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Open Question: Can I rant? UGH! (m/c mentioned)? and more... Open Question: Can I rant? UGH! (m/c mentioned)?A "friend" of ours recently lost her baby. Up til now we don't know if she was telling the truth or not. Right after she got home from the hospital (after finding out that she had apparently miscarried), she immediately posted on her facebook, "back on the list: VEGAS BABY" uhh.. helloo.. you just lost your baby and that's all you could think of?! I know many of the pregnant women reacted. And now she's telling people, "God let this happen to me so that I can enjoy life and go to Vegas". Are you freakin serious? SHE IS 23. It happened because it was NOT meant to be, not so that you can go to Vegas and party your a$$ off. II am 7 weeks today and f I lost my baby, I'd be devastated!! Planned or unplanned, it is a tough thing to go through. She is very ignorant. I am very annoyed with her. I wish I could tell her off but I know it will just cause a problem within our group of friends. We are really good friends with her boyfriend. Yeah sure she wasn't ready, blah blah, but it doesn't mean she miscarried because God wants her to "have fun", certainly not that way! How could anyone be so insensitive?! And this was what she told someone recently, "God gave us a chance to get ready and enjoy (Vegas baby)"...OMG!! Somebody smack her for me!! It IS for the best. But the way she's going around and telling people is like saying, "I lost my baby. Hooray! I can still go to Vegas". Hayley France: I understand what you mean. Enjoy your life to the fullest. But THIS girl I'm talking about, it's like she's excited that she lost her baby. Open Question: is my boyfriend cheating?my boyfriend and i are long distance, we have been dating for 8 months. we are very close, of course we have our problems, and little arguments. but recently things have kinda changed a bit. Last week, I was playing around on his facebook with cafe world and farmville and i took notice alot other stuff was posting on his wall that was not showing up on my feed, an event he was suppose to attend took my interest , because i had not heard anything about it from him. I found out it was for a girl he had met at school, i asked him why he hadnt told me and he said he was going to eventually, we got in a bit of an argument about it because ive had suspicions she might have liked him, and i wasnt necessarily comfortable with it. He ended up going to the party, he told me he was going with a friend but he ended up going by himself to the party, and stayed until 5 am.....I trust my boyfriend , but im kinda scared because ever since the argument and the party he has been very drawn out and never calls or makes an effort to talk to me.....he tells me its because hes stressed out, and needs to focus on school, it just freaks me out because now , hes ALWAYS busy , he spends all day "in the library" at school, all of the sudden his work hours have changed drastically, i get this weird gut feeling about it, and hes stopped saying "i love you " unless i initiate it . is it just stress, should i be worried , how do i confront him with out accusing him Open Question: Does my boyfriend have the right to be upset?Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 1 year and 4 months. So tonight I had a conversation with a friend of mine (a girl) and I mentioned I was listening to Pink Floyd "Wish you where here" and that it was a great song. She replied that it was her and her ex-boyfriends song. I said I was sorry to bring it up and that I could relate because me and my ex's song was Oasis "Wonder wall". She said it was no problem and I told her it doesn't matter everything happens for a reason. She said "That's what everyone keeps telling me", I said "Yea same thing happened to me and sometimes I feel like F**k that". She laughed, I then told her I disliked hearing the song because it makes me stop a think for 2 seconds. She said that she wishes life were different and I agreed. The way I meant saying "I understand and sometimes I am like f**k that" meaning I do believe things happen for a reason, but sometimes after hearing it from so many people so many times its like just shut up already. He took it as me saying, screw that things don't happen for a reason and that I miss my ex. The way I meant it when I said it "makes me stop and think" is because I really dislike my ex. He was controlling, abusive, and had issues with drugs and alcohol. So I hate thinking about him. He took it as me saying, that I am think about my ex, and I want him back, and I am sad we are not together. The way I meant it when I agreed with friend about wishing life was different was a generalization saying don't we all wish life were different at times. I wish I didn't waste 3 1/2 years on my ex! It was a awful relationship and I was dumb for staying with him for as long as I did for the ways he treated me. He took it as me saying, I wish life was different and circumstances were different and I could still be with my ex. Please mind you I haven't seen nor spoken to my ex in years. I do not want to, and I do not miss him. I told my boyfriend this, and how I meant the things I said above. He doesn't believe me and when I tried to explain and talk to him about it he eventually hung up. I then text him and told him this entire thing is ridiculous, I apologize for the way he interpreted it, and that I didn't mean it those ways. I told him he was very quick to form judgment and opinions, that he should stop and listen to me and try to understand me instead of constantly believing he is right and insist I am wrong. I then told him I wont admit I am wrong (because I don't believe