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Open Question: cOnflicT betweeN my famiLy and boyfriend .. >.< ..? and more... Open Question: cOnflicT betweeN my famiLy and boyfriend .. >.< ..?hMm .. i have this bf, 18 yrs old, who i really love so much but then my family cant accept him ..i get along with him very well .. its just that he was just a vendor and he got a baby who's turning 5 months this december and i dont have any problem with that .. i mean , thats just a boyfriend and its too far for it to bec0me my husband and they keep on telling me that he'll just give me a poor life that i w0nt like either .. >.< they only think that i'll just get pregnant cause they know that he's got already a baby .. my family keeps on saying bad things about hiM and he's uncle do the same to him ( hiss primary family likes me but the one that he's been w0rking f0r , whish is he's uncle , living in his house .his uncle and his uncle's friends likes me thats why his uncle keeps on saying bad things behind my back so that my bf will get mad ) they keep on separating us .. and i just d0nt kn0w what t0 do =( .. i just cant break up with him just for n0n sense c0nflict ..we keeps the relationship secretly .. we go 0ut secretly and n0 one knows that we're still together cause they think that we do split because of the family c0nflict >.< what could be the right decisions for this kind of pr0blem ? ='( he also loves me as far as i can feel and its hard for us to make excuse evrytime we're going out .. Open Question: Fiance speaking with ex boyfriend behind my back?Fiance speaking with ex boyfriend behind my back? A couple of weeks ago, I found on my phone bill that my fiance had a conversation behind my back with her ex boyfriend for 45 minutes while she was at the Dr. and I was home with her daughter, my soon to be step daughter who is 11. She was also texting him before that and deleted all the texts. She knows I have a problem with her speaking with this ex. She became quite defensive and angry over being confronted. We agreed she would not speak to him again, and she sent him a text saying they can not speak anymore. He answered with "OK, no problem" which seemed odd to me considering he is obsessed with her and has tried to contact her before. I believe she forewarned him that I knew since I texted her at work saying I knew, before we spoke when she came home and sent the text to him. Well, a few days later I checked again and it appears she has not been speaking with him (though she may be doing so at work) but I came across a conversation they had a month before the last one that was 2 and a half hours long! There were also several little conversations lasting only a few minutes. The final one I found and the most hurtful was her speaking with him for 25 minutes on her way to work in the morning on our anniversary. I can just picture getting her ready for work, kissing her goodbye, then her getting in the car and calling him and not only that, but ending up 10 minutes late to work just to finish speaking with him. I feel really hurt and betrayed, especially since she first claimed it was an isolated incident the first time. I found 1 email from him in her yahoo account, which I forwarded to myself. I then signed back in to her account check and see if she deleted it, and of course she did, but I still have that copy. There have been several calls that came on her phone as restricted. What do you all think? Does it seem like she is still in contact with him? I told her all was well and good, but I can't seem to get over it. I think about it every day and it's really messing my head up. If I confront her again it seems redundant since I confronted her a second time when I found the older, lengthy phone calls. Anyone have any advice on what to do? One thing I should mention is, an ex of mine friended me on facebook, and I told her about it immediately. Well, she flipped out and gave me holy hell on and off for a month about it, and that was after I was upfront and honest. When my ex contacted me, there was not even a conversation and I told her right away. Also, I almost forgot to mention this. The other day she came home with a box of Godiva chocolate. She told me that a client at work (female) had given it to her. Now, normally, I would have just thought "Oh, that was nice of her!" but I'm having such a hard time trusting her now and I really want to, but I can't help but think that maybe this ex showed up at work and dropped it off and they saw each other or something. They have a very on and off history where they keep breaking up and getting back together. It's killing me that I don't trust her the way I used to. Am I over reacting? I just don't know how to get past this. I found out November 9th and am still not much better psychologically than I was when I first found out. Is the chocolate thing weird? I'm wondering if he dropped it off as a gift to her job. She says her client gave it to her as a thanksgiving present. What do you all think? Open Question: Which girl should I or would you pick?1 is very kind, funny, gorgeous ( oh my god!!) and so clean, also really popular and goofy and again really funny sense of humor. I like her alot, best part is I think she is like me and hasn't really had a boyfriend despite being all that I stated above. ( really surprised when I noticed and heard..) only problem with her is that alot of her closet friends have kinda had a thing for me since middle school and this is senior year. (Believe it or not.) I saw her last year pics in prom and almost everyone in that pic was one of these girls and I keep thinking how awkward it's going to be if go with her to prom or whatever and have to share the same limo or whatever with them. also, she has alot of guy friends that I am fairly certain will judge me negativity,. ( ie: I'm emo, eyeliner, super mega tight pants, lip piercing tight band t's and etc…) and this may start to effect her judgment about me. ( this really scares me.) Other girl is hot as hell, smoking, I mean god. She's also smart, and fairly nice. Problem