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Open Question: Should I stick to what I got or go with my gut? (boyfriend issue)? and more... Open Question: Should I stick to what I got or go with my gut? (boyfriend issue)?Hiii. I am a junior in high school and I've been going out with my current boyfriend for over a year now. He's my first boyfriend ever, and I absolutely love him. Obviously, we're in a serious relationship if it's lasting this long. The problem is, I'm the type of person that wants to go around to "experiment". (not in a "hoe"-ish way). I want to go around and date different types of guys just to build up a preference, and you know, actually having a "dating life". My boyfriend is amazing, I love him and I am happy... but not happy enough to want to be tied down at this age. I'm only a junior and I don't want to be glued down! I have no idea what to do...is my thinking of moving on from a great guy just stupid or am I right on just experimenting and not being tied down since I'm young? Another problem is that Im known as shy + a goody-two shoes girl...(which I'm really not -.- only in school...) I only dated and went out with one guy which is my boyfriend. We went out since last yr which is when I was a sophomore... before that, I felt unliked and stuff...(low-self esteem), so i feel like the only guy that would ever go out with me is my boyfriend :( Bleh , sorry... I've been like this for a while and I just want to know what you guys think, thanks :) I flirt around a bit which I shouldn't be doing... I kind of like my bf's bff but that's another story. Open Question: Can you write these in a sentence for me?i would u put me in a sentence. I AM Curious*Straight Forward*Very Giving*And always accepting*But not much to offer*I have a gay best friend that is 45 very good looking*Very Single*But still intouch with x boyfriends that did nothing but hurt, abuse, played on, and used*just sitting around wishing and wishing the man of her dreams would just sweep her away from all the problems that she still dwells about the pass and still dwells about coulda woulda every time she does right someone like a man "she thinks" will change her life cuz all her life she only knows how to function with a male companion. Other wise she will not budge. Noone will even know she is even missing but her cat. Open Question: Did I over react? Alcoholics and Beer pong.?Second time posted in a new category.... So... I had some alcohol addiction problems over the past year or so.... I have been sober for aprox 6 weeks now. My fiance KNOWS about my problem, and he told me YESTERDAY MORNING that he was affraid I was going to start drinking again... So after thanksgiving dinner, (WITHOUT EVEN TELLING ME) my fiance, my aunt, my cousin, and her boyfriend all decided to play beer pong... while I sat there and watched. They ALL (excluding my cousins new boyfriend) know about my past drinking problems and that I was trying to quit. I eventually left the room and sat alone for almost 2 hours by myself before anyone even asked what was wrong! I was SO pissed at my fiance, and got really upset and once we left the house I started crying and yelling at him. Did I over react? I am 19 and was a VERY heavy drinker for the past year.... any advice would be great... (serious answers please) :o/ BTW I talked to him and even told him it would have been nice if he even TOLD me what was going on so then I could have left before and he claims he had no idea they were going to play! AND i told him... i wouldnt have cared if it was just you guys like having a few beers or whatever but it was the fact that you guys were playing a da*n drinking game right in front of me and didn't even thinkg twice about it!! Open Question: Someone please please help?Okay, I have been off birth control for two months.. my boyfriend and i have had sex at least every other day for the past 2 months. My period is 3 weeks late i took a pregnancy test a week ago and it was negative. my period just came today but was medium and then stopped... someone told me that if you get your period you can still be pregnant.. actually she said that some pregnant women get a period each month when their pregnant... and my lower abdomn has been hurting and cramping worse than ever.. is get super hard and tight sometimes and it comes and goes.. SO 1) Is that true? 2) could the stomach problems have anything to do with that? 3) any other info?? help?? i also cant hold much food down i have been getting sick.. i have all the sympotms but a negative test? Open Question: Ex-Boyfriend was a Paranoid Schizophrenic was/is yours?Everything was wonderful to begin with, he was gorgeous, caring, kind and funny I was so happy and quickly fell in love with him. Sometimes though I noticed he would act or say odd things but I just laughed and put it down to a wacky sense of humour. One night we talked about his past