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Open Question: How can I stop feeling so guilty and messed up? and more... Open Question: How can I stop feeling so guilty and messed up?I have very strict parents. When I was younger, my father never let me go to parties and told me never to trust people or have friends. Well, being so strict, I secretly rebelled, dated and ended up losing my virginty at a very early age (16), which I regret because I know my parents would be crushed if they found out, and porbably kill me. I 'm 21 now, in college. I'm depressed, having a nervous breakdown (my doctor said), and stressed out. I'm not doing so well in school this semester, and feel really guilty because my parents work day and night to put me in school. I don't trust anyone (I used to give people the benefit of the doubt, but now don't because I was in a very mentally abusive relationship). My parents don't know about any of this. I cannot talk to them about it, they would not understand. I cant seem to let go past hurts from friends, family, or boyfriends. I can't face problems and just run away from them. I don't have many friends either. I just need some advice on what to do. I feel very depressed. I wouldn't commit suicide. But I'm afraid I'll slowly lose my sanity. Open Question: My boyfriends ex needs to get a clue?So my boyfriend is some what friends with his ex girlfriend, they've been broken up for close to ten year's and the only time they see each other is when mutual friends get together. They don't hang out, or have lunch, or anything alone. Well not that I'm aware of so far. I've never really had a issue with there relationship till I found out she text him to go out of town with her a few months back. I confronted him about the text and he told me that she just has a sarcastic sense of humor and that it was just a joke. She's constantly text messaging him stupid jokes and asking him "how things are" and so on.. I think she still has feelings for him, should I be the one to call her up and ask her what her problem is? or should he be the one to put her in her place?? Open Question: What should i do about my ex?Okay well me and my boyfriend were having big problems in our relationship,so i told him a couple of weeks ago that we should take a break.It was hard for me to do but i think it has helped me a lot.Me and him decided that we were going to get back together and he set the date for new years(I dont even think he wants to get back together).Since then we havent talked much and he has been a jerk,he has been saying that he has been talking to this girl and stuff like that just to make me mad.To this day he has been ignoring me and stuff.... I am getting the idea that he just wants me too get over him,is that the right thing to do now just get over him.? Open Question: am i just being silly/childish/stupid?well me and my mom have never got on as well as she did with my elder sister. My elder sister has recently started university leaving home, so now it is just me my little sister and brother. ever since she left it seems that mum has sort of turned funny. sometimes she will be all nice and friendly then out of the blue she'll start shouting telling me that i've done this wrong or that i need to get my act together. for example, she goes through my room and looks through my school books. i dont mind at all! but she saw this piece of paper with some work on it. it had my name doodled all over it with hearts next to my name. under my name in several places there was scribbling, where my friend had wrote her name. now my mom has convinced herself that i have a boyfriend and that would be going against all the rules of my family's soicety. i go to an all girls school and have never had a boyfriend, i dont want to upset my mom. and i dont have any problems admitting this. but i dont get why my moms making my life hell when i haven't done anything wrong! am i just being silly or is she being silly? please help. im SO confused atm. thanks for all you answers so far. and i know that my mums not pms-ing because her periods stopped a few months ago now. ive told her countless times that im not the sorta person that would have a boyfriend when she blatenly doesnt want me too! ive contemplated running away too but that would kill my grandparents and i couldn't do that to them. its just got to the stage where its so annoying. she hardly ever lets me out anymore either. and when she does shes constantly like who where why when how long and all this crap...even if im only goin with some cousins. i just dont get her problem! cant she see shes ruining my life! and Miss U Mj your so right! its not like im going to marry the guy so what does it matter. and my mum does exactly the same, every bodys says to her how mature i am for my age and how much i help her. if outsiders can see it. why cant she :( Open Question: can anybody help with my girlfriend problem?first off we don't live near echother im in north carolina and she's in arizona i know bad enough right there....................well her ex-boyfriend keeps calling her and telling her that he still loves her and they have been seperated for over a year.............and he just started doing this...........me and her have been going out for 9months on thursday. well last night her and her mom got into a fight and her ex kept calling her and i couldnt do anything to help cuz im not there.......and she won't tell me what is going on...........so this morning i texted her asking if she was ok and she told me she was running away for the day or maybe longer and hasn't texted me back at all and it's been 2 hours......i've been crying and im worried i just need to know wat to do i mean im in love but idk whenever she gets mad at something i get the raw end of the deal and i end up getting left or yelled at and i can't leave because of love............im in desperate need of help please Open Question: on friday i had an argument with my parents about my life and my boyfriend how can i fix this?(((it's going to be little long but i really need your help! i dont know how to fix this... i have the tendency to say things without thinking about them and so i need some help! ))) OK it was friday and i was planning on going to the museum with my boyfriend and i knew that i wasn't going to be able to stay there alone with him. but they made a huge deal about that im making my world revolve around him(in a way its kind of true... i have friends but we normally only talk at school i supposable had a best friend but she didnt put any effort into it so now is when im cutting lose from her and my other friends i invite them places but they never want to do anyything or they say they will when last minute they say that they cant go and then im stuck not doing anything) and that he's not my husband only a boyfriend... that i don't need to always been with him and taking him places... and then like we calmed down a bit and then like they asked me if he was going with us or not and i said i don't know, so i called and said well are you coming or not and he was like no it sounds like you guys Neda talk and spend time with each other and plus im not even dressed to go out and i don't want to bother you guys by coming over here to pick me up and then drop me off so i was like no your not but if not then alright and then we hung up...after wards they started telling