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Open Question: How do I get rid of acne scars? Is this why this guy dumped me? and more... Open Question: How do I get rid of acne scars? Is this why this guy dumped me?I was very early to develop... and I had severe acne when I was about ten. The acne is gone now but, nearly twenty years later, my face is horribly scarred... and it´s making me sad lately. I worry that I´ll never be happy. My face is literally disfigured... makeup helps a little, but I don´t want to wear something over it... I long for soft skin of my own, just like everyone else. I worry no one will ever be interested in me because of my face. There ARE things in my life that bring me joy, and I try to accept that I will probably never have a boyfriend... but then I see things that remind me of how much I wanted one and I feel sad all over again. A few years ago, this guy really let me down... a guy in college I really liked and I believed that he liked me back... in spite of my face he acted like he really liked me. he was everything I wanted in a bf... handsome, Mexican, loving and musical. (I went to uni in mexico and loved it) Things didn´t work out with him, and he found another girl and fell for her. She´s a tramp and a slut and she spoiled everything before me, but I just know he dumped me for her because I have an ugly, scarred face. When there are so many people who look perfect, why would anyone want me? So anyway, I´m going to school in Spain now. I´ve always dreamed of going to spain and I decided to come here to not only to study but because it would heal my broken heart. I´ve moved on from this guy in Mexico, and I LOVE it here in Spain... it´s the best country in the world and i feel so luck to be here... but the bad thing is that Spain is for couples. I go out and everyone is walking around hand in hand with their bf or gf... and I start missing the guy from Mexico and wishing he could be here. I wonder if he would have abandoned me if my face weren´t horribly scarred, like it is. I´m not depressed but I do feel sad because seeing all these couples makes me wish that I could have my bf back again... and I think of my looks and realize he would never take me back. He was wrong to abandon me but I realize why he did it, because my face is so horribly scarred... I went to a dermatologist in the USA in search of a treatment for my scars, but she was a stupid bitch and not the least bit helpful, and acted really unsympathetic... she just said coldly there wasn´t much to be done... I am facing the real possibility of being single the rest of my life because of this problem. Anyway, I am so sick and tired of looking at these scars... and feeling undesirable. I wonder if anyone knows of ANYTHING that can be done to get rid of them? I may get flack for being shallow but I want so badly to be pretty. If there were some treatment that could fix my face, what do i do about this guy? I´ve moved on with my life but I still have this void and would like to have a bf. If my face did somehow get cured, I would be attractive enough to have a boyfriend... The thing is, I´m going to school in spain now and really happy here, except for the fact that I miss my ex when I see all these couples walking around. However if I were to get cured of these scars, in order to win him back I would have to go back to Mexico, where he lives... it would be hard to do long distance. Mexico is lovely but now I am stuyding in Spain and my heart is here, and in order to win this guy back I would have to leave. What do I do? Open Question: Are our parents supposed to be in the receiving line and be announced into the reception hall?I keep hearing different things on this and I don't know what's more common. I'm the first to get married in the family in over 10 years and I haven't been in or attended a wedding for longer. Nobody can seem to agree on this... The most popular argument I've heard is that the parents and the bridal party are in the receiving line with myself and my groom. They meet and shake hands with all the people invited and give their thanks for attending. This, I fully understand and know of. I have also heard that since the parents are in the receiving line they do not get announced into the hall but the Bridal party does (best man, maid of honour, etc). This I don't quite get... Why would the bridal party get to be in the receiving line as well as be announced into the hall but not the parents? Keep in mind, this is just what I'm being told. I don't know how this works. Having said that this is a slightly odd situation. My parents have been divorced over 10 years. My mother has a relatively new boyfriend. They've been having issues since day one and she expresses on a regular basis that she doesn't see the relationship going anywhere. They're different people wanting different things with their lives. Nothing more. Suddenly she wants him in the receiving line with her and to be announced with her into the hall. I think this is absurd. She doesn't even like him as an individual and is just dragging out the relationship until it sinks. Since my father is escorting his common-law wife (my step mom) of 8 years into the hall and my step mom is also going to be in the receiving line (unless they're not supposed to be?) she feels the need to have someone to show off. Purely opinion, but I'd be shocked to the core if she denied it. This new boyfriend (I say new but he's been around a year or so now, they're just newly serious) makes no attempt to be involved in any family functions, does not participate in Birthdays or family dinners and has made no effort to be involved in my wedding. He offers no transportation to and from anywhere, a friendly phone call to see how the planning is going, and he didn't even come to my Jack and Jill because he claims it's too hard to find a babysitter for is 14 year old son for 3 hours. As far as I'm concerned this man is not a part of my family (as he has made that clear on a number of occasions through his actions - or lack there of). My dilemma: she wants him announced. This is my wedding and this man makes no effort to be a part of my life; why would I want him announced? What do I announce him as? Presenting the Mother of the Bride and her boyfriend? That seems silly... If she is in the receiving line and doesn't have to be announced into the hall then problem solved. If she IS supposed to be announced into the hall... I don't know what to do. My maids of honour (sisters) agree with me; given the circumstances of their relationship and his lack of committment to the family it makes no sense to give him the honour of announcement. At the same time my mother is insecure and doesn't want to walk in alone. Independance isn't the glory she wants it to be. Is she supposed to be escorted by her date? By an usher? With the Best Man perhaps? Little side note; I have two Maids of Honour as I have two biological sisters. They will be entering the hall together and the Best Man was going to be entering solo. The bridal party themselves came up with this idea. Someone, please clarify this for me! Thanks for your advice Jackie, but that won't work. My step-mom has been very involved and very helpful with the wedding. I lived with her and my father from 15 until I moved out on my own. She is a big part of my life. My father is being announced (if at all) as "the father of the bride and his wife..." or "the father and step mother of the bride". Again, thanks for the thought, but sadly, it won't work :( Open Question: do i deserve better or is this as good as it gets?my boyfriend is really nice, generous, caring, considerate and trustworthy but he has a few kinks. he tends to lie when he senses an argument. and not very well .. i can see right through them. another problem is that he isn't particularly smart. im not saying im a genius but he grew up in the ghetto and sometimes has a bad vocabulary, and cant hold up a conversation. when we have a problem he always says the same phrases "why cant you except me" "whats wrong with you" "i cant go on without you." "why cant we be adults" they aren't bad alone but they usually dnt apply to the conversation. like ill say " you were very rude to my mother" and he will reply by saying " what are you hurting me, it was just a joke. if you really love me you will stop right now" he over reacts and solves nothing. it gets on my nerves because we can never work through anything because i always just give up.. should i look for someone who can hold up there end or should i stick with my loyal man with minor but annoying flaws. More Recent Articles
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