he confided in me about bad experiences in his life and childhood..and also that he had suffered from a few problems (which I later found to be Schizophrenia) but assured me he'd received help & was taking medication which resolved this. I cared for & Loved him so I wanted to support him not run away because of something that wasn't his fault. Things however did become increasingly difficult... His moods became unpredictable some days where absolutely wonderful but gradually my every action was questioned & scrutinised; my whereabouts, my choice of outfit or jewellery, who I was txting, who was txting me, what I/they where saying, why I was late, down to why I had tied my hair up one day! I was hiding nothing and tried to assure him but to him this was a lie in itself. I felt I walked on egg shells suffering for things he imagined where happening, He was telling himself and people he knew I was upto allsorts. The loving guy I once knew became an insulting, sarcastic, bully, playing head games and telling me he was never wrong & could hear my thoughts! There was never any physical violence. At times I was horrible back but mentally and emotionally I was hurting. I became worried, confused & depressed and lost 2 stone in weight over a few months as I couldn't eat, I started to drink and lost any interest in sex, which confirmed (in his mind) that I was cheating. I'm a caring young woman who looks for the good and tries to be understanding but I couldn't take anymore and left him. I wasn't educated enough about Paranoid Schizophrenia to cope and wonder if it would of even made a difference if I was? I have forgiven and part of me still loves him but his illness was affecting my own health, my confidence and energy is exhausted. I wouldn't go back. Just wondered if anyone else out there has been in a relationship with a Paranoid Schizophrenic, what you experienced & how it affected you? Thanks xxx Open Question: CANT STAY HARD!! causing problems in relationship!?Okay so this is about my boyfriend and neither of us know whats going on with him. hes 17 (no smart remarks about age and having sex please, its not needed). and lately hes been having problems with his erections, he gets hard constantly through out the day for no reason at all (& hes already been through puberty hit it at 12 im pretty sure hes over that) and then when he wants to get hard or needs to he either gets hard and its fine but then goes limp on us....or neither of us can get him hard or hill get hard and right when hes ready he goes limp and then tries to get hard again and then goes limp again. Its EXTREMELY! frustrating for both of us because then i have to do things myself.. and he feels like a failure and gets extremely disappointed in himself because pleasing me is becoming difficult now and he thinks im going to leave but i wont and this is just a recent issue. i was his first and of course as a virgin he wasn't lasting long....but he was a natural from the start and he got better quick and was able to do 3 or more times in a row in one night and now this.... can somebody please help??? whats wrong with him. Thanks but hes a good boy doesnt drink do drugs smoke or nuthing never even tried Open Question: Girls.....don't get it...GRRRRR!!!?Okay, here's the story, my best friend's girlfriend, who im really close friends with also, she's like a sister to me,lol...is having trouble with a guy who used to go to her high school who wont stop harrassing her, he texts her everyday, saying disgusting things, sexual things.....but what i dont get is why the hell wont she give me or her boyfriend the guy's name or number! lol......we've asked her a million times why she wont let us take care of it and she always says, "Noooo, dont do anything, its OK, dont start problems"...ummm, wft! well, does she want the guy to keep bothering her?!?!?! i dont get it, why do women always do this?! this isnt the first time ive had to get involved in a situation like this with other girl friends ive had, and when i ask them to give me the dude's number so i can sternly ask him to leave her alone they all always say the same bullshit! "Noooo....dont do anything"....wtf again!lmao....why do women do this? why do they protect and defend the asshole who's messing with them? i never get it and dont think i ever will!lol..... she's told the dude to leave her alone a thousand times, and everytime he does she tells us right after, but when we ask her to give us the number so we can ask him to stop she doesnt, she's just one of those girls that dont like drama so she just leaves it alone, but this guy wont stop so maybe if he hears it from another guy, then maybe he might be intimidated and see how seriously we want im to stop....its not that she cant tell him cause she has, its just he doesnt take it seriously. Open Question: Another ex-boyfriend story but need advice!?So I have quite the dilemma