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Open Question: How do you know if you have found a soulmate? and more... Open Question: How do you know if you have found a soulmate?I met someone who is much much older than myself and was around this person casually over a 4 day period. Almost instantly there was a strange mesmerizing connection with this person. After he left I felt an overwhelming sadness as if I had lost my best friend. He lives 600 miles from me. We have since began talking on the phone everyday and will have 2 hour conversations about every topic we can think of to talk about. It feels as if I have known this person forever and have no problem sharing things with this person that I wouldn't normally share with others. Is it possible to have a soulmate that is not a boyfriend or spouse? I almost don't even know how to explain my feelings about the whole thing but I know that I would be lost without having this person in my life. This is not something I feel I can share with just anyone especially my family since I'm sure most people would think I am crazy. So I thought maybe I could get others opinions. I feel the need to talk about it but not sure who to confide in about this sort of thing. P.S. I am 39 and he is 59. This is not something I went looking for...it just happened through a casual meeting and I feel a very strong overwhelming connection to this person. We have shared things with each other that we didn't feel we could share with others. I'm so confused and consumed by why this is happening and how to deal with it. Open Question: Help need advice big time?I am 21, currently unemployed and broke, I just found out I am pregnant, I am a student, I have a boyfriend I love but my family thinks is a loser, and I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life. I have been going to school for three years now and I can't figure out what I am going for other than I want an education. I want to have a good job and move out of my parents house and have my own space. I love my boyfriend but I have given everything to him if he has a problem I am there to fix it and other then love and support I have not gotten a whole lot in return. I am very confused about this pregnancy because I feel nothing for the baby and that scares me, I don't know what to do whether I should terminate the pregnancy and just focus on my life and join the military, keep it and let it help me find my life, or have it and put it up for adoption. I am so confused I feel ashamed I should have feelings for it shouldn't I but everytime someone wants to talk about it it bugs me and I want to run the other way. Until now I thought I wanted to have kids someday but now I am not sure if I even want them at all. Someone give me some advice I am so lost. I have talked to both my boyfriend and everyone in my family. My boyfriend wants to abort it, he says if I have it we are keeping it because he does not want anyone else to raise it. My family wants me to keep, other than my dad who says this is my choice, they all say they will accept me for any decision I make. But they also say that regardless of what I choose I need to be an adult now Open Question: need some serious life advice maybe a life coach?I am 21, currently unemployed and broke, I just found out I am pregnant, I am a student, I have a boyfriend I love but my family thinks is a loser, and I have absolutely no idea what I want to do with my life. I have been going to school for three years now and I can't figure out what I am going for other than I want an education. I want to have a good job and move out of my parents house and have my own space. I love my boyfriend but I have given everything to him if he has a problem I am there to fix it and other then love and support I have not gotten a whole lot in return. I am very confused about this pregnancy because I feel nothing for the baby and that scares me, I don't know what to do whether I should terminate the pregnancy and just focus on my life and join the military, keep it and let it help me find my life, or have it and put it up for adoption. I am so confused I feel ashamed I should have feelings for it shouldn't I but everytime someone wants to talk about it it bugs me and I want to run the other way. Until now I thought I wanted to have kids someday but now I am not sure if I even want them at all. Someone give me some advice I am so lost. Open Question: I am wondering if I should kill myself? Please.... i honestly need someone to talk to right now... :(?Because right now I have noone else to talk to... I'm really depressed and possibly bipolar. My moods appear to have highs and lows all the time. Since I was about 12 I've had this neverending bout of depression. 