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Open Question: hi, I have family problem. I really don't know i suppose to do now. I love my mother and i love my boyfriend? and more... Open Question: hi, I have family problem. I really don't know i suppose to do now. I love my mother and i love my boyfriend?too. The problem is that, my parents near to divorce on january. I also want to get marry same month. My sibling angry to me because i don't want to delay my marriage change to another month. They said i didn't pity of my mother feelings. I marry in not suitable time. Actually, they misunderstand about me. I really understand my mum situation. if i and my bf not marry..my bf will go to jail because his visa will expired.he also no have money pay for visa and he also need to buy ticket go back his country. he no have money right now. he also keep waiting me many years because of my study. i must marry faster before his visa expired. i know he marry me not because of visa. if he really want a visa..he should marry with another girl early. i don't know what to do now..please give me some advice.. Open Question: How to leave someone when you still love them?I have been in a relationship with aman for over a year and a half. We we met we had bothcone out of slightly traumatic relationships. At the beginning we had an amazingtimr and almost quite a teenage experience together ( we are in our late twenties) spent alot of time swimming, sitting by the lake all night talking generally having a lovely innocent time together. This continued for about sixmonths and then I started noticing some major problems. Mainly with my boyfriends drinking andbizarre behavioural issues, when we met he told me he had been diagnosed recently with ADHD. Iwasnt really sure what this meant. My boyfriend seemed to have a very wild side that he didn't know how to control this came out mostly in drinking binges. I also discovered. He had a problem with compulsive lying. Not about serious things just daft nonsensical lies mostly about girls and his history with girls. He claimed this was bevuase I was so sensitive. Anyway all these things built up about a year ago and we broke up after him losing it while drunk last Christmas and causing a big scene. I broke up with him and he lost the plot and started smashing glasses etc. I was terrified of him. Not that he physically touched me but the wildness scared the crap out of me. We broke up and I was scared. He was desperately sorry for his tantrum and scaring me and went into intensive therapy. It then emerged he in fact had Aspergers and ADHD! Anyway after a month apart we met and talked about everything and I just saw him and I loved him and we agreed to work things out and try again. We did that and things were very calm for another four months. I started thinking I wanted out though around last June. Ifinished it again as all the lies and all the weirdness and his past history really freaked me out. So I finished it and he went mad again this time with lots of suicide threats and hysteria. I was sure I had made the right choice. Then we kept in contact a bit and I missed him horribly but was sure because of his mental health issues we couldn't go on. We met againand after two months apart very tentaively decided to try onemore time. This has been the worst time yet as all the lying has meant I don't trust him. Bevuase of my history with men I have a very hard time with trust. We have had some wild rows since the summer. Rowing every weekend, him losing control when he is distressed heading Walls, punching himself in the face,total hysteria. Iknow on paper we are having a seriously messed up time togetherso aweeek ago after having a week. Of no contact to calm things down I decided I one hundred percent would have to finish it for both our sakes. We met and talkedfor three hoursand broke up but when it came to walk I couldn't. So lamely agreed to think for another week and meet today and talk again. So again I know we are going to have to break up I am feeling huge resistence. I live this man deeply and feel very responsible for him and can't bear to make him feel I've rejected him again. He is such a complex character and he isn't a bad man he is just wildly confused and coming to terms with his diagnosis. He is luke a big kid. I'm so horribly confused as I feel by staying with him I amstopping him get better but if I leave him again it will devastate him and myself. I haven't articulated myself very well this is such a long and complex story it's hard to write it all down clearly. Any advise wouldbe appreciated. Open Question: do you think she wants me to get intimate with her? how would she react?-tells me that I should know that she adores me and loves spending time with me -emails me all day daily -she knows I like her - tells me her boyfriend is jealous of me and only ever speaks bad about him around me - tells me the more time she spends with me the more she wants to move on to the next step in her life (leave her boyfriend) - tells me she is only happy when she is having fun with me and that its the only time when she forgets her problems -tells me she loves spending time with me - wants to move in with me -i have another wealthy lesbian friend overseas and has offered her to come with me to meet her and try the whole (3 girls together) she told me it's a definite she has decided to come and try -says she wants kids and asked if I would ever have kids in my life just after we were talking about being with 2 girls -tells me she even enjoyed regular grocery shopping with me and needs me to hold her hand - tells her ex about all the fun things we have been doing to rub it in -she talks about me heaps to her other friends and they all want to meet me and they invite me everywhere but they have never met me Open Question: See email from ex boyfriend of 6 years ago? What does he want with me?We live in different countries now and had been in touch on and off, just as old friends. Neither of us had met anyone..he was the one to end it as he 'couldn't get his head around marriage'. His Dad told me I'm the only close female friend he has. Now I've just got this mail and don't know what to do. Why does he want contact when he seems to be starting something? Here's his mail: I havn't spoken to you for a while so I hope your well and life is going ok for you. I'm pretty good these days still hanging around home area although I have managed to move out of mum's place and am renting a nice little house out in the forest a bit so it's kind of out of the way but that's alright because the ambiance is great. I've met somebody really nice so it as been going well so far, but every relationship has it's problems so we'll see how we go together. She's a dancer as well so I've been trying to learn some of the basics. Are you still dancing? We'll have to have a chat sometime, I've lost your number so if you could e-mail me and let me know when a good time to call is that would be great. My number is xxxxxxx and I'm often at home in the early evening. The last time I talked to you I was quite ill with flu but everything seems fine now I lost a lot of weight but am back to pretty much full health at the moment. OK talk to you later lots of love Open Question: do you think she wants me to get intimate with her?-tells me that I should know that she adores me and loves spending time with me -emails me all day daily -she knows I like her - tells me her boyfriend is jealous of me and only ever speaks bad about him around me - tells me the more time she spends with me the more she wants to move on to the next step in her life (leave her boyfriend) - tells me she is only happy when she is having fun with me and that its the only time when she forgets her problems -tells me she loves spending time with me - wants to move in with me -i have another wealthy lesbian friend overseas and has offered her to come with me to meet her and try the whole (3 girls together) she told me it's a definite she has decided to come and try -says she wants kids and asked if I would ever have kids in my life just after we were talking about being with 2 girls -tells me she even enjoyed regular grocery shopping with me and needs me to hold her hand - tells her ex about all the fun things we have been doing to rub it in -she talks about me heaps to her other friends and they all want to meet me and they invite me everywhere but they have never met me Open Question: What do I do about my friend?My boyfriend asked me to marry him a few nights ago and I said yes. We've been on again off again for a while, but now I think this is...well, it just feels RIGHT. We're in different states and both under 16 atm (I know, you're prolly thinking we're dumb for doing this at this age, but we're seriously *twilight* in love). I know it'll be different this time, since now he calls me every day and is gonna get his sis to drive him to see me every weekend he can and stay with me for holidays. But the problem is my friend. I think she liked him. And now that we're engaged, she's not talking to me. If I get a chance to talk with her again, what should I say to make it better? Please help! I gained one loved person, but I don't want to have to lose a different one! More Recent Articles |
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