with this girl is that she is kinda totally boy crazy, like even she's admitted it. Her guy friends are also judgment ( more than likely a lot more than girl 1's.) but she is LOYAL I've seen this. Now I know what your thinking at this point, go with girl 1 she has a lot better stats given by me but the thing that equalizes things is that this girl doesn't have the click of girl friends that like me and this is something that is REALLY BOTHERING ME and not only this but her hotness is also kinda effecting my judgment….like seriously, I have NO desire to bang girl 1 but girl 2……uh. Yeah…lets just leave it at that. so what should I do? and please when answering try to put yourself in my perspective as well. I know what you guy's would say if you don't so please imagine the problems really bothering you as is bothering me. thanks and I will pick a best answer. also, need lots of answers please. Open Question: Please help me! Please?Ok so I fell in love, got my heart broken. Still love him. He is a good boy. (Why are the good ones the ones that hurt the most?) But anyway we don't talk anymore he lives on my street but we go to different schools (I transfer out) And He is very sweet. But we don't talk anymore. It's been almost three months now and I have a new boy friend but he is a Major bad boy! (This way i know he will hurt me so it won't be so bad!) But I am still dreaming of the other guy. The one I love. And I sometimes whisper his name when new boyfriend touches me a certain way (He hasn't heard me yet thank god!!!) But what do I do? I hate this! I even throw up sometimes because I miss him so much! Additional Details We were still friends at first but then he said mean things and then he apolagized and said "I just can't talk to you anymore I don't feel right. I don't like these feelings. Why do you always have to make me want you?" I asked him what he meant and after that he never replied. I'm dating the new guy because I'm not going to be an unsocialized person my entire life. we broke up because he is going through some family problems and he said he doesn't want to be in love. He told his mom he was scared that he was really in love with me. I am not twelve. I am 16. And if you think love has an age you are a dumn ass so shut the fuck up! Open Question: How DO I Get Her Back?? Or Do I?Ok my story goes like this my ex girlfriend now I am completely in love with is 14 years old and I am 16 years old. We were working on our problems for weeks when she just decided to give up on me I guess and Told me she didn't love me anymore, 2 of her friends at least don't like me one of them completely hates me, Her parents don't like us dating because of her age and She has a new boyfriend what should I do, Should I keep trying to get with her Or should I just give up? If you think I should keep trying to get with her explain to me Open Question: 21 years old, mom won't let me grow up, I feel trapped in my own life. HELP?I will try to make a VERY complicated situation as simple as possible - in summary: I am a 21 year old female, college student with good grades. Mom and Dad have been divorced since I was 9, but started living together when I was 13 (long story). They aren't a couple, they're just roommates. I have a 29 year old brother, he lives with his gf and his 2 kids from a previous marriage. So thats how my family is arranged. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. He's an amazing guy, and I couldn't ask for more in a man. I love him, he loves me, and together we're great. My mom seems to be the biggest problem in my life. She owns her own business and I have been working with her since I was 16 (possibly younger). I go to school, go straight to work, and then I go home and there she is. We're together pretty much all day. My mother will NOT let me grow up. I am beginning to notice that now that I am 21, I do FAR less fun things than when I was 19, 18, or even 16. She doesn't allow me to visit my boyfriend at his house, I have a 10:30 (MAXIMUM) curfew on weekends. Its RIDICULOUS! The worst part is, I hide the situation from my boyfriend, and he has no idea that my parents have me on "lockdown" the way they do. I mean, he's not stupid- he knows my relationship with my mom is bad because of her attachment issues, but he doesn't know that its because she's so strict. I am not allowed to visit friends houses, and lets say I decide to go out on a Fri night AND Sat night continuously.... I can't. To my mother , two nights in a row is just too much. Her excuse for not letting me go out late is that she "Busts her *** at work all day and it would be inconsiderate of me to keep her up waiting." Ive told her not to wait up for me then, and she looks at me like I'm crazy because she "can't fall asleep until she knows I am home safe." My boyfriend has been more than patient with me thus far. I usually make up some excuse as to why we can't be out late on weekends (ex. I work early Saturday mornings, I don't feel well, I have to study, I have a long day tomorrow, etc). I feel terrible, because after a while, his friends would always ask "Wheres Lianne? Why isn't she here?" and he got tired of going out without me, so now unless I go out, he won't go out and he'll just stay home and text me all night or go to bed early. (NO, he's not lying to me, he actually does this). My mom has gone so far as faking heart attacks (literally, with ambulances called and everything), just because I have disobeyed her. She is really strict on her belief that I should marry as a virgin, and thats why she doesn't allow me to visit his house or anything. Her marriage with my dad was bad - he never physically abused her or anything, but he also never gave her any love or attention. In 21 years, I've never even seen them kiss on the lips. I know she's had bad experiences with men, but she seems to try to make me feel like "All men want one thing." She's trying to make me feel like no one is capable of loving mem, because she herself is lonely. She always talks about how she got married a virgin and never disobeyed her mother. When