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Open Question: Brother Sister problem? Help? and more... Open Question: Brother Sister problem? Help?My brother had been acting very weird lately. Before I used to always go to him and tell him my problems. He never spoke about his relationship problems with me because he is a very secretive person. I am not as secretive as him, I am very open minded and say the things I like saying. His girlfriend and I are cool, and she always nags about how she has problems with the relationship with him. I don't say anything and I always tell her that my relationship is fine. Sometimes when I have problems with my relationships I go to my brother because he listens. I think he got fed up with all my problems that I was having with my bf. I know it's better not to discuss relationship problems with siblings because someway or somehow they get fed up. My dad gave us the opportunity to run his publishing business. So far my brother had stayed home and I have been going to my Dad's office. I also included my boyfriend because he is great at getting ads from different companies and small businesses. He is so great that he should win a noble award for being the great advertiser. I know I sound corny but so far he hasn't met anyone who denied him an ad to our newspaper. My brother had claimed couple of times that how does my boyfriend gets ad from different places. My mom had taken my brother's side for letting my boyfriend take over the business. But, my boyfriend is not even taking any commission from my Dad, he is practically driving to different places spending his time, because he doesn't have a job, because he has a rich sibling who supports him here and there. Also, my bf has money saved up which he spends once in a while. He doesn't ask money from our family. And, all he has been doing is helping. He told me because he loves me he wants my dad's new business to succeed to the maximum. After six months of succeeding, he'll leave. My brother is so jealous that he doesn't want to talk to me, the person he always comes and talks to. I am a very social person and my brother is the complete opposite. My mom knows that my brother is not social. That is his problem, but what is his problem with me? What did I do? I just want my Dad's business to flourish and I have a great weapon which is my boyfriend. My bf got almost 30 ads already and that's in one and a half weeks. That's almost $5,000 worth of ads. If it wasn't for my boyfriend. My brother would be on the streets because my mom doesn't make as much money to support the house and two cars. I am only doing it for the family. My brother has a hard time understanding. What do you think? Open Question: What should I do when I'm in this problem with my boyfriend?Well, I broke up with my boyfriend but we were still kind of going out; then he said he doesn't want to be with me anymore and doesn't want to try. He said to give it some time for him to make up his decision on whether to start over or not. Lately, he's still been hugging me, kissing me, and still calls me at night. But, I don't understand; why don't we just be together? He said he doesn't have it in his heart to try anymore because we've had many ups and downs but yet he says he still loves me. I know he wouldn't cheat on me, or anything. So what should I do? Open Question: Friend problem please help?Ok, so I have a problem with my very close friend. My friend has been acting very different lately. She always has a group of guys with her and likes to "flirt". She leaves me and my other friends just to be with her guys. 6 guys asked her out. She planned to go out with 3 guys, and she had 2 real boyfriends including her current one. This all happened this year. It's only the beginning of the year... So we just had a field trip to a Special Olympics place to help set up. The whole time she talked with her group of guys and me, my other 2 best friends felt left out. At the end of the field trip, she came over to us because her current boyfriend (but not at that time) was at the bathroom. Lets call him Jason. She told us all about her slew of guys and how awesome they were and how much fun she had. She kept averting her eyes, and acted all bored with us. Then she complained that WE were leaving HER out, and that she knew we were talking about her. And she complained about how they always followed her, but she never tried to do anything about it, she just kept hanging out with her slew of guys. And she tried to hold Jason's hand on the bus. Now that she has boyfriends, she treats us like her second choice. She would always hang out with her slew of guys and whenever she's with us, she acts all bored and everything. My friends and I always try to confront her but we don't have enough time alone with her. When we do, though, and we tell her how we feel and everything, all she says is "I know, I'm a horrible person, I want to change but I can't, we all know I'm not capable" and she does nothing about it. It's like she only cares about her own happiness and not about our group. It is our last year together in the same school and I want to make it a good one, but so far it's kind of ruined. We can't not be friends with her because she is an important part of our group. We have known her for ages and it would just make it worse to not be her friend. So what I'm asking is what should we do… confronting doesn't help and neither does ignoring. We need help. well the confronting didnt help but if you write what i could say that would help Open Question: How can I help myself?Okay, so this is a long story. I'll tell you what happened and how i'm feeling, but it's really getting hard for me to deal with this. My so-called-friend and his girlfriend are F.O.B.s from Vietnam. [Two weeks ago- Saturday Morning] Text to me from my friend's gf: "i girlfriend. no speak/text him no more Reply: Excuse me, you have no right to tell me what