12 was when I was in Secondary School. Everything went fine for a couple days, then one day some older kids threatened to beat me up, calling me a chink because of my skin color. (I am not Chinese or Asian, I am English with a slight touch of Medeteranian...I'm usually quite pale.) I got constantly called this at school until I had to be homeschooled. I am back in school now. At school I am the typical nerdy girl who hangs out with a group of people like myself, because I felt safer with them, and I had people I could relate to. I have a stepdad. My real biological father physically and emotionally abused me from ages 3-15 (my earliest memory was being kicked and thrown around a room, I remember the chest pain, like I was having a heart attack. I was only 11 months old then). I'm 16 now and he's been gone for almost a year, since April. I now live with my mom and my little brother, who is 9 years old. My mother is divorced..My stepdad comes home weekly to visit us. I feel better when he's there. But they don't notice me. There have been times where my mom would just completely forget about me when I am up in my room. She cares for my brother like any mom would. She treats me different. If I ask for something politely I just get told off and yelled at. If I use something or make a mistake I get yelled at. If my brother did any of these my mom would understand it, her tone of voice towards my brother is different. She hardly ever asks me how I'm doing when I am upstairs on the computer. (I'm on it most of the day, I am not allowed to call friends or go out for parties, while my brother does this all the time) she always finds my weaknesses and gets mad at me for tiny reasons. About 2 hours ago today I was told to hang a towel up onto the hanger. It fell off so she got mad at me and hit me and made me do chores. Then she just told me how I acted like a 5 year old, she told me I was an ugly *****, and how she would call the school so I can't see my friends and have me homeschooled again. My friends are the only people who make me happy. They know me as a smart cheery and funny girl, I have never once told them what I had going on inside and at home. I'm showing symptoms of bipolar and schitzlphrenia, I have nightmares constantly, that I can't even describe. I have a lot of medical concerns, I used to have epilepsy which is now, hopefully gone but I've been told they could come back, asthma, asperger syndrome (reason for my occasional social awkwardness) bone marrow issues, possible heart problem, stress, depersonalization, allergies, bipolar, insomnia e.c.t Everyone likes to point out my flaws and never look at my positives. This literally killed the little self confidence that I had. Everytime I actually feel confident in myself people just take it all away and only point out my flaws. And when I fix that flaw, they'll find another flaw, and pick on that. I try to be as good of a person as I can, eg. I get good grades in school, I'm never mean, I'm always polite to people, I'm not racist and see everyone as being equal, I see the good in people and help people out whenever they are in need of help...My mom and her boyfriend had a lot of fights over the summer and I have lost a lot of sleep over it. I already have a bad immune system so I feel sick constantly. I try to make myself memorable, yet even my own grandparents forget about me, even for celebrating my 16th birthday. They didn't bother to write to me, although I wished my grandpa a happy birthday a couple weeks after. I feel like people don't need me. I'm scared to tell my friends about what has been going on, I haven't told anyone, not even my best friend or grandma (whom I can relate to very much.) I try to leave what has happened in the past behind, abuse from childhood, bullying, breakdowns, medical scares, suicide attempts (still have the faint scar on my stomach from when I was 8, but it's covered up) e.c.t as much as I can. But for the times that I feel happy something happens to bring me down again. My biological father never bothered to even email me. People are forgetting about me as much as I do for them..I'm sick of being called a stupid *****, ugly, loser .ct and told how I can't do this and that for whatever reason all of my life. I've never had a boyfriend..which makes me even more insecure, I have noone by my side. Apart from being at school, I'm all alone. I talk to myself...a lot. I'm always in my room because I know noone wants me. I just sit there waiting for the day to come where everything will start getting better and I'll be happy again. But that isn't the case. A lot of family members passed away this and last year. I feel so alone..I had expectations, getting into this high end college, getting degrees in the subjects I love, pursuing my dream career, getting married..my mom is considering taking me to this shabby special ed college with 140 students, half of them autistic or handicapped, with very poor academic ratings..I dont want this...i dont know how i deserved to get what i did. I feel itll be a waste of time for councillors to try help me..ill have to live with my failures and memories of the past up into my late adulthood and senior years..right now im sitting in my room in the dark..I might sleep i don't know its 8 pm. please i really need some1 2 talk to...anything at all would be appreciated...noone else is here to listen to me :( Open Question: Is really so difficult to fall in love?Hello everybody.. I'm an 18-years old-girl, I live in a very small town lost somewhere in the worst European country, and maybe the worst country in the whole world.. I was born and I'm living in Italy -.