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Open Question: How can one give their body and not their love ? and more... Open Question: How can one give their body and not their love ?This question is mainly for the women. Can you have intimate sex with your husband / boyfriend yet feel nothing toward him? Am I reading too much into this? My situation is a long going ordeal and still mind boggled me. My wife and I had a rocky marriage for the past few years. Been married for more than 22 yrs. Made some life changes on my behalf to make the marriage work. I'm not saying it's all my faults but I'm making the changes for my own good. Anyway, the problems is my wife have this male friend that command her attentions more than I. I have spoken with her about it and she said it's business and he's a good friend and she knows how to handle him etc... This guy talks to her everyday. She would talk to him more than me on the phone when she is out of town. Their conversation are not intimate but very general. And this been going on for more than several years. The relationship between her and him is like a best friend type. I'm trying to not let it bother me but it does. Am I being hypercritical because her best friend is a male and it's not me? I swear he knows more about my wife daily events than me. ALmost everyday, They share their daily activities before the night is over. He would call her and I would go bonker!! The confusing message are , sex still exist in our marriage. we still talk and she tend to the marriage needs. Yet, in my opinion, her mind is not here. Her mental is elsewhere while her physical is here. All this is because of this guy calling her everyday and get her attentions even I speak out about it. Am I overblown? Am I insecure? Am I being too sensitive? I think I'm feeling insecure but I have worked myself over it. If she wanted to leave, she is welcome to. As long as I'm doing my best in this relationship, it will be her lost. I feel secured. But this activities drive me nut and I don't know how to resolve it. I respect her rights and trust her for knowing what she is doing. Am I being too naive or too over confidence of my self? Open Question: I just broke up with my boyfriend and I think I should let go..?We've been fighting a lot, he's promised to change for ages. We're both 16, I'm his first so I've given him space. But this afternoon he stood me up and when I asked him about it, he didn't even apologize. So I asked to break up. But I regretted it almost immediately after. Shockingly, he agreed. I thought he would apologize and ask for another chance. I immediately tried to talk and all, but he said maybe we should just be friends. He says all he's done is hurt me and maybe I should just forget him and live a happy life without him making me upset all the time. I didn't want to let go. I don't know how guys do it, just say be friends, and how about the memories and all? I told him we could still work out our problems, but he said maybe he couldn't change. He was a bit of a jerk too, giving me the cold treatment after that. And when a friend of mine called him and tried to talk to him and asked him if he loved me, he said no, I don't care anymore. Which hurt badly, because just a few hours ago he told me he loved me. I don't know what to do. I suppose to let go, since I know he's already cancelled our relationship status in FB and deleted our photos and all. I just don't want to make the same mistake with my previous boyfriend, we broke up and I missed him and I wished I had tried to talk to him. Now, what do I do? Should I just throw away all pride and beg him to stay with me, send many texts and all? try and work things out again. Or just move on. I don't know. All I know is it's hard to let go. Open Question: what do i do...please help?!?i like this girl but she lives quite a ways away we have been talking for a little bit and i dont exactly know how to go upon asking her out and another problem, she has a boyfriend in case your wondering i am only 15 Open Question: How do I get my best friend to forgive me?My best friend who is also my roommate is mad at me because I lied on her but I had a good reason to do it. What happened was I let my ex spend the night over and we had sex and when he was leaving my boyfriend had just pulled up and he asked me what he was doing there and I told him that he had spent the night with Ella (my roommate), and she heard me say it but she did go along with it for my sake since she knows my boyfriend has a jealousy problem but when he left she was so upset with me and starting complaining about what would happen if that got out to her own boyfriend and now she's not speaking to me. I just saw her and she acted like she didn't see me at all. What do I do? I really care about her and didn't mean to hurt her. Category Open Question: How do I know if she has a drinking problem or not?My father was an alcoholic. I would call myself a social drinker. I do not drink every day, I hardly ever drink alone, I have one or two drinks and I limit my drinking if I have to drive anywhere because I do not want to lose my license on a DUI charge. I started seeing this woman about a month ago. When she goes out with friends she likes to have a few drinks. She also plans with the group to have