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Open Question: How can I ask my mother to let me visit him? and more... Open Question: How can I ask my mother to let me visit him?How can I ask my mother to let me visit him? Me and my boyfriend have been together for more than a year, and everything is great. In September he moved to university in the north of England (I live in the south of England.) We have been talking on MSN and Skype, on the phone etcetera and it is okay... But he has invited me to spend a week with him at his flat in uni... I really want to go, I want to be able to be face to face. I would travel by train and he said that he'd help me with the costs. The only problem is, I don't know how to approach my parents to ask them if I can stay. My mother knows about my boyfriend but she hasn't met him properly. I am scared to ask. I want to know how I should ask this question to her without her freaking out... Can anyone provide some advice? By the way, I am 15 and my boyfriend is 18. (My mother knows his age and is fine with it.) Please don't judge me by my age! :):) Open Question: 17 weeks and dealing with a lot of emotions *any advice?*?Okay so im 17 weeks pregnant and i have been crying a lot lately, a lot of things can trigger my sadness but it mainly comes from boyfriend. I find myself getting jealous of him hanging out with his friends and not me, and other things that come along with having a relationship with someone who already has a child with another women (of course before me) This isn't who i am as a person, i was never jealous or insecure before I just want some advice on overcoming this problem because its about to ruin my relationship Please only mature comments Thanks Does this have anything to do with me being pregnant? if so how do i cope with it and or control it??? Open Question: My boyfriend asked me that if we broke up, would I be ok if he went out with my best friend. Dump him?First off everyone should know he was my first everything. Kiss, virginity, ect. How he ended up asking me this was he was sitting playing video games and I was texting a friend I had set up with my best friend. They had recently broken up and he was telling me about why he had let her go. The gist of what he said was that she had a great body and nice rack but had the face of a man. I got very angry about this and told my boyfriend at which point he exclaimed, "What! That's crazy, Sarah could be a model she's so hot!" After about another 30 seconds of silence he slowly turned to me and asked, "If you and I were to break up would you be mad if I dated Sarah?" My best friend had previously had a thing for him but she after I told her if she still did I would step aside with no animosity towards her and let them date she then told me that after seeing the way he behaved with me and learning more about him she wouldn't ever want to date him. That and she also said she would never date a friends ex. Anyways he comes back from Mexico in another two weeks so I have a lot of time to think about everything. So far this is how it's going to go. When he gets back I will ask him to meet me for coffee, when he asks why I will tell him what he said to me about Sarah was unacceptable and we need to talk about it. When I am at the coffee shop with him I am going to ask him, "Please I need you to tell me something and when you do I need you to not consider my feeling just tell me what you want. I need to know that if given the choice between Sarah and myself who would you rather be with?" If he chooses Sarah I will be like okay it's over and btw I talked to her the same way I've spoken to you and she's not interested anymore. After this Sarah says she will send him a facebook message saying, "sorry if I sent out the wrong signals blah blah blah, I'm not interested." If (and this is a very small chance) he says me I will say he has planted a seed in my head and I don't know if I could trust him anymore. That and Sarah wouldn't want to hang around us anymore and she's been my best friend longer than you've been my boyfriend. It's still over. My only problem is that I'm still in love with him and if he does say that he wants to be with me I don't know if I should forgive him or not. He's young and stupid and it might just have been a slip of the tong, but obviously he's thought about going after my best friend, which is so low class and wrong. I'm still just so confused about this! Open Question: Is he the one for me, or am I the Idiot?I'm having a hard time with my relationship.. Please.. I need Advice.. Here's the story.. You can also check my blog on my profile.. The Broken Relationship..? If you're reading this it means you've become interested in me or my problem..Well.. I'll tell you this much, I'm NOT a good story teller and this is NOT a story.This is my life.. my love.. as of now..I am seeking advice on whether the person I'm with is right for me, or if I'm doing something wrong in this relationship. The Gist Of It.... I've been with my boyfriend for several months now and I AM in love with him. There is no doubt in my mind about that. I would give my life for his happiness and every day I think of him and how much he means to me.The problem is.. I don't understand him.I'm not a social person, I don't really understand people, especially men. So, guys, this is where I need your help.. Everyday if I'm not with him, doing something with him, or talking to him, I don't want to do anything at all. I feel like my life would have no meaning if he wasn't in it. I give up all of my free time to be with him (willingly and because I want to and I ENJOY being with him every hour of every day). I do whatever I can do that will make him happy, and I make sure I do my best to keep him from getting upset. I am always by his side when he needs me.. Always and I tell him I love