me how i was putting myself low and how i was begging him to come and what not and then they asked me what he said and i said no he said he doesnt want to be a problem(which wasnt what he said and i didn't mean to say that but i wasnt really thinking so it just came out like that.) so he (my dad) got really mad and said well he doesnt want to be a problem and so he's not i dont want him at my house any more and blah blah blah. and they were then telling me that i was in trouble for telling him about what happened and when i didnt tell him everything i just said i had a discussion with my parents and thats all. and they told me that i dont have to always tell him what happeneds in my life that there are some things i should keep from him. please no stupid remarks i want to fix this today if possible. Open Question: Follow my heart or my mind? Advice?Ok so.. I have "boy trouble" and I can't ask my friends for advice because they would be totally biased. Anyways, as of now I have a boyfriend. He is a great guy and he is really good and he likes me a lot but the problem is that I don't feel the same way about him anymore. I got bored with our conversations and everything is predictable and more like a routine than a relationship. He is waaay too shy with me even if we've been a long time together and its getting a little annoying at times.It is kind of difficult to hold a good conversation with him. When I kiss him I don't feel anything its like if I was making out with a pillow. I do love him I just don't feel like I like him or even if I'm in love with him. At first it was great but now I realized why my relationships haven't been working out. Its because I'm still not even close to be over someone. I'm constantly thinking about another guy I used to date. I'm pretty much have realized lately that I'm in love with him and it sucks because no matter how many other guys I date I can't seem to get over him. To me it seems like no other relationship I'm in would ever work unless either I get over him or if I'm in a relationship with him. It hurts that I can't seem to get over him, even if about 7 months have gone by since we dated. My mind is telling me to give my boyfriend some more time because he is a really good guy and I'd hate to hurt him. But my heart is telling me that I'm on love with someone else and that I should breakup with my boyfriend because he is not the one for me and I'm basically emotionally cheating on him. Any advice on what I should do? (Sorry if its long btw) Open Question: Should I Break Up With Him Or Not?I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 months. he is my first proper boyfriend, I am 16. We havent kissed yet. The problem is that in the two months we have been going out I have seen him properely for a total of 4 times. He doesnt go to my school, church and he lives about 45 mins away from me. Im my exam year and so is he so we are both pretty busy with school and freinds anyways. I Really like him he's sweet and lovely, but we kinda missed out the friends part of our relationship and just went out (Well we did do the friends thing for like 3 months but again there was the problem of seeing each other) so we havent actually built up a realtionship properely. This last week, he kept asking me to do things but i couldnt and he got a bit annoyed (which i understand, you know he wants to see me) but i dont know wheather to break up with him (not because he got annoyed but because of why he got annoyed that i cant see him enough to build a realtionship) Ive tried talking to him about it and he just took it as if i was apologising for not seeing him. Im not saying i never want to go out with him but maybe not right now. What should I do? Would it be the wrong decsion to let him go? xx Open Question: How to deal with a crazy sister in law?So here's my story. I've been going out with my boyfriend for about two years now. We're both college students. The first year was great, until his older sister came along and moved in with him (she doesn't have a job and can't afford renting her own apartment). Ever since, she's been trying to control every single aspect of our relationship, saying thing like: You guys talk too much on the phone You don't let my brother study You should ask me before coming over etc. She tries to do everything to exclude me out of my boyfriend's life. She even threatened me saying she was going to call my parents to say I'm too intrusive. The other day, she even started insulting me in front of my boyfriend. I obviously calmed her down and told her to talk to me like an adult. Except it worsened things, and she even went crazier. The following day, she texted me saying she would "allow me" to see her brother, only if I would leave him alone from time to time. I didn't bother answering because it's none of her business. What's ironic is that I've always been the one helping my boyfriend out with his studies. He even says it himself. And what's funnier is that I only get to see him once or twice a week. I talked to my boyfriend about it, so he can try to work things out with her but she won't hear him out. I hate not getting along with his sister, after all she is a big part of his life. I don't get why she's being like this. I know what it's like to be protective, I have a younger brother but I don't go around insulting his girlfriend, even if I don't like her. What should I do? Keep ignoring her? Even when I try to ignore her she does anything possible to get to me. And this problem has really been affecting my boyfriend and I's relationship. I don't know what to do! HELP :-) Open Question: What to do about daddy problem?My boys are 4 and 5. They have different birth fathers. My boyfriend and I dated and broke up for a time. We got back together when my oldest was one month old. He is the father to my 4 year old and my 5 year old doesn't see his birth father often.. he may come around 3 times a year, if that. My son has called his little brother's daddy daddy since he started to talk. He has been there since he was one month and was there when he was in the hospital. Essentially he IS daddy. He has chosen to call his birth father by his name. Something he started to do since he was 3 (that's when he actually started to see him a little). He calls my boyfriends mom and dad grandma and papa and his birth fathers mother granny. She has been involved and see's him once or twice a week at school for a little while. For some reason my boyfriend and his mother told my youngest (their biological child/grandchild) that they are not his brothers daddy and grandma any more. My son asked daddy why he plays with his brother if he isn't his daddy (four year old mind set lol) and he said, not "because I love him too", but "because I don't want him to feel left out. I was really upset when my son told me this and I am going to talk to them about this when I get a chance. This happened last night and haven't been able to yet. I just wanted some opinions on what to do. My children are both upset and do not understand. Neither do I. Please make sure that you read what I have written. My children do not have sibling rivalry. That is not what I am saying. What was said by grandma and daddy has them both upset and confused. Not one upset and the other not, or any rivalry because of it. More Recent Articles |
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