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Open Question: Dead Beat Dad lives less then 2 miles away. Child Support Help? and more... Open Question: Dead Beat Dad lives less then 2 miles away. Child Support Help?I have two children from the same father. A 12yr old girl and a 15 yr old Special need boy. We have been divorced for years now because he became a Dangerous alcoholic. I have allowed him to live with me and my boyfriend of 9yrs several times because he had no where else to go. He now lives with his mother less then 2 miles away from us and makes no attempt to help me AT ALL. I have never denied him time with his kids but I am fed up now. I am having a major health problem along with all the financial difficulties that come with a special need child. He never works long enough to allow Child Support to take any money for me. He lives rent free with his mother. I know from word of mouth that he has a girl friend with a child and any money he does get has been going to them. There has to be something I can do!? I am on the edge and scared I will loose my son to the system because of my financial situation. If anyone has some advice I would greatly appreciate it. Open Question: Could I be pregnant? I have no idea if I'm expecting a baby or a period!?!?Ok ya'll....I am going absolutely crazy and I'm hoping someone can help me. This all started sometime at the beginning of November when I got off my birth control. I knew I would be running out and started getting lazy with taking it. (Stupid, I know.) I would take 3 pills in one day when I remembered and I did that twice. I believe this caused me to spot for about a week and a half until I finally had my full on period. After my period my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex (many times) and I was told that the birth control stays in your system for awhile. I was later told that this was not the case. About a week later I started freaking out about whether or not I was pregnant because we weren't as safe as we should have been. And I don't know if I'm pregnant. I've been moody all month, and still am, but when I went to the gyno to get my new BC, she told me that that was normal when you get off birth control. I was tested to see if I was pregnant and it came back negative, and I have taken 2 tests since then. "I am very impatient"...but, still no period and I have symptoms that could lean either way. My breasts have been sore for a few weeks and they are finally starting to be less sore. My biggest problem is that I can not remember for the life of me when my last period was exactly. I used to know just b/c of my BC! So, I could be taking these negative tests too early. Can someone please give me some advice! I've almost convinced myself that I'm pregnant and it wouldn't be the end of the world, I just really want to know!! Biggest symptoms, once again are: Very sore breasts, Very very bi-polar like and will tear up at anything, tired (however I work at a daycare so, I'm tired a lot), the feeling that I am pregnant (or perhaps paranoia), constipation, and no idea when I should start! These symptoms all started within the week after our first time having unprotected sex. HELP!! note: Please do not lecture me of having unsafe sex. I know it's dumb I don't need a bunch of people who think they are better than me telling me that I'm bad. Thanks, ya'll!! Open Question: relationship fight, help? your oppinions, whos side do you take?ok, today was me and my girlfriends 6 month "aniversery" as we call it. this morning when i picked her up for school i gave her roses, she loved them and carried them around school all day soaking in all the "awes" from friends and teachers. anyways, school was over and we had our friday weekend goodbye with our hugs and kisses and i love you's, and we went home, unfortunatly she is grounded so we cant see each other out side of school. so i figured we would chat on MSN and maby get on the webcam for awhile. well when we got home, i gave it some time for her to get all the stuff she needs to do done and get relaxed. Instead of happily chatting the night away like i wished, she is so busy playing her stupid MMORPG (video game) that she barely talked to me to the point of almost completely ignoring me. then we got in a fight. this is how it went. Me: (after an hour of her not replying to my messages) i guess your too busy to talk so idk ill try and find somthing to do Her: o.o sorry, perfect world (name of the videogame) =/ Me: yeah i know Her: imma go then Me: you do that, have fun Her: wtf? whats your problem? yeah im a little busy and not much into talking right now so whatever then. Me: do whatever you want, if thats more fun than talking to me then fine Her: ... really? k Me: happy 6 months, im going to my room Her: ugh here we go, whatever do what you want. so yeah, i left, layed down on my bed for awhile and took a bath, and got back on the computer. and messeged her saying that i was back and thats it, and havnt gotten a responce. I want to hear your oppinions about this. Usually i can see her side of our arguments, but this? come on shese plays that stupid game EVERYDAY at least 4-5 hours a day. you would think that she could not play it and spend some time with her boyfriend on our 6th month together, but no, i swear sometimes all she cares about is that stupid video game, she isnt the same person anymore =/ so, 1 can i have your honest oppinions, and 2. do you know anyway to get a MMO addict help? (she dosnt even admit that shes an addict ok, first of i said she was Grounded, and has been for over 3 months, we havnt seen each other out side of highschool since. and an evening enjoying her videogame? normally yeah thats fine, but today? she is the one who made this whole 6 month thing such a big deal in the first place. Open Question: Men and women I need you help?Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a long time, and well we make love. This is a problem tho, he is ok in bed but not great, and I never get to reach well you know. So guy or girls tell me what positions and what we can do to fix this. Plz and thank you Open Question: He cheated w/his babymama & got her pregnant again..HELP!?Okay i've been with him for 5yr.years. he cheated with his babymama's mother and got her pregnant 1 yr. ago. He didn't even tell me and i didn't expect her to get pregnant again..i did however suspect him of cheating with her as she would always call and say so..especially when he just left from seeing his son. I too have another child with my ex husband, so i had no problem with him going to see/spend time with his child. He would go for half a day on xmas and the other half at home with me etc. Okay no problem so i thought. After awhile, she seemed to call more, send photos of her and the child and misc. text messages. One xmas day she called after he had not too long left her home and said he told her he loves her and he wants to come home to be with her and their son..?WTF! So of course he denies it and the show continued. I figured she just wanted to break us up as she seen we were serious and livivng together. however she also said i was just another woman he was using until she's ready 4 him to come back to her. Long story short, 1 yr. ago she called me at work and said tell him my daughter needs pampers..i'm like WTF! they only had one child..a BOY..so, i'm the like what are you talking about she says oh he didn't tell you huh?! I just had our 2nd child and he told me he would be here to help...I ALMOST FELL OUT OF MY CHAIR! i immediately hung up and called him and he was speechless that i knew and hung up on me.. i clocked out and went str8 home to confront him face to face. After it was all said and done his whole family and him knew all along, from the time she got pregnant to the time she called me. I felt so stupid. Here i am trying to be a grown woman about things and allow him to go spend half day holidays with his child at the mothers house while she was at home(almost consenting to is double life) along with any time he goes to see the child he could only go to her home and never bring the child to our home..i'm thinking okay because his son was young at the time.. AND he goes cheats and gets her pregnant!..Oh i was pissed and still am. It was hard for me but he convinced me that is was a mistake and he didn't tell me cause she told him she was getting an abortion. blah. blah.blah. i decided to stay in the relationship and work on things. 6mths later i got pregnant with our son and i couldn't have been more happier. I thought it was god telling me everything was alright..boy was i wrong..Oct.2nd 2009 at 7mths i gave birth to my angel who was stillborn. The cause went unknown as to why and the drs. have no answers. After all the **** i went thru with his babymama drama to being blessed with our child..it was taken from me like i was the bad person. I'm so torn up inside yesturday he would've been 2mths old. Anyway, so after our loss this *****(babymama) finds out from his family and she now calling again constantly. I believe stress played a big part in why my son didn't make it. My boyfriend promised that we would get married soon and try again to concieve. So far we have been trying but nothing. As far as marriage goes he hasn't even proposed to me. I'm starting to think he only told me he wanted to marry me to cheer me up in the hospital. but it's only been 2mths. am i over reacting? what should i do about all of this mess? Since he's cheating i still didn't want him to lose contact with his kids but the 1st time he tried to see them she came with the dumb bs our kids aren't going around her, you have to come to my house..WELL, I'M NOT HAVING IT! i tried that, he cheated..so i'm like go get visitation thru the courts that way she can't tell you where you can or cannot take them and they meet in a mutual pick up/drop off place. i think this is only fair as my ex husband and i have similar arrangements excluding court visitation because he gets our daughter every other wknd and we both have moved on with our lives and are in new relationships. My boyfriend and my ex don't have any problems. I do however have a hard time excepting the 2nd child that was concieved during my boyfriend and i's relationship. how do i..how can i except this child? what if she looks similar to the son we just lost? i haven't seen her. We have had arguements about this and it got to a point where i told him to leave me because i would never except that child in my life. he lied to me and didn't even give me a choice to decide whether or not i wanted to continue the relationship with him after he cheated and found out she was pregnant. he has cried..we have cried together he apologizes daily. i kept it real and even though i may sound harsh or evil i told him the TRUTH that I MAY NEVER except that 2nd child into my life our home. I was expecting him to leave right then you know but He won't leave and he continues to make sure i'm okay with every step he makes and we stay together and work thru this. OMG! anybody ever went thru a similar situation like this or have any advice? Please no rude responses/comments. CLARITY: Before he and I met they already had 1 child. After him and I got together he cheated on me with her and she got pregnant..that's what i meant when i said he got her pregnant again..not he has had two babies with her since we've been a couple. Open Question: If you broke up with your boyfriend and received this text from him, what would you think?Just to give a little background info, we were together for five years and we broke up last week and I moved out. I tried for almost a year and a half to fix our problems, which ranged from him not wanting to help me do anything around the house to him never wanting to have sex with me to him getting jealous if I made new friends. He is just so immature and I kept waiting in vain for him to grow up. I tried to talk to him literally what seemed like a hundred times, and his responses were always immature and defensive remarks. Suddenly once I have moved out he keeps begging me to come back, and he has begun to make up this story that he has had this self image problem for his whole life, which is why he doesn't want to have sex. This is the latest in what I consider creepy and weird text messages: "All i have been doing is laying in bed hating