a designated driver. If she goes out with her girl friend, the two of them decide who will be driving and then the driver drinks less. I am not sure what goes on when she goes out with more than one friend to party. She doesn't like beer and wine, the lighter stuff, and prefers cocktails with mixed drinks with rum, vodka, tequila, or other sweet tasting alcohol or stuff that does not have much of a bite. As I am getting to know her, disturbing things are rising to the surface. She likes to go out with friends and party all night. Sometimes she will not get home until early morning and goes out to breakfast at 5 and 6 in the morning to cap off a late night of partying. She goes to clubs where there is dancing, even when she was living with a boyfriend, and says that she just dances with her girlfriends. She wants to continue to have the freedom to go out with friends and go to bars and clubs where single people are. I think she has gone out a few times while we have been dating. She starts off at a company party which she says I would find boring because those are her co workers. Then she goes off with one of the co workers, or a small group, after the company party is over and they go to a bar or night club. Sometimes they go to several bars and night clubs and stay out all night. When I asked her about how many drinks she has when she goes out on these adventures, she says " I really don't know. I buy a drink. My friends buy me drinks. It's a night out. I don't do the math when I am having a good time." She also told me about a time right before we started dating where all she remembers was a guy bought her a drink and the rest of the night she cannot remember. When we discussed it, we are both convinced that this guy may have given her a roofie. Luckily she was with one of her bar hopping female friends. Not sure who drove home that night. This is a woman that I have now been intimate with. We have agreed to date exclusively. She sees no problem in continuing to go out to bars and clubs with her girlfriends for girls night out. She said that her married sister, a mother of two small children, sometimes joins in the all night partying and her husband babysits the kids when she goes out. Do you think I have right to be concerned about my girlfriend's behavior? I am going to a party with her on Saturday to meet one of the groups of friends she parties with. It will be a chance for me to meet people who know her and also for me to observe her behavior in a group. So far, over the past month, we have only seen each other for one on one dates and some of those have wound up with me staying the night at her place. I think I may be falling in love with this woman but the partying and the all nighters concern me. Should I be concerned? Open Question: need advise on this one?i posted this yesterday but only got one answer... long story kinda short. theres this guy i met at work. we've known eachother for about two years now. the whole time we worked together we'd be flirting. we'd text outside of work, but not hang out. i had a boyfriend the whole time we worked at the same place. i transfered stores and he got fired, haha, but a few weeks ago he admited to having a "crush" on me at a point when we worked together and didn't say anything because he knew i had enough boy problems already and didnt want to cause more. i told him i was attracted to him, blah blah blah. we were supposed to hang out this week but we didn't. he texted me that night saying he's sorry he didn't come visit (we live in towns about 30 min away) becasue he "didn't want to make a mistake". we talk on the phone for hourssss, and he says it sucks that he feels like i'm his best friend. we got eachother christmas presents. i told him to let me know when we should exchange them and he kinda kept it short and to the point...i'm so confused?? what does all this mean?? Open Question: My best friend/roommate is mad at me, how can I get her to forgive me?Best friend who is also my roommate is mad at me because I lied on her but I had a good reason to do it. What happened was I let my ex spend the night over and we had sex and when he was leaving my boyfriend had just pulled up and he asked me what he was doing there and I told him that he had spent the night with Ella (my roommate), and she heard me say it but she did go along with it for my sake since she knows my boyfriend has a jealousy problem but when he left she was so upset with me and starting complaining about what would happen if that got out to her own boyfriend and now she's not speaking to me. I just saw her and she acted like she didn't see me at all. What do I do? I really care about her and didn't mean to hurt her. Open Question: Problem with Boyfriend and his Friends...?So I just started dating this guy. He's really nice and we like each other a lot, however, he has an extremly tight group of friends, other guys and lots of others girls. Whenever I hang out with them I always feel like an outsider. My guy insists they like me m but I just don't feel it. How can I get into his group without feeling like a third wheel? Open Question: facebook is ruining me so much! :( :(?my ex split up with me last month and i still love him and want him back. he asked me back out after ending it saying he made a mistake but then