to do. (arguments + threats to each other) Text from my friend: "Ayy man don't you effing talk to my girlfriend like that you effing whhore" Reply: She was the one to start this up and say all that stuff to me. She aggravated me so i believe I have the right to be angry and throw things back to her so she could leave me alone" (more arguements --> threats from him to me saying how HE is going to jump me. I stop texting him and start teaching my classes at the Vietnamese CCD. He continues to call me and tells me to meet him up somewhere to fight this out. I ignore him and continue. Church comes along and I am sitting with the children. He texts me and calls me but I didnt look at them. After mass, I walked outside and saw him. First of all he wasnt in church, he was waiting in his car with his girlfriend and another person in FRONT of the church entrance door. He walks us to me and starts using profanity and try to start things on holy grounds. His girlfriend comes out and tries to use English profanity at me- which pretty much fails comming from someone who just came from Vietnam and doesnt know much English. I told him that i wasn't going to do anything on holy grounds and walked away with two other guys just in case of anything. As I wait for my students to be picked up, he drives back and forth on the road that the church is on and stares at me. Many people know of this and most of them dont like him in the first place because of other problems that he created. Later that night as I was thinking as I usually do, I texted him and told him that I was not going to start anything and that I would not risk everything for this stupid fight. So I told him to leave me alone. He talked about how stuff was going to go down on Monday and that he would get me at school. [He is a freshman and i'm a junior] [Two weeks ago- Monday] (Teacher heard my conversation with a friend about the situation and about the threats about monday. He sends me to the school police and talk. They said they couldnt do anything and told me to just write out the problem and if anything happens, they can show that they have things written down. That day nothing happens.) [One week ago- Saturday] (woke up at 8 and left at 9 to go to the school for chemistry a.p. labs till 12. From there i went straight to the Vietnamese Church to teach CCD until 6:30 and went home. Home- i had dinner and played video games online until 12 a.m. when i went to bed.) [One week ago- Sunday] (Woke up and went to usual mass. Came home and ate. Parents went to grandparents house and find that my so-called-friend and his gf along with my grandparents friends, two of which were my "friend's" grandma and her boyfriend. Appearently, his car had been painted of and all of his lugnuts were taken off except for 1 on each side or whatever. He had told the cops that it was me and that he had me on camera doing all of this. They told my family that they made the police report and told them about me and how I would have to go to court or somehitng i think. But the thing is the cops never talked to me or asked about what i did. Mom came home, yelled at me, and punished me for something I did not do.) [One week ago- Monday] (I was called down to the school police's office and they told me more in description of the problems and everything. She told me either I knew who did it and to tell them who it was, or I had to pay 500$ or some amount and it would be considered criminal felony or something I don't really remember.) [One week ago- Wednesday] (I called my mother to come pick me up because I was just too depressed from a lot of things and I could not concentrate. She told me that my father would come pick me up. An hour later my father had come with my little brother, but he had come to check on my attendence and my records to see if I had been acting up in school. I would not consider myself to be a perfect child, but I would never act up or cause myself to have any disruptions of some sort. He didn't know what was going on. He picked up my brother from school because my mother believed that she was talking to my brother. So he checked me out anyways. I went home and slept for the rest of the day.) [That Thursday] (I stayed in bed in slept most of the day.) [Recently] ( A lot of rumors had gone around about me. Saying things like I've been sleeping around and I was the one who did his car and a lot of other things.. I already had a bad depression problem and I hate talking to my nurse or my counselors now.. I know I didn't do anything, but I feel bad and it's making me lose my mind Open Question: insane neighbor, whats your take on this matter?ok i have a lady neighbor but one of her boyfriends comes by and plays his music loud so i call the cops each time the cops finally told him next time is a fine so now he does a stare down he seems to be totally possessed with trying to harass or get attention. he is so preoccupied he even has spread half truths to neighbors and has tried his best to find anything on me he can find so.... today i asked what his problem is and why he wont respect his neighbors and he brought up something 15 years in my past and how he knew i have no idea but it was all twisted and made no sense even totally outrageous story so what is his deal is he just an insane dude but is able to function in society when he wants? i know someone who knows him and they said he has been this way all his life and was suprised he was not shot by now. so someone who twist reality and spreads lies just because you ask them to keep the music down according to the law what is their deal? any ideas? and i do not even know this person. Open Question: what should i do with my ex boyfriend?my ex and i have been broken up for almost two months. and i tried to talk to him all the time, i send him emails.. letters.. text messages.. so on.. and he always ignored me. finally he let his feelings out and started talking to me the