here. Before I start, I just want to say please hold any comments for/against religion to yourselves on this one, (as it has a lot to do with religion, but it's in this specific category for a reason). I don't want people to start a debate...I just want advice. Warning: This is a long story. I appreciate anyone who will take the time to read and offer some feedback. I began dating a guy I met thru a friend (that I don't really have much contact with anymore) at the beginning of November. Everything was going great for the first couple weeks. He was nice, funny, cute, treated me very well, enjoyed being around me as much as possible...he also had flaws as well, just like anyone would...he doesn't have his license so I was the one always doing the driving, he's kind of stuck in this rut where he doesn't work much and isn't in school. (By the way, we are both 20 yrs. old) Those flaws were no big deal to me though, so the relationship seemed to be off to a good start. The major difference between us, however, was the religion. He is a born-again Christian, going to church 2, sometimes even 3 times per week. I, on the other hand, am an atheist and have no desire to be bothered with religion. He understood this and it wasn't a problem. And I understood how much going to church meant to him. Which is why I brought him a couple times and even sat thru it those couple times with him...not because I was interested in what was going on, but because I wanted to make him happy I guess. I even gave one of his friends a ride to church with us one time. All of a sudden, one night when I was over his house, he informs me that his pastor just called, drove by the house, and wanted to know who's car that was outside (it was mine). When he told him it was my car, and that we were dating, the pastor basically gave him this ultimatum: It's either her or the church. He wouldn't allow any member of the church to date an "unsaved" person. Not only was I unbelievably horrified at the mere fact he practically stalks the members of his church, but I was deeply hurt that he would say such a thing to someone who had been a member there for 2 years and who had done so much for that church. Of course I wanted to know what he was going to do. Without even having to think about it, he instantly chose me. He said he would just go to another church...one that wouldn't be as strict as the one he had been going to for the past couple years. Then, come Sunday a few days later, I didn't hear from him all day. Finally, around 9pm, he called me. We talked for a while and I asked him if he had gone to a new church and he said he did. About 5 mins. after we got off the phone, he texted me and said he had really gone to the same church, but wanted to spare my feelings, therefore didn't tell me the truth. I was so angry and hurt by this. I didn't want any part of him as long as he was still going to that place. The following day (Monday) I tried to be diplomatic. I said I would try to be more understanding because he had expressed how much he enjoyed going there, and that those people had become like his own family, and that the pastor had apologized for driving by his house that night. I tried to let bygones be bygones I guess...I don't know. That's the best way for me to put it. Shortly after saying all that to him, my mom called me. She told me this story about how she had been talking to her friend at work about my current issue, and well, let's just say apparently this church has quite the reputation. Her friend told her all about how she used to know a woman that went to that church all the time, and had eventually became extremely brainwashed and a bit crazy. At that point, I was done being diplomatic. I had had enough and couldn't deal with this nonsense any further. So that was exactly what I told him. He basically said sorry and that he was still going there anyway. A couple hours later, he called me and wanted to hang out so we could talk. He said he really needed to tell me something. So I did. According to him, he wasn't going to pick the church over me. He expressed just how angry he was with the pastor, and that it wasn't fair the way they were treating him after all he has done for that place. I pretty much said that was great and we could still be together. Then, the next couple days, he practically disappeared it seemed. He showed no interest in wanting to see me (so not like him) and had all these excuses as to why he was so busy. I would call, he wouldn't answer, or return my calls. I got so frustrated, confused, and even suspicious. I gave up. I texted him and told him I was so done with him by now. I guess what I'm really trying to make sense of out of all this is, what the heck happened? I mean, clearly he couldn't make his mind up, but to ignore me like that?? To the point I actually had to end things for good? 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