ended it again 2days later. im 17 and never had a boyfriend, he was my first one, the first guy i had sex with ughh. all my friends were having boyfriends age 14/15 and there was me the loser on my own not even been kissed or nothing. so when i met this guy i was so happy. he was sweet and its like i was the only one he was interested in. the first time he ended it with me he told me he has feelings for another girl. then when he got back with me the second time i couldnt stop asking him questions about this girl, he said they are only friends he likes her but thats it. facebook was making things so much worse. she would write something to him saying how cute he is and he would comment back calling her beautiful and stuff. so more arguments started & he ended it. he has told me twice that he will get back with me. but two nights ago he said he cant keep them promises because he has made up his mind now and he wont ever get back with me. he told me he loved me the other night and lastnight he said he dont. he said he doesnt care if we talk, he only talks to me because i talk to him. i could say bye to him and he would say bye back and never talk to me again. im always the one who has to make the first move. i havent seen him for weeks but he does text me, we get on great texting but everytime i go on facebook i see comments from her and it ruins everything. i sent him something on facebook and i said his name with a heart on the end of it. he deleted it and i asked him why and he said because im his ex, i shouldnt be sending him hearts. she sends him hearts and its ok because he said he likes her. he doesnt want this girl to see that me and him are friends again because she knows im his ex. last night he commented her and said her name with a few x's on the end, i know thats nothing but these little things hurt the living hell out of me. he told me that hes going to ask her out. this bout killed me. then last night he said he isnt he just told me that to shut me up. but then today the comments hes sent her its like he is going to ask her out. he messes with my head saying he wants me back then the next day he doesnt. i said you either want me or her and he choosed her. he said he is over me now so he doesnt care if im hurt about them two because its not his problem. we were together 8 months. i know calling the girl he likes something bad isnt smart, i dont even know her but lastnight i called her many bad names. and he said back to me your a c**t. girls who like him used to call me a sl*t to him when we were going out and he never used to say no she isnt, he just used to laugh. but when someone calls this girl something he goes mad and defends her. ugh :( it hurts. i know i have to delete him off facebook because when i see comments i get hurt. he said im the past and if i want we can stay friends, if not then f**k off. im not even aloud to talk to him on facebook or nothing. the more he texts me the more i fall in love with him because hes sweet and tells me he misses me. i tell myself to not believe a word he says because its all lies but i love him i cant help it. i get happy but then he says something like "yeah nevermind, its over now". just upsets me all over again. all i ever did was love him and he treated me like shxt. yes ok, i admit i believed what other girls were telling me about him, they used to say he was with another girl today and stuff and instead of asking him about it i would start accusing him when it wasnt even true. but he still gets jealous abit, my friends on fb are trying to cheer me up and they ask me to go out with them to get my mind off him and stuff and one of my guy friend called me hun. my ex emailed me saying "oh so your with him now are you?" i said to him he obviously still cares about me because if he didnt he wouldnt care what people called me, and he said yes he does but he will not get back with me he wants her and her only. i cant be his friend its to hard. but when i try and stop talking to him i last about 2days then text him again or add him back on fb. i try and keep my mind off him but i keep thinking stuff like, what if hes asked her out and is with her now? ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!! i feel so down i have been for a month and i keep getting hurt over and over again. what do i have to do to stop all this? its ruining me! :( Open Question: Relationship problem..please help me.?Okay I have a 20 yr old boyfriend (which you all probably know by now since I have created other questions associated with him) but anyways we have been together since Oct. 27 &. today his babymama texts me and tells me she is pregnant by him again (3 mos. to be exact) and that he has been cheating on me with her. She also informed me that they had sex yersterday. I know she was over his house to pick up the baby but I did not know they had sex. I have tried to trust him, but now I guess I dont. While I dont want to believe her, I kinda do. After all, he told me she was there yersterday, and my mom always says trust your first mind. My mind is telling me that he's creeping around. Should I leave him or should I work it out? Should I tell him she text me? What should I do? Im so tired of this drama with him &. her More Recent Articles
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