other night. he told me how he felt, and said he wanted to start hanging out as friends for now, most likely eventually leading to other things. i am trying really hard not to start any problems. just kinda hoping for a fresh start.. so i texted him the day after we talked, and asked him if he wanted to go to this camp out thing, and he said he wasnt feeling good, and i said it was fine ya know.. and he didnt text me back. then i texted him today and asked if he wanted to go for a walk.. and he said he had a lot of homework. now, were 17, graduating soon, and i know school is important, but it was also 12pm, he had the whole day, and i didnt ask to go for the walk til later.. im such an over analyzer, but hes just turning me down. and all im doing is trying. should i wait for him to hang out when hes ready? or should i be upset that hes only talking to me and most likely going to hang out with me on his own time? i need some good opinions on this. Open Question: PLEASE GIVE ME SOME GOOD ADVISE!!!!!?My boyfriend lives with me and he has some family problems (Dad & Brother) He apprently has been diagnoised with depression, He doesn't take his medicene he usually just smokes(weed) and drinks or takes pain medicene. He states that he takes the pain medicene for his back because he has back pains... but he takes like 5-8 somas. Which is unusual. I just wanna know what I can do to be a supportive girlfriend, since we have some issues as well. Or what I could suggest him to do. The other day he had a really bad breakdown. Crying..saying he thinks he needs help. He also has a really bad cut on his hand... I just don't know what I need to do to help. He has no health Insurance or a Job, So I don't know what to do... Also he family really doesn't help (dad and brother) and His mom is always over ruled by them so all she does is give him medicene and money ... what should I do... Open Question: I can't control myself anymore!!!?Have you ever been so confused about yourself? I'm only a freshman but everything is sooo hard for me. Growing up I never knew who I was or what I wanted. I still don't! Everybody else seems to know their surroundings and they live life with no worries. Why am I so different from them?!?! Here's some examples. Boyfriend - I'm dating this guy, it will be two months in a few days. He's the first real boyfriend i've ever had. My first kiss and the first guy that really even noticed me! The problem is we fight soo much! I know he cares about me but I can't accept it. Like if i'm upset about a little problem he freaks out about it. I don't know what to do. He said me being upset with myself all the time is pushing him away. If I don't control myself i'm gonna lose him! Friends - I don't have a REAL bestfriend. Really, its coming to the point where I don't have friends. Sadly, I push people away. I've yet to figure out why, it must be natural. The people in my town stick to their own friends, thats why its so hard to make new ones. No one ever notices me. I walk through the hallways with a smile just waiting for some random person to come talk to me. I know it doesn't work that way. If only it was that easy. Family - ugh! My parents don't understand me, at all! Lately i've been sad about fighting with my boyfriend but I don't wanna talk to my mom about it because she thinks she is a teenager herself. My brothers run around the house screaming. My dad hasn't had a job in two years! Can we handle anymore?! School - I don't have a problem in school. I make average grades but all of the homework is added stress. Also, I am an athletic trainer for the wrestling team. It just now started so now I have to take time to go to meets. All of my stress is pushing people away. I can't control my emotions anymore! any advice for all of my problems?! Open Question: Why did he beg me for an abortion...now he won't leave me alone?i have been seeing a guy for 3 years we started as casual sex-buddies and after the first year a really genuine relationship developed between the both of us. I know many people my criticize me for simply sleeping with a man that was not my boyfriend (but at the time it was working out for us that way). So essentially we were lovers and friends. it was to the point were we would spend hours talking to each other (deep conversations) before moving on to the sex for the night (it wasn't a bam wham thank u mam type of thing) on our 3rd year of this I became pregnant by him. He begged me for an abortion (he threaten me and basically scared me straight into not keeping the pregnancy) as much as I regret it i had an abortion. I really wanted to keep the pregnancy (at least for myself) but I was to weak to stand up for my own beliefs. Once i informed him about the abortion i figured this would be the end of it and i will move on with my life and he can have his sense of relief and do the same. the problem now is after 2 months after the abortion he is starting to harass me and not leave me alone. he is constantly asking me to please Talk to him and to go see him (when I was pregnant i BEGGED him to talk to me about the pregnancy and what "our" options were but he didn't want to hear it. he wouldn't even pick up the phone on me when I told him I was pregnant) why is he doing this he basically pushed me off the cliff..now all of a sudden he has a change of heart...what is going on in his head? I hate him soooo much I curse the day i meet him Open Question: Does anyone know of a diet that works?Ok i want to lose weight I am currently 140 pounds. I more of around my middle and in my legs. I am a school student and ned something that will work with a schedule. I want to do this to feel better about myself. My boyfriend thinks I look fine but he said if its what I want ot do it was up to me. I need some sort of diet. Any kind of diet I just really don't have the time to exersize is the problem. Do you know of any diets that work? Open Question: why won't my ex give me closure?!?another way I could phrase this would be: "what the HELL is his problem?!" haha kay so I was with him for two years, we were happy together and were planning on moving in together after we got out of high school. we were each other's first in just about everything... first kiss, first serious significant other, first love.. etc. I helped him through rough times when his parents got divorced and his dad moved across the country, and he helped me with my troubles with depression. I supported him in soccer and went to all his games, and helped out in volunteering, and worked on my physical appearance so that all his friends envied his "hot" girlfriend. I basically always felt giddy around him and he shared a lot of the weird quirks that I have. oh my god, I think you can obviously tell I'm not over him. -.