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Open Question: Am I over reacting? Should I go my own way? and more... Open Question: Am I over reacting? Should I go my own way?When we were a freshman we were like best friend. I had two wonderful friends name Linda and Jenny, we tell secret to each other and even talk about boy and family problem. We get use to each other so much. Well my friend Jenny got pregnant and move to live with her boyfriend and his family in another city. There is only me and Linda. I feel like we have grown apart ever since Jenny move. We are both really busy we never see each other again except once and a while of course. but when ever i see her and want to hang out with her she is always with her other friend. i try to get use to them but it seem like they dont like me. they always ignore me like when ever i try to speak they always but in and talk over me. they give my dirty looks too. what should i do. Open Question: marrying a widower whose wife when alive would not divorce him?I am marrying this great guy who I love very much. Even his daughter from his first marriage (that failed but...keep reading) loves me a lot and thinks of me as her own mom. The problem is and I know I don't have it bad with this guy but I am insecure. His first wife who he was ready to divorce within a year and a half of marriage about 8 yrs ago, when his daughter was 2 was a horrible wife and mother. She ended up becoming a stripper and drug addict. She passed away from a speedball in early '06. So, now his daughter is 10 and she is coping with depression due to her mom but this guy tried to make the arrangements with her mom work so she would have a good life. I know I don't need to worry but it eats me up that she never signed the divorce papers that were written up over 8 years ago. And he took her back once in '02 or 03 for a few months for their daugher but of course she never changed and started cheating on him again. I guess all I want to know is that would other girls be irritated by this past too or is it just me? I know he loves me to death and he tells me I have nothing to worry about. But even his daughter until I came along almost a year ago thought he and her mom were together until she died? Why did he hide everything about this woman and never openly talked to his family about it? Now his daughter is in coouseling and she never talks about her mom and she has a really hard time dealing with everyday issues and sometimes blames me and her dad even though she know how her mom was and never spent time with her. Apparently after she died my fiancee found a journal of hers that said the reason she was waiting to divorce is so she was going to take custody of their daughter and take all of my fiancee's money. It seems like he could have easily stopped her since she was up to no good. Apparently the reason she overdosed the last time was because she was mad about this boyfriend from '06 who would not marry her and prob because of the type of person she was. I just feel this is such a mess of a life for me to accept and I don't know what to think sometimes. I do go to my own counseling but everybody who knows us tells me this guy is good for me. And I know he made mistakes in his past and he regrets his life and the involvement he has with his first wife. But its so hard for me to accept and be ok with it. I know i can't hold it against him esp since his daughter came out of that band she is not a bad kid but her emotional prob can be overwhelming. I just want to know how other women would feel in a situation like this. Thanks. Open Question: I'm obsessed with this girl but she is sending mixed signals? Please Advice?There's a girl I've been friends with for about a year now but the other night we went a bit further and we made out. I'm always had minor romantic feelings for her but after that night I'm full-blown in love with her. The problem is she has this on-again off-again boyfriend who lives far away in another state. The guy told her that he wants an "open relationship" and is seeing other girls which is why she was okay with kissing me. The problem is after we made out she told me "don't get too attached to me" But some weeks or months ago she said things like "I would be with you if I didnt have a boyfriend" and "you could make me your wife if you really wanted to" but at the same time this girl NEVER calls me (I always call her first) What should I do? Should I still try to pursue her romantically? I feel like I would be a much better boyfriend to her.. Open Question: Air Force; Overseas, is it safe?My boyfriend left for the Air Force basic training a little under four weeks ago and contacted me telling me he no longer has the job for missiles and space technologies and thus there is no telling what his job will be till his 8th week. He told me his recruiter lied to him, and that there is a large change he will be end overseas to Iraq or Afghanistan, depending on where he is needed. He told me that the Air Force has a low rate of causalities and that he will most likely be thrown into a engineering job. Well... I feel uncomfortable about this and have been having from problems wrapping my mind on the fact that he might not come home to me one day. Could