him and mean it every time. But of course, I'm not perfect; I do things that make him mad, or that I shouldn't do, but I won't go into detail on that, just know that I try my best to make him happy and to be the most dedicated girlfriend I can be. Men.. this is where I need your help. I don't know if many of you took the time to read this, but I honestly don't understand you guys. My boyfriend.. my love.. does things that make me upset, but I don't think he does it intentionally or even if I should be bothered by it.. but here's what he does.. Whenever I'm busy doing something, even if it'll only take a few minutes, he does off to play his games or be with his friend.. Sometimes when I'm crying and need him the most, he doesn't wanna deal with it and leaves.. Even when I'm doing nothing and have free time, sometimes he decides he'd rather be doing something else with someone else.. He doesn't do for me what I do for him.. I don't really know if this means anything or if it's just how he is.. but trust me.. he does a World of good, too.. Here's the point.. Guys, I want to know if you think he really loves me as much as I love him, or if it's something else. I want to know why he does what he does and if he cares about how it would make me feel. Put yourself in his position.. If YOU were deeply in love with someone would you do what he does? If not, what WOULD you do? Do you think I'm a bad girlfriend? Or do I just judge him wrong? I need advice.. I love him and I don't want this to end.. Much Love, "The Anonymous" Open Question: how do i clean up for sex?so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a couple months now (hes gay and I'm Bi), and hes been hinting that he wants to take the relationship farther, IE sex. while i am more or less comfortable with this, a problem has arisen on my end. this problem being, that i have no real idea how to clean up before hand. i mean i understand the basic idea, but i'm completely lost on how to go about doing anything and i would feel like a real fool if i had to ask him (and he might get pissed off at me :( ). so i guess I am asking if anyone has any information on this. like do i have to buy something special? is it a hassle? basically any information that can make it easier for me to know what i'm doing. for those who didn't catch it. i'm a guy. Open Question: How can I get a green card through marriage without leaving the USA?Hello, My boyfriend is an English Green Card holder(Andrew), living since 14 years in Texas,and will soon apply for a citizenship. We met in January this year,I stayed 3 months here with him. After travelling together the all summer, he decided we should go back and stay together in Texas. So Im here for the second time this year on a Tourist Visa. The officer of the border told me if he finds out Im Andrew's boyfriend he will send me back to my country,so I lied and said that my only purpose of travelling is to visit. My only intention was to stay legally with the one I love, this is the only reason of my lie. Now we would like to know, if there is a way for us to get me visa without leaving the USA. The K-1 is an option, but it can takes between 5 months, maybe a year being appart. We dont want to be appart for so long. Is there any other possibility? Could we get married here while Im on a Tourist visa and apply for the I-130? What are our chances? Can I stay legally in the USA with him to time it is processed? Also he has no job yet, can this be a issue? He has some savings money,and has unemployement benefit. So he supports me completly and this isnt a problem at all. We have all we need. Thank you for your help Gaelle Nicloux Open Question: ok why aint i pregnant yet?ok me and my boyfriend been unprotected for like 5 months now and im not pregnant my family has never had a problem getting pregnant and he already has an 8 year old.... we have had intercourse before and after my period almost every day soooo i dont get it ok without me seeing a doctor could there be a reason? we dont do drugs he occasionally drinks.... Open Question: Cleaning up before hand?so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a couple months now (hes gay and I'm Bi), and hes been hinting that he wants to take the relationship farther, IE sex. while i am more or less comfortable with this, a problem has arisen on my end. this problem being, that i have no real idea how to clean up before hand. i mean i understand the basic idea, but i'm completely lost on how to go about doing anything and i would feel like a real fool if i had to ask him (and he might get pissed off at me :(. so i guess I am asking if anyone has any information on this. like do i have to buy something special? is it a hassle? basically any information that can make it easier for me to know what i'm doing. Open Question: I am nervous at school, after getting jumped some months ago and after a school change.?Hey, Im 17, in high school, all this happened during the summer, i need some help, cause i am nervous. stick with me, i know it's long but you need the jist. about 5-6 months ago, I went to "the" party of parties at one of my "friend's" house... All was fine until I said hi to a girl (literally just hi and she asked me to take a picture with her). All was fine but about 30 seconds after she left, her boyfriend came and pushed me, et cetera. A "scuffle" broke out but nothing serious, i left the party, and a while after some friends asked me to come back, so i did, 40 minutes went by, and a few other fights broke out (i know, not the best environment) so i decided to call my parents to come pick me up, anyways, i went outside to make the phone call, and i got jumped by 3-4 or guys (her boyfriend included)... That weekend my dad went to talk with that guy's parents, my dad was a big guy and their dad thought he came to harm them, so he