-'' an horrible place with disgusting people, I hate this shitty hell and I'll leave it and move to London as soon as I finish the High School next July. I've got a lot of problems, I've been getting a terrible loneliness under my skin since I was 10, I've never been loved by anyone (starting with my parents) and I've never loved someone, I've never had a real friend, nor a boyfriend or a girlfriend (I mean, someone to fall in love with, not just someone to have sex with.. also because idk why but people here are all asexual @.@ I can have sex with someone only when I go in another country, don't ask me the reason of this, it's one of the things that are driving me crazy @.@).. I suffered sexual harassment when I was 10 and since then I suffered sexual trauma for about 5 years. I've been left alone by my parents, I suffered that hell all by myself, thinking people didn't like me because I was wrong, I was guilty, I was disgusting. This lasted 5 years, and when I was 15 things slowly started to change, I got out of my trauma, started to have some kind of friends and finally surpassed my sex phobia. I felt like I was the queen of the universe for about two months, it was pure happiness.. but after that short period I realized things were not really changed. I was deeply changed, but people were still avoiding me, my "friends" were insincere and fake, no one feeling something for me. I thought I was too fat, and so too ugly (and actually it was true) to be loved by someone, so I went on diet and I lost almost 44 pounds in 2 years time, I tried to adopt different attitudes with people, trying to understand which was the right one, which one people would like. But no one has ever liked me (and I've never liked someone too, people here are all uninteresting, insignificant, close-minded and I've never had a feeling for someone), and this is still happening. It's like I'm invisible, people don't see me, I can't start talking to someone, it's like I really don't exist. People here are all very antisocial, they have their provincial mentality and no interests, they're not interested in travelling, knowing people, have experiences and so on, and this is actually a reason why it's hard to find friends for me, and to fall in love. But this is not the only reason, and I'm afraid I've got something wrong inside me, I'm afraid things won't change even when I'll be in London or wherever else in the world.. I've never fallen in love (just a one-week crush last summer *.*)and I'm afraid of this, I'm afraid this will never happen, I'm afraid of I don't clearly know what. How can I understand why am I wrong, what's the wrong with me, why I can't be someone's Love Of My Life? Falling in love seems to be the easiest thing in world, it's in every song, in every poem, in everyone's eyes, but it doesn't exist for me.. is really so difficult to fall in love? ): Sorry for my pitiful English, and thank you for your answers (: Open Question: i like this girl?........................?i have already asked this question so please tell me what should i do i like this girl who is in the same grade as me, but the problem is she goes to a different highschool we are both in 10th grade. i started to like back in 8th grade and i never told her because she had a boyfriend and she was popular and i wasn't but she was really nice to me and she was smart unlike her friends, they were pretty mean. i had her in three of my classes and i would stare at her all the time, but we never talked to each other, one time she asked me for a pencil and my voice cracked up while talking to her so what do you think i should do. do you think i still like her? and am always thinking about her. Open Question: My childless widowed sister spends two weeks with us over Christmas & New Year...?She is in her seventies and much older than me (I'm still working). She visits us several times a year for 2/3 weeks each time and expects my daughter & son to take her out or stay in with her (They both work shifts) while I'm at work Mon to Fri. She's not happy that my daughter's boyfriend and son's girlfriend will be visiting over the Christmas period and doesn't want us to have a party on New years Eve. How can I get her to see that she cannot dictate how we spend our time at Christmas and New Year? I'm usually good at solving problems but not this one! Open Question: Can't get past deaf boyfriends voice... please help!!?Well first of all, please no rude comments. I really appreciate the large amount of understanding and helpful people there are here, and your advice means a lot, so please nothing mean, okay? :) Now to the