anyone give me an idea of what the bases are like overseas and if his safety is going to be endanger? Anything helps, I just want an idea of what he got himself into and what I am battling over here. Thank you. Open Question: Which guy do I choose?So my previous boyfriend just broke up with me 3 months ago after being together for a year. I'm finally starting to calm down. Well there are two guys that I really really like!!! One's name is Justen and the others Jade. Justen has been my best friend for a couple years now and we know each other very well and talk all the time. He told me he loved me and I feel the same way about him. The only problem is that he lives in Washington and I live in Minnesota, but he is coming out for christmas (hopefully) and I'm going out there this summer. Then there's Jade. Jade goes to my school, we only talk in text and we haven't hung out yet, but we talk about it. I think he knows I like him but we have never really talked about that. But he is REALLY cute. They both are. Which one do I choose? I don't want to ruin my relationship with either one of them. I love them both...please help me! Open Question: Should i say something to my mum or leave it?I came out to my parents awhile ago( 2 months) and since i've came out I've started to act more the way i've always wanted to be like dress and stuff. The thing is i can tell it bugs her that i do this even thought i've always acteded tomboyish but that's not the problem. The problem is i am not sure she gets that this is a permeant thing. Like my little brother who is only 6 was on about girlfiends and my mum was like you're too young to have a girlfriend. And he was on about me having a boyfriend and i was like i don't want a boyfriend, i want a girlfriend. and she was like but how do you know, you've never been with a guy but really that just is a stupid argument considering if that was the case we'd all have to sleep with each sex to dertimne who we liked if that was the way it worked. This is after i've told her i am bi btw. The problem is i am more into girls. Infact 90% of the time i like girls more than guys and really can't see myself wiyh a guy or sleeping with him(that just grosses me out thinking about it) but anyway she says things like you're just confused infront of me when my sister was one day saying about someone being bi and not gay which i am. And today i hear she asked my sister if i was going through a phase. I know this because my little sister who is only two years younger than me told me because we are like if i am honest best friends but i just don't think my mum gets that this is permant. Should i just leave her to be and give her time to ajust or should i have a chat to her to let her know that this isn't a thing that has just happended over the last year? I think it's my fault because i use to lie about liking guys alot of the time just to join in conversation when in truth i just wanted his haircut. Sorry for the long rant guys but i am just wondering what to do. And please no just bring a girl home and she'll know you're seriouis. Trust me my mum would still think it wasn't permant. Why on god's earth would i shave my head. I am just asking if i should talk to her Open Question: I am losing hope drastically, why have I kept these emotional scars?Im fed up... What is happening? Ever since year 6/6th Grade when my mums boyfriend (now ex) came into the picture, he mentally tormented me, beat my mum, drove me to the point of seeing things move and hearing voices and I had terrible anger problems, lack of confidence and anxiety. My mum was being screwed with in the head to but dealt with it with alcohol. She is fine now though, there is nothing wrong with her, it was a phase like 3 years ago but I really dont want to talk to this to her, she does not understand and i don't feel comfortable at all. I have matured so much early a few months ago I turned 15 and ever since 14 i have percived the world in such a cynical way at such a young age and its just taking away my trust in humanity and confidence. The depression has kinda stuck with me but instead of anxiety/anger ect. I have lack of confidence. I keep everything bottled up, I am so unmotivated I have become stagnant and I just keep myself down but drag myself to do things to try but nothing works. Don't just think i sit on my backside and moan, I have tried and still trying activities to get motavaited like gym,boxing and more. Its like all these emotional scars from my past experiances, my mum broke up with the cunt early 08. The most recent thing that has dropped on me is that me and this girl really liked eachother but then my best friend likes her now to. We are close and we admitted to liking her, its all out no problem. Just that he is so much more confident than me and even I know thats what girls like plus he is in all her lessons. I am losing her and i felt amazing when I was with her (not as in together) but I think she likes both of us, she has made hints that she fancies two people but won't say who. I do not compare myself to my friend, i am trying to build my own figure but its so, so hard. Please help... "Sometimes I wake up in the morning and I ask myself, is life worth living should i blast myself"- Tupac