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Open Question: My partner was abused as a child - by an uncle from the age of four - now we are having problems. Help? and more... Open Question: My partner was abused as a child - by an uncle from the age of four - now we are having problems. Help?Hi, My lovely girlfriend who I adore so much and have been with 6 months told me last week just out of the blue that she was abused as a child by an uncle (the word she used was raped). Since then sometimes at night i have been unable to get the horrible thoughts out of my head about how bad it must have been for her. When i touch her now at night I wonder did that horrible child rapist touch her like that - and its almost like I am scared to initiate our lovemaking. When we do make love sometimes some of the horrible thoughts have come into my mind and now I think she can sense that something is wrong. She is a wonderfull person and very perceptive and we plan to get married and pend a wonderful life together, I adore her so much but now more and more of her past is coming to light I am getting worried I suppose. She was married at 18 to a guy who turned out to be one of these abusive partners and almost died from here time spent with him, and she was again married to a guy who turned out to be a convicted rapist (though only married for 6 months), and one time when we started dating she told me she had a rape fantasy (tho it has never occured to her). On friday I had to get my dog put down who I had for 15 years and a lot of emotions have been coming to the fore - i dont know how to feel and on top of that a family member (my brother) has really let me down big time on the same day. On top of that of friday evening when i went round to my girlfriends house we talked a bit and while in bed she said "oh i was going to give you some loving tonight wasnt I? i laughed and we kissed for like 30 seconds before she said "i dont want - you are so cold" and pushed me away. That topped off a really bad day and i was so tired and mentally drained I just said "your horrible" and fell asleep. On sat she was really distant and when I picked her up from work last night she was the same. I asked her if she was ok and wanted to talk she said no she was just tired and went to sleep(giving me the cold shoulder), I did not sleep well. I took her to work this morning as normal (7am on a sunday think i am a nice boyfriend) and i recieved a text from her about an hour later saying she thinks I have doubts. We are gonna talk later but i really dont know what to say to her, I have been thinking about what she told me in terms of being abused a lot, I cant help it it was really shocking, but i still love her and find her attractive and wonderful and want to be with her so much. Any advice is welcome thanks Open Question: My first kiss, really nervous help?my boyfriend keeps asking if he can kiss me but i keep making exscuses as im to nervous so i never know what to say. we cuddle up al the time and i have no problem with that. i think for some reason i would be more comftable having sex with him than kissing him, why is this? any tips on my first kiss? Open Question: I really need someone to help me PLEASE. I'm going crazy!?Ok so right now my boyfriend is pretty mad at me for seeing him while being really drunk. I was over the top wasted, I couldn't stand, couldn't speak properly, throwing up, couldn't see...it was terrible. Basically, he came to pick me up from my friends house and took me to his house. He didn't realize how drunk I was until we got to his house. He was mad telling me "look how your acting right now" and to be honest, that really hurt me that I disappointed him so much. I told him how I don't care and to not call me. On the other hand though, I felt he wasn't very concerned about my well being. He didn't call to ask me was I ok and he's not even picking up my calls. I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose him BUT if he's gonna let THIS get in between what we have then I don't know what else to say. We been through so much and he's definitly not an angel. He has done some very bad things while we were together and we were able to overcome it....so I don't understand what is the problem now. This ONE time I decide to have a little fun, it's a problem. More Recent Articles
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