he talks to them and treats them so nice he makes them laugh but to me and my friends he has something mean to say about them. When we first went out in the 4 months he was soooo nice he treated me like a princess which i know everygirl needs to be treated like he used to cry for me back when we had arguments and he always tells me he's gunna change and he's sorry for evrything and he wont get mad anymore but less than 24 hours he usually does for something stupid. I know im in an emotionally abusive relationship. I love him he was once nice to me :' ( i fell in love with him he's the first one i loved i know he's the wrong guy to fall in love with but i did and i would love for him to change is he bipolar ? idk but i wish he was a better guy but i need help can someone tell me what i should do please ? thank you <3 Open Question: Did I do the RIGHT thing?I'm gonna change names, just to let you know (: Okay, my friend Melissa just started going out with her best friend John. Everything was going good with them, except this week. They've been having a ton of problems, and Melissa wanted to break-up with him, but she didn't. Then I saw her boyfriend holding hands with another one of my friends. I was going to stay out of things, since it's not technically my buisness, but I told Melissa what I saw, cause I'm an idiot. Did I do the right thing by telling her? I know I would want to know if I saw my boyfriend holding hands with another girl. But, I feel like I made things even worse between Melissa and John. Ugh. HELP! Open Question: Is he the one for me, or am I the Idiot?I'm having a hard time with my relationship.. Please.. I need Advice.. Here's the story.. You can also check my blog on my profile.. The Broken Relationship..? If you're reading this it means you've become interested in me or my problem..Well.. I'll tell you this much, I'm NOT a good story teller and this is NOT a story.This is my life.. my love.. as of now..I am seeking advice on whether the person I'm with is right for me, or if I'm doing something wrong in this relationship. The Gist Of It.... I've been with my boyfriend for several months now and I AM in love with him. There is no doubt in my mind about that. I would give my life for his happiness and every day I think of him and how much he means to me.The problem is.. I don't understand him.I'm not a social person, I don't really understand people, especially men. So, guys, this is where I need your help.. Everyday if I'm not with him, doing something with him, or talking to him, I don't want to do anything at all. I feel like my life would have no meaning if he wasn't in it. I give up all of my free time to be with him (willingly and because I want to and I ENJOY being with him every hour of every day). I do whatever I can do that will make him happy, and I make sure I do my best to keep him from getting upset. I am always by his side when he needs me.. Always and I tell him I love him and mean it every time. But of course, I'm not perfect; I do things that make him mad, or that I shouldn't do, but I won't go into detail on that, just know that I try my best to make him happy and to be the most dedicated girlfriend I can be. Men.. this is where I need your help. I don't know if many of you took the time to read this, but I honestly don't understand you guys. My boyfriend.. my love.. does things that make me upset, but I don't think he does it intentionally or even if I should be bothered by it.. but here's what he does.. Whenever I'm busy doing something, even if it'll only take a few minutes, he does off to play his games or be with his friend.. Sometimes when I'm crying and need him the most, he doesn't wanna deal with it and leaves.. Even when I'm doing nothing and have free time, sometimes he decides he'd rather be doing something else with someone else.. He doesn't do for me what I do for him.. I don't really know if this means anything or if it's just how he is.. but trust me.. he does a World of good, too.. Here's the point.. Guys, I want to know if you think he really loves me as much as I love him, or if it's something else. I want to know why he does what he does and if he cares about how it would make me feel. Put yourself in his position.. If YOU were deeply in love with someone would you do what he does? If not, what WOULD you do? Do you think I'm a bad girlfriend? Or do I just judge him wrong? I need advice.. I love him and I don't want this to end.. Much Love, "The Anonymous" I added this to clear some things up.. I don't have sex with him. I know that's gonna raise some questions in itself so I'll clear it up now. He is very religious and doesn't go around sleeping with women. And NO he is not cheating on me, I know that for a fact. Also, the question was mainly for guys because I just don't understand men, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't like answers from chicks, too.. Any advice would help me out a lot.. Open Question: Should i kill myself over this Part 1 of 3?I was a loner for 13 years. Never once had anyone ever appealed to me. Then one day after a soccer game in my gym class in 7th grade this girl approached me and said that I played hard out there in a flirt-like way. I was confused I didn't think she knew who she was dealing with because I've been known as a guy with anger problems and a loner. We talked a lot after that and became friends. We'd flirt in the back of the science class because we had already understood the material and we were just having fun. Although it took me 4 months to figure out I liked her, but by then it was too late. She was already dating someone else who I wouldn't know until over a year later that he cut her while they were dating. They dated for a year while I was just messing around cracking jokes having fun and all. We even played poker on the last day of school and I pulled a Royal Flush on her. We laughed said bye and we hoped that we had more classes together the next year. Over the summer something happened to me but I became not the happy go lucky I don't give a shit guy I used to be. I became a demon from hell. Listening to Death Metal was something I started to do a lot. I guess it corrupted me. The next year she didn't hang around me as much anymore. It was as if she was partially avoiding me. I started to feel internal suffering. A suffering so great it brought tears to my eyes for the first time in 8 years. The last time was when I tripped and cracked my head open on a metal scooter. I started to realize something when I ran everything through my head. The pain ceased when the thought of that I was in love with her crossed my mind. But after a while it wasn't enough. I really knew that this was the girl for me. After years of confusion and wonder, this was the one. Later that day I spilled everything to her. What confused the hell out of me was that she said that she has already known. I asked for how long. She said for an entire year. Almost three times a week afterwards I would tell her I love you. I'm not sure but after two months of this is when she started to back off a little. We shared lunch that year and she was always concerned that I no longer ate lunch. She would always blame the fact that she's Italian, but that doesn't seem right to me. What always was paining me was that she basically talked about her ex-boyfriends or her current one. That annoyed me. She knew I loved her but she didn't seem to care. Soon after, I spiraled into a depression that would last about a year. I would ask her every now and then if she loved me. I made it clear that it would be fine if she didn't because I wouldn't kill myself, I'd just back off. I said this because I got the feeling that I may have gotten over-attached to her for not being her bf. She wouldn't tell me. She also does the weirdest shit ever and still watches shows that I have never watched but I knew they were for four year olds. Her favorite TV show is Little Bill, ok. Other than over little things, she's indecisive. Occasionally she will argue with herself over something that the answer is obvious to but she does it anyway. I've wondered if she loves me every single day since I knew that I was in love with her. Soon after a few weeks of the only topic she talked about was her bf and at the same time every now and then when I was noticeably depressed she would "tease" me in a way that messes with me, I went suicidal. She even does that to this day, messes with me that there's still hope for me. I have no idea whether or not she would even date me, although judging by the fact that she has to have a bf every second practically, I think that she would. I'm still unsure. I told her that was unsure of my will to live and she got pissed off as hell. She said, "FUCKING HELL NO YOU DON'T! You're not killing yourself I'm not letting you I'll find you a reason to live." Open Question: how to communicate with people?hi, Im at college and iam studying fashion iam having a trouble time and got a problem to speak we got 18 girls in our classroom, and i dont really speak to them seriously i just smile or just say little things you know like i like ur top and they ok, and they dont talk to me either i don't know why may be they just think i am boring , .. i hate my self when i dont speak to them they only talk about they bf dumped them or talking behind peoples back all of them do that ... and iam not interested talking behind peoples back, they also hang out like clubbing together i dont like clubbing its the thing and i dont have a boyfriend... i just want talk to them like they talk to each other, i want to get in to their group u know and know them better what do you guys think what should i do, to improve myself tomorrow by talking how should i start talking to them? and they wil talk back with good answers? any help, please please More Recent Articles |
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