I am). He wont stop being mad until I do so. I then concluded that I was sorry again, that I loved him, and to have a good night. His response was, "It doesn't even matter really, it doesn't surprise me at all, I really don't give a f**k anymore so whatever. You f**king piss me off so badly I had to hang up because I cant even get two f**king words in when you talk and you just ramble on. Half of the s**t you f**king say has nothing to do with the argument. (I was trying to explain to him my responses were in context to what my friend was saying but he says that is irrelevant). Have a goodnight b***h." So what should I do? I feel like he is overreacting. I feel like he wont listen. I don't understand why he would want to believe that I would miss my ex after he knows all the hurtful things my ex did to me. I don't understand how he will only look at my statements but not take my statements into context to what my friend had said which I feel makes my statements make more sense. Am/was I wrong? What should I do? How can I make him feel better and understand my point of view without offending him? This is just so frustrating thanks for reading/responding. Open Question: just broke up with my boyfriend now what?i want a man who realises what he has when he has me...i want to be someones priority not an option and this is what i felt like in this relationship its sucks because we just started dating on nov.22nd we've had so many ups and downs its crazy before we dated he drunk dialed me and made me cry he hurt me i stopped talking to him the next day he apoligised and came over we talked moved past it then.. i had one of his exs writing him comments on his status saying how she couldnt wait to see him and how much she loved him she sent me a message saying there going to get married and have kids of there own and that there happy together and getting a hotel together and etc i found a condom wrapper in his room (not from me) maybe a week ago he said it was from 3 months ago and that his bros were messing around with them they are about 15 and 13 idk i feel like ive had the bullsh** end of everything not only this he told me he didnt want to be around my daughter as much because he doesnt want her getting attached to him only problem is my daughter is my life and will always be around no matter what she will always be number one in my life it hurt me because i feel like he tries avoiding me if i have her with me i try to keep them apart as much as i can because i dont want her getting attached just in case something were to happen like me breaking up with him...he claims that my fam. and friends will be happy knowing that they helped me to break up with him which is not true i make my own decisions tonight was the last straw though i acted out of impulse i asked him to call me later since my texting is delayed for some odd reason on my cell so he said ok gotcha i will yeah waited until fuc*ing 1am no phone call so i called got sent to voicemail got pist off and left him a message breaking up with him i know kind of shady but he was the one who didnt answer maybe 1/2an hr later he texted me saying his phone had died etc and that he was sorry but it was fine that i broke up with him psssh w.e. likely excuse to me im tired of it i want to feel like i mean more then him going out with his friends all the time the least he could do is invite me idk im so lost right now Open Question: Ex-boyfriend problem. please help.?So this guy and I broken up 7 months ago and yet, I still love him. But im not the desperate type of ex..well maybe, but im not obsessed. I think of him sometimes like "how is he?" or "i miss him"...and last sunday, I saw him at the market and yet, he was still avoiding me, well he already broke up with me and I also think he already has a gf...and obviously, MY LOSS...so why is he still avoiding? Open Question: I'm confused. She likes me but is in an unhappy relationship. Girls only please!?ok basically there's this girl that i like and we've been hanging out the last couple of months. She's made it quite obvious that she likes me but she has a boyfriend so I never made any moves on her. Just the other night we were hanging out with her friends and it got late and everyone went to bed. It was just us two sitting up watching tv. We got really close to the point to where we were holding each other and she started running her fingers through my hair and I broke down and told her that I like her a lot. We talked about everything and she said that she likes me too and that she loves hanging out with me and feels comfortable around me. Problem is that she has a boyfriend that she's been dating for about a year and they fight all the time, they've discussed breaking up but for some reason she doesn't know what to do. Her boyfriend and herself both agree that they are in an unstable relationship.She said that she's not intentionally trying to play with my emotions and that she does like me a lot she just doesn't know what to do about her current relationship that she is unhappy in. Now we text back and forth each day but I dunno what to do. Should I continue to pursue her or just leave her a lone. I need some good advice because I do like her a lot and there's definitely something there, I'm just trying not to get my hopes up too high.Please help! to make things clear. 