- well things went wrong when his mom decided she no longer wanted to be friends with my mom, and by extension didn't want him to be with me. she forbid him from seeing me, on threat of sending him away from me to live with his dad. we continued seeing each other in secret, but when she found out we went to prom together she called the police, got a temporary restraining order, (yeah apparently it's not hard to get them). when we went to court for the hearing on the TRO it got thrown out. two days later, back at school, my boyfriend wouldn't speak to me. he has never been mad at me, ever! he didn't want to tell me why, so I just let him be thinking he needed some time. the next day at school I got called into a peer mediation session (you know, where the school tries to resolve arguments between people). to my surprise, my boyfriend walked in, sat down, and told me he didn't want to be with me anymore. his reasoning was that "it would be better for the both of us." personally I think that was BS, a week earlier he had told me how much he loved me and wanted to eventually get married, and now he basically was telling me he didn't want anything to do with me. I tried to ask him what had changed so that his feelings for me had disappeared, and he basically avoided answering the question. he wasn't telling me the truth, I know it. he looked like he was on the verge of crying the whole time. the peer mediators commented on how upset he looked. I was just so embarrassed and shell-shocked I agreed to end the session just so I could go cry in private. later I tried approaching him when my head was clear. he kept telling me he didn't want to talk to me, and didn't care what I had to say or how I felt. basically, he did everything he told me he never would. I gave him time, it's now been 6 months. neither of us have dated anyone else. I tried seeing a few guys, but I'm so obviously still hung up on my ex that it wasn't fair to them to lead them on, so it never went anywhere. we always promised each other that if we broke up we would remain friends. I miss him as a person. I really would like to be friends with him, I am scared to death that I'm going to graduate and never see or speak to him again when I care so much about him. he's on my mind pretty much 24/7. whenever something good happens to me, I automatically want to run and tell him about it, but I can't and it makes me really sad. basically I want some closure. I want to understand what I did wrong so that I can move on and not make the same mistakes. I would like to know when his feelings for me evaporated and why. I want to know why he doesn't want to be friends anymore. however, he's ignoring me. his mom broke his cell phone so he couldn't talk to me, so I don't know his number. I try to send him messages on myspace asking for either an explanation or to be friends. he owes me one of those things. he just ignores me. in person, he'll smile and say hello if we pass in the hallway, and sometimes have some small talk with me. basically about how our classes are going, stuff going on in our lives, etc. he'll be very friendly, but online completely ignore me! I would bring up the deeper stuff in person, but there's never an opportunity/I get too nervous. whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy is he doing this? any insight into his behavior would be nice. I am a really good student, i.e. very high SATs and academic awards, but since we broke up my performance has absolutely tanked. I feel myself sinking back into my depression, despite the meds I'm on. nothing helps. I've tried moving on, I've tried distracting myself. nothing works for long. I'm tired of being hung up on him and not being able to move forward. so many people have told me I deserve better, he's a jerk, etc. but I still love him and care about him. man that was a whole lot. I feel like a complete basketcase. please give me some advice:) besides to forget about him, work on myself, etc. I tried that, hasn't worked well. should I try getting back with him? set up a peer mediation of my own to get answers? ask his friends? Open Question: Classy Hairdo for a guy with long black hair?Hi everyone! My boyfriend has mid-back length black hair, he is a metalhead. Well, he will eventually have to wear casual business clothes and we don't know what to do with this magnificent mane! he got straight hair and he takes a really good care of it (shower everyday so never greasy). Do you think it would be better to keep it in a low ponytail or to let it loose? The problem with the ponytail is that it doesnt suit him well (he got a round face). what do u think? I know its a superficial question but i still wanna know other ppl's opinion since we dont want him to look like a bum in toxedo! XD short hair turns me off. im a metalhead too (norwegian black metal) and cutting hair is 'against our religion' haha. He loves his hair and that's a good thing. If he ever cut if off I will not be physically attracted to him anymore (just to give u an idea)! ;P More Recent Articles
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