Shakur- Changes. That quote explains my final thought I have never seen a therapist haha :L Open Question: I don't want anything for Christmas?For real, I don't! I can't think of one thing I would like to have this year. It's been getting harder and harder these past few years but this year I'm at a complete loss. This is a problem because my parents, friends, and boyfriend are all asking what I want. I don't know what to tell them. I tell them I can't think of anything I want, but they all say "there has to be SOMETHING that you want." Nope! I keep telling them to just surprise me. Because, honestly, I am grateful for any gift I receive whether it's something I asked for or not. I'm sure I'll love whatever it is. But please, can someone give me some ideas on how to figure out what to ask for? I don't want to leave these people clueless. Thanks and Merry Christmas :) Open Question: having boy troubles......?basically, I'm 16 and never really had a proper boyfriend. I don't want to sound conceited or anything like that but my friends always say they don't understand why and that I could get lots of guys if i tried but I'm completely clueless about what I'm suppost to do! They say "Oh pretty girls have problems with guys" and I kinda think thats just ridiculous because there are lots of pretty girls that have no trouble at all. On the other hand though, I wouldn't say I was really bad looking either. I'm polite and like to have a good laugh.. I'm just totally lost here ;p I mean, theres this one guy I really really like and have done for ages but I've never really known what to do about it, because he hangs round with one of those 'popular cliques' at school (you know..every school has them :P ) although he kinda Isn't what you would call one of the 'populars' himself. I'm really scared of rejection in that sense and I wouldn't even know how to go about it anyway :P My friends suggested smiling at him and starting a conversation, but I'm such a chicken I go bright red and look at the floor when he walks past, then kick myself immediatly after :\ I used to talk to him when I had a class with him a bit, but I seriously could not make a proper sentance without sounding like a right idiot, where as normally I can talk to prettymuch anyone. I guess what I'm trying to ask is, what can I do....? thank you :) Open Question: I need some serious relationship advice!!?Basically, i'm at the end of my tether! (I'm terrible at this sort of thing so bear with me when I leave out important info! Firstly it's best I provide you with the basic information about us... We've been in a relationship for about 8 months now, it's been going from strength to strength, but she doesn't get on with any of my female friends because she's so protective and paranoid. I haven't given her any basis for her paranoia, but this is one of the small factors causing an uproar sometimes. We are brutally honest with each other, always have been, but we both want to fulfill the very similar dominant role, one of us has had to become the submissive one, but unfortunately it's me :( 1st Issue: We both work the same place, met there, and spend a huge proportion of our time together which has meant I have completely and utterly fallen for her, she reciprocates the feeling and I have no doubt of this. I'm not needy, neither is she, but as I have felt more and more for her, she has said i'm a bit full on, I did worry about this so I gave her more space. We have a healthy relationship, when we started out we regularly had sex, but obviously this became less and less to a happy standard of between 1 & 3 times per week, but we haven't in over 1.5 weeks, she has put it down to me being too crowding and thinks that i'm regularly trying to engage it when in reality I just enjoy being close to her. It seems I have put too much pressure on trying to be close to her, and even questioned her about her feelings towards me, but all is well! Second Issue: She finished from a 2 year relationship in September 2008, I understood that when we got together she may still have a small amount of feelings left for him, they ended badly and she has been hung up on it, mostly because he is an idiot to her and still gives her no closure. I have dealt with the fact that I have to come across him very occasionally, I feel threatened with how much more alike he is to her than I am, but not only that, but the fact she still loves him (not In-love with him), I know what your thinking, what am I doing!? but I have been assured it's down to him being one of her first serious boyfriends, as well as at the same time being in love with me. I know because of the way I have presented this text, it may come across as her not being over him yet, but I honestly am just hung up on it! She texts him very occasionally, such as last week to borrow his double bass, but I fear it's just making matters worse, she denies that it's complicating things, I told her how upset I was getting from this attempt to gain closure. I fear i'm coming in between her and the closure she wants but will never get, and that i'm being selfish. Final Issue: I have never had this problem before, not even with previous relationships, she's had 9 previous sexual partners and she's 24. I have met/seen a few of her previous sexual partners, and have felt increasingly inadequate when she has mentioned them, I don't have anything to feel inadequate about, but I feel like because of all this history & sexual history with other people I feel like everything I want to do, sexually & romantically, will already have been done & explored, I don't know the best way to describe this mess of feelings. This is all a tiny proportion of our relationship, everything else is gravy, and I haven't been this happy in a long time. I appreciate all sensible answers, jokers/spammers please don't bother posting :( Open Question: Isn't that really weird or am I just with weird option ?