myself. Crying and thinking about ho much i want my life to be with you. You think asking me to change is unfair to me but if it leads me to a happier life for the both of us together then i don't see it as unfair. i want us to grow together. confidence and communication is something i think we can work on together. i think about how we were first naked aroubd each other and you constantly hid your body. i had to help you get out of that. Ironically later it just turned into me who hates his reflection and it poisoned your life and my life and our life together. Do you think we could work something out where we live together? I'll sleep on the futon and our relationship can be platonic. This way we can work things out together and have each other for support. Before I had you as a friend, i had no real friends. No one truly liked me or understood me. This is how I know you really are my best friend and my one and only. It doesn't have to be right away. You can take some time to yourself, but I think the sooner we can work on your confidence the sooner you can be confidently independent. The sooner I get ok with myself, the sooner our problem can disappear. The sooner we tear down our communication block the sooner we can understand each other. And with open communication I don't think our relationship will ever each a low like this again." Open Question: big problem. it's making me feel like a slut. what should i do?My boyfriend broke up with me on Monday, and now one of my guy friends named Matt is constantly hitting on me. Only he's not really saying anything. He just keeps getting me to sit on his lap at lunch (that's what or group does, the girls will sit on guys laps, guys will sit o girls laps, and girls will sit on girls laps, so we're all pretty chill about that type of stuff) and the first time i do, it'll be fine. The second time i do, he'll put his arms around my waist and lean against my back. and i'm okay with that cause there's not a lot of places to put your hands without touching someone when you're sharing a bench made for 4 people max with about 8-12 people. seriously. that's how many of us sit on a bench at once. But then he'll start to hold my hands and stuff, and when i try to pull them away he doesn't let go and i just kind of give up cause i don't want to make a big deal out of it. But then on Wednesday, i think, our group had to move away from where the benches were and we all were just kind of sitting on the ground or leaning against the wall and he pulled me up to him and had me leaning back against him and he kissed the back of my neck and bit my shoulder a couple of times.... as in the sexy kind of biting.... and then he walked me to my next class and gave me a hug and then he met me outside of that class when it was over and tried to start doing the same kind of thing again. i told him to stop and he did for that day and apologized for it later but then today he started trying to again. and this time it was almost worse. ALL of our group was just sprawled all over each other and the only place for me to lay was against him and one of my other guy friends but mostly on him and his hand was right underneath my boob and he kind of moved it up a little, i mean seriously two of his fingers were on it and he moved it a little again and i told him "if you move your hand anymore i will break your arm." (i meant it too) and he was like "chill, i wasn't even touching it." and he moved his hand down so that it was more on my ribs and then it was all good, he didn't try anything else (no kissing or biting) but he kind of tried to hold my hand. so. my problem. this guy is feeling me up and he's not my boyfriend, and he won't stop. but i don't want to flip out on him cause i want to stay friends with him. and friend of my ex's friend saw us kind of holding hands (i was trying to get my hand out of his without being obvious about it when he walked up) and i'm worried he told my ex we're dating. i'm still friends with my ex and i don't want to hurt him. what should i do? Open Question: Girl Problems: She has a boyfrend, but i reaally like her :/?Right. This girl i've know for about a month. I am good friends with her. But she has a boyfriend. I know her boyfriend and am mates with him. However, they don't actually speak much and ain't even together much at school. I talk to her more than he does and shes pretty flirty with me. Like she will come and tell me things whats happened in her day, and has a nickname for me. But i dunno if shes being friendly or is interested. But i really like her :/ She texts me a lot and is flirty on thatas welll, same for msn. Idintt wanna try anything though, in case shedoesn'tt like me and i lose both friends, but i think sheactuallyy does like me. As i have said she and her boyfrienddinttactuallyy do anything...The most they do is talk to each other for 5-10 minutes and occasionally hug. And it really gets to me :/ Help? Open Question: i am 23 and have a major jealousy problem, and have no self esteem. My boyfriend said if i dont change now hes?going to leave me. we have a 9 month old daughter and I love him so much, but i just dont know how to block the jealousy out! I AM SOOO JEALOUS ITS OUT OF CONTROL.. i used to be 125lbs before i had my daughter now i am 150lbs. i feel so fat and depressed all the time. How can i change so i dont lose him, and break up our beautiful family? Open Question: Why can't I show my love to my family?For instance, I love my parents, okay? but, no matter how much i try to care about them, and show my feelings, I always fail; you know, the problem is that i can't show them my love; means I'd rather keep my feelings inside; because it feels kinda weird if I have to show them my love!! But then I love my friends, or a boyfriend for example, I can give them as much love as they want, and I'm kinda successful showing them my love, and they love me back; but when it comes to people that i already know, like my mom, or my dad, I just can't show them my love, or my true feelings...it's a terrible feeling, help me please!!! Do you think this is my problem, or it's theirs?? More Recent Articles |
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