I ask my grandma, she tells me its true, that my mother has always been obedient. Sad part is, my mom lets my grandma run her life for her too, and I DO NOT want to follow that same, sick pattern. I live in a pretty large house, my mom, dad, and I each have our own rooms.... Well, for a bit over a year now, my mom has been sleeping in MY room with me. If I tell her I need space or for her to sleep in her room, she gets offended and starts to cry, then calls my grandma and tells her I "kicked her out." The WORST part is she tells people that I sleep WITH HER because I'm scared. Its not only a lie, but its also EXTREMELY embarrassing. I don't know what to do anymore, my boyfriend is one of the most important people in my life, and I do not want to lose him. She calls me 99 times when I'm with him, and if I kindly ask her to please not call so much then she starts thinking im "doing something bad" (like sex ::gasp::) . He hates that my phone is always ringing, but I'm afraid that if I don't pick up she'll show up wherever I'm at (or supposed to be at). In order to visit my bf I have to lie to her and tell her I am at the movies, the mall, etc. Its ridiculous, and its becoming too much for me. I am trying to get a job so maybe I can move out, but in my family women moving out alone is sorta looked down upon. I don't know what other options I have. My mom is hovering over me at all times, and if I ask for space she makes a show. I don't want her to hate my bf and I don't want him to hate her either. What do I do? I can't keep living the life of a teenager! I see pictures of my friends online, and they all seem so happy - they're out going to parties, having fun, and being young. It makes me want to cry sometimes because I feel like I am trapped in the life that trapped in the life that I have been living. I know I should be thankful for my life, because people out there have it worse than I do, but sometimes I feel like the fun has been sucked out of my life. Open Question: please help... my boyfriend has some mental problems?...I am ashamed to even say this...last week, my boyfriend and I where in bed and he wanted to have sex but I didn't so I turned over and slept. Then I woke up to find him playing with my breast and I told him to stop, then I slept again and he did it again and I shouted at him to just stop! Then I slept and I was waken when I felt the bed moving and I found him touching him shelf just right next to me on my bed at my house! Please tell me I am making too much fuss of this I feel so disgusted of him! I'm not even changing in front of him. I can't stop thinking about it and I shy of him instead of him. something I think he has some mental problems? Those he? this is not normal?? Open Question: old fashioned parents!!?Okay im 15 years old making 16 in three months and my parents are too old fashioned...they dont dress old they are just sutck in their own time period and think teenagers are supoosed to be how they were when they teens. They cool people dont get moe wrong but they could really be uptight and aggravating. So they trust me for stupid stuff i did in my past and i have been doing everying thing to get their trust back but it never works. Also they dont allow me to have boyfriends bc they cant trust me and i cant even talk to them on my phone bf or not. and i just really want to know wat to do because i just got into a relationship but got my phone takin away bc my parents found out i was talking to boys. Im an honor roll student and i dnt get in trouble its just this boy problem that gets me in trouble bc how do you expect a 15 year old teenage girls not to talk to boys! can somebody please tell me what should i do bc i really like my bf but will not be able to talk to him without no phone! Open Question: Do actions really speak louder than words?I've been with my boyfriend for ten months. I recently came to terms that I really do love him, and my feelings have grown exponentially since the beginning from like to love. He tells me that he doesn't show his love through words but through actions. There's a lot of things I doubt happening in my head because I've been hurt in the past. I feel like he has started feeling more for me as of late. I know he's been hurt in the past by some girl, and it was really bad. I am 20 and he is 21, and we've lived together since April because he wanted to bring a girl into his life. We spend a good amount of time together and every once in a while we see movies together, watch anime on the bed, and he's always teased me playfully and then cuddled me. I want to know if I am reading too much into the "L" word and maybe not seeing that his way of showing it may just be through actions, because there is one clear sign: He doesn't like to speak very often; he prefers silence cuddling because actions speak louder than words. I agree with this, but as an English major, words are my thing. I tell him when I really feel it that I love him, and that he means a lot to me. I don't go on endlessly about things, but I do let him know that he's special to me and I really care. Sometimes we take showers together and it's really passionate and he holds me. I say I love him with a smile and I kiss him, and he licks my nose all silly. One time I was telling him how I loved him and all of that, and he said gently, "I know, but if you want to communicate on my level, then it doesn't have to be through words." His way of showing me is kissing me, making love to me, and cuddling. I feel like I sometimes read into too much and he even says "You don't pay attention to what I do for you" when I question his feelings. The problem is, I worry a lot and he knows this. He tells me there is nothing to be upset about, or worry about. I think he's right, and I make love out to be more than it really is. I agree, because I ask if he doesn't and he denies my accusation and says he does feel it, but he doesn't know. I think that love is a strong word, and can be taken away instantly; actions cannot. More Recent Articles
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