*Sorry , English isn't my mother tongue. In my class there's a girl, who everybody thinks that she's beautiful and she's teachers favorite student, because she's having very good grades.. I mean she can cuss every time she wants , and she's doing it often in lessons, and what do teachers do? They usually laugh and like "ha, You wont have problems with experiencing your option !" I am not jealous or something, but... others can't cuss... what the... yea.. and everybody thinks that she's pretty, and smart,but she's making weird noises in middle of lessons, and teachers are laughing again.. Today she laughed very much, and she rolled on the floor too, and still laughed much ( no joke ). Everybody thinks that she's clever and stuff like that... and like.. in history lesson we had to image that we're in the war, and we had to wrote a letter, and I wrote a letter to my girlfriend and that was the best letter of the class, and she was looking at me like she'd kill me, and it's always like that... and I don't know maths, chemistry,physics and I am quite bad at English, in these classes she's like "oh my god, you're so stupid" telling to me and things like that... Oh, and on Christmas we got to make a present for classmates, and she's always "eww I didn't want that sh*t" and she's always with her sad face then... and she's chancing her boyfriends more often than her clothes.. Do You think I told You about 13 years old girl? No, she's 16... shouldn't she be more intelligent, and what is wrong with teachers? what is wrong with teachers? Was my questions.. why are they acting like that?? Because she's a great student and gets all grades A's?? Open Question: Is Turkey strict abt entry requirements concerning visa?I saw that one of the entry requirements is: "Passengers without clean appearance and sufficient funds will be returned by the carrier". I don't have problem about clean appearance, haha, but just worrying over the sufficient funds part, my ticket is paid by my boyfriend there and I don't know how much they mean by "sufficient funds". Can someone who's travelled there or elsewhere abroad tell me how much cash I should carry or will credit card be enough and will they verify my card? I'm sick with worry because I'm checking last min things and want to make sure I have everything. Thanks for all your help and replys! Open Question: Why do I let them do this?I know, I know I have a problem and I know its wrong. I always tend to let guys run all over me. The thing is that i never notice it until later on after it happens, I think about it and I get sooo pissed. I tend to so everything they say and whatever they ask. For example... My ex boyfriend had all of these rules and commands and shit like no talking to boys and cutting off all of my guy friends and I first I would just bitch him out for it but it never got better so there were times when I would just give up and fill in to it. I would always so EVERYTHING for him... Homework,Classwork when he was in one of my classes and all of the above. I Now I have a new boyfriend who I think Is pretty much the same way, idk I don't know him well enough to determine if hes like the other guy but he says things similar to that and I also find myself doing what he says as WELL! Whenever we are somewhere and he is ready to go and Im not we leave anyways and idk talking about this just sickens me. Its not just boyfriends and past boyfriends its every guy! I even give them money when they ask for it. Why do i let them do this? Its like I just get hypnotized or something. Im 17 and a Senior in high school by they way. That's funny, there was once a guy who was like" ughh ur are just too nice!" Open Question: What is a nice thing I can do for my best friend?Okay, my best friend has been having a hard time. Boyfriend problems,school drama, her parents grounding her etc. And I'm tired of her being sad. I was wondering what would be a nice thing to do to make her happy. She says that when she see's me and is around me she IS happy. but what about when I'm not around...So can you help me? It's also hard on me too. Because when me and her are depressed at the same time it's horrible. It's funny how different we are. Yet our brain is like twins. I'm scene emo. (...yes emo. NOT A CUTTER) And she's like girly girl. anyway, thanks. Btw this is me and her: http://photos-f.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc3/hs116.snc3/16332_105522462793813_100000081805255_146552_4475868_n.jpg I'm the one with brown hair. She's the blonde. More Recent Articles
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