meat of the matter... My boyfriend is a very sweet, intelligent, and kind man. To top it off he is just GORGEOUS, and tall (which I love). The problem is not really a problem (just my own problem) but nonetheless I am having a hard time getting past it (and I'm kicking myself in the meantime)- He is half deaf, and because of that his voice sounds funny and I feel terrible saying this, but I just can't hardly stand it. He's even told me some people have thought because of his voice that he's mentally retarded (until of course they get to know him and realize on the contrary he's actually very intelligent)... I love him, I do, and I am VERY attracted to him... but his voice, to be frank, is a pretty big turn off. Is there anyone out there who's been in a similar situation and/or understands? Any advice on getting past this?? Thanks everyone :) Open Question: k2 visa age out~ getting married~ i need to know what to before and after marriage.?im a K2 visa holder visa denied because of age out and my boyfriend/fiance wants to marry me. I got ss id and employment authorization card I just got here in the US 1 1/2 yrs ago. i came here in the us before i become 21 yrs old. My parents for some reason wasn't able to file my AOS asap before i turn 21. So now im 22 and my AOS got denied because of my age, you know the so called "age out" problem. then (long story) me and my mom cannot get along so now im on my own. I'm currently living together with my Fiance for months now. We plan to get married next year by June. I just want to know if what steps should i take before or after getting married. thanks you well actually it says pending when i checked on it~ meaning we can still make an appeal or a waiver of hardship. because if i go back i don't have anything. but the problem is my mom severed all ties with me because i chose to be with someone i love (its a long story) Open Question: why can't people except my boyfriend xxx?my boyfriend is so great i love him xxxx so much xxxx :) why do people hate him? :) my friends say they hate him xxxx but it's not his fault xxxxx he has mental problems xxxxx :) should i ditch my friends for him xxxx :) he has scizophrenia xxxxx but he's better now bbz xxx :) and he loves me so much Open Question: big problems with boyfriend serious?Okay i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months, his whole family hates me they keep trying to break us up and talking about me. im so sick of it & on top of that hes 21 and he is such a mommas boy his mom controls everything his bank account and everything its like he just isnt grown up. and the worst part is he never stands up for me when his family talks about me. i dont know if i can handle it anymore i know his family is always going to be there and there never going to stop. what should i do please give me some advice Open Question: How do I fix this horrible love problem?Ok so I fell in love, got my heart broken. Still love him. He is a good boy. (Why are the good ones the ones that hurt the most?) But anyway we don't talk anymore he lives on my street but we go to different schools (I transfer out) And He is very sweet. But we don't talk anymore. It's been almost three months now and I have a new boy friend but he is a Major bad boy! (This way i know he will hurt me so it won't be so bad!) But I am still dreaming of the other guy. The one I love. And I sometimes whisper his name when new boyfriend touches me a certain way (He hasn't heard me yet thank god!!!) But what do I do? I hate this! I even throw up sometimes because I miss him so much! We were still friends at first but then he said mean things and then he apolagized and said "I just can't talk to you anymore I don't feel right. I don't like these feelings. Why do you always have to make me want you?" I asked him what he meant and after that he never replied. I'm dating the new guy because I'm not going to be an unsocialized person my entire life. we broke up because he is going through some family problems and he said he doesn't want to be in love. He told his mom he was scared that he was really in love with me. Open Question: My Boyfreind is really stingy with me?My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over a year now, and he is extremely wealthy, but also very stingy when it comes to me. He has no problems blowing through thousands of dollars on himself for extravagant toys and clothes that he doesn't need. (He literally has more shoes than I have ever seen in one closet). In the meantime I am a full time student, working full time, and I am barley making ends meet. On top of it all I'm losing my job at the end of the month. I'm not expecting him to support me, but I would be nice for him to be sensitive of the situation. For example, one weekend he went to the mall, after he spent about $2500 on clothes for him self I asked if I could stop by the make counter to pick up some face wash( $20). In the meantime a sales lady at the make up counter snags him, and starts showing him