1st of all she has spent the night with me in my bed 3 different times (nothing ever happened). her and boyfriend fight CONSTANTLY. he tries to control her and when she sees her friends. she caught an email that he left up on her computer that he sent to his ex talking about how he wants her back. he's broken up with her 3 times to go back to his ex. she told me the other day that he said he wants to shoot himself sometimes because their relationship sucks. I mean, i just don't understand what her dilemma is if their relationship is that bad and she likes me. Open Question: I am in a hole and cant seem to get out. Please can you help?I am in a loving relationship and I am having trouble with my feelings, its getting me down. I was married to a violent, cheating man and then I had a boyfriend who said he loved me but thought it ok to look at other women as long as he didnt do anything. I had a friend once who always looked at other men whilst with her long term boyfriend. The problem I have is that I am so in love with the partner I am with now that I dont even look. I almost wonder if it is me with the problem, that I am not normal and these people are! My partner says he doesn't look but I wonder if he does really. My worry is that there are alot of temptations out there, many beautiful, clever, funny women and I get scared incase my partner cant help himself. He tells me he is happy, wants to marry me but it only takes that one person to turn there head and thats what I fear, I cant seem to get out of this dark hole of thinking. Is it possible to be so in love that even the most beautiful, clever, most perfect woman comes along a happy man could say no to them? Open Question: Flatmate at uni is bullying myself and other. Thing is, she has cancer. How do I manage this? Please help.?I am asking this in this section because it firstly gets more answers and secondly has more mature readers. Hey guys, I've just started uni this year, which I was really looking forward to because my friends back home never went out. I think my eagerness to have fun landed me in a so called friendship group with a large group of party girls at uni. Which I am now regretting! THe girls are incredibly bitchy and this is something that I've never been because I'm always kind to people and try to see the good in them. My flatmate has just been diagnosed with breast cancer for the second time. She is only 19. This is an issue that is very close to my heart so I have obviously been there for her, had loads of chats with her, helped her out and even cooked meals for her. BUt I have never once been met with a thank you. She would get what she can from me, and then go upstairs to the other girls and be nasty about me. I cottoned on to this, and she began asking me for 50 pounds (which I can't afford) for her to go out drinking. She has no money to back it back! When I went out with her in the evening she'd ignore me, shove me out of photos, turn others against me by saying I was supposed to look after their handbag but left it (untrue) and gradually poisoned the others against me through lies about me. And then she'd come back downstairs crying about some other drama in her life (boys, her sister in africa, her nan or whatever) and never once asking how i was doing. And of course, she mistook my kindness for weakness because i struggled to turn down someone who wanted my help! She would forget to take her medication to stop her cancer spreading, and then go out clubbing all night every night, yet complains the following morning that she doesn't have the strength to go to tescos to get some food in. (she doesn't eat). She confided in me that she has been kicked out of uni because she hasn't attended a single lecture since september...because she didn't want to walk in by herself. I helped her out and even wrote her an appeal because she can't spell or write and I can.I even trekked around liverpool in a taxi late at night looking for a chemist that sold pregnancy tests for her....and she conveniently forgot money for the taxi so i had to pay! It would make me bitter that she'd always say how great heidi was as a friend and was nasty about me. I am miserable at uni because even though she's now gone home to start her treatment, she's turned the others against me with lies. I had an argument with her when i was out the other night because she tried to order me about, and this heidi girl had a go at me when she didn't know anything about it. And when I chose not to go out she'd text me telling me "you're missing out"- literally word for word. I saw this heidi girl publicly post on facebook about how "some people have a nerve" and "some girls are bitches", completely publicly. THe first comment referred to the fact that I gave her a christmas card wishing her luck with her treatment, despite everything she's done to me and all the times i've walked into a room and its gone silent because of her influencing the rest. There is no-one I can talk about it to because it's a taboo to talk honestly/nastily about someone who has cancer, even though they've bullied me practically. My boyfriend gets frustrated with me that I'm too kind to these people and he thinks I should just snap at them, but I don't see how it will improve things/ So I'm stuck here being miserable, with everyone believing lies she has told them (which i don't even know what she has said!), everyone is crying about her circumstances and although it's sad what she is going through, how can I tell them all what she's really like when she's going through treatment? It's either that or they treat me badly. I've heard her being nasty about them many times, as she was always gossiping about someone else or spreading rumours, Sorry it;s so long, i just don't know how to deal with this. If she was a healthy girl I could deal with it, no problem and set things straight. BUt because she has cancer she will always automatically be in the right and people will leap on e for saying anything bad, even though she lives her life making people unhappy. More Recent Articles
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