messed up my father's truck... my dad called the police and they arrested their dad (after a week of him hiding from the police, because he didn't have the money to pay.) Anyways, when the school year started i was having a nervous breakdown cause i knew they were going to mess with me again (im a regular sized guy and i can fight, but not 4-5 guys that think they are "gangsters") so they moved me schools, to another one that is relatively close... Problem is, months went by and nothing, but a few weeks ago, some guy came up to me while i was changing class and he said, "Hey you are new here right? [me: yeah.] Oh what school did you come from? [me: "old school name"] Oh, and which one do you like better? [me: this one.] Oh, ok, straight. "and he just leaves" the point is, he came up out of nowhere and asked that, and just left. Now last week, i was walking to the bus for a field trip and approached me, and only me, to ask me what field trip i was going on. Also, i heard his other friend saying out loud near me, "awww dude just punched in the face that is so heavy metal..." Anyways, the crowds from both schools can get mixed at times. Im just very nervous about that random kid, and if i am going to get jumped again. Is it my mind trying to freak me out? I lost all contact with people form my old school and I try to just be alone since that cause i dont want to be put in a position where i might have to fight some kid and possibly put him in the hospital, im a pacifist... (lol, i play rugby and wrestling, and jiu-jitsu but i have strong feelings against fighting.) Can i get some advice on what to do? Should i calm down? What should i do, my life isnt even enjoyable anymore cause i keep thinking someone is coming to hunt me down (their dad got out of jail, and my dad won the case btw.) I should point out when his friend made the comment of "punched in the face" it was in the air, random, not directed to anyone or anybody, and that random guy wasn't even there, it was another day. Also, that first gorup of guys that jumped, i have no proof that they know each other in any way, but my town in miami, isn't huge either, but just saying, my paranoia leads me to beleive they know each other. I haven't seen that group of guys that jumped me for 6 months now. It happened in July Open Question: How can we work with his issues as a couple?Is it's more than obvious that my BF's has a fear of abandonment and trust issues. It has been almost the center of attention in our relationship and has close to ended us. He had a 8 year marriage to where his wife cheated on him several times over. Then she got pregnant by other man, my BF paid for the abortion. She got pregnant a second time by the same man, thats when they got a divorce. He last really serious relationship was for 2 1/2 years, they lived together. She left him. Months later he found out it was because she found her self a new boyfriend. And was pregnant a month after she split up with him. Any other relationship he said he has had with girls he's really like has ended. He is always saying things like" Nobody gets together to stay together, They get married for a couple years and then they decided oh I like this guy better, I am just worried that one day you I will be having problem and some guy will say the right thing to you Any girl that I ever ended up really liking leaves me, His favorite ones are"Don't worry I am prepared for when you leave it'll happen one day, I am 90% sure you will leave, It's okay I know you are going to leave me, I have already accepted that you'll leave me, I just afraid of being with you for several years and you finding somebody else." It is very overwhelming to to deal with but I care about him and want to help.. I want him to be able to put trust and faith in me. I want him to get over this stuff because I know of badly it affects him. For us to be successful as couple. You may say I shouldn't deal with this but to add to the mix I am pregnant. So what should I do? He isn't jumping years have pasted through those relationships. Open Question: As a Gf what am I suppose to do about my BF's abandonment issues?Is it's more than obvious that my BF's has a fear of abandonment and trust issues. It has been almost the center of attention in our relationship and has close to ended us. He had a 8 year marriage to where his wife cheated on him several times over. Then she got pregnant by other man, my BF paid for the abortion. She got pregnant a second time by the same man, thats when they got a divorce. He last really serious relationship was for 2 1/2 years, they lived together. She left him. Months later he found out it was because she found her self a new boyfriend. And was pregnant a month after she split up with him. Any other relationship he said he has had with girls he's really like has ended. He is always saying things like" Nobody gets together to stay together, They get married for a couple years and then they decided oh I like this guy better, I am just worried that one day you I will be having problem and some guy will say the right thing to you Any girl that I ever ended up really liking leaves me, His favorite ones are"Don't worry I am prepared for when you leave it'll happen one day, I am 90% sure you will leave, It's okay I know you are going to leave me, I have already accepted that you'll leave me, I just afraid of being with you for several years and you finding somebody else." It is very overwhelming to to deal with but I care about him and want to help.. I want him to be able to put trust and faith in me. I want him to get over this stuff because I know of badly it affects him. For us to be successful as couple. You may say I shouldn't deal with this but to add to the mix I am pregnant. So what should I do? More Recent Articles
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