the new men's skincare line. He buys the entire line for him and a buddy ($350). I walk over to check out with my $20 face wash and I was thinking maybe just maybe he would say it was all together…but no…I paid for my own face wash. It just little things like this; It would be one thing if he truly could not afford it but he can. Even though I can't spoil him with expensive things, I make sure he is always taken care of, I constantly clean for him, give him massages when ever he asks, run all of his errands, and "physically" he is always satisfied I want to confront him, but I'm not sure what to say with out sounding like a gold-digger, but he is really acting selfish. How should I approach the situation? Open Question: Why won't myspace work & everything else does?Hey ppl.. I'm having a serious problem accessing myspace through my internet... idk why.. I jus know every time I click or type myspace in the bar..it takes foreverr to load..then it says the page cannot be displayed. I can get to myspace by going to myspace mobile through my computer...but thats it. And everyone knows how boring and limited myspace mobile is.. My boyfriend seems to think he might of accidentally poisoned myspace...?? how.? idk. and neither does he. Ive tried so much and nothing works. All I need to know is how I can get my internet to let me go to myspace w/o problems. btw...every other computer in the house works normally w/myspace..just not mine. 10 points to best answer. How do I unblock or or undo whatever was done to it???? Open Question: which girl should I or would you pick?1 is very kind, funny, gorgeous ( oh my god!!) and so clean, also really popular and goofy and again really funny sense of humor. I like her alot, best part is I think she is like me and hasn't really had a boyfriend despite being all that I stated above. ( really surprised when I noticed and heard..) only problem with her is that alot of her closet friends have kinda had a thing for me since middle school and this is senior year. (Believe it or not.) I saw her last year pics in prom and almost everyone in that pic was one of these girls and I keep thinking how awkward it's going to be if go with her to prom or whatever and have to share the same limo or whatever with them. also, she has alot of guy friends that I am fairly certain will judge me negativity,. ( ie: I'm emo, eyeliner, super mega tight pants, lip piercing tight band t's and etc…) and this may start to effect her judgment about me. ( this really scares me.) Other girl is hot as hell, smoking, I mean god. She's also smart, and fairly nice. Problem with this girl is that she is kinda totally boy crazy, like even she's admitted it. Her guy friends are also judgment ( more than likely a lot more than girl 1's.) but she is LOYAL I've seen this. Now I know what your thinking at this point, go with girl 1 she has a lot better stats given by me but the thing that equalizes things is that this girl doesn't have the click of girl friends that like me and this is something that is REALLY BOTHERING ME and not only this but her hotness is also kinda effecting my judgment….like seriously, I have NO desire to bang girl 1 but girl 2……uh. Yeah…lets just leave it at that. so what should I do? and please when answering try to put yourself in my perspective as well. I know what you guy's would say if you don't so please imagine the problems really bothering you as is bothering me. thanks and I will pick a best answer. Open Question: I have to talk to my ex boyfriend's parents?Me and Austin (my ex-boyfriend) are still friends. We dated for 6 months until his parents found out that me and him had sex. Since then, he has been banned from seeing each other, calling each other, or texting each other ever again. It's been about a month since our forced break up. We have been secretly emailing each other. He says that he's not going to wait for me and he's going to get another girlfriend. Me and him had a lot of problems when we were dating and I did cheat on him a few times. I regret it so much. It took me untill very recently to realize all that I've done and that I've lost the one guy who's treated me the best. I told him to give me one last shot to prove that I've changed. He said that he'd talk to his parents' today about giving me a "sit-down" talk. I'm really scared and nervous. I love him with all my heart so I'm willing to do this and whatever it takes just to see him again. The problem is, Austin's parents know that I'm sexually active (I'm 17 and Austin is 16). They also know that I smoke pot, drink, and party. Austin's family is one of those proper, christian, go-by-the-book type of families and compared to them, I'm like satan. I'm a good person on the inside. My friends know that, my mom knows that, and I know that. How can I convince Austin's parent's that I'm a good person and that I deserve one last shot? I'm willing to do anything. I love him that much. More Recent Articles
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